Hello wonderful Nairalanders... Please I'll need advise from experienced parents. God blessed my family two weeks ago with a wonderful baby. But here's my little challenge, the baby prefers sleeping all through the day and doesn't sleep for long at night waking us up every 2 hours or thereabout. My MIL said it's normal but this lack of sleep is affecting my work and my sharpness during the day... Please is there anyway we can change his sleep cycle and make him sleep more at night instead of during the day...We are new parents please...

Lol,welcome to fatherhood and parenthood.
You can't change his sleeping pattern.He will do that as he gets older which is much later.
Babies are more nocturnal when born.

Since you go to work and I believe your wife is on maternity leave and you also spoke about your MIL(is she with you),leave the night nursing for them.
Start sleeping in another room or the sitting room.

Just as advised above, you can also try and send them to your MIL or your mum whoever is nearer.
I left Benin to be with my mum in Lagos on the 12th day after delivery so that I wouldn't be alone as my husband was already falling sick due to the stress.

thorpido:
Lol,welcome to fatherhood and parenthood.
You can't change his sleeping pattern.He will do that as he gets older which is much later.
Babies are more nocturnal when born.

Since you go to work and I believe your wife is on maternity leave and you also spoke about your MIL(is she with you),leave the night nursing for them.
Start sleeping in another room or the sitting room.

Lol....Yea wifey is on mat leave and MIL is around...The issue is that he cries whenever he wakes up to feed and once I hear that cry I won't sleep again till morning...Nawa o ... please at what age will he revert back to normal sleep cycle? It's really not easy being a father....

Congratulations
Read this... Hope it helps
https://www.paperheartfamily.com/newborn-baby-sleep/#:~:text=During%20the%20first%20few%20weeks%2C%20you%20should%20expect,during%20the%20day%2C%20and%20shorter%20stretches%20at%20night.

Ephetar:


Lol....Yea wifey is on mat leave and MIL is around...The issue is that he cries whenever he wakes up to feed and once I hear that cry I won't sleep again till morning...Nawa o ... please at what age will he revert back to normal sleep cycle? It's really not easy being a father....

You should ignore the cry,your wife will deal with it.
When will he revert to normal sleep cycle?................mooooonths.

Esthered:
Just as advised above, you can try and send them to your MIL or your mum whoever is nearer.
I left Benin to be with my mum in Lagos on the 12th day after delivery so that I wouldn't be alone as my husband was already falling sick due to the stress.

MIL is around... most times wifey and baby are in her room but once I wake up that's the end of sleeping that night...I don't really blame your hubby o...the headache I feel during the day now is crazy...

thorpido:
You should ignore the cry,your wife will deal with it.
When will he revert to normal sleep cycle?................mooooonths.

Okay Sir... Thanks...

Ephetar:


MIL is around... most times wifey and baby are in her room but once I wake up that's the end of sleeping that night...I don't really blame your hubby o...the headache I feel during the day now is crazy...

I think you should sleep in the settee in the parlour. You would be far from the cries to an extent but you must ensure that that you check up on them when you wake up to use the restroom or find it difficult to fall asleep after waking up and lending a helping hand where necessary.
My son still wakes up at night to feed but it used to be like 3 times before daybreak till 7 weeks but it has reduced to once or twice. Just be patient.

Its normal ooo jux be calming down.

Richy4:
Congratulations
Read this... Hope it helps
https://www.paperheartfamily.com/newborn-baby-sleep/#:~:text=During%20the%20first%20few%20weeks%2C%20you%20should%20expect,during%20the%20day%2C%20and%20shorter%20stretches%20at%20night.

Quite helpful... Thanks

Esthered:


I think you should sleep in the settee in the parlour. You would be far from the cries to an extent but you must ensure that that you check up on them when you wake up to use the restroom or find it difficult to fall asleep after waking up and lending a helping hand where necessary.
My son still wakes up at night to feed but it used to be like 3 times before daybreak till 7 weeks but it has reduced to once or twice. Just be patient.

Thank you very much...

Ifyjos:
Its normal ooo jux be calming down.

Okay Ma'am...

Very normal.

Welcome to the band, more grace

Baby is too little to try to control their sleep pattern . It will change and when he or she is older, you can actually try to control how they sleep based on their sleeping habit. So enjoy this time. The best is to bring in a retired parent to help you through this time. Baby can sleep with them at night if you need to go to work.

The baby is still trying to adapt to its new environment . Let him enjoy his welcome

Ephetar:


Thank you very much...

Don’t send your wife and baby anywhere abeg. It’s not normal for couples to stay separately like that, especially at this time. What’s that sef? Your wife needs you just as much as baby needs her. Also try your best to help out with what you can during the day.

Your MIL is there, just put your baby in her room at night with breast milk prepared and you and your wife get rest. So your wife will do day shift, while mama does night. If you have fan or AC. Blast it so it reduces the cries.

Ephetar:
Hello wonderful Nairalanders... Please I'll need advise from experienced parents. God blessed my family two weeks ago with a wonderful baby. But here's my little challenge, the baby prefers sleeping all through the day and doesn't sleep for long at night waking us up every 2 hours or thereabout. My MIL said it's normal but this lack of sleep is affecting my work and my sharpness during the day... Please is there anyway we can change his sleep cycle and make him sleep more at night instead of during the day...We are new parents please...

No way to change the sleep cycle, you have to endure. Sorry ehn welcome to parenthood

Ephetar:


Okay Sir... Thanks...

Don’t worry too much about it. It will not always be that way.
It is a phase that will pass in no time.
Babies always go through phases, including change in sleep pattern.

Gift96:
The baby is still trying to adapt to its new environment . Let him enjoy his welcome

Imagine the discomfort the baby is going through adapting to being.

Ephetar:
Hello wonderful Nairalanders... Please I'll need advise from experienced parents. God blessed my family two weeks ago with a wonderful baby. But here's my little challenge, the baby prefers sleeping all through the day and doesn't sleep for long at night waking us up every 2 hours or thereabout. My MIL said it's normal but this lack of sleep is affecting my work and my sharpness during the day... Please is there anyway we can change his sleep cycle and make him sleep more at night instead of during the day...We are new parents please...

1. Train up a child in the way of the lord; even when he is old he will not depart from it. proverbs 22:6

2. Don't give him the redpill to swallow except you want him to be constituting nuisance on every social media platform like GooodHardDick, Smellysperm, TheGidRedpiller and co, But rather give him the blue pill so that he can be romantic and wise.

3. Give him quality and moral education, also focus on his talent and help him build his talents.

4. Build a cordial relationship between you and your son. Don't instill fear in him.

Congratulations to you! I pray God provide for you to take good care of your family.

Thanks to everyone I really appreciate your inputs...God bless you all...@jennyclay, mariangeles, NoToPile, baby124, Gift96, zubimete, ibechris

I will repeat the same thing someone above suggested, sleep in a different room since your MIL is there to assist your wife and new born and please insist on exclusive breastfeeding, she MUST give breast milk maximum of 3hrs intervals, and tell her to have eyes contact with the baby so the baby can quickly become sharp to the new environment so the cries will reduce. Check the chat I uploaded about babies from 0 to 12 months. The knowledge I learnt from youtube as a New dad like you is what I summarized to you. We'll survive.

Don't send them to anywhere. Those people you're sending them to are not woods. They also deserve a peaceful sleep.

If you take them there, how will you know the joy of fatherhood? You need to experience fatherhood so you can appreciate your wife ( and women in general) better.

Like your MIL rightly said, it's only for a little time. That stage will soon pass as the baby gets older and everything will get back to normal. For now, learn to endure and manage the situation. It's your baby

Congratulations..

It takes a while for newborn babies to adjust to the day and night rhythm but even if you're lucky and your baby adjusts as early as around 6 weeks, you or your wife will still need to feed the baby every 2-3 hours. There is nothing you can do about it. You and the mother need to support each other now more than ever. Maybe you can sleep in a different room every few days and on free days have your wife take naps so that you two compensate somehow. Fatigue is part of the deal but there are different degrees to it. You don't have to feel like a sleepwalking zombie all the time.

Ephetar:
Hello wonderful Nairalanders... Please I'll need advise from experienced parents. God blessed my family two weeks ago with a wonderful baby. But here's my little challenge, the baby prefers sleeping all through the day and doesn't sleep for long at night waking us up every 2 hours or thereabout. My MIL said it's normal but this lack of sleep is affecting my work and my sharpness during the day... Please is there anyway we can change his sleep cycle and make him sleep more at night instead of during the day...We are new parents please...

Congrats

It won't be easy man. When I had my first baby, I didn't have a sound sleep for atleast the next 4 months. Reason being that, we were all alone (me and wife) and I always had to chip in the little I could whenever the baby was crying cos of hunger/stomach ache

It's not gonna be easy for you......but that's the joy of fatherhood. Even up till now, with two kids, I still wake up like 3 times before dawn everyday just to check up on them.

Whois:
I will repeat the same thing someone above suggested, sleep in a different room since your MIL is there to assist your wife and new born and please insist on exclusive breastfeeding, she MUST give breast milk maximum of 3hrs intervals, and tell her to have eyes contact with the baby so the baby can quickly become sharp to the new environment so the cries will reduce. Check the chat I uploaded about babies from 0 to 12 months. The knowledge I learnt from youtube as a New dad like you is what I summarized to you. We'll survive.

Thanks so much for the chat... it's very insightful...

Mercychen:
Don't send them to anywhere. Those peaple you're sending them to are not woods. They also deserve a peaceful sleep.

If you take them there, how will know the joy of fatherhood? You need to experience fatherhood so you can appreciate your wife ( and women in general) better.

Like your MIL rightly said, it's only for a little time. That stage will soon pass as the baby gets older and everything will get back to normal. For now, learn to endure and manage the situation. It's your baby

Congratulations..

Thanks

Hathor5:
It takes a while for newborn babies to adjust to the day and night rhythm but even if you're lucky and your baby adjusts as early as around 6 weeks, you or your wife will still need to feed the baby every 2-3 hours. There is nothing you can do about it. You and the mother need to support each other now more than ever. Maybe you can sleep in a different room every few days and on free days have your wife take naps so that you two compensate somehow. Fatigue is part of the deal but there are different degrees to it. You don't have to feel like a sleepwalking zombie all the time.

Lol... thank you... it's not easy though...the stress of Lagos alone is enough headache for me...I drive about an hour to work and another one hour back coupled with the crazy traffic only to come back and not sleep well...But I'm proud to be a father nonetheless...I love my boy so much and I'll always be there for him and wifey

[quote author=Nigga44 post=111124640] Congrats

It won't be easy man. When I had my first baby, I didn't have a sound sleep for atleast the next 4 months. Reason being that, we were all alone (me and wife) and I always had to chip in the little I could whenever the baby was crying cos of hunger/stomach ache

It's not gonna be easy for you......but that's the joy of fatherhood. Even up till now, with two kids, I still wake up like 3 times before dawn everyday just to check up on them.[/quote

Wow... That's great

Bro get used to it. That's children for u. I have 2 already and I know what it means.