Haakeem:
lol, your's is nt same with the op.... "you are a woman", "are you not a man'', those two phrase are'nt identical yunno?

Mariangeles:
It’s the same way are you not a man? could get a man angry.

When you say things in a demeaning/condescending way, people can perceive it.
You don’t expect them not to get offended.

Mariangeles:
It’s the same way are you not a man? could get a man angry.

When you say things in a demeaning/condescending way, people can perceive it.
You don’t expect them not to get offended.

ReneeNuttall:
That statement alone is like a racist comment.

It's just like saying because I'm a lady I don't count,or add up, or matter....its like I can't contribute anything meaningful to the society. A weak gender with no capability. It's demeaning. Y'all should desist from it. Unless u mean it in a different context. And always add an explanation so we know u ain't tripping!

ReneeNuttall:
That statement alone is like a racist comment.

It's just like saying because I'm a lady I don't count,or add up, or matter....its like I can't contribute anything meaningful to the society. A weak gender with no capability. It's demeaning. Y'all should desist from it. Unless u mean it in a different context. And always add an explanation so we know u ain't tripping!

CumOnHer:

Thanks for the honest input yet confusing, shocking and dumbfounding all the same.
You're a woman and that's your gender - fact!
Why should you get triggered?

When I say "you are a woman" ;
1. I'm reminding you of whom you are.

2. I'm emphasising the fact that you're a woman

3. I'm awakening your consciousness to your place as a woman - to be more aware of yourself being a woman.
There's nothing condescending or demeaning of a woman being reminded of who she is.

If you say "Are you not a man", you are implying that he acts as though he is not a man. In other words, you're implying that he acts like a woman. Therefore, advertently or inadvertently, you are projecting on him the opposite gender by virtue of his actions/behavior/decisions.

Victerica:
It's insulting and disrespectful, especially with regards to the conversation and the intonation...

It is a way of shading someone surreptitiously...

Mindlog:


You are right, it is like a Caucasian or even an Asian telling the OP, "you are black"....of course, OP is likely to get angry despite the FACT he is black.

Pakute:

What dafuq did I just read. This gender is the most confused in the world.
I have heard women eulogize themselves saying' I am a woman; strong, powerful and intelligent. I am a woman; a goddess, beautiful, charming, inspiring greatness etc.. But when a man tells you that you are a woman, you then begin to dissect the intent and unravel the purpose of the statement with an already tainted mindset that it was riddled with a form of racism, connoting a weaker or lesser gender and all kinds of undesirable descriptions.
You would rather a woman say to you that 'you are a woman' which would come off to you as a compliment than a man would - which would otherwise be regarded as demeaning.
Women! women! women!

Victerica:


All these things, na mind games

CumOnHer:

Thanks for the honest input yet confusing, shocking and dumbfounding all the same.
You're a woman and that's your gender - fact!
Why should you get triggered?

When I say "you are a woman" ;
1. I'm reminding you of whom you are.

2. I'm emphasising the fact that you're a woman

3. I'm awakening your consciousness to your place as a woman - to be more aware of yourself being a woman.
There's nothing condescending or demeaning of a woman being reminded of who she is.

Mindlog:


You are right, it is like a Caucasian or even an Asian telling the OP, "you are black"....of course, OP is likely to get angry despite the FACT he is black.

CumOnHer:
Why do women often get angry or irritated whenever you tell them " You are a woman" during the course of discussing with them?

Why do they always lose their temper when you remind them that they are women

CumOnHer:
Why do women often get angry or irritated whenever you tell them " You are a woman" during the course of discussing with them?

Why do they always lose their temper when you remind them that they are women

It Means They Will Soon Become Irrelivant
So You Are Reminding Them Of The Reality Of Their Future

Mariangeles:


This whole comment in itself is demeaning and disrespectful.

The same way you should not “remind” me that I’m a woman, is the same way I should not ask you whether you’re a man.



How can you be so sure?
Are you in my mind?

Victerica:
It's insulting and disrespectful, especially with regards to the conversation and the intonation...

It is a way of shading someone surreptitiously...

Mindlog:


You are right, it is like a Caucasian or even an Asian telling the OP, "you are black"....of course, OP is likely to get angry despite the FACT he is black.

Victerica:

All these things, na mind games

cococandy:
Why do you feel the need to remind her of her gender? What does it add to the conversation?

CumOnHer:

How do we fare better in this world if we are too deliberate over the littlest of things?
Shall we begin to set rules as to when it becomes appropriate to say certain things to the opposite gender, something as fundamental as " You are a woman". When does it come off as eulogy and when does it come off as offensive?

pocohantas:


You think he doesn’t know?

Men and their usual mansplaining. Always looking for who to gaslight with offensive questions disguised as logical-curious-questions.

Why doesn’t he remind his mother and female bosses of their gender when putting things to them. Mtcheeew

CumOnHer:

I have always said to her "you are my mother" and never for once had she been offended.
As a matter of fact, the men in the house always reminded our female siblings that they are women and must not stay out late. They wouldn't take it as offensive as much as you would.
"You are a woman" is not a question, much less offensive. It is a statement of fact. Who gets gaslighted with facts

DonroxyII:
Same Way we guys get angry when a woman Reminded us ,You are a Man.

Two Ways:

When we want to take advantage of each other and the other party doesn't want to be fleeced.

No woman/Man will get Angry when you call them their gender as a form of Eulogy.

Kai, Na woman you be, Confirm, Gbam!

DonroxyII:
Same Way we guys get angry when a woman Reminded us ,You are a Man.

Two Ways:

When we want to take advantage of each other and the other party doesn't want to be fleeced.

No woman/Man will get Angry when you call them their gender as a form of Eulogy.

Kai, Na woman you be, Confirm, Gbam!

CumOnHer:


Real men don't get angry when you tell them " You are a man".
I won't get irritated when a woman tells me " you're a man, get this done" - it's a reminder of my ability.
But I would be angry if a woman told me " but you called yourself a man, why can't you get this done". Now, this is an insult in every word of it, because she had completely stripped me of my abilities as a man. She had doubted me and written me off.

Mindlog:


You are right, it is like a Caucasian or even an Asian telling the OP, "you are black"....of course, OP is likely to get angry despite the FACT he is black.