Iyaebe:
Where is it written that a woman must bring something to the table?

ufotty2001:

She rejected me because am not religious and committed person in church also am not a committed Christian... That is why she rejected me.. she is a teacher while am a chartered accountant. Teacher rejecting an accountant.

Samuelriano1:


please change that mentality, my mom is paediatrician n my dad a police officer SP earning above 150k, despite mom earning more than him, she still brings something to the table. If I tell her dad has paid my fees, back den in school, she will say ehn oya take dis, use it for rent then, wen it's time for rent, dad sends money I will reverse it, n xplain dat mom gave me d money already. dad doesn't ask her for it, but she sees it as her responsibility also. so it boils down to your conscience and what u see while growing up.

chatinent:
The most annoying part of all these marriage talks is that there's nothing she is bringing or will bring to the table!

safarigirl:



This is the actual issue

There is nothing wrong in deciding you cannot marry people in certain professions, after all, some men will tell you they cannot marry actresses or bankers or even lawyers.

The real issue here is that she was wasting her time and his time, dating someone she had no plans to marry.

ufotty2001:

She rejected me because am not religious and committed person in church also am not a committed Christian... That is why she rejected me.. she is a teacher while am a chartered accountant. Teacher rejecting an accountant.

Kwinesther:
Babe made the right choice. I see an unmaterialistic and a lady who really knows what she wants described up there.

You sound so arrogant and full of yourself. So you feel because you're an accountant a lady should or cannot say NO to you? Not all ladies are carried away with those. You will be surprised she might even be happy marrying a fellow teacher. You should really work on your attitude.

Rosement:

Exactly. He doesn't understand that money doesn't determine all lady's happiness.

ufotty2001:

She rejected me because am not religious and committed person in church also am not a committed Christian... That is why she rejected me.. she is a teacher while am a chartered accountant. Teacher rejecting an accountant.

pinkygurl:

Teacher versus accountant most likely on a higher salary scale than the teacher and so.
Seek first the kingdom of God!.Godliness is great gain!.
All other earthly things and positions should be secondary to a woman or man who fears the lord and puts God first. The primary aim of starting a family for such is not just bearing kids or companionship but to raise an alter to propagate the spread of the kindgom

Rosement:

Op did not say they are dating, they might just be friends and even if they are dating it doesn't matter. A guy sent the story of a rich man's daughter and a poor man's son to me, just because I had no interest in him and I rejected him. She is only seen him as inferior because she doesn't love him.

A lady can marry a guy that is younger than her and still respect him as long as love is involved. If she marries the barber then she is only marrying him out of pity because she is already viewing him as inferior. The foundation of their relationship is already shaking, respect is important in marriage, he will not get the respect he deserves. She is no longer a teenager so she can make her own decision, at this stage in her life she knows what she wants.

I have seen rich men that are barbers by profession so it is not about his occupation. The lady is just making up flamzy excuses, the truth is she is not in love with the guy. When we are in love we are controlled by our heart, if we are not careful we might even stop thinking straight.

Tzar:
Jeez! Did you even read the story at all?!!! Please read the 1st paragraph again. Then read your 1st sentence & come back to apologize to me!

FYI, below is the 1st paragraph of the poster:

“My fellow nairalanders help me out on this. My immediate elder sister said she can't marry the guy she's dating.”

Rosement:

Thanks for the correction but I also said even if they are dating it doesn't matter because it is better to break a courtship now than to later break a marriage. Strangers will easily realise that a person is unattractive but people living with the person will not easily notice this. If she is still seeing the guy's profession as a problem after dating him, it means she doesn't love him. Her head is just making up excuses to reject him because her heart is not with him.

She feels the guy is not the best for her, if she marries that guy and anything happens tomorrow, she will be more sad because she was pressured to marry him. If you use some set of ladies to judge her, you will not understand what I am saying, some ladies just get married to any available guy when they feel they have no choice but some ladies will prefer to wait patiently and get the right person.

Do you know that you are already a table as a woman?its now left for the man to design his table to his taste.Every woman out there is naturally a table and you’ll find a lot inside that table which most men can never withstand and cope with if roles were exchanged,God designed us differently let’s all embrace whichever part we fall into and also play our roles diligently

Do you know that you are already a table as a woman?its now left for the man to design his table to his taste.Every woman out there is naturally a table and you’ll find a lot inside that table which most men can never withstand and cope with if roles were exchanged,God designed us differently let’s all embrace whichever part we fall into and also play our roles diligently

Zee0007:
My fellow nairalanders help me out on this. My immediate elder sister said she can't marry the guy she's dating.

The guy is a successful barber. I love the guy because he seem responsible and well cultured. From the looks of things, he will make a good husband for her.

But my sister shook the whole house yesterday when the supposed barber proposed to her, She outrightly rejected the guy because of his profession.

She's in her mid 20s. Please what should we do? She's getting older but she seems not to realise.

The guy called me this morning and pleaded with me to talk to her. What will I say to her, now?

A wider view will be much appreciated.

Zee0007:
My fellow nairalanders help me out on this. My immediate elder sister said she can't marry the guy she's dating.

The guy is a successful barber. I love the guy because he seem responsible and well cultured. From the looks of things, he will make a good husband for her.

But my sister shook the whole house yesterday when the supposed barber proposed to her, She outrightly rejected the guy because of his profession.

She's in her mid 20s. Please what should we do? She's getting older but she seems not to realise.

The guy called me this morning and pleaded with me to talk to her. What will I say to her, now?

A wider view will be much appreciated.

Where is it written that a woman must bring something to the table?