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Re: She Can't Marry A Barber by Burgerlomo: 7:25am On Mar 26, 2022
Iyaebe:
Where is it written that a woman must bring something to the table?

Re: She Can't Marry A Barber by Ybaby: 7:43am On Mar 26, 2022
ufotty2001:

She rejected me because am not religious and committed person in church also am not a committed Christian... That is why she rejected me.. she is a teacher while am a chartered accountant. Teacher rejecting an accountant. grin grin grin grin

Again you show she has depth of thought. Unequally yoked

Teacher is a noble career and great for women as she will close when her kids from school close and have all the time for them.

She is not lower than you because Women are not rated by their career!

Infact financially a jobless woman can still be rated higher than an accountant depends on what her boyfriend or husband does not a living etc

You have fellow accountants, simply go for them or they too also don't want you ?
Re: She Can't Marry A Barber by Ybaby: 7:48am On Mar 26, 2022
Samuelriano1:


please change that mentality, my mom is paediatrician n my dad a police officer SP earning above 150k, despite mom earning more than him, she still brings something to the table. If I tell her dad has paid my fees, back den in school, she will say ehn oya take dis, use it for rent then, wen it's time for rent, dad sends money I will reverse it, n xplain dat mom gave me d money already. dad doesn't ask her for it, but she sees it as her responsibility also. so it boils down to your conscience and what u see while growing up.

My mentality is perfect and will not be changed. A mother must try to give her kids inheritance, money, nurture, love but even if she has no money to give that child she has given that child the ultimate gift - a ride to planet earth - risking her life and comfort. SHE IS THE PRIZE!
Re: She Can't Marry A Barber by ultimateprof: 8:08am On Mar 26, 2022
chatinent:
The most annoying part of all these marriage talks is that there's nothing she is bringing or will bring to the table!

She will bring kpekus!

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Re: She Can't Marry A Barber by PHOENIX12(m): 8:12am On Mar 26, 2022
She cannot marry a barber but she can date a barber, stupid classless girl. If you know you can marry someone don't date that person.
So she keep him for him to be helping her before her dream man come.
Tell her that she will get old in her father's house.

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Re: She Can't Marry A Barber by imagrg(m): 8:37am On Mar 26, 2022
She will surely miss her way if care is not taken.
Re: She Can't Marry A Barber by Anonymoususher: 9:04am On Mar 26, 2022
But she will gladly jump and accept a hungry office worker.

For low key barbers, per hair is N500.

In a bad day he can cut like 10 hairs and run home with 5k

On weekends the cut can even get to 20...

Even your office workers cannot afford that.

I was once working as an office worker, earning 80k. As a single guy hunger almost killed my generation.

I resigned and went to hustle like a street drop out. Now hustling under sun or rain, my yellow color faded but sometimes in a week I can hit earning of 50k on a bad week and 200k sometimes.

Let one yeye babe come and tell me that she cannot marry me because I am not wearing tie and suit and be speaking big English with little Pay na thunder go fire am.

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Re: She Can't Marry A Barber by Kwinesther: 9:49am On Mar 26, 2022
safarigirl:



This is the actual issue

There is nothing wrong in deciding you cannot marry people in certain professions, after all, some men will tell you they cannot marry actresses or bankers or even lawyers.

The real issue here is that she was wasting her time and his time, dating someone she had no plans to marry.
Exactly, some guys here have outrightly said they can't marry a make-up artist or hairdresser because they are coded prostitutes. But look at them condemning the girl.

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Re: She Can't Marry A Barber by HRMK: 10:05am On Mar 26, 2022
the fact is that she has the final say!now u need to ask her the reasons for objecting!yes,handiwork is very good but most on this line are not better than yahoo!ladies must define their standard.....NEVER GET INTO ANY RELATIONSHIP WITH ANY MAN U KNOW U CAN NEVER GET MARRIED TO!GOODLUCK TO HER ANYWAY!!

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Re: She Can't Marry A Barber by Kwinesther: 10:17am On Mar 26, 2022
ufotty2001:

She rejected me because am not religious and committed person in church also am not a committed Christian... That is why she rejected me.. she is a teacher while am a chartered accountant. Teacher rejecting an accountant. grin grin grin grin
Babe made the right choice. I see an unmaterialistic and a lady who really knows what she wants described up there.

You sound so arrogant and full of yourself. So you feel because you're an accountant a lady should or cannot say NO to you? Not all ladies are carried away with those. You will be surprised she might even be happy marrying a fellow teacher. You should really work on your attitude.

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Re: She Can't Marry A Barber by Rosement(f): 10:18am On Mar 26, 2022
Kwinesther:
Babe made the right choice. I see an unmaterialistic and a lady who really knows what she wants described up there.

You sound so arrogant and full of yourself. So you feel because you're an accountant a lady should or cannot say NO to you? Not all ladies are carried away with those. You will be surprised she might even be happy marrying a fellow teacher. You should really work on your attitude.
Exactly. He doesn't understand that money doesn't determine all lady's happiness.

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Re: She Can't Marry A Barber by Kwinesther: 10:33am On Mar 26, 2022
Rosement:

Exactly. He doesn't understand that money doesn't determine all lady's happiness.
Don't mind them, money is their only selling point but with very bad and questionable character and they want ladies to manage them that way while expecting to marry the best woman in the world with their usual rant of what is she bringing to the table?.

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Re: She Can't Marry A Barber by pinkygurl(f): 12:55pm On Mar 26, 2022
ufotty2001:

She rejected me because am not religious and committed person in church also am not a committed Christian... That is why she rejected me.. she is a teacher while am a chartered accountant. Teacher rejecting an accountant. grin grin grin grin
Teacher versus accountant most likely on a higher salary scale than the teacher and so.
Seek first the kingdom of God!.Godliness is great gain!.
All other earthly things and positions should be secondary to a woman or man who fears the lord and puts God first. The primary aim of starting a family for such is not just bearing kids or companionship but to also raise an alter to propagate the spread of the kindgom
Re: She Can't Marry A Barber by ufotty2001: 1:00pm On Mar 26, 2022
pinkygurl:

Teacher versus accountant most likely on a higher salary scale than the teacher and so.
Seek first the kingdom of God!.Godliness is great gain!.
All other earthly things and positions should be secondary to a woman or man who fears the lord and puts God first. The primary aim of starting a family for such is not just bearing kids or companionship but to raise an alter to propagate the spread of the kindgom
.. ok!
Re: She Can't Marry A Barber by Tzar(m): 4:23pm On Mar 26, 2022
Jeez! Did you even read the story at all?!!! Please read the 1st paragraph again. Then read your 1st sentence & come back to apologize to me!

FYI, below is the 1st paragraph of the poster:

“My fellow nairalanders help me out on this. My immediate elder sister said she can't marry the guy she's dating.”


Rosement:

Op did not say they are dating, they might just be friends and even if they are dating it doesn't matter. A guy sent the story of a rich man's daughter and a poor man's son to me, just because I had no interest in him and I rejected him. She is only seen him as inferior because she doesn't love him.

A lady can marry a guy that is younger than her and still respect him as long as love is involved. If she marries the barber then she is only marrying him out of pity because she is already viewing him as inferior. The foundation of their relationship is already shaking, respect is important in marriage, he will not get the respect he deserves. She is no longer a teenager so she can make her own decision, at this stage in her life she knows what she wants.

I have seen rich men that are barbers by profession so it is not about his occupation. The lady is just making up flamzy excuses, the truth is she is not in love with the guy. When we are in love we are controlled by our heart, if we are not careful we might even stop thinking straight.
Re: She Can't Marry A Barber by Rosement(f): 10:19pm On Mar 27, 2022
Tzar:
Jeez! Did you even read the story at all?!!! Please read the 1st paragraph again. Then read your 1st sentence & come back to apologize to me!

FYI, below is the 1st paragraph of the poster:

“My fellow nairalanders help me out on this. My immediate elder sister said she can't marry the guy she's dating.”


Thanks for the correction but I also said even if they are dating it doesn't matter because it is better to break a courtship now than to later break a marriage. Strangers will easily realise that a person is unattractive but people living with the person will not easily notice this. If she is still seeing the guy's profession as a problem after dating him, it means she doesn't love him. Her head is just making up excuses to reject him because her heart is not with him.

She feels the guy is not the best for her, if she marries that guy and anything happens tomorrow, she will be more sad because she was pressured to marry him. If you use some set of ladies to judge her, you will not understand what I am saying, some ladies just get married to any available guy when they feel they have no choice but some ladies will prefer to wait patiently and get the right person.
Re: She Can't Marry A Barber by Tzar(m): 12:58am On Mar 28, 2022
I totally agree with you.
I also think she should stop dating the guy, since their objectives in the relationship is no longer the same. The man wants marriage & the lady doesn’t.
But sadly, since women are not ‘permitted’ to woo or propose to a man, it may be hard for all things to align when she finally finds her deeam guy. Also, women have a window of 18-30years when they become very attractive to men for marriage. After that window closes less and less men are interested in marrying them. Their biological clock is also thicking away. The odds are not fair on the woman.
The earlier she realises this and make her choice of a marriage partner, the better for her ( if marriage is what she wants sha). IMO, marriage is overrated anyway.
Rosement:

Thanks for the correction but I also said even if they are dating it doesn't matter because it is better to break a courtship now than to later break a marriage. Strangers will easily realise that a person is unattractive but people living with the person will not easily notice this. If she is still seeing the guy's profession as a problem after dating him, it means she doesn't love him. Her head is just making up excuses to reject him because her heart is not with him.

She feels the guy is not the best for her, if she marries that guy and anything happens tomorrow, she will be more sad because she was pressured to marry him. If you use some set of ladies to judge her, you will not understand what I am saying, some ladies just get married to any available guy when they feel they have no choice but some ladies will prefer to wait patiently and get the right person.

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Re: She Can't Marry A Barber by Zee0007: 9:18pm On Aug 07, 2022
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Re: She Can't Marry A Barber by Zee0007: 9:44pm On Aug 07, 2022
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Re: She Can't Marry A Barber by isaiah4life(m): 10:23am On Aug 16, 2022
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Re: She Can't Marry A Barber by BigIyanga: 10:35am On Aug 16, 2022
Do you know that you are already a table as a woman?its now left for the man to design his table to his taste.Every woman out there is naturally a table and you’ll find a lot inside that table which most men can never withstand and cope with if roles were exchanged,God designed us differently let’s all embrace whichever part we fall into and also play our roles diligently
Keep wallowing in your delusion and fantasy land.. Which kind God designed you to be demanding for a lifestyle neither you nor your parents can afford?? You should be able to treat yourself to the best lifestyle you crave for.. man is not a poverty alleviator
Re: She Can't Marry A Barber by gforce5: 10:49am On Aug 16, 2022
This mindset is the very reason why Nigerian women are at the bottom of the dating pool abroad. Table my foot. It's 2022. No one has time for a liability. Only people from poor/working class backgrounds reason like this. There's a reason why the rich marry themselves otherwise they would easily have married women from a much lower class than them. Change your mentality before it's too late. High valued men don't marry liabilities.
Do you know that you are already a table as a woman?its now left for the man to design his table to his taste.Every woman out there is naturally a table and you’ll find a lot inside that table which most men can never withstand and cope with if roles were exchanged,God designed us differently let’s all embrace whichever part we fall into and also play our roles diligently
Re: She Can't Marry A Barber by Tegabadguy(m): 11:02am On Aug 16, 2022
Zee0007:
My fellow nairalanders help me out on this. My immediate elder sister said she can't marry the guy she's dating.

The guy is a successful barber. I love the guy because he seem responsible and well cultured. From the looks of things, he will make a good husband for her.

But my sister shook the whole house yesterday when the supposed barber proposed to her, She outrightly rejected the guy because of his profession.

She's in her mid 20s. Please what should we do? She's getting older but she seems not to realise.

The guy called me this morning and pleaded with me to talk to her. What will I say to her, now?

A wider view will be much appreciated.
plls don't force her cheesy cheesy cheesy cheesy cheesy cheesy
Re: She Can't Marry A Barber by Zee0007: 4:11pm On Sep 26, 2022
Really.
Re: She Can't Marry A Barber by jericco1(m): 6:02pm On Sep 26, 2022
Well it's her life and her decision.
You shouldn't advise her to.
Let her be
Re: She Can't Marry A Barber by Lvgirl: 6:06pm On Sep 26, 2022
Zee0007:
My fellow nairalanders help me out on this. My immediate elder sister said she can't marry the guy she's dating.

The guy is a successful barber. I love the guy because he seem responsible and well cultured. From the looks of things, he will make a good husband for her.

But my sister shook the whole house yesterday when the supposed barber proposed to her, She outrightly rejected the guy because of his profession.

She's in her mid 20s. Please what should we do? She's getting older but she seems not to realise.

The guy called me this morning and pleaded with me to talk to her. What will I say to her, now?

A wider view will be much appreciated.




Babers are only good to cure konji. Ur sister will marry Yusuf buhari son
Re: She Can't Marry A Barber by Zee0007: 8:31am On Oct 01, 2022
Good morning boss davodguy. If you are seeing this, pls I need your assistance. You are a good man and harness a lot of respect. Pls, I am currently very very broke. Pls can you help me with any amount to buy foodstuff? Pls sir. I am sorry for disturbing you but I have no option left pls.

I will really appreciate your kind gesture toward a stranger like me. Pls sir. Should I drop my acct for any thing pls?

Happy independence,sir.
Re: She Can't Marry A Barber by timisquare82(m): 8:53pm On Oct 01, 2022
Where is it written that a woman must bring something to the table?
It is written that any tree that doesn't bear fruits shall be cut off
Re: She Can't Marry A Barber by Streetmovement(m): 9:26pm On Oct 01, 2022
Wotoporiously cool speaking

I really do not care anymore
Re: She Can't Marry A Barber by 9japride(m): 3:36am On Oct 02, 2022
She will eventually learn things about life. Most barbers earn more than even a masters graduate. That barbering business might be stepping stone to bigger things. She doesn't know other ladies are waiting to take her position. It's bad to force love.

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