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Re: Love Of Your Life Can't Have Children. Deal Breaker? by Kobojunkie: 10:04pm On Mar 30, 2022
Dmacqh:
1. Serving another , selflessly even ? Lol
To what end ?
2. What happen when the served , errs ?

3. What’s the end or by product of your love ( serving another , selflessly even ) ?
There’s interest.
1. Yes, serving another strictly to fulfill the conditions of the agreement that binds the relationship. undecided

2. When the served errs, you mean breaks the conditions of a relationship? It hurts ofcourse! undecided

3. The end product typically depends on the agreement on which the relationship between the lover and the loved exists. undecided
Re: Love Of Your Life Can't Have Children. Deal Breaker? by Kobojunkie: 10:06pm On Mar 30, 2022
Dmacqh:
Why did Jesus died for mankind ?
Jesus Christ did not die for all of mankind. Instead He died to save those who will believe in Him and commit to being saved by Him - the relationship ofcourse as defined by Him, according to His own terms and conditions. undecided

Basically, God's love for men, as offered to us through Jesus Christ, is conditioned on our submission to and obedience of Jesus Christ's teachings(and commandments). His love is selfless but is only for those who believe in Him and His promises only for those who accept and obey Him. undecided
Re: Love Of Your Life Can't Have Children. Deal Breaker? by Exedyne: 10:06pm On Mar 30, 2022
ArmaniUhuru:
Nigerians can form! grin grin grin


Everyone is now forming children is not important on the internet. While in real life, they want to have like 10 children. grin grin grin


And how did you come to this conclusion? By checking the mind of millions of Nigerians?
Re: Love Of Your Life Can't Have Children. Deal Breaker? by Exedyne: 10:07pm On Mar 30, 2022
ChimasGirl:
If your partner is the love of your life but cannot have children, would you break things off?


For me, God has answered my prayer. I'd be open to meeting a good woman who can't have children. I don't want children. I can't add another layer of complexity to an already complex situation.
Re: Love Of Your Life Can't Have Children. Deal Breaker? by MadamOk(f): 10:10pm On Mar 30, 2022
NO cos he is the love of my life
Re: Love Of Your Life Can't Have Children. Deal Breaker? by Dmacqh(m): 10:15pm On Mar 30, 2022
Kobojunkie:
1. Yes, serving another strictly to fulfill the conditions of the agreement that binds the relationship. undecided

2. When the served errs, you mean breaks the conditions of a relationship? It hurts ofcourse! undecided

3. The end product typically depends on the agreement on which the relationship between the lover and the loved exists. undecided

Will there be a notary who sign this love agreement ?
And why can’t both partners serve each other ?
The golden rule precedes every rule or feeling or interest ( love )
“ Do unto others what you will like them to do unto you “ .
That brings me back to my first questions which you are yet to answer, instead you deviated it with questions , though I enjoy the mature replies without insults ;
1. Will the “ love of my life “ be with me if I’m impotent ?
2. What’s the cause of “ love of my life “ inability to conceive or bear a child ?
Re: Love Of Your Life Can't Have Children. Deal Breaker? by Kobojunkie: 10:26pm On Mar 30, 2022
Dmacqh:
1. Will there be a notary who sign this love agreement ?

2. And why can’t both partners serve each other ?
The golden rule precedes every rule or feeling or interest ( love ) “ Do unto others what you will like them to do unto you “ .

3. That brings me back to my first questions which you are yet to answer, instead you deviated it with questions , though I enjoy the mature replies without insults ; 1. Will the “ love of my life “ be with me if I’m impotent ?
2. What’s the cause of “ love of my life “ inability to conceive or bear a child ?
1. I am afraid you are mistaken. A relationship is an agreement, not love itself. undecided

2. Love is not a relationship or an agreement between two people. Instead, love is a decision to be made by the individual in a relationship. Even what you consider the golden rule presents itself as a decision to be made by the one who receives it. undecided

3. Love is a decision you make, not one you specify others make for you. So, when you say someone is the "love of your life" it means you are the one making the selfless decision to love the other person.

a. So, you are the one being asked here whether you will selflessly accept to love another who you claim is the "love of your life". undecided

b. There are many reasons from sickness to infertility. The question is simply asking if your love for the "love of your life" can transcend such issues. undecided
Re: Love Of Your Life Can't Have Children. Deal Breaker? by Dmacqh(m): 10:28pm On Mar 30, 2022
Kobojunkie:
Jesus Christ did not die for all of mankind. Instead He died to save those who will believe in Him and commit to being saved by Him - the relationship ofcourse as defined by Him, according to His own terms and conditions. undecided

Basically, God's love for men, as offered to us through Jesus Christ, is conditioned on our submission to and obedience of Jesus Christ's teachings(and commandments). His love is selfless but is only for those who believe in Him and His promises only for those who accept and obey Him. undecided

Jesus died for all mankind because of love ( interest ) .
His interest is to bring us back to God after the first fall ( Adam sin ) .
As with Gods ways , he can’t force anybody to believe in him , obey him or worship him .
Instead he left it for us to decide on our own .
He has done his part , dieing because of his love to save us , and now it’s our turn to do our part in the journey of salvation. Believing in him and obeying his commandments and living according to his way .
So there’s love ( interest ) , and there’s by and end products .
When we love God , our interest is eternity in Gods kingdom.
I doubt if without promise of eternity in Gods kingdom, wether we will love God .
And is there a love greater than Christ death on the Cross ?
Re: Love Of Your Life Can't Have Children. Deal Breaker? by rickleye: 10:32pm On Mar 30, 2022
ChimasGirl:
If your partner is the love of your life but cannot have children, would you break things off?

Nope - You can adopt, You can get a surrogate with a donor egg and your sperm.
As long as he/she is willing there is a way.
Re: Love Of Your Life Can't Have Children. Deal Breaker? by MrBroke(m): 10:38pm On Mar 30, 2022
Don't believe in the love stuff, but not having kids is no shit a problem, Nigerians care more about what people say than seeing things the logical way. An entire family can die in an accident and that is all, your so called name you want to continue will soon be forgotten whether you like it or not. Kids or no kids, don't give a Bleep. One can adopt or decide not to. Some people give birth to a soccer team and all of them can't find the back of the net, rather causing harm and mayhem to the world. I laugh and shake my head when I hear or see couples fighting or getting divorced over fertility issues. Dump Husband if he divorce her for that, Dump wife If she let go of him for that.
Re: Love Of Your Life Can't Have Children. Deal Breaker? by Kobojunkie: 10:38pm On Mar 30, 2022
Dmacqh:
1. Jesus died for all mankind because of love ( interest ) .

2. His interest is to bring us back to God after the first fall ( Adam sin ) . As with Gods ways , he can’t force anybody to believe in him , obey him or worship him .
Instead he left it for us to decide on our own .He has done his part , dieing because of his love to save us , and now it’s our turn to do our part in the journey of salvation. Believing in him and obeying his commandments and living according to his way .

3. So there’s love ( interest ) , and there’s by and end products . When we love God , our interest is eternity in Gods kingdom.

4. I doubt if without promise of eternity in Gods kingdom, wether we will love God .
And is there a love greater than Christ death on the Cross ?
1. Jesus Christ, again, didn't die for all of mankind but instead for whosoever will believe in Him - John 3 vs 16 - 21 undecided

2. Still, His Love for us in conditioned on our entering a relationship with Him. Those who do not enter into this relationship can't enjoy the love He promised. undecided

3. From the perspective of one who believes, love is no interest, but a command, a condition of the relationship we enter into with God, a mandate given to us should we have intention of benefiting from God's promise of eternity. undecided

4. Those who will end up in Hell also have eternity yet they refuse to obey God's command/mandate to love Him and all. undecided
Re: Love Of Your Life Can't Have Children. Deal Breaker? by Dmacqh(m): 10:40pm On Mar 30, 2022
Kobojunkie:
1. I am afraid you are mistaken. A relationship is an agreement, not love itself. undecided

2. Love is not a relationship or an agreement between two people. Instead, love is a decision to be made by the individual in a relationship. Even what you consider the golden rule presents itself as a decision to be made by the one who receives it. undecided

3. Love is a decision you make, not one you specify others make for you. So, when you say someone is the "love of your life" it means you are the one making the selfless decision to love the other person.

a. So, you are the one being asked here whether you will selflessly accept to love another who you claim is the "love of your life". undecided

b. There are many reasons from sickness to infertility. The question is simply asking if your love for the "love of your life" can transcend such issues. undecided

3. Love is a decision. Yes , but that decision is made based on your interest in the other person .

3a. Before you selflessly accept to love the “ love of your life “ , there’s an interest . That’s what I’m saying . Your interest likely the by and end products will determine your selflessly elasticity .

3b. In this century , I know one of things that will a marriage not to hold is impotency or infertility .
I know of churches that will request for proves .
And yes, some people may discover it and still go ahead and marry .
So knowing the cause of the infertility ( as the case is here ) will determine if you are willing to sacrifice selfless love for the “ love of your life “ .
Re: Love Of Your Life Can't Have Children. Deal Breaker? by Magnoliaa(f): 10:43pm On Mar 30, 2022
Kobojunkie:
1. Jesus Christ, again, didn't die for all of mankind but instead for whosoever will believe in Him - John 3 vs 16 - 21 undecided

2. Still, His Love for us in conditioned on our entering a relationship with Him. Those who do not enter into this relationship can't enjoy the love He promised. undecided

3. From the perspective of one who believes, love is no interest, but a command, a condition of the relationship we enter into with God, a mandate given to us should we have intention of benefiting from God's promise of eternity. undecided

4. Those who will end up in Hell also have eternity yet they refuse to obey God's command/mandate to love Him and all. undecided

You, ehn. Where, when, how you take enter Biblical analysis inside this thread now now now?? ?? Ha.

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Re: Love Of Your Life Can't Have Children. Deal Breaker? by Dmacqh(m): 10:48pm On Mar 30, 2022
Kobojunkie:
1. Jesus Christ, again, didn't die for all of mankind but instead for whosoever will believe in Him - John 3 vs 16 - 21 undecided

2. Still, His Love for us in conditioned on our entering a relationship with Him. Those who do not enter into this relationship can't enjoy the love He promised. undecided

3. From the perspective of one who believes, love is no interest, but a command, a condition of the relationship we enter into with God, a mandate given to us should we have intention of benefiting from God's promise of eternity. undecided

4. Those who will end up in Hell also have eternity yet they refuse to obey God's command/mandate to love Him and all. undecided

My data is very low .
Thanks for the chit chats .
I argue to learn .
Goodnight my lady .
Re: Love Of Your Life Can't Have Children. Deal Breaker? by Kobojunkie: 10:50pm On Mar 30, 2022
Dmacqh:
3. Love is a decision. Yes , but that decision is made based on your interest in the other person .

3a. Before you selflessly accept to love the “ love of your life “ , there’s an interest . That’s what I’m saying . Your interest likely the by and end products will determine your selflessly elasticity .

3b. In this century , I know one of things that will a marriage not to hold is impotency or infertility .
I know of churches that will request for proves .
And yes, some people may discover it and still go ahead and marry .
So knowing the cause of the infertility ( as the case is here ) will determine if you are willing to sacrifice selfless love for the “ love of your life “ .
3. The interest is the relationship, whatever it may be. undecided

3a. The relationship could be a mother-child relationship, a siblings relationship, a neighbor/coursemate/colleague relationship, an intimate relationship etc. undecided

3b. Cause of infertility? Leaving us to question your claim that the individual is the love of your life. undecided
Re: Love Of Your Life Can't Have Children. Deal Breaker? by Kobojunkie: 10:51pm On Mar 30, 2022
Magnoliaa:
You, ehn. Where, when, how you take enter Biblical analysis inside this thread now now now?? ?? Ha.
ROFLMAO
grin cheesy cheesy cheesy cheesy cheesy cheesy cheesy cheesy cheesy
Re: Love Of Your Life Can't Have Children. Deal Breaker? by EdwardRandy(m): 11:59pm On Mar 30, 2022
ArmaniUhuru:
Nigerians can form! grin grin grin


Everyone is now forming children is not important on the internet. While in real life, they want to have like 10 children. grin grin grin
Don't mind them, they're all giving the girl false hope.

Op I can't keep a girl who can't birth for me. I don't love with my heart, I love with my brain. And I don't expect any woman to displease herself and be with me if I can't get her pregnant.

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Re: Love Of Your Life Can't Have Children. Deal Breaker? by ablejesus26(m): 12:48am On Mar 31, 2022
Magnoliaa:


Ermmmm, sorry, sir. But you're selling sharwamas and pizzas and waist trainers and -- what else? cheesy Are those African foods and products?

Nna ehn dis your question dey very vawulent oo undecided
Enh they should come and carry their gbogbotigbo I can go back to my Agriculture full time angry
This your question put cold water for my body sha.

Re: Love Of Your Life Can't Have Children. Deal Breaker? by ChimasGirl(f): 12:56am On Mar 31, 2022
EdwardRandy:

Don't mind them, they're all giving the girl false hope.

Op I can't keep a girl who can't birth for me. I don't love with my heart, I love with my brain. And I don't expect any woman to displease herself and be with me if I can't get her pregnant.

If that's the case, do you really love the girl for who she is or more for what she has to offer?
Re: Love Of Your Life Can't Have Children. Deal Breaker? by EdwardRandy(m): 1:00am On Mar 31, 2022
ChimasGirl:


If that's the case, do you really love the girl for who she is or more for what she has to offer?
I love women for what they have to offer. The only woman I can love unconditionally is my mum or sister.
Re: Love Of Your Life Can't Have Children. Deal Breaker? by ChimasGirl(f): 1:02am On Mar 31, 2022
EdwardRandy:

I love women for what they have to offer. The only woman I can love unconditionally is my mum or sister.

Well at least you're honest. Bring out that honesty when required so that the right women can steer clear of you.

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Re: Love Of Your Life Can't Have Children. Deal Breaker? by Kobojunkie: 1:10am On Mar 31, 2022
ChimasGirl:
Well at least you're honest. Bring out that honesty when required so that the right women can steer clear of you.
Bingo! undecided

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Re: Love Of Your Life Can't Have Children. Deal Breaker? by LucemFerre: 1:43am On Mar 31, 2022
ChimasGirl:
If your partner is the love of your life but cannot have children, would you break things off?

Send me your number and if no be you send me the girl number... children no dey reign again

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Re: Love Of Your Life Can't Have Children. Deal Breaker? by illicit(m): 6:32am On Mar 31, 2022
Palema007:
Wawu grin grin

Yes

What are couples for
Re: Love Of Your Life Can't Have Children. Deal Breaker? by frozen70(f): 7:13am On Mar 31, 2022
ChimasGirl:
If your partner is the love of your life but cannot have children, would you break things off?

You adopt children and both of you will live happily

Forget about what families will say, what matters to you is you guys happiness
Re: Love Of Your Life Can't Have Children. Deal Breaker? by mechanics(m): 8:22am On Mar 31, 2022
Definitely.
Re: Love Of Your Life Can't Have Children. Deal Breaker? by Nobody: 8:23am On Mar 31, 2022
He cannot be the love of my life in the first place....
Re: Love Of Your Life Can't Have Children. Deal Breaker? by Dmacqh(m): 8:40am On Mar 31, 2022
Kobojunkie:
3. The interest is the relationship, whatever it may be. undecided

3a. The relationship could be a mother-child relationship, a siblings relationship, a neighbor/coursemate/colleague relationship, an intimate relationship etc. undecided

3b. Cause of infertility? Leaving us to question your claim that the individual is the love of your life. undecided

We are still back to what I was saying . 21st century Love is propelled by either interest ( sex , involved ) or kindness ( no sex involved ) .

Why won’t I know the cause the of the infertility of the “ love of my life “ ?
Or your type of love is unquestionable. Even faith seeks understanding. When God blocked David wife womb , there was a reason . All the barren women in the Bible , there was a reason.

We all know the reckless lifestyles our generation indulge .
And as always those who indulge in such will deceive a gent or lady into been with you ( relationship ) , and in other to guide their reckless past , they start using the mantra, accept me the way I am ?

Why are you that way ? Or you expect me to decide on my own to accept you the way you are , right ? It is still possible . But I’ll comfortably accept it , after knowing why you are that way . The knowledge and my resolve is what will propel me to “ love ( interest ) “ ( stand by you , sacrifice selflessly, protect , been faithful and honest with you , etc ) with my all .

In the context of op the question, the love we are talking about is for couples or people in relationship .
Re: Love Of Your Life Can't Have Children. Deal Breaker? by Baba40(f): 9:09am On Mar 31, 2022
ChimasGirl:
If your partner is the love of your life but cannot have children, would you break things off?

Depends on her loyalty to me... Ladies ain't loyal with men during their financial distress yet they would want you to be loyal to them when they have difficulty giving birth
Re: Love Of Your Life Can't Have Children. Deal Breaker? by Magnoliaa(f): 9:25am On Mar 31, 2022
ablejesus26:
Nna ehn dis your question dey very vawulent oo undecided
Enh they should come and carry their gbogbotigbo I can go back to my Agriculture full time angry
This your question put cold water for my body sha.

You're a good sport. cheesy cheesy
Re: Love Of Your Life Can't Have Children. Deal Breaker? by Oturatetuala(m): 9:59am On Mar 31, 2022
What kind of love of my life is that? Ahhh I offend God or na me sin pass.
Re: Love Of Your Life Can't Have Children. Deal Breaker? by UyaiIncomparabl(f): 12:50pm On Mar 31, 2022
I value companionship more than children.

I am not chummy with babies. I think they are stressful. Not a deal-breaker for me.

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