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Re: Is Cheating Enough Reason To Leave A Legal Marriage ? by olabrinks(f): 2:16pm On Apr 03, 2022
Most men who cheat on their wives, the wives are cheating back. Forget all this long story on the internet, the husbands know their wives are cheating and they stay put. The respect men gain from society when they’re married vs single is enough for them to stay put In the marriage and tolerate it all. Forget what they say on online, it’s their ego talking. Most men will tolerate cheating wives and vice versa. Will they ever admit it? No.

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Re: Is Cheating Enough Reason To Leave A Legal Marriage ? by greatiyk4u(m): 2:17pm On Apr 03, 2022
RealTalker02:


Until you realize not all cases can be amended and people process hurt differently. This your statement here is grossly Silly.

Even God permit divorce on the basis of infidelity, So who are you to say the above ?

When did I stop been entitled to my opinion?
This is a question for you to sample your opinion not Avenue to insult or conclude like an Authority
Re: Is Cheating Enough Reason To Leave A Legal Marriage ? by Nobody: 2:19pm On Apr 03, 2022
ajl:


I got your point. But to raise a child to be a well balanced adult mentally and character wise require a mother and father. I mean responsible parents.

No it doesn’t actually.
We have children who grew up in orphanage homes and have become great people emotionally and morally. They didn’t rely on the fact that their parents abandoned them as an excuse to become wayward or imbalanced. We have had single mothers of 3, 4, 5 children who have single-handedly trained up their kids morally and emotionally and these kids have gone ahead to build beautiful families of their own. We have also had single dads too who have done same too.
You don’t necessarily need both father and mother to train up a child, what matters is HOW you as a parent or guardian train up these children.

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Re: Is Cheating Enough Reason To Leave A Legal Marriage ? by Mjpem23(m): 2:20pm On Apr 03, 2022
Jennyclay:
But men have every right to cheat abi? because men are Polygamous in nature abi? Bull crap. See if you cheat on me, I will cheat on you too.
Then we divorce, last last Na women Dey loose…
I never see single father begging for money or food online.
It’s only single mothers lol

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Re: Is Cheating Enough Reason To Leave A Legal Marriage ? by olabrinks(f): 2:21pm On Apr 03, 2022
DEMZEE:


YES NOW

A FEMALE WHO IS WAY PAST HER SEXUAL PRIME, DIDNT GET MARRIED, STAY MARRIED AND HAD KIDS WITH THE MALE SHE LOVES,ADMIRES AND RESPECTS, FAILED IN LIFE

HUMAN BEINGS WERE CREATED TO PROCREATE AND FEMALES DERIVE HAPPINESS AND JOY FROM GETTING AND STAYING MARRIED, HAVING KIDS AND RAISING A FAMILY WITH THE MALE THEY LOVE, ADMIRE AND RESPECT

FEMALES DON'T DERIVE HAPPINESS FROM MAKING MONEY, HAVING A CAREER OR A BUSINESS
nothing can give you happiness in this world . Happiness is a very temporary emotion, one minute you’re happy then next your sad. But you can have peace of mind, and that truly comes with within. No man, no woman, no job can give that to you, because these things will always give you problems and stress.

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Re: Is Cheating Enough Reason To Leave A Legal Marriage ? by Kobojunkiee: 2:21pm On Apr 03, 2022
RealTalker02:
U may be correct to certain extent that a woman is expected to endure cheating spouse... But I still maintain , Any man or woman who is affected by cheating should leave. Let people talk....

If e give her AIDS, na that time people go Understand?
Even if he does not give her an STD, no woman should subject herself and her children to such a toxic environment just so she can maintain a MRS title. undecided

A divorced or remarried woman, divorced from a cheating partner is so many times better than a woman who sits and tolerates cheating while maintaining what is a failed union, in my book. undecided

Even worse, children raised in these toxic relationships grow up with the same lack of confidence instilled in them by both mother and father. From father, sons go on to believing that as males, cheating is their nature, while daughters learn from their mothers that sitting tight in the toxic situation is how they earn they earn their wings in marriage. undecided

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Re: Is Cheating Enough Reason To Leave A Legal Marriage ? by safarigirl(f): 2:25pm On Apr 03, 2022
RealTalker02:


U may be correct to certain extent that a woman is expected to endure cheating spouse... But I still maintain , Any man or woman who is affected by cheating should leave. Let people talk....

If e give her AIDS, na that time people go Understand?

Even if he give her AIDs, people no go still understand. You will be hearing "for better or worse..."

Na why sometimes, when some men die, their wives don't even mourn them. They just keep it moving.

A lot of women are emotionally detached from their husbands. They have left the man already in their minds, the marriage is just for show and more often than not, they don't even have sexual relations

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Re: Is Cheating Enough Reason To Leave A Legal Marriage ? by silibaba: 2:26pm On Apr 03, 2022
greatiyk4u:
This is referencing legally married persons not two fornicators deceiving themselves with the non Afrjcan word "fiancee"......You are either married or single QED


What Is Infidelity?
Infidelity, or cheating, is the act of being unfaithful to a spouse or other partner. It typically means engaging in sexual or romantic relations with a person other than one's significant partner, breaking a commitment or promise in the act.

If u have ever been the victim of infidelity, the first question you probably asked was, "why?" The consequences of infidelity are numerous, and it is only natural to want to know why your partner chose to cheat, even if knowing why doesn't bring you any relief. There could be any number of reasons, and there are many types of infidelity and cheating that could shed a little light on those reasons.


Not every act of infidelity is premeditated and driven by dissatisfaction with a current relationship…Maybe they were drinking or in some other way thrown into an opportunity they didn't anticipate.


Infidelity is not enough reason to leave a legal Marriage since it is a situation that can be amended.

Is only for this reason you can divorce your Partner. This say the Lord of Host.

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Re: Is Cheating Enough Reason To Leave A Legal Marriage ? by safarigirl(f): 2:27pm On Apr 03, 2022
Kobojunkiee:
Women who do this feel themselves mentally incapable of handling life outside of their current marriage. undecided

When a woman says she has been in a marriage for decades, this after having to literally condone cheating from the spouse, all I see is a pathetic case that could really benefit from some professional mental Health counseling(children as well). Children raised in such homes go on to believe cheating is part of their stake and fate in life. undecided


They would rather not deal with the questions, the snide remarks, the blame, and some of them well and truly believe a man cheating is the norm and there are "worse things outside"

I have seen women justify staying in such a marriage with, "...he is a good father to the children". They have little to no self worth, but they think themselves better than the woman who has no husband because she got divorced

There are so many messed up people in the African society, because of that invisible hand that forces them to remain in an unhappy place.

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Re: Is Cheating Enough Reason To Leave A Legal Marriage ? by Kobojunkiee: 2:28pm On Apr 03, 2022
Mjpem23:

Then we divorce, last last Na women Dey loose…
I never see single father begging for money or food online.
It’s only single mothers lol
LOL... only single mothers? undecided

Look, forget what you have been fed... even since the day of our ancestors, single mothers have had no problems marrying again. So don't let the "women dey loose" hype deceive you at all. I happen to know two single mothers who remarried after abandoning their former spouses and these women are now today in their 60s doing great. undecided

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Re: Is Cheating Enough Reason To Leave A Legal Marriage ? by safarigirl(f): 2:28pm On Apr 03, 2022
silibaba:


Is only for this reason you can divorce your Partner. This say the Lord of Host.

Infidelity is the only reason to divorce your partner according to the Bible

Whether it is pre-meditated or not, it is enough reason.

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Re: Is Cheating Enough Reason To Leave A Legal Marriage ? by Joshcoli(m): 2:40pm On Apr 03, 2022
Every shovel can always dig a hole but a hole can never dig a shovel

If you don't Gerrit forge abarit
Re: Is Cheating Enough Reason To Leave A Legal Marriage ? by Kobojunkiee: 2:42pm On Apr 03, 2022
Joshcoli:
Every shovel can always dig a hole but a hole can never dig a shovel

If you don't Gerrit forge abarit
Both shovel and hole belong to nature. So just as nature allows the use of one shovel on several holes, nature also allows several shovels to one hole. undecided
Re: Is Cheating Enough Reason To Leave A Legal Marriage ? by komekn(m): 2:42pm On Apr 03, 2022
JUMO95:
If you can't be faithful in marriage, what are you doing being in a relationship ? What are you teaching your kids.
Cheating is the height of disrespect to any spouse

Thats your perception of Western based norms and values. And it's not universal across the West.

It's really a question of perspective. Because for instance look at Europe the UK is very much different from France.

Almost every French president has a had a mistress and the cincept of mistress / concubine has muted acceptance in France but not so in the UK .

I have not brought any Christian and or Islamic perspective because your approach is clearly not religious.

Probably birthed from ignorance unfortunately.
Re: Is Cheating Enough Reason To Leave A Legal Marriage ? by Kobojunkiee: 2:46pm On Apr 03, 2022
komekn:
Thats your perception of Western based norms and values. And it's not universal across the West.
It's really a question of perspective. Because for instance look at Europe the UK is very much different from France.
Almost every French president has a had a mistress and the cincept of mistress / concubine has muted acceptance in France but not so in the UK .
Well, if we are to follow the French idea, many of the same French presidents had wives and concubines who had their own sidebuns to deal with. I mean as their husbands cheated, so also did they cheating on their own side. undecided

So are you then in agreement that polygamous men should in turn embrace the polyandrous sides of their many women?, undecided
Re: Is Cheating Enough Reason To Leave A Legal Marriage ? by Pimine: 2:55pm On Apr 03, 2022
Jennyclay:
But men have every right to cheat abi? because men are Polygamous in nature abi? Bull crap. See if you cheat on me, I will cheat on you too.
Aswearugaaad

Then you'll find yourself in your father's house in less than 2secs while a younger, more beautiful woman replaces you.

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Re: Is Cheating Enough Reason To Leave A Legal Marriage ? by Jennyclay(f): 3:00pm On Apr 03, 2022
Pimine:

Aswearugaaad

Then you'll find yourself in your father's house in less than 2secs while a younger, more beautiful woman replaces you.
BETTER!!!!!!!!!!!

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Re: Is Cheating Enough Reason To Leave A Legal Marriage ? by Pimine: 3:09pm On Apr 03, 2022
Jennyclay:
BETTER!!!!!!!!!!!
Aswearugaaad

Lol. Big mistake, girlie. grin
Re: Is Cheating Enough Reason To Leave A Legal Marriage ? by Jennyclay(f): 3:10pm On Apr 03, 2022
Pimine:

Aswearugaaad

Lol. Big mistake, girlie. grin
Is a woman who's jobless you can threaten just like and not me my dear.

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Re: Is Cheating Enough Reason To Leave A Legal Marriage ? by onuman: 3:14pm On Apr 03, 2022
Lalami3232:
For men, I would say YES.
For women, I would say NO.
Before una go chop my head, make I analyze somethings. When it comes to man and woman eeh, the ball game dey different. Cry all you want, men are polygamous in nature. Right from Bible to our ancestors time, no be crime to marry more than one woman. That's why you go see a man wey get 3 babies with different women, and nobody go talk anything. But immediately a woman born just one or two, she don turn second hand material and almost abandoned project.
Same way a man no fit marry empty handed, he must work hard for money first. While a woman only needs toto and makeup before she's qualified for marriage. So both get advantages and disadvantages. Once again, if a man cheat, society no too dey frown about am like women.


....in addition, no man who loves his wife can leave or even kill her after tasting another woman.
But woman who tastes another man can easily leave or even kill her husband in order to go fully for the new man.

A woman does not abandon her legal marriage because her husband cheated.
But a man can abandon his legal marriage because his wife cheated.
Re: Is Cheating Enough Reason To Leave A Legal Marriage ? by kunkelhanspeter(m): 3:18pm On Apr 03, 2022
Once another dick penetrate that puxxy I paid for if like Jesus came back to beg me I won’t forgive her it’s over.
Re: Is Cheating Enough Reason To Leave A Legal Marriage ? by Proudlyngwa(m): 3:18pm On Apr 03, 2022
Jennyclay:
But men have every right to cheat abi? because men are Polygamous in nature abi? Bull crap. See if you cheat on me, I will cheat on you too.

Nobody is stopping u from cheating, not just in the house I pay for.
Re: Is Cheating Enough Reason To Leave A Legal Marriage ? by LordReed(m): 3:20pm On Apr 03, 2022
greatiyk4u:
This is referencing legally married persons not two fornicators deceiving themselves with the non Afrjcan word "fiancee"......You are either married or single QED


What Is Infidelity?
Infidelity, or cheating, is the act of being unfaithful to a spouse or other partner. It typically means engaging in sexual or romantic relations with a person other than one's significant partner, breaking a commitment or promise in the act.

If u have ever been the victim of infidelity, the first question you probably asked was, "why?" The consequences of infidelity are numerous, and it is only natural to want to know why your partner chose to cheat, even if knowing why doesn't bring you any relief. There could be any number of reasons, and there are many types of infidelity and cheating that could shed a little light on those reasons.


Not every act of infidelity is premeditated and driven by dissatisfaction with a current relationship…Maybe they were drinking or in some other way thrown into an opportunity they didn't anticipate.


Infidelity is not enough reason to leave a legal Marriage since it is a situation that can be amended.

What do you mean by it is not enough? Peoples reaction to infidelity varies and so you cannot use a single standard to make that conclusion. If that person who was cheated against cannot reestablish trust then there is no point continuing.

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Re: Is Cheating Enough Reason To Leave A Legal Marriage ? by EdwardRandy(m): 3:25pm On Apr 03, 2022
Kobojunkiee:
2 wrongs don't make a right,yes, but what are we humans but evolving creatures. undecided

Men claim nature, which birthed them from the very same loins and womb as women, conclude they are by birth polygamy animals, conveniently ignoring the fact that women are also capable of a polyandrous existence. undecided

So when a man resorts to pursing his so-called polygamous nature, why is it wrong or revenge for the women to equally pursue her polyandrous side? undecided
Is she the one paying the groom price?
Re: Is Cheating Enough Reason To Leave A Legal Marriage ? by HarryDuce(m): 3:26pm On Apr 03, 2022
Yes. In some rare situations I'd say it depends. Every one has their threshold of tolerance but for me, it's the end.
Lalami3232:
For men, I would say YES.
For women, I would say NO.
Before una go chop my head, make I analyze somethings. When it comes to man and woman eeh, the ball game dey different. Cry all you want, men are polygamous in nature. Right from Bible to our ancestors time, no be crime to marry more than one woman. That's why you go see a man wey get 3 babies with different women, and nobody go talk anything. But immediately a woman born just one or two, she don turn second hand material and almost abandoned project.
Same way a man no fit marry empty handed, he must work hard for money first. While a woman only needs toto and makeup before she's qualified for marriage. So both get advantages and disadvantages. Once again, if a man cheat, society no too dey frown about am like women.

I can't count the number of times I've seen this "men are polygamous in nature" trope. A lot of men who say this don't actually want to marry more women. They use this line as an excuse to sleep with as many women and girls as possible without the responsibility that comes with marriage. If you are so bothered about maintaining African traditions, why don't you marry more women?
Can you care for them or it'll be just sex and vibes?
People marry two or more wives everyday in Nigeria, it's still a thing.

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Re: Is Cheating Enough Reason To Leave A Legal Marriage ? by Nobody: 3:35pm On Apr 03, 2022
Kobojunkiee:
There is no truth to any of what you claim here. undecided

Women can engage many men in marriage providing dem capable of "loving" more than one man too. undecided
Are you male or female? make i know whether to advise or ignore

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Re: Is Cheating Enough Reason To Leave A Legal Marriage ? by Munzy14(m): 3:39pm On Apr 03, 2022
kingemaker:
It is a deal breaker please, not up for a debate.
As in eeh undecided

Never worth debating..A girl friend we cheat will get her ass kicked out, not to talk of a wife.

I dey bundle her go drop for her father's house.. cool

Person wey sabi no dey allow rubbish penetrate.

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Re: Is Cheating Enough Reason To Leave A Legal Marriage ? by Kobojunkiee: 3:43pm On Apr 03, 2022
EdwardRandy:

Is she the one paying the groom price?
What groom price abeg? Millions of Nigerians today got married without paying a single kobo to anyone yet you dey here dey brandish slave price as if na something? undecided
Re: Is Cheating Enough Reason To Leave A Legal Marriage ? by joetem(m): 3:45pm On Apr 03, 2022
Fahdiga:
Not applicable to women but a man can dump any woman that cheated on him. African men doesn't cheat. It is our God given right

Are you kidding me right now And who gave you that right? What makes women exempted from that same bright
Re: Is Cheating Enough Reason To Leave A Legal Marriage ? by addictiv(m): 3:49pm On Apr 03, 2022
No it shouldn't
Re: Is Cheating Enough Reason To Leave A Legal Marriage ? by greatiyk4u(m): 3:51pm On Apr 03, 2022
Kobojunkiee:
What groom price abeg? Millions of Nigerians today got married without paying a single kobo to anyone yet you dey here dey brandish slave price as if na something? undecided

What part of Nigeria please because I made reference on legally married couples here
Re: Is Cheating Enough Reason To Leave A Legal Marriage ? by snowwhitenow: 3:53pm On Apr 03, 2022
These New Generations Cheating is for both man and woman any one that want to cheating can do that, it is no longer for men cheating on their wife. Women can now cheat too on their husbands is do me, I do you love nowooooooo the women are not smiling again the world has finally changeoooo

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