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Re: Domestic Violence: A Time To Fight Back by iykejohnson(m): 4:46pm On Apr 14, 2022 |
apatheticme:I will agree with you that the judiciary has failed us and some Judges are biased but still remember they don't judge with emotions but they Judge with evidence being brought to them. Let me use this Osinachi case as a case study. If an autopsy comes out tomorrow and she didn't die as a result of DV. The husband is likely to triumph in court if enough evidence is not brought out that he had been battering his late wife |
Re: Domestic Violence: A Time To Fight Back by emmanuelbrown26: 4:50pm On Apr 14, 2022 |
IamAsiri:I'm not disputing that their is no good woman, all I'm saying is that some of them deserves better beating to reset their brain. Some were very stupid while in their father's house and they still carried d stupidity to d husband's house, for how would d husband endure her stupidity. 2 Likes |
Re: Domestic Violence: A Time To Fight Back by apatheticme(f): 4:50pm On Apr 14, 2022 |
emmanuelbrown26: This statement right here is because our government at all levels have all failed us!! It's the same mentality with "jungle justice". You are saying this because you feel that you must take laws into your hands if your wife or any other female wrongs you since you perceive that there's no room/avenues for seeking redress. This is a failure of the judicial arm of government. In sane climes, where justice actually exists you have no right to assault anyone physically "male or female" or even jungle justice an armed robber, you however retain the right to report them, to superiors if at the workplace(for instance in your cited example), report to the police, sue them to court, divorce (forget the religious hogwash of no divorce). But this is Nigeria, where lawlessness is encouraged. If everyone starts assaulting the next person because they were wronged, especially in a relationship/marriage the society will degenerate into complete chaos! 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Domestic Violence: A Time To Fight Back by Sureplug123(m): 4:53pm On Apr 14, 2022 |
ImaIma1:I'm not against you, I only pointed out something. Him and Tonye were having a logical discussion before you barged in, you simply became emotional. NOTE; women don't have the right to abuse men. You can't pick a snake with your hands and not expect it to strike. |
Re: Domestic Violence: A Time To Fight Back by apatheticme(f): 4:54pm On Apr 14, 2022 |
iykejohnson: Of course I know autopsy and other facts will be used in court rather than emotions. However, think about it, there would have been more hard facts and evidences should she have spoken up a long time ago especially moments of hospitalizations from such assaults with doctors medical report as well as a host of witnesses including her kids! Even if it was just once! Documentation of such by even a police station or magistrate court would have served as admissible evidences in court to aid future prosecutions. The judge would have been able to make references to previous reported incidents! Sadly, she chose to die in silence because of religion!! 3 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Domestic Violence: A Time To Fight Back by apatheticme(f): 4:59pm On Apr 14, 2022 |
Sureplug123: So Men are snakes!! Wow, thought y'all said you were equipped with higher brains. So once you're poked, you must react instantly, no thoughts, no maturity!! This right here is you admitting that Men just act, but don't think!!! Implying that you're not actually higher animals at all, just reptiles A quick question, who strikes when Men pokes women?? Or y'all are saints in your relationships, you don't offend women?? 3 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Domestic Violence: A Time To Fight Back by Sureplug123(m): 5:02pm On Apr 14, 2022 |
apatheticme:How old are you? |
Re: Domestic Violence: A Time To Fight Back by iykejohnson(m): 5:06pm On Apr 14, 2022 |
apatheticme:That is the annoying and crazy part of the whole thing, she didn't speak out. Whatever happens in the future, na she cause am. #religion is our problem 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: Domestic Violence: A Time To Fight Back by Legendforte: 5:09pm On Apr 14, 2022 |
Woemen and SIMPs everywhere. They should all start by halting verbal aggression cum character assisination by black pussy republicans. To hell with that victim mentality and western copycart naija feminists. MARRIAGE NA SCAM. |
Re: Domestic Violence: A Time To Fight Back by apatheticme(f): 5:13pm On Apr 14, 2022 |
emmanuelbrown26: That's a fallacy of faulty and hasty generalization right there!!! We read news of crimes also committed against men all the time, even on this forum. A quick example So, should a guy be attacked let's say under bridge at Ojota in Lagos, dispossessed of his phones, probably laptops or any other personal effects or even stabbed. Let's assume his attacker was caught and tried in a Nigerian court, and he was just given maybe 2months with option of fine sef, we could say that " judiciary itself knows that naija men are very thuggish and criminal in nature that's why d system is like that". How does this sound?? So all the injustice in the country, to both male and females, regardless of ethnic group has been because judiciary felt we don't know what we are doing?? Na wa for you oh. No wonder judiciary doesn't bother to prosecute corrupt officials, because they know that Nigerians like suffering and smiling, abi?? Guy, I understand you need to pull down women, but y'all are supposed to be the logical gender now, argue logically abeg, impress us with your logic, not spurious points because of some stupid gender war on Nairaland! This goes beyond all of us, lives are affected, kids, communities. DV is not something to toy with or make mockery of because it's not my gender, it could be anyone tomorrow! You might not have a daughter but you could have a granddaughter. Would you talk like this if someone hit/kill her?? Raise your sons not to assault! If they are not cool with anyone they should walk away!! 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Domestic Violence: A Time To Fight Back by apatheticme(f): 5:15pm On Apr 14, 2022 |
Sureplug123: Answer the question, stop deflecting or shifting goal post!! #Logical gender! 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Domestic Violence: A Time To Fight Back by Sureplug123(m): 5:20pm On Apr 14, 2022 |
apatheticme:this right here is why Men will continue hitting women. |
Re: Domestic Violence: A Time To Fight Back by apatheticme(f): 5:22pm On Apr 14, 2022 |
Sureplug123: Ha ha ha ha Keep hitting pls, you'll end up like a "snake"! Of course we all know how snakes end up 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Domestic Violence: A Time To Fight Back by Sureplug123(m): 5:27pm On Apr 14, 2022 |
apatheticme:your gender will continue to wail |
Re: Domestic Violence: A Time To Fight Back by emmanuelbrown26: 5:27pm On Apr 14, 2022 |
apatheticme:Men at d upper echelon of judiciary knows that d law won't work |
Re: Domestic Violence: A Time To Fight Back by Prettygirl200(f): 5:30pm On Apr 14, 2022 |
emmanuelbrown26:Same with your future daughters, they will remain in your house. 2 Likes |
Re: Domestic Violence: A Time To Fight Back by Prettygirl200(f): 5:32pm On Apr 14, 2022 |
emmanuelbrown26:And that's how ur daughters and sisters will be beaten thoroughly. 1 Like |
Re: Domestic Violence: A Time To Fight Back by Prettygirl200(f): 5:37pm On Apr 14, 2022 |
[quote author=ImaIma1 post=111927678] From your comments men are saints, and are only pushed to the wall by women. They are completely blameless in all their dealings and can never be wrong. Any wrong in them is caused by the woman. So they have to beat the woman because they are pushed. Ok I see your point. Don't mind the idoult he is a foolish boy, the likes of osinachies husband is in him and that's y his likes deserves to rot in jail. His daughters and sisters will meet the likes of osinachies husband and they will be beaten to death maybe by then he will have sense. Rubbish 1 Like |
Re: Domestic Violence: A Time To Fight Back by rickleye: 5:53pm On Apr 14, 2022 |
emmanuelbrown26: Nope - It was so much earlier. Again, depending on how old you are between 40-60 yrs this was rampant back then but no one got involved . I remember 5 stories and 2 i personally witnessed in Abule-Egba near the GAF school ( Segun Akinola Street ) . The house is located between Segun Akinola and Onitiri Road/Street. The woman would scream - You go kill me today o. Shout and scream - everybody would mind their own business. Next week she has a black eye yet they walk hand in hand " romantically " along the road together. As a lad , i was confused. The other incident - my dad was called to get involved so i tagged along - The lady had a busted lip , twisted the white shirt of the dude into a knot, wrapper loose with top torn and breasts just showing. I was so shocked at her state that the "free show" was more like horror. Bros - nothing is new under the son - Social Media has just made it known to all what was hidden in secret. Taking it up a notch - Police Brutality, has always been reported by rappers in songs even Fela - no one believed now that you can record with a mobile phone and post, you now see first hand reports . 1 Like |
Re: Domestic Violence: A Time To Fight Back by donprinyo(m): 5:54pm On Apr 14, 2022 |
Mindlog:I love my women more but more matured in mind and dedicated in having a cool family. |
Re: Domestic Violence: A Time To Fight Back by kazyhm(m): 6:04pm On Apr 14, 2022 |
TONYE001: At this junction, I would like to contribute to this complex issue you simplified. I'm coming |
Re: Domestic Violence: A Time To Fight Back by ImaIma1(f): 6:07pm On Apr 14, 2022 |
Sureplug123: From your last paragraph, the snake can be the woman too right? I mean what happens in a relationship where the man provokes the woman? Can she also beat him? Those relationships where the guys beats the ladies, don't the men offend too? You guys make it sound like being emotional is a bad thing? If we cannot accommodate each other's differences, are we humans? Who indeed made men more logical and women more emotional? Look at your house for instance...do you have grown sisters? Does your dad still beat them? If not, why doesn't he? Don't they annoy him? I'm just trying to understand why men think it is their place to beat their women. 3 Likes |
Re: Domestic Violence: A Time To Fight Back by TONYE001(m): 6:23pm On Apr 14, 2022 |
bukatyne: Studies actually show otherwise. |
Re: Domestic Violence: A Time To Fight Back by TONYE001(m): 6:24pm On Apr 14, 2022 |
kingyakos: By putting abusers away in prison, they'd not have further access to victims. 2 Likes |
Re: Domestic Violence: A Time To Fight Back by Nobody: 6:34pm On Apr 14, 2022 |
bukatyne: You know there are some topics we don't need to research about because we see this happen every day. All my life, I have only seen older women and pastors advising younger women to back to abusive marriages, I am yet to see any young chap or young pastor and the likes advicing a young lady to take such a step. It is always those old women, the reason is because it was a norm to beat your wife back in the days (90s downwards). Also, it is always the older aunties or women in your family that would never believe you when say an Uncle is trying to molest you, this younger generation parents are smarter than that. Most of this is due to slavery, beating up people wasn't a taboo. It was a form of correction that was accepted back then, people died but no news outlet online to report it. I don't have strength to provide data on this now, maybe someday I will. I have too much work to do, adulting life no easy. 1 Like |
Re: Domestic Violence: A Time To Fight Back by Kobojunkie: 6:36pm On Apr 14, 2022 |
iykejohnson:That's is also my fear! That this man may walk away from this with every penny she made, and retain custody of the kids even after it all. 1 Like |
Re: Domestic Violence: A Time To Fight Back by kingyakos: 6:38pm On Apr 14, 2022 |
TONYE001: Just sentence all men to prison at once so to end domestic violence |
Re: Domestic Violence: A Time To Fight Back by iykejohnson(m): 6:45pm On Apr 14, 2022 |
Kobojunkie:Honestly, I have been pondering on that seriously |
Re: Domestic Violence: A Time To Fight Back by Mindlog: 6:49pm On Apr 14, 2022 |
iykejohnson: I hope the defense team would enlist the services of a government approved child psychologist to assess the children to give an insight into what happened in their home to build a solid case. 2 Likes |
Re: Domestic Violence: A Time To Fight Back by Nobody: 7:12pm On Apr 14, 2022 |
The write'up is comprehensive and factual. It's also well referenced, buhh why were the "et al" not in italics though?! or NL doesn't permit italics??! |
Re: Domestic Violence: A Time To Fight Back by IamAsiri: 7:14pm On Apr 14, 2022 |
emmanuelbrown26: So, that means you believe that some men deserve death from their wives too. Right? Like those we hear who stab their husbands to death? 2 Likes |
Re: Domestic Violence: A Time To Fight Back by Sureplug123(m): 7:17pm On Apr 14, 2022 |
ImaIma1:my sister's can never and will never abuse my DAD. See, I don't support domestic violence, but can your partner just walk up to you and start hitting you? Women have their mouth as their weapon while men have their fist as their weapon. Let's assume I attack you with a sword and you have a gun in your hands, won't you shoot at me? The case of Bianca Ojukwu and the former governor's wife is a good example. Women can't take half of what they dish out. 10men can live in a room but 2 women can't live in a compound without fighting and you think men are the problem? 1 Like 1 Share
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