Greystone:
To be a man is not a day’s job.

Tony818:
My wife told me I don't take care of a child

I have forgiven her though but those words still ring in my head almost everyday.

This is a family I have sleepless nights when there is no money

I try my possible best to provide the basic things we need in the house.

I just went flat when she said those words...
I had no zeal to go out and Hustle again.

Those words really got to me because in my case my Dad didn't take care of me.

And because of this I vowed to be a good and responsible to my new born son...
Who send me marry sef

Favfables1:
Nice write up OP...
Thanks for sharing...

Men go through A LOTTTT...
And most of the time we don't say these things because everytime we try to come out and say these things, we get shamed and called all sort of names ...

You'll hear things like "as a man, you're not supposed to complain about things like this", things like "no dey talk like woman na" or "are you not a man.... real men don't complain" and all sort of crap ...

I'm glad however, that more and more men are voicing out their ordeals...

An advice to men reading this....
PLEASE!!! OPEN YOUR EYES WELL WHEN CHOOSING A WIFE!

Boo.bs and a.s.s won't give you peace of mind!
As important as beauty is, character and manners should be at the topmost top of your priority list when choosing a spouse....

And for those that are languishing under the cruel whip of verbal onslaught, PLEASE!!! LEAVE THAT MARRIAGE, what ever takes away your peace of mind and unsettles your mental health is not worth it!

Tony818:
My wife told me I don't take care of a child

I have forgiven her though but those words still ring in my head almost everyday.

This is a family I have sleepless nights when there is no money

I try my possible best to provide the basic things we need in the house.

I just went flat when she said those words...
I had no zeal to go out and Hustle again.

Those words really got to me because in my case my Dad didn't take care of me.

And because of this I vowed to be a good and responsible to my new born son...

Who send me marry sef

Juicy1945:
A man that knew just died of heart attack because of his wife abusive words. He had been bury and the wife is chopping shit now.

Belafonte:
Wahala for who no get divorce for dictionary. Wahala for who no wan practise polygamy.

boxer022:
I am happy that this post was created by a lady and not a guy. Men pass through a lot in marriage and even as they decide not to talk about it, it leads to their early demise. In the dating stage you would have known the type of woman and wife she will be to you. Some guys decide to ignore the signs that are glaring and this leads them to making the wrong choice on the assumption that everything will work out once they are married. Some get married because of physical attributes only and when the problem comes up they out of love will endure to the very end. As another person posted before, men should be very careful when making choice of who they call their life partner.

emmanuelbrown26:

My brother, some women are more deadlier than devil himself.
They can pretend to d last, I know some of them that pretended as if they were angel in human skin until dey got married and became serpent

juman:
Women nag.
Their habit.
Ask buhari how much his wife nag, he would answer that his wife nagging is public knowledge.
We read here on nairaland how much tinubu's wife nag.

Hamachi:
FOR MEN ONLY:

THE SILENT PAINS OF A HUSBAND
Everybody is hung up on domestic abuse by men against women. Nobody spares a moment to find solutions to the equally devastating verbal abuse men suffer in the hands of their wives. It is worse because men can't discuss what their wives do to them for fear of scorn and derision. They suffer in silence. Timebomb.

Unfortunately, the Nigerian society has little or no support systems for this kind of situation. Little or no counselling services. It's been mostly left to the church to deal with. What happens when the man doesn't go to church? What happens when the woman doesn't believe in spiritual intervention? These women are raising daughters. Their daughters are hearing and seeing how they speak to and treat their husband. What kind of wives will they grow up to become? Those that treat their husbands as kings or those that believe husbands are nothing but verbal punching bags?

We've all agreed and rightfully so that a man has no business hitting his wife. So how then do you stop a wife raining verbal missiles at you? Leave the house? Okay. But you'll return and it will continue. What next? Leave again? For how long?

Recently, I visited a senior friend, an important man in the society and while we were downstairs gisting, the voice of his wife could be heard upstairs. She was spewing unimaginable bile against the man. She called him all sorts of unprintable names. Impotent, wretched fool, miserable man that was nothing when she married him, etc. This is a well respected man. A father of 4 children. She tore at his very core and mocked everything society respected him for. She said he'd soon crash and she'll be there to laugh at him.

I was so uncomfortable as I beheld the man. He was shrunken before me. He was deflated. He tried to gamefully continue the gist to distract me but it was not working. The woman's vitriol was a ceaseless torrent. Uncomfortable silence ensued. I excused myself and left his house.

I was really sad.

You want to know the truth? This is what most men go through in their houses. They labour and toil and build respect but when they return home, the one who ought to speak to the king in them tears them to shreds and tries to deflate their self-esteem. When they are outside, they try to act cheerful and happy but back home, they are shrivelled because the person they live with makes it a point of duty to verbally assault them.

A sad story comes to mind. There was recently a Nigerian Ambassador who was recalled because his wife released a story to the press that he beat her. She also released pictures showing fresh injuries on her body ostensibly inflicted by the man.

In a dramatic twist, their children came out to debunk the stories and said their mother faked the injuries to embarrass their dad. Grown up children.

A particular sentence by the 1st son saddened me. He said it was as if their mum woke up every morning with one mission in life: how to make their dad miserable. They said they were witnesses to how their mum constantly harassed and abused their dad and wanted the whole world to know that their dad was not who their mum was painting him to be.

Yes, opinion shifted on the scandal but the damage had been done. The Ambassador was recalled and nobody heard from him again.

A family is currently at odds with the widow of their son and brother. The wife was constantly verbally assaulting him. Nobody wanted to visit them because each time they were around, it was always quarrel and the wife would call him unprintable names. Even in their presence. When they try to interfere, she will give them their own. The man died recently of heart-attack caused by high blood pressure. He was in his late 40s. The family insists his wife sent him to his early grave with her verbal torments.

Our bars are filled with men who are afraid to go home to their wives for fear of what verbal torment they will go through. Men are finding every excuse to travel because they'll rather be anywhere than in their own homes.

Everybody is focusing on men as culprits in domestic abuse. Who is talking to the women?
- Ada Anthony (AA) is a sex therapist relationship expert, counsellor & an intellectual entertainer

Okhuadams:
The world ony sees and here of the female abuse but nobody cares to about the males many wife's beat their husbands while the men are too ashamed to speak out. I have seen women beat up their husband lock up the door and b shouting as if the man is the one beating them. My friend uncle was caught kneeling down with hands up carrying a stool while the wife was holding a cane that was the day the family threw the woman's load out of the house and relocsted the man and his two Children abroad when asked he said the wife has been beating him since they got married for (5yrs). Many men today are facing Domestic violence.

MoneyGoDrop:
No be lie. I know a Nigerian man is the usa army that his wife use him as rag. This is a lady that's from a very poor background and the man brought her to usa with her mother yet she won't let him rest. My advise to men is visit your girl's family before marriage and watch how her mother treats her dad.

MoneyGoDrop:
No be lie. I know a Nigerian man is the usa army that his wife use him as rag. This is a lady that's from a very poor background and the man brought her to usa with her mother yet she won't let him rest. My advise to men is visit your girl's family before marriage and watch how her mother treats her dad.

boxer022:
That's very true, that's the reason why we as guys have to be very careful when making choice of who will be our wives as any mistake made in the choice making will be drastic.

stacyadams:




When love carry men ,they think with their dicks..