Clone her WhatsApp and monitor the leech! is better you forgive buhari than take back a cheating wife or girlfriend..

ETHICALLYrlght:
If I were in your shoes, after her confession, I'd hold her tight, caress her body and kiss guilt out of her mind.

I'd cuddle her and if she wants more I'll give her the appropriate dosage for sexual healing.

You're not romantic, that's the problem.

When was the last time you went to the Cinema with your wife?

When was the last time you sent her a voice noice at work telling her, "sweetie, I wanna sniff your panties right now, pull it down gently with my teeth and worship your body which is the reason I still live".

Do you remember that period when your relationship was younger? When you couldn't stay a day without calling her for minutes if she wasn't with you? When you'd go for dates and tell her you'd buy London for her? When you made her forget there was any man in her life before you and so she accepted to be your woman forever?

Go back to those days. If possible, get her a wedding gown and yourself a suit and remake your vows in your living room. If you have kids let them be part of it. Promise to love her forever and ever and let her be your best friend who will tell you everything including when she uses the toilet.

If you went to the world's best marriage counselor who had saved first year marriages that could have crashed to reach 4 decades of joy and happiness, their recommendation wouldn't be different from mine.

If you follow my advice and it doesn't produce positive results, mention me and I'll deactivate my account.

As good as this sounds, it could have worked only with our mothers and not these women of now, they just don't care about all this sakamanje anymore. A cheating woman would cheat any day, no matter the amount of poems you read to her

Jeon:


hi please don't deactivate ..
I'm curious about you because of ur signature.

Curiosity kills a car

bonnyhope:


How is it possible to see 2 adults knacking

not necessarily seeing, ok wait, the man that said his wife is having affair with one immigration officer did he meet dem knacking??

Yes, i'm very faithful. In fact, ever since we got married, it has been me and my wife. I don't talk to anyone else not to talk of friends

koyyess:


Are you faithful to your wife?

Forgive her ok. And do things to spice up your marriage. Your wife is bored and going through early mid life crisis.



Cc jeon

Guy you don buy market,its going to take something seismic for this to change and lot of time/energy. I suppose u will need alot of tolerance, perseverance n forgiveness for the foreseeable future,probably this the future u wan(best of luck). Its your life tho live how u wan it,d joy n pains r all yours.remember neva go violence if u can't bear it at some point - use your brain not your emotion. Cheers

Gentleman900000:
Good evening, my wife went to work yesterday and i was at home because it was my off day at work. She came back late and i suspected that she went somewhere but didn't confront her.

Few months back, i was going through her phone and saw she had some dirty chats with her ex and that one was saying he should find time for him. I confronted her when i saw this and she apologized that such will never happen again.

Today, we were both laying next to each other in bed and she said she have a confession to make. She said she went out to the cinema with a friend of hers. She even took a cloth along with her when she was going without informing me. She said she changed her clothes at her friend's place. I asked her that if anything happen to her at the so called friend's house that she went to without informing me, who will they call? She said she's not a kid that i should stop saying such thing. She's here apologizing again and i don't know if i should forgive her or not.

She said it's a female friend she went out with but to be honest, i no longer trust as much as i do before after finding out that she still talks to her ex

Idaytesj29:


Gentleman900000

There you have it. Thats the advise you are looking for. Just follow that.

Let me add that, its must. Top priority for you to know the friend she went to the cinema with and if possible interview the friend.

She will tell you its a female, but by the time you dig, you may find out its a male friend.

alen4smith:
How on earth will you refer to a 26 year old lady as a small girl?

She's not a small girl but still retaining the traits of not knowing how to handle exes trying to come closer.

I have been treating her well in the best way i can. I do the cleanings around the house because she's not the type that likes cleaning. I cook our meal sometimes too. I even wash our clothes sometimes too.

Jaqenhghar:

What have you been doing to her?
A woman cannot just leave her husband for her ex. You must have been doing something wrong.
Let's hear her side of the story first. There are 2 sides to every story

I can imagine the emotional trauma u going thru at the moment, it's unfair but hey life is tuff.i pray u have the strength n wisdom to pass thru this phase

Gentleman900000:
She said it's a female friend she went out with but to be honest, i no longer trust as much as i do before after finding out that she still talks to her ex

Gentleman900000:
Yes, i'm very faithful. In fact, ever since we got married, it has been me and my wife. I don't talk to anyone else not to talk of friends

I am concerned with this.

Has your wife ever implied that you are 'suffocating' her?

You should have time to spend with good friends if you have them around.

Sometimes, people appreciate you more when you aren't always available to them.

What do you think?

falcon01:
Does my marital status validate or void My Opinion? And No I am not!

Your Marital status does not really but validate nor void your opinion however,some scenario require experience,when you say if you find out she is cheating don’t ever forgive her part you need to evaluate if you would advice the wife to not ever forgive the man if the story was the other way round.
Marriage is a beautiful thing and requires Patience,hard work and good communication.

No, she hasn't. I'm not the type that do keep friends like that. Although i used to before i got married but ever since then, it has been d 2 of us. The only thing i do hear her complain of is that i don't use to take her out. I'm not the outgoing type

koyyess:


I am concerned with this.

Has your wife ever implied that you are 'suffocating' her?

You should have time to spend with good friends if you have them around.

Sometimes, people appreciate you more when you aren't always available to them.

What do you think?

Gentleman900000:
Yes, i'm very faithful. In fact, ever since we got married, it has been me and my wife. I don't talk to anyone else not to talk of friends

I applaud you for being faithful,it is a good thing.Can i remind you,that you are in a Marriage not Maximum security prison so why would you not have friends?.Maybe don’t suffocate each other you are allowed to socialise with your friends sometimes and have “you” time too.You cannot sit home and be looking at each other’s face all of the time.

Gentleman900000:
No, she hasn't. I'm not the type that do keep friends like that. Although i used to before i got married but ever since then, it has been d 2 of us. The only thing i do hear her complain of is that i don't use to take her out. I'm not the outgoing type

Well, there you have it.

Compromise a little and take her out when you have a good amount of leisure.

I had some awful experiences with friends in the past, so i decided not to keep friends again

Tutu82:

I applaud you for being faithful,it is a good thing.Can i remind you,that you are in a Marriage not Maximum security prison so why would you not have friends?.Maybe don’t suffocate each other you are allowed to socialise with your friends sometimes and have “you” time too.You cannot sit home and be looking at each other’s face all of the time.

any of my wife's ex that will disturb her when married to me, may thunder strike just one part of your yanse, amen

You married the wrong woman. Better divorce her and have peace of mind.

Gentleman900000:
Good evening, my wife went to work yesterday and i was at home because it was my off day at work. She came back late and i suspected that she went somewhere but didn't confront her.

Few months back, i was going through her phone and saw she had some dirty chats with her ex and that one was saying he should find time for him. I confronted her when i saw this and she apologized that such will never happen again.

Today, we were both laying next to each other in bed and she said she have a confession to make. She said she went out to the cinema with a friend of hers. She even took a cloth along with her when she was going without informing me. She said she changed her clothes at her friend's place. I asked her that if anything happen to her at the so called friend's house that she went to without informing me, who will they call? She said she's not a kid that i should stop saying such thing. She's here apologizing again and i don't know if i should forgive her or not.

She might be seeing her ex. Women love attention and an ex giving her attention will affect her mentally.

I will say forgive but let her know ur not happy with it.

You can vex small sef but don’t overdo it

Don’t listen to that guy saying kiss her passionately that’s bad advice

lol. you are on a long thing. the earlier you know, the better for you

Gentleman900000:
She said it's a female friend she went out with but to be honest, i no longer trust as much as i do before after finding out that she still talks to her ex

Do you know this female?

falcon01:
Does my marital status validate or void My Opinion? And No I am not!

Ask am

ETHICALLYrlght:
If I were in your shoes, after her confession, I'd hold her tight, caress her body and kiss guilt out of her mind.

I'd cuddle her and if she wants more I'll give her the appropriate dosage for sexual healing.

You're not romantic, that's the problem.

When was the last time you went to the Cinema with your wife?

When was the last time you sent her a voice noice at work telling her, "sweetie, I wanna sniff your panties right now, pull it down gently with my teeth and worship your body which is the reason I still live".

Do you remember that period when your relationship was younger? When you couldn't stay a day without calling her for minutes if she wasn't with you? When you'd go for dates and tell her you'd buy London for her? When you made her forget there was any man in her life before you and so she accepted to be your woman forever?

Go back to those days. If possible, get her a wedding gown and yourself a suit and remake your vows in your living room. If you have kids let them be part of it. Promise to love her forever and ever and let her be your best friend who will tell you everything including when she uses the toilet.

If you went to the world's best marriage counselor who had saved first year marriages that could have crashed to reach 4 decades of joy and happiness, their recommendation wouldn't be different from mine.

If you follow my advice and it doesn't produce positive results, mention me and I'll deactivate my account.

Bad advice na ppl like u women take advantage of

MALIGNANTGuest:

So what exactly do you want us to do 4u?
Do you want Nairalanders to help u police her?

WOMEN are [/b]fearless[b] when it comes to risk taking. Its only a woman that can hop into an unknown vehicle at 12midnight on a lonely road without fears. Imagine the risks prostitutes take on daily basis accompanying men to journey of unknown.

Despite the unabating murders permeating the society, u will still find hard heartened ladies flagging cars down at 2am. Such Ladies have Big gods and guts accompanying them.

So, your wife is correct when she tells you she's not a kid in the BUSINESS of RISK TAKING.
She has got penchant for such.
No be today she start!

It is not fearless anything,it is sheer stupidity.

wunmi590:


Where unah dey see this type of house wife material?

Rephrase your question. Where pesin fit go make e no see this kind wife material for naija

Me: Nowhere

ETHICALLYrlght:
If I were in your shoes, after her confession, I'd hold her tight, caress her body and kiss guilt out of her mind.

I'd cuddle her and if she wants more I'll give her the appropriate dosage for sexual healing.

You're not romantic, that's the problem.

When was the last time you went to the Cinema with your wife?

When was the last time you sent her a voice noice at work telling her, "sweetie, I wanna sniff your panties right now, pull it down gently with my teeth and worship your body which is the reason I still live".

Do you remember that period when your relationship was younger? When you couldn't stay a day without calling her for minutes if she wasn't with you? When you'd go for dates and tell her you'd buy London for her? When you made her forget there was any man in her life before you and so she accepted to be your woman forever?

Go back to those days. If possible, get her a wedding gown and yourself a suit and remake your vows in your living room. If you have kids let them be part of it. Promise to love her forever and ever and let her be your best friend who will tell you everything including when she uses the toilet.

If you went to the world's best marriage counselor who had saved first year marriages that could have crashed to reach 4 decades of joy and happiness, their recommendation wouldn't be different from mine.

If you follow my advice and it doesn't produce positive results, mention me and I'll deactivate my account.

Don't justify cheating.

If the man is not treating her right, she should divorce him first before looking for a man that will treat her the way she wants, not when she is still in her husbands house.

zedegit:


So you will honestly divorce your wife if she cheats?

Don't tell someone to do what you cannot do.

lol, look at u??

I am a patriarchal man bro, i take care of my house without blinking an eye, every bills are on me from house rent to transport for both of us, even toiletries.

Not that my wife is not working, she's working and i want her to have savings, i want her to do something meaningful in my house, i want her to gain more ground financially..

According to wat the op says, the woman is communicating with her ex with is a time bomb that will soon explode. Or are u goin to tell me that the woman is not knowing now that what she's doing is a great mistake?

A full grown woman ooh that knows the implications of her actions,
Abi what gives u the assurance that if she start cheating now she will stop if u catch her and overlook it, lol, dont be unfortunate to forgive someone like that bro cus u are actually digging ur grave ursef.

A cheating partner will either kill u or one of the children, but most likely ur life is in danger sir, and its only a matter of tym she send u to the underworld. Or she wretch u to pieces.


Their is one of my brothers, he's a driver, tanker driver. This man was living in ore with his wife until he secured a job in lagos, he left for Lagos living his wife and two kids behind

This man did everything practically for this woman to the point that he sold his golf(that small gulf car) and gave his wife 80% of the proceed for the wife to add to her chemist capital.


This make made sure he come home trice or even four tyms in a week so its not an issue of abandoning partner.

Weneva this man ferry goods from Lagos to the east he must always branch home in ore and sleep over, even at the expense of his work.

Now this is the issue, my brother is a workaholic and he believes so much in his wife, he sends money home to the wife for the wife to develop their building project (he has a building project he was doing before moving to lagos)

Could u bliv this woman wouldn't spend a dime on the site, she pack everything and gives to concubine, the wife was even telling the man that he should not bo coming home frequently again, lol to my brother his wife is caring and doesn't want him to stress himself so much.

At a stage d wife started denying him sex. Well, one day my brother eye cleared.

The man lost his job over there, i tink the company folded up i dont know sha, so the man had to come back to ore, immediately the man told his wife of his plan to come back to ore the wife flame up, shouting on the man that why didn't he find another job in lagos instead of coming back to ore. That was wen my brother started feeling uneasy about his wife, so he started putting 2+2 together and he arrived at a conclusion that his wife is cheating. Gbam!!!

If to say na cheat she cheat e for better na, before guyman arive madam don elope, she had packed everything in her shop away, she didn't develop any site infact the site became bushy.

My brother broke down immediately, he nearly develope mental imbalance if not that his father and mother are still alive, they consoled him but my brother no balance, till today the guy no balance.

Well, karma was around not just long ago sha, karma visited the woman and.......hmmmmm, if u see the wife u go pity her.
The man he eloped with has abandoned her and she has nothing again, no shop, no husband nothing nothing. No money to even start another shop.

Bro its this same man that this woman is calling for small small financial help and d man would provide (even if na me a go give her sha)

The man has already remarried some month back sha but he has learnt his lesson.

Did i say that this man has seen a traces of this act in her before the bomb blow ooh, but he behaved like u, eyin balogun leyin obirin


See bro, cheating is not good from bothe partner and it should be condemned no mater what, but if peradventure it happened, cheating from a woman has a higher risk than from a man.




My wife knows me, me i am not a balogun leyin obirin ooh, lol, i cant see danger and still go into it

Bro... is your wife... that's adultery period.... you should cut the marriage .... send her back to her parents or out of the house. You should've done that the first time.... you forgave her... to a woman that means approval ... the reason she has done it again.... and let you know. Her mindset is she can go and do her thing ... and her conscience and everything will be OK as long as she let you know. After sleeping with the ex... why wouldn't she be sleeping with others? You allow her to stay... would you sleep with her? ... if yes.... wouldn't your mind be thinking who you be diving in after?.... what if the person has deposited a virus?... a disease?... would you then be wearing condoms everytime because of fear? ... what if she becomes pregnant?... is it by you?... if you have a child... why wouldn't you now go and have a DNA test? .if she becomes "sick"... or was sick...... did she have an abortion? Now that she confessed... if I'm the other guy... why wouldn't she tell me?... and why wouldn't I tell her we can no longer do this after work... he only suspected because you went home late... so going forward... you leave for work.... spend the day with me... and return regular time. Why must you have all this stress? What ai can guarantee you ... is she'll never stop.

You either keep her and learn to accept that you are not the only one sleeping with your wife..... or let her out of your life.

manontree:
Sad. For her to do this and even the changing of clothes somewhere else suggest premeditation

It is highly likely her conscience is bothering her about something she did that day. She felt by telling you half truth, she would ease the burden on her conscience

She hasn't told you the entire truth and forgiveness should be the last discussion at the moment

Exactly.
I also suspect she didn't just go to the Cinema. I suspect she went to see her boyfriend.

Chyma231:
Mugu , your wife Don go knack outside !!! Then cover it up with cinema...or maybe the ex bleeped her inside cinema self .....God knows if na me ....she is gone the next morning. Some women can be a fool sometimes!

Exactly.

Gentleman900000:
Good evening, my wife went to work yesterday and i was at home because it was my off day at work. She came back late and i suspected that she went somewhere but didn't confront her.

Few months back, i was going through her phone and saw she had some dirty chats with her ex and that one was saying he should find time for him. I confronted her when i saw this and she apologized that such will never happen again.

Today, we were both laying next to each other in bed and she said she have a confession to make. She said she went out to the cinema with a friend of hers. She even took a cloth along with her when she was going without informing me. She said she changed her clothes at her friend's place. I asked her that if anything happen to her at the so called friend's house that she went to without informing me, who will they call? She said she's not a kid that i should stop saying such thing. She's here apologizing again and i don't know if i should forgive her or not.

Report her to her families

DrFunmisticGlow:
what on earth are you sniffing panties for?

no mind am he go use nose carry mess