First of all change your phone numbers and house address then bury your wife and move on however if your wifes corpse is already with your in-laws let them bury her and don't attend the wedding simple

Nor be who first call police dey win case. He should get a lawyer, once this is done, they can only charge him to court. They would have to prove he killed her for ritual to the court against a doctor's report on death certificate that indicated cause of death. They would also prove that the traditional portion they gave her was certified by Nafdac.

Nigerians have been so beaten by illegally that they run away from their rights

dettolgel:


Na Nigerian police you dey tell that one? If them carry op the family go even accuse am of ritual killing police go bill am at least the money wey police go extort from am go dey be more than 3 times the bride price self.

If op like make he no use him brain.

unmask:
But he said he doesn't mind them keeping the child... So I guess he has no problems then

Nah...read well, he said "He's more concerned about his child"

StilmaVsBorn2w:

Since you followed me to nairaland, I still stand on my ground. I can't marry your sister corpse joseph.

The money I spent for hospital bills loans I took, what assistance did you provide? Nothing.
But I took it uphon myself to save her, you think threatening me on the phone and commenting here will break me .
Come and do your worst.

Boss good evening, I'm still a small man of 28. May we not see trouble ( according to Yoruba film), but bros you no try. Your case is an example of 'PREVENTION IS BETTER THAN CURE'. The money you borrowed to take care of the lady, you could have used part of it initially to do traditional marriage for the lady. The worst has happened, na solution we dey find now. For the love you had for the lady and your kid; go, try and perform marriage rites for the lady. No where you want to carry this case to in Nigeria that you will win. Even our pastors and imam will tell you that you failed this one with F9. Now you dey fight for child, and the girls family too are equally fighting for their child too. Boss please do the needful

This no be gra gra something, from what u said here, u have not officially inform them about ur gf death. I have never advice anyone here before. Someone said here visit them with ur elderly person from ur side. U are more focused on ur son but u forgot about the mother. Try do D needful u can afford and let her be at peace...

Mr. Man, in as much as she has given you a son, you have to pay else be prepared for the spiritual tourment from her people.
From the write up, she is definitely from d south south if not mistaken, AKWA IBOM. DON'T JOKE WITH THINGS OF THIS MAGNITUDE ELSE YOU WILL JOIN HER AND YOU SON WILL BE AN ORPHAN. JUST DO WHAT YOU ARE ASKED BUT DEBATE THE LIST THAT WILL BE GIVEN TO YOU.

People have been giving you different advices but you've been adamant. I'm not kuku surprised, sebi your mama was telling you that time, you no still hear her.

Ogbeni go and do your worst and see the effects with your two korokoro eyes. They no telli person. Olorun maje kari ija aye..
Sholo sturbornni.

StilmaVsBorn2w:
Back then when my mom was warning me not to go that far when our relationship started She kept on insisting I should go for the girls in my tribe, I thought she was just been a tribalist bigot. If only I had listened

She bore me a son, he's 3years now... though her people knows me well from normal visitation..but I haven't been able to pay her bride price yet due to the hardship this regime has on us. life happened, unfortunately she got sick since February, ever since then from one hospital to another..I took several loans from people for hospital bills to the point of me looking sick myself.so sad for us we lost her last night.

I informed her elder brother who knows about all thats happening, he called me back this morning to tell me that his people told me to be prepared to marry her corpse. He went further and said if I don't pay her bride price, my boy will be taken from me and I should be ready to withstand the consequences.
I was surprised, I called for the burial arrangements not for a marriage ceremony

I blantly told him, I won't, why would I get married to her corpse. He was angry and cut the call on me.

Am more concerned about my son, please lawyer's in the house do they have any right to take my son away from me?
Even if they do am ready to give it to them, but spending money to Marry her corpse I will not.

I only brought this here, if had chance for my son whose still in my custody.

Without You mentioning the tribe here, we know the tribe that has that primitive custom, my gentle advice is simple, just go to a nearby police station to report the development and make sure it is documented with you having a copy of the report, don't bother to run from them, let them make advancement to take the boy, then arrest whoever come first and let the person drag the case with government in court. Don't even bother go drag your boy with them when they take the boy, just take go to police station to report a missing child and give them your suspects.

StilmaVsBorn2w:

I don't believe in curses, A man can not define my fate in life..I was more concerned about my son that's why I brought it here.
I fear no man

I laugh
Don't let those people report you to idol. It is better you take your family there to beg and settle them. Being stubborn can not solve this o

legallyminded:
Some of you lots are crazy. How can a living being be joined with a dead person. Murky brains

Omoluabi16:
Stone age barbaric tradition. That's why I do not subscribe to live in marriage especially with certain tribes. As horrible as it is, it is their culture.On no account should you marry a corpse.

No mind dem. And dem go dey call themselves Christian. All these hypocrites telling him to go and marry a corpse will be re mama kalashing everyday in the guise of speaking in tongues but they are steeped in juju and primitive archaic traditions. Maybe they should go back to killing twins because it was cultural in some communities.

OP should lawyer up and should be more security conscious. In fact he should relocate to a new house that is unknown to the girls family and friends. The girls family are too desperate to collect money from the guy instead of mourning their daughter.

I just shocked that in this age and time some supposedly educated people are advising someone to marry a corpse because of fear of curses.

DMerciful:
Nor be who first call police dey win case. He should get a lawyer, once this is done, they can only charge him to court. They would have to prove he killed her for ritual to the court against a doctor's report on death certificate that indicated cause of death. They would also prove that the traditional portion they gave her was certified by Nafdac.

Nigerians have been so beaten by illegally that they run away from their rights

Na grammar you dey speak whether you commit or not once you enter cell you must drop before them free you.

You dey say lawyer op wey no get shishi person wey no get money to do wedding even borrow pay hospital bill na him wan go carry lawyer?

If the family first use police carry am come their state op family go drop bar to free am. The family go carry go court for their state op no even get money to pay lawyer let alone to dey transport himself go court.

Bros for this life try stay away from wahala if u fit solve any issue before it turn serious wahala Abeg solve am.

Xcelinteriors:

I laugh
Don't let those people report you to idol. It is better you take your family there to beg and settle them. Being stubborn can not solve this o

Settle what? Is the guy from their tribe? How can you impose your tradition and customs on another person. Its like Boko Haram wanting to impose their shariah on non Muslims.

dettolgel:


Na grammar you dey speak whether you commit or not once you enter cell you must drop before them free you.

You dey say lawyer op wey no get shishi person wey no get money to do wedding even borrow pay hospital bill na him wan go carry lawyer?

If the family first use police carry am come their state op family go drop bar to free am. The family go carry go court for their state op no even get money to pay lawyer let alone to dey transport himself go court.

Bros for this life try stay away from wahala if u fit solve any issue before it turn serious wahala Abeg solve am.

Carry am go court for what exactly. If Nigeria is not a lawless country where police detain citizens without any crime, what crime will the guy be charged with?

Luckily the girl in question was over 18. She had a protracted illness, so there are medical records. An autopsy would be carried out to ascertain the exact cause of death. And I am sure all the family members knows their daughter was living with her lover and must have attended the naming ceremony of their son.

So what will they charge the boy for. Cohabitation is not a crime in Nigeria.

wirinet:


Carry am go court for what exactly. If Nigeria is not a lawless country where police detain citizens without any crime, what crime will the guy be charged with?

Luckily the girl in question was over 18. She had a protracted illness, so there are medical records. An autopsy would be carried out to ascertain the exact cause of death. And I am sure all the family members knows their daughter was living with her lover and must have attended the naming ceremony of their son.

So what will they charge the boy for. Cohabitation is not a crime in Nigeria.

Una just dey speak grammar up and down. No be for this Alu 4 abi na wetin dem call am happen?

Till today the SARS Akwuzu guy wey dey butcher people just disappear like that.

Two days ago one man wey him and him son reap him niece d girl sick die court come free man.

Go jail go see poor people wey just dey waka go house police carry them them still dey there.

If u no get money for this country anything fit happen to you and nothing u go fit do.

If you like speak quote all your constitutional right give them na sorry be your name.

If you no get money just pray make police or court wahala no near ooh. E be like say u never see people way spend years for cell unto false allegations come join say them no get money to bribe police.

chaloskyx:
First of all change your phone numbers and house address then bury your wife and move on however if your wifes corpse is already with your in-laws let them bury her and don't attend the wedding simple

She is not his wife, at least traditionally that is. So unless they did a court wedding, he has no right to bury the girl. He can only inform the family to take the matter from there.

That's why he needs to lawyer up. Since the family are more interested in cashing out with the tragic death of their daughter, they would refuse to come and collect the corpse of their daughter. So if the corpse is abandoned at the morgue, it will eventually become government property.

Very wicked people. After spending a fortune marrying the corpse they would expect he spends another fortune burying his dead wife.

kdc5000:
. It's necessary u pay bride price b4 the son will be urs. Das igbo culture 4 u

So it's all about the bride PRICE abi.. not the dead, or the young child they should be sweating over so he has a good future. Na the money matter.
Anyway it's all culture, whether good or bad. Since a whole lot of people are in support of this culture, it is best to respect it.
Stop cohabiting! May we never find ourself in this kind of situation.

StilmaVsBorn2w:

You here for the tribe only?
Or to give me reasonable advise?

They are right. Marry her or return that boy to them. Under customary law, you have no right to the custody of that boy until you pay her bride price.

Felimax:


If Dem born you well carry the corpse go the village. You come here come find people mouth abi?

My brother, dis one na JJC for marriage matter. He is asking for a burial arrangement.. Lol

dettolgel:


Una just dey speak grammar up and down. No be for this Alu 4 abi na wetin dem call am happen?

Till today the SARS Akwuzu guy wey dey butcher people just disappear like that.

Two days ago one man wey him and him son reap him niece d girl sick die court come free man.

Go jail go see poor people wey just dey waka go house police carry them them still dey there.

If u no get money for this country anything fit happen to you and nothing u go fit do.

If you like speak quote all your constitutional right give them na sorry be your name.

If you no get money just pray make police or court wahala near ooh. E be like say u never see people way spend years for cell unto false allegations come join say them no get money to bribe police.

I have gone through the court system twice and won. Mid last year police seized my car that was involved in an accident with was not the fault of my driver. My car was badly damaged and its was deteriorating because rain was entering as the windows were broken. The DPO said I should bring N150,000 to release my driver and another N150,000 to release the car. In fact he drove me out of his office. I contracted a lawyer. We first filed for the released of my driver and then the release of my car. In one week my driver was released. I got a court order for the release of my car in 4 weeks.

The country will not move forward if we give up without any attempt. That's why I idolise Gani of blessed memory. He always tested the law and the courts to asset his rights and the rights of Nigerians.

PastorFire:
They are right. Marry her or return that boy to them. Under customary law, you have no right to the custody of that boy until you pay her bride price.

Oga pastor, he is not from their tribe and so not bound by their traditions. Abi are you bound by shariah law?

StilmaVsBorn2w:

Why would I carry it to the village..?
It's already in the morgue, for her people arrival, it's their daughter.
Have done my most vital parts borrowing money to save her now am in debts, if you want me to marry her corpse because am scared. My brother your wrong.

From your words, you are not matured enough for issues such as this. In most culture, that boy will be taken away from you until you pay her bride price. Whether dead or alive. Her family owns that boy.

wirinet:


Oga pastor, he is not from their tribe and so not bound by their traditions. Abi are you bound by shariah law?

Bros, are you married? My wife is from another tribe and i'm bounded by their culture, tradition and ways of marital rites. Same for most cultures.
If you are it interested, then take your leave. Their daughter was not forced upon you. You came to kindly plead her people for her hand in marriage.

PastorFire:
From your words, you are not matured enough for issues such as this. In most culture, that boy will be taken away from you until you pay her bride price. Whether dead or alive. Her family owns that boy. Not you or the product of your sperm.

Oga pastor. The constitution is superior to any cultural law. His rights as a father is protected under the constitution. All he needs is to present a DNA test in court.

wirinet:


Oga pastor. The constitution is superior to any cultural law. His rights as a father is protected under the constitution. All he needs is to present a DNA test in court.

Be honest with me. Are you married?

PastorFire:
Bros, are you married? My wife is from another tribe and i'm bounded by their culture and ways of marital rites. Same for most cultures.

Happily married. My wife is igbo and I have made it know to all including my father in law, that I don't subscribe to any nonsense culture.

wirinet:


Happily married. My wife is igbo and I have made it know to all including my father in law, that I don't subscribe to any nonsense culture.

But you obeyed their marital rites? You did and produced what was asked of you na.

Felimax:


If Dem born you well carry the corpse go the village. You come here come find people mouth abi?

Igbos cannot scare Yorubas with Juju. You no fit. Just bear that at the back of your mind. If anything happens to that guy and he happens to be Yoruba, then a whole village in Igbo land will go for it. Yorubas and Igbos are brothers, let us remain so, there is no need testing our might

StilmaVsBorn2w:

I can't borrow money to marry her corpse, never
The debts I borrowed from her treatment up to a millionaire is still in my neck, haven't even paid dine from it.

Bros, sorry to say.. But you sound confused. You have a boy of 4yrs with her which suggests you've been with her for atleast 5yrs and more. All this while, you had no intention to marry which most likely, she must have asked you to go pay her dowry at some point. But you didn't. You disrespected her and her family by failing to do the needful and you come here ranting the debt you are in? Nawa o

PastorFire:
But you obeyed their marital rites? You did and produced what was asked of you na.

Yes. Within the limits of my culture.

Let me tell you another story of cultural clash

When my first cousin wanted to marry an Anambra Prince. He refused to wear wrapper which is a must in warri tradition marriages. He said that in his culture it is a taboo for a Prince to wear wrapper. After arguing a bit with my uncle, it was later agreed that he can wear trousers, cap and beads. And the marriage went on smoothly.

They are still married till this day after 30 years

StilmaVsBorn2w:

I don't believe in curses, A man can not define my fate in life..I was more concerned about my son that's why I brought it here.
I fear no man

If you have seen certain things...
I have seen in life...
I will advice you to seek peace ...and do the needful

Even God need Man to function on earth...
If you are going to succeed in life ... u move forward thru Men...
If the devil is goin to destroy anyone...... it is thru Men...

Willie2015:


If you have seen certain things...
I have seen in life...
I will advice you to seek peace ...and do the needful

Even God need Man to function on earth...
If you are going to succeed in life ... u move forward thru Men...
If the devil is goin to destroy anyone...... it is thru Men...

You are advising him to marry a corpse?

Please please and please, do as the family said. My Uncle has experienced this. The girl was pregnant and died while giving birth. The family insisted in marrying her corpse. Which he gathered some family member and did as they said but begged them to bury her in father's compound and his own because he does not want my grandfather who is his father to know.

There is no garagara in this, do as the family wants for peace to rain. Besides, as long as you did pay bride price, your son belongs to the girls family. It's only the bride price that will give you custody of your son.

If you choose to follow it in court way, they might follow it spiritually with you. It has repercussions.