Bebson007:
Buttom line is she doesn't love you enough. I.e your presence doesn't turn her on. Setting eyes on you alone should make her wet. I had a similar case, the lady couldn't let me enjoy one good round of sex. She said she hatered sex. Now she has 3 children lol.
They are advising you now, you claim the relationship is 8yrs so what?
Tomorrow you'll start having an affair with either your maid, neighbors or colleagues. Soon you will be in a crazy scandal.

Leave him make he dey do strong head
Mr 8 yrs lover

OluwoR:
Good evening my brothers and sisters,

I sincerely needs urgent help/assistance for my Fiancee.

Met her in 2012, started dating in 2014, had our first sex in 2019, but since that 2019, anytime I make moves to have sex with Her, it's always through fight, to cut the story short, she find sex extremely painful that even anything that pass cuddling, she'll start crying, this might sound funny, but seriously it is not.
I talked to Her about it, booked an appointment with a gynecologist, my babe didn't show up, I tried to get her sexual supplements, she said they have side effects, and she disposed them.

Now, the problem is, we're planning our introduction, and we're yet to get any solution to the problem at hand,
please, who have any idea of what we can do about it.

You haven't wedded a lady you are taking her to gynecologist. Na wa ohh. Oga you and her are not compatible!

OluwoR:
Good evening my brothers and sisters,

I sincerely needs urgent help/assistance for my Fiancee.

Met her in 2012, started dating in 2014, had our first sex in 2019, but since that 2019, anytime I make moves to have sex with Her, it's always through fight, to cut the story short, she find sex extremely painful that even anything that pass cuddling, she'll start crying, this might sound funny, but seriously it is not.
I talked to Her about it, booked an appointment with a gynecologist, my babe didn't show up, I tried to get her sexual supplements, she said they have side effects, and she disposed them.

Now, the problem is, we're planning our introduction, and we're yet to get any solution to the problem at hand,
please, who have any idea of what we can do about it.

2 words
RUN-AWAY !!! SPILT !

How can marriage work without sexual compatibility?
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Shoodboi:


Can you cope with it? if your answer is no, brother (since you called us brother), move on. I've been down this road before. She's hiding something. Don't be surprised if she doesn't have a womb or has even had a child before. I know I sound extreme and harsh, but I'm telling you from experience.

After marriage, she may turn around to confess to having a child through "rape", and then use that to justify why she hates sex. Or she even claims to have been raped by a person she "trusted" and had to abort the child, destroying her womb in the process.

These were the same signs I saw too and I ignored them only to end up spending millions in court and hospital bills for a child turned out not to be mine.

Why is she refusing an appointment and supplements if her conscience is clean? Or do you think it doesn't bother her more than it bothers you? Start by asking her if she has a child? If she says no, ask if she has ever aborted? Be smart with it and make her believe someone told you something about her.

Your story is really deep. Sorry you had to go through that.

Can you look up this three letter word "RUN"

You should be a teacher not an hinderance

You should spend more on lube and watch pornsss together teach her how it’s done

OluwoR:


I tried explaining to a Doctor friend, he referred me to a Gynecologist, paid 50K for appointment, my babe didn't go

Try threatening her that you’ll leave the relationship if she’s not ready to adjust.
Because I can see she’s not willing to adjust for the relationship.

OluwoR:
Good evening my brothers and sisters,

I sincerely needs urgent help/assistance for my Fiancee.

Met her in 2012, started dating in 2014, had our first sex in 2019, but since that 2019, anytime I make moves to have sex with Her, it's always through fight, to cut the story short, she find sex extremely painful that even anything that pass cuddling, she'll start crying, this might sound funny, but seriously it is not.
I talked to Her about it, booked an appointment with a gynecologist, my babe didn't show up, I tried to get her sexual supplements, she said they have side effects, and she disposed them.

Now, the problem is, we're planning our introduction, and we're yet to get any solution to the problem at hand,
please, who have any idea of what we can do about it.

She has been genitally mutilated (circumcised) unfortunately there's nothing you can do about it. If you think she is a wife material, you can still go ahead and Marry her but you will cheat on her with side chicks.

See, you are just about to face reality because most of our Naija women are circumcised therefore they don't like nor enjoy sex. And that is why our men are polygamous. For those that cannot practice polygamy, they have multiple side chicks.

She doesn’t love you bro

OluwoR:


it's just not easy to leave an 8 years relationship just like that

Yeah! Very hard to walk out on an 8-year-old relationship.

Just ensure you get a solution before you finally commit to her. You're thinking she'll change over time but that is a mere assumption. She may, she may not. I'm talking from experience. Be careful.

Germi9:
She doesn’t love you bro

Bro I will advice you to shelf whatever you want to do with her either intro or marriage because if you don't settle and understand each other now you are running into fire. I understand how you feel about your years of dating even at that sort things out before introduction. A friend of mine had same issue but thank God his girlfriend put him into consideration and they are both enjoying the moment.

My guy it is only marriage that can solve this.

She probably regret the first time and doesn't want to be over used by you, so she closed up.

Go ahead with the marriage, it's the best thing

Seek for medical check-up...is an Effection..

Good day brother, first and foremost it is very wrong and sinful to indulge in premarital sex with ur supposed fiancee, oh yes others might be engaging in it & might not see the consequences immediately, however, it doesn't mean God is a fool or a weakling who has blended with our present civilization in endorsing perversions.
The truth is Dat some people's sinful consequences of pre Marital sex catches up with dem immediately while for some it follows after (1Tim 5:24). If you as a child of God after knowing the truth of God's standards for kingdom marriage and yet u decide to throw caution to the wind and blended it with the pattern of the world by tasting pre Marital sex don't be surprised God will punish you until you come back to ur senses and repent. Sir Who knows if this are one of the consequences.
Secondly, the period of courtship are not meant for intercourse but for interview. How much do you know of this lady in question, her family background her past etc do people in her family tree esp the women have the same underlying issues about their sex life.
Thirdly, can it be a case of her having spirit husband or spouse this are possible symptoms of diagnosis to ur problems my brother. I stop here.

OluwoR:


I grab Sir, and yeah, we do things, but if the romance get intense to some level, she'll back off

And all you cld think of is, youblove her and u dont want to loss her.

youngsahito:
you are planning introduction when u know that u have a fire on your roof, shey na love make u mumu like this or just want to create problem for yourself? Don't come here to cry like a baby ooo when everything burst.

redflags and mumu simp if its red pillers saying is thinking of introduction lmao who knows he engaged her

Run now that the day is bright.

OluwoR:
Good evening my brothers and sisters,

I sincerely needs urgent help/assistance for my Fiancee.

Met her in 2012, started dating in 2014, had our first sex in 2019, but since that 2019, anytime I make moves to have sex with Her, it's always through fight, to cut the story short, she find sex extremely painful that even anything that pass cuddling, she'll start crying, this might sound funny, but seriously it is not.
I talked to Her about it, booked an appointment with a gynecologist, my babe didn't show up, I tried to get her sexual supplements, she said they have side effects, and she disposed them.

Now, the problem is, we're planning our introduction, and we're yet to get any solution to the problem at hand,
please, who have any idea of what we can do about it.

That's an extremely selfish way to try to solve the problem. He first needs to understand why she's feeling that pain. There's even a medical condition that causes it in some women

blazingblender:
Sex they say is a thing if the mind right??
So guy I believe you have tried to know what turns her in??
And also try to teach her
Make her understand that sex is very important in maintaining a healthy relationship through matured and quality dialogue.
You guys will understand yourself..
First of all teach her how to have sex verbally
Don't do anything
Just tell her what to do when you make a move about sex
Tell her the naughtiest things about sex..
The most arousing things about sex..
Verbally telling her about sex will make her fantasize about it a lot, thereby kick-starting her hormones to try it out the way you describe it ........

OluwoR:
Good evening my brothers and sisters,

I sincerely needs urgent help/assistance for my Fiancee.

Met her in 2012, started dating in 2014, had our first sex in 2019, but since that 2019, anytime I make moves to have sex with Her, it's always through fight, to cut the story short, she find sex extremely painful that even anything that pass cuddling, she'll start crying, this might sound funny, but seriously it is not.
I talked to Her about it, booked an appointment with a gynecologist, my babe didn't show up, I tried to get her sexual supplements, she said they have side effects, and she disposed them.

Now, the problem is, we're planning our introduction, and we're yet to get any solution to the problem at hand,
please, who have any idea of what we can do about it.

Clearly this woman is not sexually attracted to you and you refuse to see it. Later she will say you have been raping her.

Maybe your hygiene is poor. Maybe your finances are not good enough. It could be a lot of things with these women folk, but what i know is that when she meets someone she is sexually attracted to, she will spread her legs wider than Niger bridge.

Reconsider that introduction and save yourself a lifetime of misery. There are many fishes in the river, Golden fish is the best and this one you hold is clearly not golden

sexuential:
Run now that the day is bright.

abi o

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OluwoR:
brother, see, I understand You, but you think it's easy to just cut off 8 years relationship just like that ?

8 years relationship that has more years to go.. My brother e long for front pass back you better end it now and enjoy the rest years ahead

You are the problem. You ain't doing it right.

MyExpression:


Are you alright ni?

Is she a virgin

If you'll marry without testing, then there must be full disclosure...marriage under deceit is unfair for either parties

Under testing? Where did u get that?
Is he/she a car you are testing? I dnt get that
This your thinking is not biblical ...better change that orientation...God hates fornication.... Heb13:4 says Marriage is honourable in all and the bed undefiled...God will judge every fornicator

Another simp spotted

Honestly speaking, going for introduction with this current dilemma is bad move my friend.

If you have tried your best and no improvement, then it's best you end the relationship and move on rather than setting your roof on fire�

booked an appointment with a gynecologist

Keep doing this until she breaks down and honours the appointment or runs away from the relationship.

I believe she was either circumcised as a child or your tool is too large for what she possesses.

Go and buy Sense . marry for cooking if you need sex you go out

cenaman:
Sex! Sex!! Sex!!! Every day una no dey tire with sex talk?

So they shouldn't talk about sex in a marriage situation?

Na your type dey rape goat..

You don't know what you are doing. Why are you planning an introduction when you have an issue to fix. Do you want to be sleeping around as a married man? The issue is both psychological and physical. A Gyneachologist will help. Minor surgery may be needed to fix her condition. Also, she might need some counseling sessions with a therapist to help her get rid of the PTSD the pain has caused.

OluwoR:
Good evening my brothers and sisters,

I sincerely needs urgent help/assistance for my Fiancee.

Met her in 2012, started dating in 2014, had our first sex in 2019, but since that 2019, anytime I make moves to have sex with Her, it's always through fight, to cut the story short, she find sex extremely painful that even anything that pass cuddling, she'll start crying, this might sound funny, but seriously it is not.
I talked to Her about it, booked an appointment with a gynecologist, my babe didn't show up, I tried to get her sexual supplements, she said they have side effects, and she disposed them.

Now, the problem is, we're planning our introduction, and we're yet to get any solution to the problem at hand,
please, who have any idea of what we can do about it.

Bro a lot of advice has been given, I don't want to comment before but we have a similar problem, my wife doesn't like sex, she finds it painful but there are times we enjoy good sex.
Those times that we enjoy good sex are always preceded by tense romance this will make her wet and increase her libido.
Another angle maybe she is afraid because fear can make her have low libido so always try to let her come out of her shell
Bro always is nasty around her, talk about your escapade with other ladies if there is, tell her the style and the type of sex you enjoy prepare her mind for a good round of sex and always encourage her, and also praise her whenever she improves a little.
Lastly, seek medical help, let her see the reason why she needs to see a medical practitioner, and never buy a sex enhancement drug for her unless you want her to be a junkie.

ayo2008:


Under testing? Where did u get that?
Is he/she a car you are testing? I dnt get that
This your thinking is not biblical ...better change that orientation...God hates fornication.... Heb13:4 says Marriage is honourable in all and the bed undefiled...God will judge every fornicator

If she is a Virgin, most men will stay till marriage. But if you're not a virgin, you have no moral grounds to insist on abstinence...except you're both born again.
And if your sex vibe is low, better tell the man while courting.

There are deflowered ladies that insist on abstinence but they tell you that they are also h.o.r.n.y and desire sex too, but for God, they'll control their urge.

If you're not a virgin, and you want abstinence, please truthfully tell your partner that you're frigid.

Even church discusses sexual compatibility during marriage counselling.
There must be full disclosure.

Unlike this case, where she blocks him for just mentioning sex during their chat.
She has problem and needs help!

Forever is a very long time for a man to be sex-starved.

(I typed H O R N Y, nairaland bot changed it to Hot..I don't understand ��‍♂️)