What she used the proceeds of the money for is what I don't understand. It shows she's just vain and doesn't have pressing needs as you opined.

I have been down this path before - sold my eggs. It was one of those dark moments. I was so broke. Jesus. And I couldn't beg. The money came in VERY handy. I got paid and also, was able to put a smile on another's face too. Memories.

You can't do anything more than forgive her.

All this cock and bull stories trying to touch the heart, if not that someone is knowledgeable on things like this, I could have swallowed this story.

First off egg donation takes months of preparation for extraction,

1) She will have to go through series of tests to qualify,

2)She will take a medication that will stop menstrual cycle for months,

3) She will take series of fertility drugs that stimulates the ovaries to produce several eggs at once,

4) She will have to administer these medications and injections herself either under her skin or into the muscle as she can't take it all in the hospital, so how come you didn't see the medications and injections?

5) She will have to stop sexual intercourse with you for months so she won't get pregnant in the process, and you say you didn't know, una no dey fvck each other?

6) How come immediately she was done, she was able to walk out of the hospital and straight to the market to get a phone?

7) She will have to recover mister man even if it's for a day, and since it is her first time, it will take her days in the hospital bed to recover, and there are side effects to the process, and hers will be more severe since it is her first time, so there is no how you won't be aware of it

You people should stop bringing up fictions that touches the heart just to paint women bad and whatnot, una no dey tire?

Modified; Op actually added an ADDENDUM after reading comments calling out his falsehood, he had to quickly think of sugar and spices to add to his never ending fiction

Nairaland and it's breed of nomenclatures

JovialJune:
All this cock and bull stories trying to touch the heart, if not that someone is knowledgeable on things like this, I could have swallowed the story.

First off egg donation takes months of preparation for extraction, she will have to go through series of tests to qualify, she will take a medication that will stop menstrual cycle, she will take series of fertility drugs that stimulates the ovaries to produce several eggs at once

What part of the story shows that she didn't go through any of these...??

UyaiIncomparabl:
What she used the proceeds of the money for is what I don't understand. It shows she's just vain and doesn't have pressing needs as you opined.

I have been down this path before - sold my eggs. It was one of those dark moments. I was so broke. Jesus. And I couldn't beg. The money came in VERY handy. I got paid and also, was able to put a smile on another's face too. Memories.

You can't do anything more than forgive her.

Interesting.

Not trying to meddle into women's business but errm, what's the range of the amount. Not the exact amount, just give me a possible range of figures.

Acidosis:


What part of the story shows that she didn't go through any of these...??

The part where he didn’t realize any of that until he saw a phone receipt. Did they even live together?

dominique:


Eggs actually do finishe, every female is born with a certain amount eggs in her ovaries which degrade over time. By the time she reaches puberty, she will have about 350-400 eggs left in her ovaries one of which will be released monthly at every reproductive cycle. By the time all the eggs are exhausted (through menstruation and childbirth), menopause sets in.

If a woman goes to sell her eggs, she's risking early menopause because only one egg will not be harvested. The fertility clinic will want to harvest at least 5 eggs to boost the chances of conception. That will shorten her reproductive lifespan by at least 5 months. Imagine doing that 5 times or more, don't be surprised to see women hitting menopause in their 30s in the years to come.

OK naw

Acidosis:


What part of the story shows that she didn't go through any of these...??

Read my comment again.

dominique:


Eggs actually do finishe, every female is born with a certain amount eggs in her ovaries which degrade over time. By the time she reaches puberty, she will have about 350-400 eggs left in her ovaries one of which will be released monthly at every reproductive cycle. By the time all the eggs are exhausted (through menstruation and childbirth), menopause sets in.

If a woman goes to sell her eggs, she's risking early menopause because only one egg will not be harvested. The fertility clinic will want to harvest at least 5 eggs to boost the chances of conception. That will shorten her reproductive lifespan by at least 5 months. Imagine doing that 5 times or more, don't be surprised to see women hitting menopause in their 30s in the years to come.

350-400 Eggs left at puberty is not quite right.
Too small a number. There are still many thousands left. 400 months is like 33 years. An average Nigerian female hits puberty at 14-15 years,making it roughly 48 years. But there are two ovaries born with thousands of eggs. You can say 450 will be ovulated away in a woman's ovulation lifecycle and I will agree with you.
The main issue is the quality, not the quantity of the remaining eggs as the woman gets older.

cococandy:


The part where he didn’t realize any of that until he saw a phone receipt. Did they even live together?

I've modified my comment sef, the Op is a fictional story teller.

truthsayer009:


Interesting.

Not trying to meddle into women's business but errm, what's the range of the amount. Not the exact amount, just give me a possible range of figures.

Must be different in other places I guess but it should surely pay more than the amount needed for a mere phone.

cococandy:


The part where he didn’t realize any of that until he saw a phone receipt. Did they even live together?

Some people can be extremely discreet yunno?


The story might be false though.

JovialJune:



Read my comment again.

Number 5


Thanks for the insight.

JovialJune:



I've modified my comment sef, the Op is a fictional story teller.

that’s the majority of thread creators on NL. Story tellers

Larryfest:
Good morning all, I have been having sleepless night for a while now and a few days ago confirmed my insomnia would last longer than I thought.

We were comfortable and have been married for 5years now with a daughter but things have been rough for a while due to my business folding up and we have had to manage with the little we see from time to time. Earlier this year I had to sell some of the things in our house including my phone just so we could buy foodstuffs and pay our daughter's school fees, just some weeks ago I even had to shamefully reach out to a popular Nairalander if he has a phone he could spare because the one I'm currently using is a Desktop kind of phone (doesn't work without directly plugging it).

Last month my wife came home with a brand new Samsung phone and when I asked how she got it her response was that she won it from her womanhood help group on Facebook (she is very active there).
Last Sunday while arranging the room I came across a fertility clinic document and the receipt of the phone which the amount written there staggered me a bit because it's way more than our house rent that expired recently which has been the cause of my sleepless nights. When she got back from church I confronted her with my two findings and after plenty talks and argument she confessed a friend from work told her about it and she sold her Eggs at the clinic and it was from it she bought the phone.

My people since Sunday I have been seriously weak and confused, a lot on my mind already but now I have to add this to it Marriage is for the faint hearted abeg!!!

Nothing serious, she LL produce more eggs. You can donate your sperm as well

Saintmary:



Medically, there is no consequence to the procedure, but my concern is possible malpractice.



She should have told you so you can watch out for her.

There are several consequences for the procedure, she can experience bleeding when the needle is inserted to her ovaries, damage to the bowel, bladder, or nearby blood vessels, infections etc.

What will I not hear in this forum

So true. I was bedridden for three months after my egg retrival. I think the doctor's needle pierced the wrong thing. fluid and blood collected in my sacral joints, and also got infected. I couldn't walk, sit or lie on my back for three months. I could only lie on my tummy or stand with a walker. Only God restored me. Seven years after, I still get flare ups in my hip joints.

But after that failed ivf, two babies came naturally. In this life, its good to trust God for direction.

JovialJune:


There are several consequences for the procedure, she can experience bleeding when the needle is inserted to her ovaries, damage to the bowel, bladder, or nearby blood vessels.

truthsayer009:


Interesting.

Not trying to meddle into women's business but errm, what's the range of the amount. Not the exact amount, just give me a possible range of figures.

100K and above.

Depending on the class of the fertility clinic.

post=112684849:

This makes good sense.
But no wife should ever do that without the knowledge of her hubby.... which you also affirm.

you're still to learn when when it comes to women...

Like snake... women are capable of doing anything you can imaging, even the ones you're yet to see or imaging...

Miarose:
So true. I was bedridden for three months after my egg retrival. I think the doctor's needle pierced the wrong thing. fluid and blood collected in my sacral joints, and also got infected. I couldn't walk, sit or lie on my back for three months. I could only lie on my tummy or stand with a walker. Only God restored me. Seven years after, I still get flare ups in my hip joints.

But after that failed ivf, two babies came naturally. In this life, its good to trust God for direction.

Thank God you are now healthy and congrats for your testimony, truly God never fail.

Miarose:
So true. I was bedridden for three months after my egg retrival. I think the doctor's needle pierced the wrong thing. fluid and blood collected in my sacral joints, and also got infected. I couldn't walk, sit or lie on my back for three months. I could only lie on my tummy or stand with a walker. Only God restored me. Seven years after, I still get flare ups in my hip joints.

But after that failed ivf, two babies came naturally. In this life, its good to trust God for direction.

My friend had issues too and her stomach was big as a result of the swelling. Thankfully the third trial paid of. If she tells her husband to jump, he would ask how high. Congrats to all of you and I pray expectant parents get their heart desires.

dominique:
Absolutely nothing wrong with selling of her eggs but using it to buy a new phone knowing the financial situation is extremely selfish of her. The reason she didn't tell you she wanted to sell her eggs was because she wanted to use the money for herself. If she had told you that she wanted to sell the eggs to take care of bills, [b]it's you that will be driving her to the fertility clinic every month

stop being bias...it undermines the level of your general awareness of most important things ...

Miarose:
So true. I was bedridden for three months after my egg retrival. I think the doctor's needle pierced the wrong thing. fluid and blood collected in my sacral joints, and also got infected. I couldn't walk, sit or lie on my back for three months. I could only lie on my tummy or stand with a walker. Only God restored me. Seven years after, I still get flare ups in my hip joints.

But after that failed ivf, two babies came naturally. In this life, its good to trust God for direction.

I am happy for you... ..
Life is mysterious.
Sometimes if we have a knowledge of the future, we'd rather wait and be patient

Klass99:


Wow! Are you in the healthcare industry? I appreciate the education and entertainment, points 5, 6 & 7 cracked me up

I'm not in the healthcare industry, I have a relative that went through the process in desperate need of money, though not in Nigeria, she regrets doing the procedure till today because of the side effect.

Acidosis:



Number 5


Thanks for the insight.

That number 5 would have been the highlight of Op's complaint if the wife truly starved him of sex, not the money

She must have sold that very cheap.

Besides, her money, her life.

Men has been donating sperms free of charge everyday, add money on top, travel miles just to donate.
This lady bought phone after donating hers and we want to crucify her.

Ask the husband how many he has donated since marriage for free.

Make una free the lady abeg

Miarose:
So true. I was bedridden for three months after my egg retrival. I think the doctor's needle pierced the wrong thing. fluid and blood collected in my sacral joints, and also got infected. I couldn't walk, sit or lie on my back for three months. I could only lie on my tummy or stand with a walker. Only God restored me. Seven years after, I still get flare ups in my hip joints.

But after that failed ivf, two babies came naturally. In this life, its good to trust God for direction.

I remember when I advised a friend against doing this.

The procedure isn't always smooth and if the doctor ends up leaving you with more complications, that's your headache.

They also take a lot of eggs at a time, not one.

The lady was offered 100k.

I will not even sell a drop of my sperm for 100k.

.

JovialJune:



I'm not in the healthcare industry, I have a relative that went through the process in desperate need of money, though not in Nigeria, she regrets doing the procedure till today because of the side effect.

There’s belief it’s increases risk of breast cancer because of the extra injections of estrogen which is typically more than the woman would produce on her own