PeerHub:



Hmmmm.


Both parents want us to resolve, I keep saying I didn't send her packing, when she feels dim she can come.

I'm not not comfortable with the part where I should be the one to go bring her luggages back to the house.

This is why I've come to ask if that's not foolishness.


If I do go, what could be the possible consequences.

SeniorGee:
I see an opportunity for you do set all records straight in your house. When she left did her parents call you that your wife was with them?
Call your own people and inform them. Don't call anyone from her family again.
Just tell her if she and her family don't come to settle within a specified period you will get another wife.
Try to involve your own family too.

Baba40:
You are wrong bro... Mine did 4 different times, the last was the final

PeerHub:
Guys... I took time again tonight to call her that I won't be coming to pack her things back to house but I can afford sending her money for transportation. What she said to my face was "if I can't come, then I should leave it be"

My concern is the wellbeing of my one year old son she has with her....

This boy needs to be taken care of.. I do not want him to be exposed to another phase of life this early.

JRichards:


100% So. Yes

If you rely on advice here, you'll get it wrong.

She has already figured the part she got wrong in your issues so you don't need to overflog it or play the ego card by saying, you left yourself, return. She wants to be needed and as such, you're almost re-proposing to her. Hence you need to reach out, while she meets you mid way


Any other counsel about from this counsel here is to scatter your marriage patapata. The choice is yours. I have spoken

PeerHub:
Guys... I took time again tonight to call her that I won't be coming to pack her things back to house but I can afford sending her money for transportation. What she said to my face was "if I can't come, then I should leave it be"

My concern is the wellbeing of my one year old son she has with her....

This boy needs to be taken care of.. I do not want him to be exposed to another phase of life this early.

PeerHub:
Guys... I took time again tonight to call her that I won't be coming to pack her things back to house but I can afford sending her money for transportation. What she said to my face was "if I can't come, then I should leave it be"

My concern is the wellbeing of my one year old son she has with her....

This boy needs to be taken care of.. I do not want him to be exposed to another phase of life this early.

Beermoney1:
You are asking for marital advise from boys that are not married. Go and get your wife if you want your marriage to continue. It's your family not your kinsmen or nairaland. Fix your home, fight for your marriage to work.

JRichards:


100% So. Yes

If you rely on advice here, you'll get it wrong.

She has already figured the part she got wrong in your issues so you don't need to overflog it or play the ego card by saying, you left yourself, return. She wants to be needed and as such, you're almost re-proposing to her. Hence you need to reach out, while she meets you mid way


Any other counsel about from this counsel here is to scatter your marriage patapata. The choice is yours. I have spoken

PeerHub:



Hmmmmm.

I don't have issues with her coming back, where I have issues with is me been the one to come bring her belongings back to the house.

She's this nagging type, she someone who wants you to please her 100% even when she know you're not equal to fulfilling it.

She's someone who chooses other people apartment to hers, even when I've told her I don't like her sitting or doing anything in others people's home.

When I'm busy with work on my phone, that's when she wants to have a conversation.


She's someone who will not do anything for you until when she pleases.

There's alot of things she's doing which I talked out with her but she's not ready to heed.

PeerHub:


The funny thing is I gave her money about a ₦100k to start something with, gave the fund to sisters husband to keep.

I don't want to go deep with this money matter.


Still gave her some money to start selling foodstuffs at home, make subscription available every month still she won't stay in the house.

JRichards:


100% So. Yes

If you rely on advice here, you'll get it wrong.

She has already figured the part she got wrong in your issues so you don't need to overflog it or play the ego card by saying, you left yourself, return. She wants to be needed and as such, you're almost re-proposing to her. Hence you need to reach out, while she meets you mid way


Any other counsel about from this counsel here is to scatter your marriage patapata. The choice is yours. I have spoken

Fiscus105:




And you dnt think ur advise is not a foolish one? Did you ask OP who drove her to her parent's place? .........Wife ran away, it's duty of husband to go out and carry her back.

Abi you misinterpreted Op, thinking his wife travelled with husband consent?

The person that drove her to her parent house should be the one to drive her back Jare', she should even thank God that she married good husband that still take her back after rubbish.

ChybuzzDD:


Unfortunately, some of these people issuing out yeye advice here are kids that are yet to marry.

I hope you are not in that category?

JRichards:



Nothing kills a marriage faster than ego, nothing restores a broken marriage better than forebearance

ChybuzzDD:


Unfortunately, some of these people issuing out yeye advice here are kids that are yet to marry.

I hope you are not in that category?

PeerHub:
Hello There ��
I'd like you guys to help me on this... My wife packed her belongings from the house exactly a month today. Now she wants me to come bring her belongings back to the house from her parents.

As a man, is this right?

PeerHub:
Hello There ��
I'd like you guys to help me on this... My wife packed her belongings from the house exactly a month today. Now she wants me to come bring her belongings back to the house from her parents.

As a man, is this right?

PeerHub:


I did call the mother after two weeks she left, what she told me was I never reported to her, I was shocked and later explained what has been happening in our home over the phone.

Later that day in the evening, the mom called that the dad wants to see me which I didn't honour the requested.

PS: I am in Oyo State, my parent also lives in Oyo. Hers are in Akure but separated.

I didn't send her packing, even if I did on the contrary I think the safest place for her to head to is my parents or siblings who are living on their own.

After she left she expects that my own people call her to ask what happened.

JRichards:


100% So. Yes

If you rely on advice here, you'll get it wrong.

She has already figured the part she got wrong in your issues so you don't need to overflog it or play the ego card by saying, you left yourself, return. She wants to be needed and as such, you're almost re-proposing to her. Hence you need to reach out, while she meets you mid way


Any other counsel about from this counsel here is to scatter your marriage patapata. The choice is yours. I have spoken

Danibonk:
As a Yoruba man if your wife dare pack her things out by herself if she want to pack in her parents will come and beg for her to come back. She will beg with her two knees on the ground

SWATMan:


Balderdash!
I guess you are not a married man. This is the worst advice I have seen so far on this topic. You don't seem to understand that if a woman packs her things out from your house because of any issue devoid of threat to her life then she has humiliated you. It is different when it's you that sent her packing and in that case, you are bound to do as she and her family wishes.