The mistake made was starting a new relationship with another guy (within a short period after your break up) without properly healing n getting over your former bf/relationship.

2 months was too short to get over someone you had history with. It will definitely affect ur current relationship unless u learn to heal n get over your ex.

You can't forget people you had relationships with, whether it ended well or not. The way out is to accept them as part of your past and history. Don't try to forget them, cos trying will continue to hurt you. Acceptance is the road to moving on

Prettylitlady:
Goodday NL members.. I am here for any matured advice I can get as I understand we have matured people here who can talk senses into my head and make me realise one or two things.

I am in my mid 20's, I dated my Ex for few years, we were both students then in one of the West Universities (graduates now) and I really loved him, it was true love I felt for him to be honest, he wasn't working, I don't demand for money from him or anything, I sell clothes, shoes, bags and do other small businesses while schooling, that's how I foot my own Bills and also give him money sometimes when in need. His family knows me, my family knows him like we were so much in each other(or so I thought). I saw no other guy except him, I built my world around him, we were best of friends as I am an introvert and really don't keep friends so he was my all.
Even though it was a tough decision to make, I had to break up with him due to the following reasons;
1. He has beaten me once and promised not to do it again but he still slapped me in every slightest provocation.
2. He wanted to go into yahoo yahoo. That's not the kind of partner I want, I want a legit hustler not a fraudster.
3. He sometimes cheats on me and I will forgive him always. He tells me I am the main while the others is just for cruise that every guy cheats
4. He suddenly started smoking and drinking due to friends influence I guess (Eew, I don't want that)
5. He is Lazy, always wanting big money buh doesn't want to work. I told him to Start from somewhere after our graduation no matter how little buh he won't heed.
6. He always talks dirty with his female friends even in my presence, I wonder what happens behind me.

I ended the relationship after so much talking, pleas and counselling hoping he will change but he didn't. I dated another guy 2 months later, I know nobody is perfect but trust me when I say my current guy is all I ever wanted in a man. But the truth is I really do not love him that deep, He treats me fine and all but I still feel something for my ex maybe because I was already soo used to him. My boyfriend has told me to go back if that's what I want because he doesn't want a divided attention. I know I can't break up with him because it will hurt him so badly and my conscience won't even allow me because he has done literally nothing wrong, yes we normally have our ups and downs but he hasn't done anything worth breaking up over with.

I just need advice on how I can get this my ex off my head for good. We don't communicate, I have deleted all his numbers, We have been separated for few months now but I still think of him every single day even when I have a good guy already. I don't know what is wrong with me pleasee

Prettylitlady:


Yes that's true. It was like a rebound relationship to me buh he fell deeply in love and I don't want to hurt him at all considering he is a good guy too

Try not to go back to ur ex... it won't end well ve been there b4. Secondly ur new guy isn't ur final. After healing and ur hrt is ready to love again someone ll sweep u over. Tho keep ir current relationship and work on urself. Happy Sunday

I don't know if OP will see this comment, but if you do, please never go back to your ex. I use God to beg you, please. Even if later seems fine and he has money and all, please do not go back.

Mo fi Olorun be eh

Prettylitlady:
Goodday NL members.. I am here for any matured advice I can get as I understand we have matured people here who can talk senses into my head and make me realise one or two things.

I am in my mid 20's, I dated my Ex for few years, we were both students then in one of the West Universities (graduates now) and I really loved him, it was true love I felt for him to be honest, he wasn't working, I don't demand for money from him or anything, I sell clothes, shoes, bags and do other small businesses while schooling, that's how I foot my own Bills and also give him money sometimes when in need. His family knows me, my family knows him like we were so much in each other(or so I thought). I saw no other guy except him, I built my world around him, we were best of friends as I am an introvert and really don't keep friends so he was my all.
Even though it was a tough decision to make, I had to break up with him due to the following reasons;
1. He has beaten me once and promised not to do it again but he still slapped me in every slightest provocation.
2. He wanted to go into yahoo yahoo. That's not the kind of partner I want, I want a legit hustler not a fraudster.
3. He sometimes cheats on me and I will forgive him always. He tells me I am the main while the others is just for cruise that every guy cheats
4. He suddenly started smoking and drinking due to friends influence I guess (Eew, I don't want that)
5. He is Lazy, always wanting big money buh doesn't want to work. I told him to Start from somewhere after our graduation no matter how little buh he won't heed.
6. He always talks dirty with his female friends even in my presence, I wonder what happens behind me.

I ended the relationship after so much talking, pleas and counselling hoping he will change but he didn't. I dated another guy 2 months later, I know nobody is perfect but trust me when I say my current guy is all I ever wanted in a man. But the truth is I really do not love him that deep, He treats me fine and all but I still feel something for my ex maybe because I was already soo used to him. My boyfriend has told me to go back if that's what I want because he doesn't want a divided attention. I know I can't break up with him because it will hurt him so badly and my conscience won't even allow me because he has done literally nothing wrong, yes we normally have our ups and downs but he hasn't done anything worth breaking up over with.

I just need advice on how I can get this my ex off my head for good. We don't communicate, I have deleted all his numbers, We have been separated for few months now but I still think of him every single day even when I have a good guy already. I don't know what is wrong with me pleasee

Nothing is wrong with you, you just don't have self worth! I can't even have a conversation with a fraudster talk more of having a relationship when I was single (tho Yahoo no dey like this then)
What is so special about your ex? Someone that drinks, smokes, steals and greedy and you still have feelings for him? If it's s.ex, teach the new guy the styles he did best while you were with your ex.
Abeg I no get strength.

You entered a relationship just too early after your breakup. No time to heal. It will be difficult but you have to put in the effort of forgetting your ex. Don't ever make the mistake of comparing your present guy with your ex especially in intimacy.
Also, commit this new relationship into God's hands and it will flow.

MrBrownJay1:
your current bf aint the "right" one, he is just the current toto warmer....but then again, what you have for the ex is genuine love/care, and as much as he is no good, you gave a few years of your life to him, thus it will take a while to get him off your skin.

TIME is all you need to forget your ex. so take your time and eventually you will find someone right for you.... but whatever you do, NEVER EVER go back to your ex.

Gbam! Best advive. After a while she won't even remember the yahoo boy. It happens normally takes a while to forget once familiar things

He's toxic. .Erase him completely from your memory. .Run 4 your life ! Don't look back!

Na your Ex John Thomas (JT) hold you for work o. You don't love your Ex, its his JT you love.

What is wrong with you is sin. You are committing fornication and sinning against your own body. You are messing up your life. If you had listened to your parents you wouldn't be here asking us to advise you how to forget the sin that you sinned against your own body.

Obedience is always the best. Currently, you are making the same sinful move again and needing answers on not how to repent, but how to concentrate on the current sin that you are sinning.

Sister, you need help, truly. The best advice for you right now is to repent and sin no more. Cut loose of those men and sexual sins and edge closer to God for forgiveness. You are full of filth. This is what you planned for yourself. You are messing yourself up big league.

While your parents were toiling and paying all those fees from their veins, you are enjoying your life with a stranger. Reality dawned on you quite early. Wow, still in your mid 20s and hard living has set in already.

If you had listen to God and to your own parents, you would have better things to worry about. That man shiet on your life so badly. What you miss is the love of his body. There was no love in that relationship. It was a dome of adultery. How can you miss a man that isn't your husband? What positive thing do you miss about him? He has no virtuous qualities as you have listed out. Therefore, all that you miss is the sin.

Sadly, you are making the same mistake even in your mid 20s. This will linger into your 60s. Your life will be full of missing stranger. Oda. Ekuse. Bawo mo ma saleye fun eyin no bayi?

Prettylitlady:
Goodday NL members.. I am here for any matured advice I can get as I understand we have matured people here who can talk senses into my head and make me realise one or two things.

I am in my mid 20's, I dated my Ex for few years, we were both students then in one of the West Universities (graduates now) and I really loved him, it was true love I felt for him to be honest, he wasn't working, I don't demand for money from him or anything, I sell clothes, shoes, bags and do other small businesses while schooling, that's how I foot my own Bills and also give him money sometimes when in need. His family knows me, my family knows him like we were so much in each other(or so I thought). I saw no other guy except him, I built my world around him, we were best of friends as I am an introvert and really don't keep friends so he was my all.
Even though it was a tough decision to make, I had to break up with him due to the following reasons;
1. He has beaten me once and promised not to do it again but he still slapped me in every slightest provocation.
2. He wanted to go into yahoo yahoo. That's not the kind of partner I want, I want a legit hustler not a fraudster.
3. He sometimes cheats on me and I will forgive him always. He tells me I am the main while the others is just for cruise that every guy cheats
4. He suddenly started smoking and drinking due to friends influence I guess (Eew, I don't want that)
5. He is Lazy, always wanting big money buh doesn't want to work. I told him to Start from somewhere after our graduation no matter how little buh he won't heed.
6. He always talks dirty with his female friends even in my presence, I wonder what happens behind me.

I ended the relationship after so much talking, pleas and counselling hoping he will change but he didn't. I dated another guy 2 months later, I know nobody is perfect but trust me when I say my current guy is all I ever wanted in a man. But the truth is I really do not love him that deep, He treats me fine and all but I still feel something for my ex maybe because I was already soo used to him. My boyfriend has told me to go back if that's what I want because he doesn't want a divided attention. I know I can't break up with him because it will hurt him so badly and my conscience won't even allow me because he has done literally nothing wrong, yes we normally have our ups and downs but he hasn't done anything worth breaking up over with.

I just need advice on how I can get this my ex off my head for good. We don't communicate, I have deleted all his numbers, We have been separated for few months now but I still think of him every single day even when I have a good guy already. I don't know what is wrong with me pleasee

Prettylitlady:
Goodday NL members.. I am here for any matured advice I can get as I understand we have matured people here who can talk senses into my head and make me realise one or two things.

I am in my mid 20's, I dated my Ex for few years, we were both students then in one of the West Universities (graduates now) and I really loved him, it was true love I felt for him to be honest, he wasn't working, I don't demand for money from him or anything, I sell clothes, shoes, bags and do other small businesses while schooling, that's how I foot my own Bills and also give him money sometimes when in need. His family knows me, my family knows him like we were so much in each other(or so I thought). I saw no other guy except him, I built my world around him, we were best of friends as I am an introvert and really don't keep friends so he was my all.
Even though it was a tough decision to make, I had to break up with him due to the following reasons;
1. He has beaten me once and promised not to do it again but he still slapped me in every slightest provocation.
2. He wanted to go into yahoo yahoo. That's not the kind of partner I want, I want a legit hustler not a fraudster.
3. He sometimes cheats on me and I will forgive him always. He tells me I am the main while the others is just for cruise that every guy cheats
4. He suddenly started smoking and drinking due to friends influence I guess (Eew, I don't want that)
5. He is Lazy, always wanting big money buh doesn't want to work. I told him to Start from somewhere after our graduation no matter how little buh he won't heed.
6. He always talks dirty with his female friends even in my presence, I wonder what happens behind me.

I ended the relationship after so much talking, pleas and counselling hoping he will change but he didn't. I dated another guy 2 months later, I know nobody is perfect but trust me when I say my current guy is all I ever wanted in a man. But the truth is I really do not love him that deep, He treats me fine and all but I still feel something for my ex maybe because I was already soo used to him. My boyfriend has told me to go back if that's what I want because he doesn't want a divided attention. I know I can't break up with him because it will hurt him so badly and my conscience won't even allow me because he has done literally nothing wrong, yes we normally have our ups and downs but he hasn't done anything worth breaking up over with.

I just need advice on how I can get this my ex off my head for good. We don't communicate, I have deleted all his numbers, We have been separated for few months now but I still think of him every single day even when I have a good guy already. I don't know what is wrong with me pleasee

How many months have you guys broken up

And how many years did you date your ex

You shouldn't have started another relationship so soon after a breakup, that's why you're missing the old times. Nonetheless, don't ever date a man that hit you. And if you leave an abuser, you mustn't look back. You'll be fine, you seem really sincere and deliberate about your actions and this is an excellent character.

Since u hv moved on from ur ex don't go back to him again just stick n love back ur new guy since he loves n cherish u too.
Thinking of ur ex might be normal since u once loved him but with time it will fade off if only u will try n keep a distant from him, cut off all communication with him n start to build a committed relationship with ur present guy with time ur find it boring thinking of dat ex.

zexy2030:

This is the reason you can't make a good decision, foolish things becloud your senses. I pity u, if how you approach life, is being used to a pattern. You don't even have Idea of who u r chatting with. I wish u d best. Maybe others will advice you, as for me, I feel u r self opinionated, advicing you is a waste of effort. Because you won't listen.

Shut up Mr Man you're so rude bro who is she chatting with you sound like a woman beater

Most Nigerian girls are confused, they don't know what they want.


With those rubbish she listed about the guy I wonder why she's still thinking about him.





What a good preeek cannot do does not exist.

Prettylitlady:
Goodday NL members.. I am here for any matured advice I can get as I understand we have matured people here who can talk senses into my head and make me realise one or two things.

I am in my mid 20's, I dated my Ex for few years, we were both students then in one of the West Universities (graduates now) and I really loved him, it was true love I felt for him to be honest, he wasn't working, I don't demand for money from him or anything, I sell clothes, shoes, bags and do other small businesses while schooling, that's how I foot my own Bills and also give him money sometimes when in need. His family knows me, my family knows him like we were so much in each other(or so I thought). I saw no other guy except him, I built my world around him, we were best of friends as I am an introvert and really don't keep friends so he was my all.
Even though it was a tough decision to make, I had to break up with him due to the following reasons;
1. He has beaten me once and promised not to do it again but he still slapped me in every slightest provocation.
2. He wanted to go into yahoo yahoo. That's not the kind of partner I want, I want a legit hustler not a fraudster.
3. He sometimes cheats on me and I will forgive him always. He tells me I am the main while the others is just for cruise that every guy cheats
4. He suddenly started smoking and drinking due to friends influence I guess (Eew, I don't want that)
5. He is Lazy, always wanting big money buh doesn't want to work. I told him to Start from somewhere after our graduation no matter how little buh he won't heed.
6. He always talks dirty with his female friends even in my presence, I wonder what happens behind me.

I ended the relationship after so much talking, pleas and counselling hoping he will change but he didn't. I dated another guy 2 months later, I know nobody is perfect but trust me when I say my current guy is all I ever wanted in a man. But the truth is I really do not love him that deep, He treats me fine and all but I still feel something for my ex maybe because I was already soo used to him. My boyfriend has told me to go back if that's what I want because he doesn't want a divided attention. I know I can't break up with him because it will hurt him so badly and my conscience won't even allow me because he has done literally nothing wrong, yes we normally have our ups and downs but he hasn't done anything worth breaking up over with.

I just need advice on how I can get this my ex off my head for good. We don't communicate, I have deleted all his numbers, We have been separated for few months now but I still think of him every single day even when I have a good guy already. I don't know what is wrong with me pleasee

Please go back to your Ex since you don’t have sense. Now I know why people keep saying ‘girls have chicken brain’.

As an adult you have to learn to use your brain, and not emotions all the time. You really need to grow up

Lmao! She’s penis whipped!

the only thing i can say u have with this ex of urs is shared memories and possibly the family integration which u have mentioned.

like most ppl have said, give it time. u will eventually forget him and make sure u don’t come in contact with physical things that can bring back the intimate memories u shared.

As to ur new guy, if you are attracted to him, u can build love and also memories with him. but the first thing is attraction and affection. if u have these, then loving him won’t be a problem as it will naturally grow as you two spend time together.

but always distance urself from ur ex via contact, communication and even discussions from friends and family.

let me tell u this....people don’t change, they only try to reduce or limit their weaknesses. only supernatural intervention makes ppl to change. so, if one is corrupt, i believe he can never be free of corruption but can significantly decrease the degree or level of corruption due to strong dedication and discipline. but corruption go still dey small small....i get me?...

STAY AWAY FROM UR EX....coz these red flags cannot be changed!

Prettylitlady:
Goodday NL members.. I am here for any matured advice I can get as I understand we have matured people here who can talk senses into my head and make me realise one or two things.

I am in my mid 20's, I dated my Ex for few years, we were both students then in one of the West Universities (graduates now) and I really loved him, it was true love I felt for him to be honest, he wasn't working, I don't demand for money from him or anything, I sell clothes, shoes, bags and do other small businesses while schooling, that's how I foot my own Bills and also give him money sometimes when in need. His family knows me, my family knows him like we were so much in each other(or so I thought). I saw no other guy except him, I built my world around him, we were best of friends as I am an introvert and really don't keep friends so he was my all.
Even though it was a tough decision to make, I had to break up with him due to the following reasons;
1. He has beaten me once and promised not to do it again but he still slapped me in every slightest provocation.
2. He wanted to go into yahoo yahoo. That's not the kind of partner I want, I want a legit hustler not a fraudster.
3. He sometimes cheats on me and I will forgive him always. He tells me I am the main while the others is just for cruise that every guy cheats
4. He suddenly started smoking and drinking due to friends influence I guess (Eew, I don't want that)
5. He is Lazy, always wanting big money buh doesn't want to work. I told him to Start from somewhere after our graduation no matter how little buh he won't heed.
6. He always talks dirty with his female friends even in my presence, I wonder what happens behind me.

I ended the relationship after so much talking, pleas and counselling hoping he will change but he didn't. I dated another guy 2 months later, I know nobody is perfect but trust me when I say my current guy is all I ever wanted in a man. But the truth is I really do not love him that deep, He treats me fine and all but I still feel something for my ex maybe because I was already soo used to him. My boyfriend has told me to go back if that's what I want because he doesn't want a divided attention. I know I can't break up with him because it will hurt him so badly and my conscience won't even allow me because he has done literally nothing wrong, yes we normally have our ups and downs but he hasn't done anything worth breaking up over with.

I just need advice on how I can get this my ex off my head for good. We don't communicate, I have deleted all his numbers, We have been separated for a few months now but I still think of him every single day even when I have a good guy already. I don't know what is wrong with me pleasee

If you miss him that much then go back to him.

Any man that hits you and to crown it all he is lazy, such men should be avoided like plague.

You have something good, hold on to it, and talk less about your ex when around your current guy or you go back to your vomit.0

Prettylitlady:
Goodday NL members.. I am here for any matured advice I can get as I understand we have matured people here who can talk senses into my head and make me realise one or two things.

I am in my mid 20's, I dated my Ex for few years, we were both students then in one of the West Universities (graduates now) and I really loved him, it was true love I felt for him to be honest, he wasn't working, I don't demand for money from him or anything, I sell clothes, shoes, bags and do other small businesses while schooling, that's how I foot my own Bills and also give him money sometimes when in need. His family knows me, my family knows him like we were so much in each other(or so I thought). I saw no other guy except him, I built my world around him, we were best of friends as I am an introvert and really don't keep friends so he was my all.
Even though it was a tough decision to make, I had to break up with him due to the following reasons;
1. He has beaten me once and promised not to do it again but he still slapped me in every slightest provocation.
2. He wanted to go into yahoo yahoo. That's not the kind of partner I want, I want a legit hustler not a fraudster.
3. He sometimes cheats on me and I will forgive him always. He tells me I am the main while the others is just for cruise that every guy cheats
4. He suddenly started smoking and drinking due to friends influence I guess (Eew, I don't want that)
5. He is Lazy, always wanting big money buh doesn't want to work. I told him to Start from somewhere after our graduation no matter how little buh he won't heed.
6. He always talks dirty with his female friends even in my presence, I wonder what happens behind me.

I ended the relationship after so much talking, pleas and counselling hoping he will change but he didn't. I dated another guy 2 months later, I know nobody is perfect but trust me when I say my current guy is all I ever wanted in a man. But the truth is I really do not love him that deep, He treats me fine and all but I still feel something for my ex maybe because I was already soo used to him. My boyfriend has told me to go back if that's what I want because he doesn't want a divided attention. I know I can't break up with him because it will hurt him so badly and my conscience won't even allow me because he has done literally nothing wrong, yes we normally have our ups and downs but he hasn't done anything worth breaking up over with.

I just need advice on how I can get this my ex off my head for good. We don't communicate, I have deleted all his numbers, We have been separated for few months now but I still think of him every single day even when I have a good guy already. I don't know what is wrong with me pleasee

You should not have jumped into another relationship. Number 1, 2, 5 and 6 are red flags for settling down and very valid reason to break up. You see those other points you listed, please don't expect same from guys. You are just being unrealistic with your definition of a perfect guy. I am not saying you won't meet someone that matches those traits. But it is wrong to expect a guy to have those traits.

What is wrong is that your ex was a bad boy. While your current is a good boy. Girls have a thing for bad boys. Na Wetin de worry you so. You miss the emotional turmoil. It's normal. You can call off this relationship and remain single until you get yourself cuz you are already breaking your current guy's heart with the divided attention.

Prettylitlady:
Goodday NL members.. I am here for any matured advice I can get as I understand we have matured people here who can talk senses into my head and make me realise one or two things.

I am in my mid 20's, I dated my Ex for few years, we were both students then in one of the West Universities (graduates now) and I really loved him, it was true love I felt for him to be honest, he wasn't working, I don't demand for money from him or anything, I sell clothes, shoes, bags and do other small businesses while schooling, that's how I foot my own Bills and also give him money sometimes when in need. His family knows me, my family knows him like we were so much in each other(or so I thought). I saw no other guy except him, I built my world around him, we were best of friends as I am an introvert and really don't keep friends so he was my all.
Even though it was a tough decision to make, I had to break up with him due to the following reasons;
1. He has beaten me once and promised not to do it again but he still slapped me in every slightest provocation.
2. He wanted to go into yahoo yahoo. That's not the kind of partner I want, I want a legit hustler not a fraudster.
3. He sometimes cheats on me and I will forgive him always. He tells me I am the main while the others is just for cruise that every guy cheats
4. He suddenly started smoking and drinking due to friends influence I guess (Eew, I don't want that)
5. He is Lazy, always wanting big money buh doesn't want to work. I told him to Start from somewhere after our graduation no matter how little buh he won't heed.
6. He always talks dirty with his female friends even in my presence, I wonder what happens behind me.

I ended the relationship after so much talking, pleas and counselling hoping he will change but he didn't. I dated another guy 2 months later, I know nobody is perfect but trust me when I say my current guy is all I ever wanted in a man. But the truth is I really do not love him that deep, He treats me fine and all but I still feel something for my ex maybe because I was already soo used to him. My boyfriend has told me to go back if that's what I want because he doesn't want a divided attention. I know I can't break up with him because it will hurt him so badly and my conscience won't even allow me because he has done literally nothing wrong, yes we normally have our ups and downs but he hasn't done anything worth breaking up over with.

I just need advice on how I can get this my ex off my head for good. We don't communicate, I have deleted all his numbers, We have been separated for few months now but I still think of him every single day even when I have a good guy already. I don't know what is wrong with me pleasee

It's unfortunate the earliest response triggered fear factor instead of help.
Birthday and personal questions have nothing to do with your situation safehoroscope and other indicative practice.
Trust me, you should not be bothered to be used by people... This is online!

2. I wasn't in your shoe but seen number of cases as this. It's normal to still feel the way you are for the meantime. Because you invested your whole heart to the initial relationship, time & resources... Perhapsit was your first relationship.
Without much words... Moving on is in your best interest...
If not you don't love yourself & want to waste your precious time & being.
I will advise you to trust God for your life Direction & be guided by purpose...
Dwelling on meaningless past won't be a priority anymore.
My piece

women are the most confused gender ever known to mankind. Even female animals no confuse reach them.
1. You say u dump am because you no like the behaviour him dey portray. You list many of them which include cheating, laziness, Joblessness beating. Yet you say na everything in a man you want. If na everything in a man you want, why you dey complain about these attributes? Later you meat another person wey suppose treat you right but you reject am say u no like am say na the one wey get bad behaviour you prefer.

God help me understand this point of view.

Your current relationship is just a bounce back. You shouldn't have gone into another relationship after that one for at least a year or even more. Was sex involved? If it was, then you need more time alone before any other relationship.

The best thing the current guy should do for you is to break up with you so that you can go and dwell in that past you so much cherish.

I quite pity him

Prettylitlady:
Goodday NL members.. I am here for any matured advice I can get as I understand we have matured people here who can talk senses into my head and make me realise one or two things.

I am in my mid 20's, I dated my Ex for few years, we were both students then in one of the West Universities (graduates now) and I really loved him, it was true love I felt for him to be honest, he wasn't working, I don't demand for money from him or anything, I sell clothes, shoes, bags and do other small businesses while schooling, that's how I foot my own Bills and also give him money sometimes when in need. His family knows me, my family knows him like we were so much in each other(or so I thought). I saw no other guy except him, I built my world around him, we were best of friends as I am an introvert and really don't keep friends so he was my all.
Even though it was a tough decision to make, I had to break up with him due to the following reasons;
1. He has beaten me once and promised not to do it again but he still slapped me in every slightest provocation.
2. He wanted to go into yahoo yahoo. That's not the kind of partner I want, I want a legit hustler not a fraudster.
3. He sometimes cheats on me and I will forgive him always. He tells me I am the main while the others is just for cruise that every guy cheats
4. He suddenly started smoking and drinking due to friends influence I guess (Eew, I don't want that)
5. He is Lazy, always wanting big money buh doesn't want to work. I told him to Start from somewhere after our graduation no matter how little buh he won't heed.
6. He always talks dirty with his female friends even in my presence, I wonder what happens behind me.

I ended the relationship after so much talking, pleas and counselling hoping he will change but he didn't. I dated another guy 2 months later, I know nobody is perfect but trust me when I say my current guy is all I ever wanted in a man. But the truth is I really do not love him that deep, He treats me fine and all but I still feel something for my ex maybe because I was already soo used to him. My boyfriend has told me to go back if that's what I want because he doesn't want a divided attention. I know I can't break up with him because it will hurt him so badly and my conscience won't even allow me because he has done literally nothing wrong, yes we normally have our ups and downs but he hasn't done anything worth breaking up over with.

I just need advice on how I can get this my ex off my head for good. We don't communicate, I have deleted all his numbers, We have been separated for few months now but I still think of him every single day even when I have a good guy already. I don't know what is wrong with me pleasee

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These are all red flags. All you need do is kneel down and thank God for showing you. Also go for hepatitis B test to ensure you are clean. Focus on your business, diversify into new areas to expand your incomes, invest wisely and promote your spiritual growth. Then things will fall into place. In your spare time read books. If you have flair for writing then do some writings

Prettylitlady:
Goodday NL members.. I am here for any matured advice I can get as I understand we have matured people here who can talk senses into my head and make me realise one or two things.

I am in my mid 20's, I dated my Ex for few years, we were both students then in one of the West Universities (graduates now) and I really loved him, it was true love I felt for him to be honest, he wasn't working, I don't demand for money from him or anything, I sell clothes, shoes, bags and do other small businesses while schooling, that's how I foot my own Bills and also give him money sometimes when in need. His family knows me, my family knows him like we were so much in each other(or so I thought). I saw no other guy except him, I built my world around him, we were best of friends as I am an introvert and really don't keep friends so he was my all.
Even though it was a tough decision to make, I had to break up with him due to the following reasons;
1. He has beaten me once and promised not to do it again but he still slapped me in every slightest provocation.
2. He wanted to go into yahoo yahoo. That's not the kind of partner I want, I want a legit hustler not a fraudster.
3. He sometimes cheats on me and I will forgive him always. He tells me I am the main while the others is just for cruise that every guy cheats
4. He suddenly started smoking and drinking due to friends influence I guess (Eew, I don't want that)
5. He is Lazy, always wanting big money buh doesn't want to work. I told him to Start from somewhere after our graduation no matter how little buh he won't heed.
6. He always talks dirty with his female friends even in my presence, I wonder what happens behind me.

I ended the relationship after so much talking, pleas and counselling hoping he will change but he didn't. I dated another guy 2 months later, I know nobody is perfect but trust me when I say my current guy is all I ever wanted in a man. But the truth is I really do not love him that deep, He treats me fine and all but I still feel something for my ex maybe because I was already soo used to him. My boyfriend has told me to go back if that's what I want because he doesn't want a divided attention. I know I can't break up with him because it will hurt him so badly and my conscience won't even allow me because he has done literally nothing wrong, yes we normally have our ups and downs but he hasn't done anything worth breaking up over with.

I just need advice on how I can get this my ex off my head for good. We don't communicate, I have deleted all his numbers, We have been separated for few months now but I still think of him every single day even when I have a good guy already. I don't know what is wrong with me pleasee

Hey trust me it's not easy. I left an abusive relationship just
January this year. He'll hit me when he's upset and apologize promising never to repeat it and I would always go back cos I loved him and I felt nobody else would accept me but the last one he did was the height of it so I had to give myself sense and I ended it. Stay with that guy if he truly loves you and treats you well you'll get over that guy it just takes time. I'm enjoying my peace of mind right now and you should to�

Prettylitlady:
Goodday NL members.. I am here for any matured advice I can get as I understand we have matured people here who can talk senses into my head and make me realise one or two things.

I am in my mid 20's, I dated my Ex for few years, we were both students then in one of the West Universities (graduates now) and I really loved him, it was true love I felt for him to be honest, he wasn't working, I don't demand for money from him or anything, I sell clothes, shoes, bags and do other small businesses while schooling, that's how I foot my own Bills and also give him money sometimes when in need. His family knows me, my family knows him like we were so much in each other(or so I thought). I saw no other guy except him, I built my world around him, we were best of friends as I am an introvert and really don't keep friends so he was my all.
Even though it was a tough decision to make, I had to break up with him due to the following reasons;
1. He has beaten me once and promised not to do it again but he still slapped me in every slightest provocation.
2. He wanted to go into yahoo yahoo. That's not the kind of partner I want, I want a legit hustler not a fraudster.
3. He sometimes cheats on me and I will forgive him always. He tells me I am the main while the others is just for cruise that every guy cheats
4. He suddenly started smoking and drinking due to friends influence I guess (Eew, I don't want that)
5. He is Lazy, always wanting big money buh doesn't want to work. I told him to Start from somewhere after our graduation no matter how little buh he won't heed.
6. He always talks dirty with his female friends even in my presence, I wonder what happens behind me.

I ended the relationship after so much talking, pleas and counselling hoping he will change but he didn't. I dated another guy 2 months later, I know nobody is perfect but trust me when I say my current guy is all I ever wanted in a man. But the truth is I really do not love him that deep, He treats me fine and all but I still feel something for my ex maybe because I was already soo used to him. My boyfriend has told me to go back if that's what I want because he doesn't want a divided attention. I know I can't break up with him because it will hurt him so badly and my conscience won't even allow me because he has done literally nothing wrong, yes we normally have our ups and downs but he hasn't done anything worth breaking up over with.

I just need advice on how I can get this my ex off my head for good. We don't communicate, I have deleted all his numbers, We have been separated for few months now but I still think of him every single day even when I have a good guy already. I don't know what is wrong with me pleasee

@bold1 I like the fact that you're being sincere. I beg you go back to your ex and leave the current guy, he is innocent and you see him as your last resort.

@bold2 now, your current boyfriend told you to go because it seems like you pity him that's why you don't want break up with him but for his own good break up him. You only pity him which is terrible for him in the future.

@bold3 you should break up with him, after all, you are in the relationship with pity which is not good for him.

I'm not concern about your ex whether you go back to him or not but I'm worried for the good but not loved guy who is just innocent like Will Smith (your CB) and you Jada Smith.

Please, leave the good guy for a loving lady.

Seun Must Chop.

I don't really like redpillers but you can't deny the fact that their ideologies are most of the time right.

Op was deflowered by this so called irresponsible dude(Alpha-male) now he has fvcked tire and gotten tired and left but op claims she left him giving very flimsy excuses about character and habit like she just woke up.

Op is sexually attracted to this badboy and women can't stop thinking of a man they are sexually attracted to. Her new boyfriend (beta) the good man is a person she loves but not sexually attracted to. She loves him but does not respect him because if you respect a guy you won't discuss about an ex with him. Op can not go to Mr Badboy and be complaining about Mr nice guy. What she'll do with Badboy is have "get back together" sex.

Women like op that got deflowered by badboys can never love and respect a good man that gives them peace of mind. The man will bore them to death. They will always want the ex or someone with the same demon living in the ex. The one that will beat them, sleep with her friends behind her back, smoke, drink, sag, tattoos, body piercings that is the type that she'll always want. The nice guy with the suit, fine haircut, non drinker, non smoker, loves God and treats her well like an egg that one will be repulsive to her. She'll never be sexually attracted to him.

Spiritually op is bonded to this dude already. Someone that deflowered her. That alone itself is a covenant and a soul tie. She need tough prayers, fasting and deliverance to break out from that bondage.

Finally as much as your boyfriend may be a nice guy(beta) I respect him. He has self respect for himself. He told you to go to your ex because you are always singing about him to him. Madam leave that good man alone for a virtuous lady that will love and respect him. He has told you to go, respect yourself too and go back. Stop pretending to care about his feelings. You are selfish. What you care about is that you won't get nice treatments from him anymore and you don't want another lady to get him.

This is why me as a guy will never marry a nonvirgin lady, they come with a lot of baggages from ex that has so much bleeped them up. You will never have peace of mind with this kind of lady.

Sorry to say but Op, you're very confused.
And I understand perfectly well because I have been in your shoes before. My ex was someone I believed we were soul mates, we were almost inseparable as we shared almost everything in common down to birthdays. The flow was natural, we just understood ourselves but unfortunately I couldn't marry the person because of few reasons that I'll keep anonymous for now.

How I forgot about her was engaging myself in various activities, enjoying life and catching cruise, forgetting about anything called relationship and focused on building myself. I had a life before she came into my life and I'll also have a life after she has left. So, gradually I overcame her effects upon me. I believe same can happen to you too. The dynamics of the mechanisms of the actions you should take is yours alone to reason out, it makes the game more interesting!

Prettylitlady:
Goodday NL members.. I am here for any matured advice I can get as I understand we have matured people here who can talk senses into my head and make me realise one or two things.

I am in my mid 20's, I dated my Ex for few years, we were both students then in one of the West Universities (graduates now) and I really loved him, it was true love I felt for him to be honest, he wasn't working, I don't demand for money from him or anything, I sell clothes, shoes, bags and do other small businesses while schooling, that's how I foot my own Bills and also give him money sometimes when in need. His family knows me, my family knows him like we were so much in each other(or so I thought). I saw no other guy except him, I built my world around him, we were best of friends as I am an introvert and really don't keep friends so he was my all.
Even though it was a tough decision to make, I had to break up with him due to the following reasons;
1. He has beaten me once and promised not to do it again but he still slapped me in every slightest provocation.
2. He wanted to go into yahoo yahoo. That's not the kind of partner I want, I want a legit hustler not a fraudster.
3. He sometimes cheats on me and I will forgive him always. He tells me I am the main while the others is just for cruise that every guy cheats
4. He suddenly started smoking and drinking due to friends influence I guess (Eew, I don't want that)
5. He is Lazy, always wanting big money buh doesn't want to work. I told him to Start from somewhere after our graduation no matter how little buh he won't heed.
6. He always talks dirty with his female friends even in my presence, I wonder what happens behind me.

I ended the relationship after so much talking, pleas and counselling hoping he will change but he didn't. I dated another guy 2 months later, I know nobody is perfect but trust me when I say my current guy is all I ever wanted in a man. But the truth is I really do not love him that deep, He treats me fine and all but I still feel something for my ex maybe because I was already soo used to him. My boyfriend has told me to go back if that's what I want because he doesn't want a divided attention. I know I can't break up with him because it will hurt him so badly and my conscience won't even allow me because he has done literally nothing wrong, yes we normally have our ups and downs but he hasn't done anything worth breaking up over with.

I just need advice on how I can get this my ex off my head for good. We don't communicate, I have deleted all his numbers, We have been separated for few months now but I still think of him every single day even when I have a good guy already. I don't know what is wrong with me pleasee

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