Prettylitlady:
Goodday NL members.. I am here for any matured advice I can get as I understand we have matured people here who can talk senses into my head and make me realise one or two things.

I am in my mid 20's, I dated my Ex for few years, we were both students then in one of the West Universities (graduates now) and I really loved him, it was true love I felt for him to be honest, he wasn't working, I don't demand for money from him or anything, I sell clothes, shoes, bags and do other small businesses while schooling, that's how I foot my own Bills and also give him money sometimes when in need. His family knows me, my family knows him like we were so much in each other(or so I thought). I saw no other guy except him, I built my world around him, we were best of friends as I am an introvert and really don't keep friends so he was my all.
Even though it was a tough decision to make, I had to break up with him due to the following reasons;
1. He has beaten me once and promised not to do it again but he still slapped me in every slightest provocation.
2. He wanted to go into yahoo yahoo. That's not the kind of partner I want, I want a legit hustler not a fraudster.
3. He sometimes cheats on me and I will forgive him always. He tells me I am the main while the others is just for cruise that every guy cheats
4. He suddenly started smoking and drinking due to friends influence I guess (Eew, I don't want that)
5. He is Lazy, always wanting big money buh doesn't want to work. I told him to Start from somewhere after our graduation no matter how little buh he won't heed.
6. He always talks dirty with his female friends even in my presence, I wonder what happens behind me.

I ended the relationship after so much talking, pleas and counselling hoping he will change but he didn't. I dated another guy 2 months later, I know nobody is perfect but trust me when I say my current guy is all I ever wanted in a man. But the truth is I really do not love him that deep, He treats me fine and all but I still feel something for my ex maybe because I was already soo used to him. My boyfriend has told me to go back if that's what I want because he doesn't want a divided attention. I know I can't break up with him because it will hurt him so badly and my conscience won't even allow me because he has done literally nothing wrong, yes we normally have our ups and downs but he hasn't done anything worth breaking up over with.

I just need advice on how I can get this my ex off my head for good. We don't communicate, I have deleted all his numbers, We have been separated for few months now but I still think of him every single day even when I have a good guy already. I don't know what is wrong with me pleasee

You took the right decision by breaking up with such a character as he will frustrate your life if it ends in marriage. Missing your ex happens to everyone even married people too but it diminishes with time. Learn to love your current bf but please stay away from Premarital sex.

Prettylitlady:
Goodday NL members.. I am here for any matured advice I can get as I understand we have matured people here who can talk senses into my head and make me realise one or two things.

I am in my mid 20's, I dated my Ex for few years, we were both students then in one of the West Universities (graduates now) and I really loved him, it was true love I felt for him to be honest, he wasn't working, I don't demand for money from him or anything, I sell clothes, shoes, bags and do other small businesses while schooling, that's how I foot my own Bills and also give him money sometimes when in need. His family knows me, my family knows him like we were so much in each other(or so I thought). I saw no other guy except him, I built my world around him, we were best of friends as I am an introvert and really don't keep friends so he was my all.
Even though it was a tough decision to make, I had to break up with him due to the following reasons;
1. He has beaten me once and promised not to do it again but he still slapped me in every slightest provocation.
2. He wanted to go into yahoo yahoo. That's not the kind of partner I want, I want a legit hustler not a fraudster.
3. He sometimes cheats on me and I will forgive him always. He tells me I am the main while the others is just for cruise that every guy cheats
4. He suddenly started smoking and drinking due to friends influence I guess (Eew, I don't want that)
5. He is Lazy, always wanting big money buh doesn't want to work. I told him to Start from somewhere after our graduation no matter how little buh he won't heed.
6. He always talks dirty with his female friends even in my presence, I wonder what happens behind me.

I ended the relationship after so much talking, pleas and counselling hoping he will change but he didn't. I dated another guy 2 months later, I know nobody is perfect but trust me when I say my current guy is all I ever wanted in a man. But the truth is I really do not love him that deep, He treats me fine and all but I still feel something for my ex maybe because I was already soo used to him. My boyfriend has told me to go back if that's what I want because he doesn't want a divided attention. I know I can't break up with him because it will hurt him so badly and my conscience won't even allow me because he has done literally nothing wrong, yes we normally have our ups and downs but he hasn't done anything worth breaking up over with.

I just need advice on how I can get this my ex off my head for good. We don't communicate, I have deleted all his numbers, We have been separated for few months now but I still think of him every single day even when I have a good guy already. I don't know what is wrong with me pleasee

You are suffering from Stockholm Syndrome. Meet a psychologist.

Pardon my manners... It's only when you have been di. ckmatised that you will see a good guy and you still thinking about someone you said is lazy.

Don't save her she don't wanna be saved... Jcole - no role modelz

Prettylitlady:
Goodday NL members.. I am here for any matured advice I can get as I understand we have matured people here who can talk senses into my head and make me realise one or two things.

I am in my mid 20's, I dated my Ex for few years, we were both students then in one of the West Universities (graduates now) and I really loved him, it was true love I felt for him to be honest, he wasn't working, I don't demand for money from him or anything, I sell clothes, shoes, bags and do other small businesses while schooling, that's how I foot my own Bills and also give him money sometimes when in need. His family knows me, my family knows him like we were so much in each other(or so I thought). I saw no other guy except him, I built my world around him, we were best of friends as I am an introvert and really don't keep friends so he was my all.
Even though it was a tough decision to make, I had to break up with him due to the following reasons;
1. He has beaten me once and promised not to do it again but he still slapped me in every slightest provocation.
2. He wanted to go into yahoo yahoo. That's not the kind of partner I want, I want a legit hustler not a fraudster.
3. He sometimes cheats on me and I will forgive him always. He tells me I am the main while the others is just for cruise that every guy cheats
4. He suddenly started smoking and drinking due to friends influence I guess (Eew, I don't want that)
5. He is Lazy, always wanting big money buh doesn't want to work. I told him to Start from somewhere after our graduation no matter how little buh he won't heed.
6. He always talks dirty with his female friends even in my presence, I wonder what happens behind me.

I ended the relationship after so much talking, pleas and counselling hoping he will change but he didn't. I dated another guy 2 months later, I know nobody is perfect but trust me when I say my current guy is all I ever wanted in a man. But the truth is I really do not love him that deep, He treats me fine and all but I still feel something for my ex maybe because I was already soo used to him. My boyfriend has told me to go back if that's what I want because he doesn't want a divided attention. I know I can't break up with him because it will hurt him so badly and my conscience won't even allow me because he has done literally nothing wrong, yes we normally have our ups and downs but he hasn't done anything worth breaking up over with.

I just need advice on how I can get this my ex off my head for good. We don't communicate, I have deleted all his numbers, We have been separated for few months now but I still think of him every single day even when I have a good guy already. I don't know what is wrong with me pleasee

Madam,stop telling ajambele story.Simply tell us you still desire your ex's dick as a side dish in addition to the main dish.
If you really broke up with him with all your heart,you should have killed every feeling for him and thoughts of the ex wouldn't be crossing your heart.
Even if it did,you will quickly banish it from your mind.

MrBrownJay1:


you ask for the date of her birth, so YES you are asking for personal information that is irrelevant to you (or this thread)... we can only assume that you want to confirm that she is/aint who "you" think she is... to the point where you got butthurt when she refused to give you her birthdate, lol!



he thinks he knows you (or he believes that you are someone he knows) thats why he asked for your personal informations...in order to confirm whether you are "that person" or not. see now how he is throwing insults left right center, like a childish teenager who got grounded!

You people should be learn to be intelligent, he definitely wants to know her start sign … there’s a pattern with our start signs and her date and month will reveal hers

Trust me o...

What you felt for your ex isn't luv...

I see infatuation and lust of some kind..


It happens to every mid age person ones in his/her life time

Soon you will realize that ..

When you find that special one then you will know..

And reasons why you can't get over him easily is simply because he is been in your life like your first real s3x mate and has been for a long time than anyone else..

Trust me you will feel like throwing up at the sight of this guy soon when you truly begin to cherish yourself

If you don't want what happened to osinachi" the gospel singer" to happy to you, better follow your current boyfriend now . I know it is not easy to get him off your heart, but with time you shall conquer.
Engage your heart with something else or think about how he used to beat and cheat on you.
You see sugar and you dey fine bitter leave?

Come on. It's normal human nature to still miss someone you were used to for a couple of years after just few months separation.

If you didn't miss him, then your bond then was not strong.

I will advise you try as much as possible to stay up to year. Move on with your life.
I can tell you, that you would look back and wonder why you even took long with him before breaking up.

The only thing that can make you miss him is if the current person you are dating does not measure up.

Just relax and give it more time. You also need to start going out, meeting people and socializing. Your introvert nature is not helping.
Makes your mind fertile for the devils job.

My take:
You went into another relationship too early. Two months is such short time to move on from a relationship you invested all your emotions in. The current guy is just your rebound, your decision to date him probably was made to help you fill the other guys place.

Leave this guy alone. Let him be. I don't know how long you have been with him but the earlier you leave him the better for you and him.

You will get a man suitable for you but you need to heal first.

Don't go back to that other soul. You have opposing energies that are headed to different directions unless you want to destroy your life.

I am talking from experience.

-He has beaten you b4
-Conceives the idea of yahoo yahoo
-sometimes cheats on you
-smokes weed and drinks
-easily influenced by friends and is lazy

If after noting these terrible red flags and you still have it in mind to build a life with your ex and/or still emotionally attached to him then Something terrible is fundamentally wrong with you.
Go for deliverance.

trudpo:
You can't forget people you had relationships with, whether it ended well or not. The way out is to accept them as part of your past and history. Don't try to forget them, cos trying will continue to hurt you. Acceptance is the road to moving on

Powerful words there....

Prettylitlady:
Goodday NL members.. I am here for any matured advice I can get as I understand we have matured people here who can talk senses into my head and make me realise one or two things.

I am in my mid 20's, I dated my Ex for few years, we were both students then in one of the West Universities (graduates now) and I really loved him, it was true love I felt for him to be honest, he wasn't working, I don't demand for money from him or anything, I sell clothes, shoes, bags and do other small businesses while schooling, that's how I foot my own Bills and also give him money sometimes when in need. His family knows me, my family knows him like we were so much in each other(or so I thought). I saw no other guy except him, I built my world around him, we were best of friends as I am an introvert and really don't keep friends so he was my all.
Even though it was a tough decision to make, I had to break up with him due to the following reasons;
1. He has beaten me once and promised not to do it again but he still slapped me in every slightest provocation.
2. He wanted to go into yahoo yahoo. That's not the kind of partner I want, I want a legit hustler not a fraudster.
3. He sometimes cheats on me and I will forgive him always. He tells me I am the main while the others is just for cruise that every guy cheats
4. He suddenly started smoking and drinking due to friends influence I guess (Eew, I don't want that)
5. He is Lazy, always wanting big money buh doesn't want to work. I told him to Start from somewhere after our graduation no matter how little buh he won't heed.
6. He always talks dirty with his female friends even in my presence, I wonder what happens behind me.

I ended the relationship after so much talking, pleas and counselling hoping he will change but he didn't. I dated another guy 2 months later, I know nobody is perfect but trust me when I say my current guy is all I ever wanted in a man. But the truth is I really do not love him that deep, He treats me fine and all but I still feel something for my ex maybe because I was already soo used to him. My boyfriend has told me to go back if that's what I want because he doesn't want a divided attention. I know I can't break up with him because it will hurt him so badly and my conscience won't even allow me because he has done literally nothing wrong, yes we normally have our ups and downs but he hasn't done anything worth breaking up over with.

I just need advice on how I can get this my ex off my head for good. We don't communicate, I have deleted all his numbers, We have been separated for few months now but I still think of him every single day even when I have a good guy already. I don't know what is wrong with me pleasee

To be very honest with you , you need Jesus ! , sex isn’t just a thing , it’s binds the soul together and it’s sacred ! It’s not what you think it is , many thing happen and souls get destroyed in that acts , destines and glories .
It binds two souls and make them one , that’s why people find it hard to forget the exes , especially long relationships . I used to experience that until I gave my life to Jesus .
If you would take my advice, I think you need to pray , ask God for mercy and tell him to help you , your soul and his are bound , I’m sure he’s the one that took your virginity.
Ask Jesus for mercy and even ur current relationship, flee from sexual immorality and he (God) will help you , all those thoughts (lust) and urges will leave , trust me it won’t be easy , but it’s worth it , wait for the right man , and stay away from sexual immorality.
Thank you

Hmmm...
You're dating and you already have this problem! What would happen when you get married?

I really don't know why you were in a rush to get into another relationship after breaking up with that 'your ex'...
And hey! I think you have good reasons to break up, but trust me, if you think that's the end to your problems (like you said the new guy is "all you wanted in a man", girl, you're mistaken!

So here is it;

1. Remain neutral for as long as it takes for your soul to be prepared for another dating.

2. Keep adding value to yourself (your erudition still needs more brush-up...)

3. Stay off premarital sex - I have reasons to believe this is the main reason you can't let off easily...

Good luck

Prettylitlady:
Goodday NL members.. I am here for any matured advice I can get as I understand we have matured people here who can talk senses into my head and make me realise one or two things.

I am in my mid 20's, I dated my Ex for few years, we were both students then in one of the West Universities (graduates now) and I really loved him, it was true love I felt for him to be honest, he wasn't working, I don't demand for money from him or anything, I sell clothes, shoes, bags and do other small businesses while schooling, that's how I foot my own Bills and also give him money sometimes when in need. His family knows me, my family knows him like we were so much in each other(or so I thought). I saw no other guy except him, I built my world around him, we were best of friends as I am an introvert and really don't keep friends so he was my all.
Even though it was a tough decision to make, I had to break up with him due to the following reasons;
1. He has beaten me once and promised not to do it again but he still slapped me in every slightest provocation.
2. He wanted to go into yahoo yahoo. That's not the kind of partner I want, I want a legit hustler not a fraudster.
3. He sometimes cheats on me and I will forgive him always. He tells me I am the main while the others is just for cruise that every guy cheats
4. He suddenly started smoking and drinking due to friends influence I guess (Eew, I don't want that)
5. He is Lazy, always wanting big money buh doesn't want to work. I told him to Start from somewhere after our graduation no matter how little buh he won't heed.
6. He always talks dirty with his female friends even in my presence, I wonder what happens behind me.

I ended the relationship after so much talking, pleas and counselling hoping he will change but he didn't. I dated another guy 2 months later, I know nobody is perfect but trust me when I say my current guy is all I ever wanted in a man. But the truth is I really do not love him that deep, He treats me fine and all but I still feel something for my ex maybe because I was already soo used to him. My boyfriend has told me to go back if that's what I want because he doesn't want a divided attention. I know I can't break up with him because it will hurt him so badly and my conscience won't even allow me because he has done literally nothing wrong, yes we normally have our ups and downs but he hasn't done anything worth breaking up over with.

I just need advice on how I can get this my ex off my head for good. We don't communicate, I have deleted all his numbers, We have been separated for few months now but I still think of him every single day even when I have a good guy already. I don't know what is wrong with me pleasee

I know it's hard but trust me you are very lucky to have gotten a good guy. What you are going through is a normal thing for every body so relax things will surely fall in place

Just stick with your current bf forget about your ex totally he has nothing to offer as it stands babe. Only time will tell you’re going to forget abt him

Honestly, a guy who beats you doesn't deserve you no matter what. Asides this, he also has a lot of red flags. I can't still imagine you still crave for him. You need some time to heal and move on with your life.

My advice is you need to heal properly before you jump into another relationship (but since you have done this it's only Jesus that can help you heal of not it's going to affect your present relationship). You need to have this personal relationship with the holy spirit, He can guide you properly.

Any man that doesn't show you the 1st Cor 13 kind of love is not worth it.

Be led by the Holy Spirit and incidence like this will be a thing of the past.

In addition listen to teachings on marriage and relationships, read books with respect to this topic, you can unlearn and relearn a lot of things.

Happy Sunday.

It's normal that you're thinking of ur EX..cos u gave him some years. I will advise you not to go back to him.. what u mentioned here are enough red flags. Give it time... you'll get over him.

Prettylitlady:
Goodday NL members.. I am here for any matured advice I can get as I understand we have matured people here who can talk senses into my head and make me realise one or two things.

. I don't know what is wrong with me pleasee

I thank God for your life for the courage to move on from your ex, that's the most important thing. The rest you will have to deal with it or even learn how to live with it, but trust me it's better than staying with that guy. Anytime you remember him instead of catching feelings, just keep thanking God that you were able to leave such a bad personality, your life would have been messed up one way or the other and the regret would have been unbearable. I personally think of my ex every now and then especially when I'm idle but I keep thanking God that the major reason I left her has already manifested. So this is how I console myself anytime such thoughts come and over time I have begin to think less and less of her. My present wife is more beautiful, more successful which is more valuable than the craziness of my ex which I sometimes craze. Count your present blessings and count the rest as loss, no time waste feelings on anybody that is past tense

Prettylitlady:
Goodday NL members.. I am here for any matured advice I can get as I understand we have matured people here who can talk senses into my head and make me realise one or two things.

I am in my mid 20's, I dated my Ex for few years, we were both students then in one of the West Universities (graduates now) and I really loved him, it was true love I felt for him to be honest, he wasn't working, I don't demand for money from him or anything, I sell clothes, shoes, bags and do other small businesses while schooling, that's how I foot my own Bills and also give him money sometimes when in need. His family knows me, my family knows him like we were so much in each other(or so I thought). I saw no other guy except him, I built my world around him, we were best of friends as I am an introvert and really don't keep friends so he was my all.
Even though it was a tough decision to make, I had to break up with him due to the following reasons;
1. He has beaten me once and promised not to do it again but he still slapped me in every slightest provocation.
2. He wanted to go into yahoo yahoo. That's not the kind of partner I want, I want a legit hustler not a fraudster.
3. He sometimes cheats on me and I will forgive him always. He tells me I am the main while the others is just for cruise that every guy cheats
4. He suddenly started smoking and drinking due to friends influence I guess (Eew, I don't want that)
5. He is Lazy, always wanting big money buh doesn't want to work. I told him to Start from somewhere after our graduation no matter how little buh he won't heed.
6. He always talks dirty with his female friends even in my presence, I wonder what happens behind me.

I ended the relationship after so much talking, pleas and counselling hoping he will change but he didn't. I dated another guy 2 months later, I know nobody is perfect but trust me when I say my current guy is all I ever wanted in a man. But the truth is I really do not love him that deep, He treats me fine and all but I still feel something for my ex maybe because I was already soo used to him. My boyfriend has told me to go back if that's what I want because he doesn't want a divided attention. I know I can't break up with him because it will hurt him so badly and my conscience won't even allow me because he has done literally nothing wrong, yes we normally have our ups and downs but he hasn't done anything worth breaking up over with.

I just need advice on how I can get this my ex off my head for good. We don't communicate, I have deleted all his numbers, We have been separated for few months now but I still think of him every single day even when I have a good guy already. I don't know what is wrong with me pleasee

If you want to hear the truth and not just what you think you need to hear, then continue reading this.

1. You won’t get over him: a relationship that has taken so much from you, and pushed you to your limits is not easy to let go, you’ll keep feeling like there’s something that could be done and if there’s a possibility for you both to make things work, you’ll imagine scenarios and always miss him so badly. Sometimes you’ll miss him so much you’ll shed tears, but here’s the deal, there’s a reason you left, he knows there’s a reason you left him, if you try to reach out to him, he’ll take advantage of it and continue to exploit it knowing you don’t have a choice than to keep loving him.

2. No one will ever be able to fill his shoes : You’ll always compare your ex with every single man you meet, and whether better or worse, they’ll never have the chemistry you and your ex had. So learn to accept that, stop trying to assume you’ll eventually love them like you did your ex because you won’t. You’ll eventually love them if you give them a chance, but you’ll never have that kind of love you had for your ex, he’s taken a huge part of your emotional palette, and no one can create or recreate what you shared with him, so learn to love people for who they are and what they bring in your life.

3. Don’t see your new relationship as a way to fix your mistakes, this would make you keep projecting your fears and insecurities on your new partner. You’ll see certain things and be afraid that they’re signs of the bad things you put up with during your last relationship with the said ex. So try to have a fresh and open mind about your new relationship, let mistakes happen but let your guard down a bit.


4. Stay away from your ex: avoid him, avoid his pictures, avoid his fragrance, avoid his family, avoid his peers, and lastly avoid thoughts of him, it’ll take a conscious effort but keep shunning the thoughts when they start coming, quickly get busy and occupy your mind with something else.

5. Create time for yourself: you’ve built your world around someone else for a while, so first, you need to tear down that world and let go of that routine, learn new things, go see a movie by yourself or with friends, hangout, make new friends, meet new people, learn a new skill, expand and broaden your view of the world around you, it’ll take time but you’ll eventually realize that he doesn’t even fit anymore into the new amazing life you’re living, he’s now in your past and that’s truly where he belongs.

All the best.

Pardon my typos.

zexy2030:

Did I ask of her age? As matured as you are, u r still dumb. I pity ur kids..they've got nothing to learn from you. Foolishness has been your template.

Ahn Ahn
Guy, you are hot tempered o.
Be calming down kwanu

Someone is holding a fish, yet still have eyes in crayfish. I pity the good guy

And it's obvious the poster would fuccking her ex behind the new guy whenever she sets her eyes on the ex.

May God deliver good men from confused women

Prettylitlady:


I swear.. He is asking as if he knows me personally

lool. He didn’t ask for your age he definitely didn’t ask for the calendar year. When a person asks for your birth date, they most likely are asking for the month and day. Astrologers can give you a whole lot if guidance using just day and month. ThT was why he asked. Unfortunately, NIGERIANS overthink too much.

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Believe u me, I am in the same situation. Though I am married. We dated for more than 6 years, I still have feelings for my ex, my first love. Eventually we broke up. I will advice u to move on with the new guy, please don't compare them, be thanking God for showing u the true colour of your ex and the red flags he exhibit. He will never change. Learn from cases of spouses beating themselves to death. There is a recent case of domestic violence which lead to the death of someone. A broken relationship is better than a broken marriage. You will regret it, if you go back to him, you may never be happy and it will be too late. My own case is complicated, if not because God 8 divorce, we will have go our separate ways.

Prettylitlady:

My birthdate has nothing to do with Advice, Drop one if you have any. Thanks

You’re here looking for advice but couldn’t answer an honest question someone asked you. That alone is one of many clues that you may well be the problem and not the men you’re involved with.

Ur just being emotional here I see no how u love a guy with those attitude u mentioned
The only thing that make u go back to him is because he is good on bed and he give it to u as u like
Remove the sex aspect from ur head an u see the feeling go off

U only love the sex and romance u get from him no that u love him
Stop being emotional and face reality

Sex and love is two different thing u better come back to ur senses

This shit happened to me
My ex we dated and she left me and marriad some one
Later she stated coming back to me
I said to my self wats bringing this lady back I thout it was money I send me 100k thinking it was money I later realise it was the sex we had for long
She started telling me how am good on bed bla bla bla

I have to run from her and stopped pinking her calls

I came to understand that MouthAction and good sex make some women loss control and focus

Ladies always love who treats them like trash.

Why?

Prettylitlady:
Goodday NL members.. I am here for any matured advice I can get as I understand we have matured people here who can talk senses into my head and make me realise one or two things.

I am in my mid 20's, I dated my Ex for few years, we were both students then in one of the West Universities (graduates now) and I really loved him, it was true love I felt for him to be honest, he wasn't working, I don't demand for money from him or anything, I sell clothes, shoes, bags and do other small businesses while schooling, that's how I foot my own Bills and also give him money sometimes when in need. His family knows me, my family knows him like we were so much in each other(or so I thought). I saw no other guy except him, I built my world around him, we were best of friends as I am an introvert and really don't keep friends so he was my all.
Even though it was a tough decision to make, I had to break up with him due to the following reasons;
1. He has beaten me once and promised not to do it again but he still slapped me in every slightest provocation.
2. He wanted to go into yahoo yahoo. That's not the kind of partner I want, I want a legit hustler not a fraudster.
3. He sometimes cheats on me and I will forgive him always. He tells me I am the main while the others is just for cruise that every guy cheats
4. He suddenly started smoking and drinking due to friends influence I guess (Eew, I don't want that)
5. He is Lazy, always wanting big money buh doesn't want to work. I told him to Start from somewhere after our graduation no matter how little buh he won't heed.
6. He always talks dirty with his female friends even in my presence, I wonder what happens behind me.

I ended the relationship after so much talking, pleas and counselling hoping he will change but he didn't. I dated another guy 2 months later, I know nobody is perfect but trust me when I say my current guy is all I ever wanted in a man. But the truth is I really do not love him that deep, He treats me fine and all but I still feel something for my ex maybe because I was already soo used to him. My boyfriend has told me to go back if that's what I want because he doesn't want a divided attention. I know I can't break up with him because it will hurt him so badly and my conscience won't even allow me because he has done literally nothing wrong, yes we normally have our ups and downs but he hasn't done anything worth breaking up over with.

I just need advice on how I can get this my ex off my head for good. We don't communicate, I have deleted all his numbers, We have been separated for few months now but I still think of him every single day even when I have a good guy already. I don't know what is wrong with me pleasee

it's a normal thing... Give it time and you won't remember him again. Secondly, always think about his bad attitude that gets you pissed off then you will hate him more, think of the hell you would have been if you had gotten married to him. Then start thanking God for delivering you

hardon1:
Someone is holding a fish, yet still have eyes in crayfish. I pity the good guy

And it's obvious the poster would fuccking her ex behind the new guy whenever she sets her eyes on the ex.

May God deliver good men from confused women

that may happen between them, I hope I and my ex won't jam, if we ever meet again, I may cheat on my spouse.

Prettylitlady:
Goodday NL members.. I am here for any matured advice I can get as I understand we have matured people here who can talk senses into my head and make me realise one or two things.

I am in my mid 20's, I dated my Ex for few years, we were both students then in one of the West Universities (graduates now) and I really loved him, it was true love I felt for him to be honest, he wasn't working, I don't demand for money from him or anything, I sell clothes, shoes, bags and do other small businesses while schooling, that's how I foot my own Bills and also give him money sometimes when in need. His family knows me, my family knows him like we were so much in each other(or so I thought). I saw no other guy except him, I built my world around him, we were best of friends as I am an introvert and really don't keep friends so he was my all.
Even though it was a tough decision to make, I had to break up with him due to the following reasons;
1. He has beaten me once and promised not to do it again but he still slapped me in every slightest provocation.
2. He wanted to go into yahoo yahoo. That's not the kind of partner I want, I want a legit hustler not a fraudster.
3. He sometimes cheats on me and I will forgive him always. He tells me I am the main while the others is just for cruise that every guy cheats
4. He suddenly started smoking and drinking due to friends influence I guess (Eew, I don't want that)
5. He is Lazy, always wanting big money buh doesn't want to work. I told him to Start from somewhere after our graduation no matter how little buh he won't heed.
6. He always talks dirty with his female friends even in my presence, I wonder what happens behind me.

I ended the relationship after so much talking, pleas and counselling hoping he will change but he didn't. I dated another guy 2 months later, I know nobody is perfect but trust me when I say my current guy is all I ever wanted in a man. But the truth is I really do not love him that deep, He treats me fine and all but I still feel something for my ex maybe because I was already soo used to him. My boyfriend has told me to go back if that's what I want because he doesn't want a divided attention. I know I can't break up with him because it will hurt him so badly and my conscience won't even allow me because he has done literally nothing wrong, yes we normally have our ups and downs but he hasn't done anything worth breaking up over with.

I just need advice on how I can get this my ex off my head for good. We don't communicate, I have deleted all his numbers, We have been separated for few months now but I still think of him every single day even when I have a good guy already. I don't know what is wrong with me pleasee

You have to choose one guy. Leave your ex alone and stick with your new guy.

I will advise u too focus more on yourself n try n bring confidence into your new retionship. Bet me what you have for your former boyfriend is what I called emotional attachment n feelings not genuine love. With time n determination m sure you will get over it. We have all pass through this stage, it takes a strong n discipline mind to move on. As u do that don't in anyway try comparing ur ex with ur new guy.

Prettylitlady:
Goodday NL members.. I am here for any matured advice I can get as I understand we have matured people here who can talk senses into my head and make me realise one or two things.

I am in my mid 20's, I dated my Ex for few years, we were both students then in one of the West Universities (graduates now) and I really loved him, it was true love I felt for him to be honest, he wasn't working, I don't demand for money from him or anything, I sell clothes, shoes, bags and do other small businesses while schooling, that's how I foot my own Bills and also give him money sometimes when in need. His family knows me, my family knows him like we were so much in each other(or so I thought). I saw no other guy except him, I built my world around him, we were best of friends as I am an introvert and really don't keep friends so he was my all.
Even though it was a tough decision to make, I had to break up with him due to the following reasons;
1. He has beaten me once and promised not to do it again but he still slapped me in every slightest provocation.
2. He wanted to go into yahoo yahoo. That's not the kind of partner I want, I want a legit hustler not a fraudster.
3. He sometimes cheats on me and I will forgive him always. He tells me I am the main while the others is just for cruise that every guy cheats
4. He suddenly started smoking and drinking due to friends influence I guess (Eew, I don't want that)
5. He is Lazy, always wanting big money buh doesn't want to work. I told him to Start from somewhere after our graduation no matter how little buh he won't heed.
6. He always talks dirty with his female friends even in my presence, I wonder what happens behind me.

I ended the relationship after so much talking, pleas and counselling hoping he will change but he didn't. I dated another guy 2 months later, I know nobody is perfect but trust me when I say my current guy is all I ever wanted in a man. But the truth is I really do not love him that deep, He treats me fine and all but I still feel something for my ex maybe because I was already soo used to him. My boyfriend has told me to go back if that's what I want because he doesn't want a divided attention. I know I can't break up with him because it will hurt him so badly and my conscience won't even allow me because he has done literally nothing wrong, yes we normally have our ups and downs but he hasn't done anything worth breaking up over with.

I just need advice on how I can get this my ex off my head for good. We don't communicate, I have deleted all his numbers, We have been separated for few months now but I still think of him every single day even when I have a good guy already. I don't know what is wrong with me pleasee

there's no easy way of forgetting him. The both of you shared years of memory together,so it will definitely be difficult to forget all those years, it's also normal to miss him. But realise that whatever action you decided was for your good. You noticed he wasn't right for you and you did the best thing for yourself by cutting him off. Now another best thing for yourself is by moving on. Don't let the shadows of your ex control your love life.

With time the memories will fade, but it is not immediate.
There's no way to forget him,it's normal for memories to linger on. It's just left to you to decide if you want that memory to destroy you completely.

DON'T TRY GOING BACK TO YOUR EX,DONT TRY COMMUNICATING WITH HIM. If you do, it will only make the situation worse.