milliondollas:
I PITY YOUR LIFE DO YOU HAVE A FAMILY ? WE HAVE SO MANY FOOLISH MEN LIKE YOU

The fact that you type with capital letters says a lot about you.
I wouldn't waste insults on you.
get a life!

as you were...

Maverick777:

don't comment just because you've cheap data, avoid embarrassing yourself.

as you were...

Look at dis small boy...have you ever in your simping life bought me data before?...now run along

GeneralPula:
Before all these, she already told me that she has a 4-year old daughter, which he had for a guy when she was still schooling, but later found out the guy had a family and she cut ties.

In future’s voice... * Now if they don’t have a story, they’ll make one*

She wan carry you over 1.5 and if you fall for it, you’ll regret it until the end of time..

You talk say you get better job? Instead make you go for going fresh young blood, nah one extra tyre you wan struck with...

Well, star player no go shine if otu no dey..
Wise people no go shine if dullards no dey..

Nah life design ham like that..

define 'fresh blood'??
your post simply revealed your age.
when you grow up as a man, you'd know all we need from women is peace of mind!

Sweetplum:
Maverick777, try and find out the real reason the baby daddy left before proceeding with marriage or adoption.
I m a woman that ll preach accountability.
You deserve to know every truth.
And to anyone who come here to bash women. God ll bash you too, amen!

you were making sense...., until your final paragraph.

thanks anyway.

Favfables1:
How can you adopt a child without the knowledge and consent of his father? ....

And for her to suggest this speaks volumes of her personality ....

I will never marry a single mother, and I wouldn't advice you to either, but since your mind is already made up, I would advise that you have a talk with the biological father of the child, gain more info as to why they separated ....

Her own narrative will most likely be a biased one, seeing that she has more to gain ...

Know what you're getting yourself into OP...
I wish you good luck chief...

big thanks man!

OscarJaden:
oga no be everything be simp
He was the one that suggested not the mother of the girl

you're wise!
funny enough, 99% of them that always use the word(SIMP) don't actually know what it means and the right context to use it.

Maverick777:

you were making sense...., until your final paragraph.

thanks anyway.

I repeat, anyman here who come to bash a woman, God ll bash that man, amen!
Sorry, it be like say my post pepper your eyes?

NaturalKinzzy:
Can you explain what you just put up there @Op?

Get someone who understands English to diffuse it for you sir.

drnoel:


Best answer here above

I mean what is the reason to beat yourself when U can sit down with her and talk things thru. Yes, women have a tendency to alter narrative to suit themselves but once you start hearing the truth from your woman, you would know.
Table the issue, talk it thru and thru till your mind is settled on the issue. Don't stop asking her questions about it till it's settled in your mind.

trust me I'm extremely meticulous, I've done all that, the girl's mother is 100% comfortable with anything I want.
now what I need is experience, that's why I brought this here..

Johndagr8t:
run oooo


d werey go manipulate you till den finish your papa,no worry e go soon clear for ya mama eye!!!!!

I doubt you have parents.

as you were...

Sweetplum:

I repeat, anyman here who come to bash a woman, God ll bash that man, amen!
Sorry, it be like say my post pepper your eyes?

I'm just wondering what you're like on ground if you're this dull!
what does what you just said have to do with anything?
or you think your prayers would've any effect on strangers? why waste your data talking gibberish?
why not channel that energy to something more productive?
My dear, try to think and act smart, so you don't end up embarrassing yourself in public.

as you were...

Maverick777:

I'm just wondering what you're like on ground if you're this dull!
what does what you just said have to do with anything?
or you think your prayers would've any effect on strangers? why waste your data talking gibberish?
why not channel that energy to something more productive?
My dear, try to think and act smart, so you don't end up embarrassing yourself in public.

as you were...

Na me you bash like this?
And you think you are intelligent.
Ok. Thanks for your compliments o.
And thanks in advance for any other bullet you may throw.
Last Drop:
You are a dumb man. You are adopting a child without proper consent. And you v the gut to quote and try to talk like a man with wisdom. Bloody simp. You n your urchins ll be here forming redpill. Redpill ko, blackpill ni. Mumuman called Maverick 777.
Ori e ti buru!

Op read the thread below

https://www.nairaland.com/5144553/men-marriage-how-pick-wife

Only a fool marries a single mother.

Maverick777:
I'd make this as brief as possible.. This is my debut post here on NL.
I'm in my early 30's, currently work in the oil and gas sector and I'd say I'm an 8.5/10 guy in all ramifications.
Now to the issue, I met this lady sometime last year(JUNE) at a popular fast food here in delta, she was (and still is) the manager of the place. One of the cashiers was being rude to me, she intervened and I must say, I was immediately lovestruck! She's really not the, sweep-you-off-your-feet kinda girl, but she seemed pretty smart (I'm extremely Sapiosexual).
Long story short, I gave her my card, she called, visited severally and after like 6months we got intimate and all.... Before all these, she already told me that she has a 4-year old daughter, which he had for a guy when she was still schooling, but later found out the guy had a family and she cut ties. She had the baby and he knows but she told him to stay away! And since then till now, there has been no communication whatsoever between them.
My dilemma is, I like her enough to wife her, taking in the kid is not an issue(I adore female kids) and they(MUM and DAUGHTER) both love me to bits, adore me and all. Overall I would say she's a 6.5/10 Lady.
Yesterday she suggested that why don't I adopt the kid legally, as I already changed her surname to mine, because I wanted to open accounts for her(THE KID), she said she had a dream that her baby daddy came to make amends, request for his daughter and serious issue broke out bla bla bla....
Now, I know ladies would always twist the narrative to suit themselves and all, and my gut feeling tells me there's more to that separation than she's telling!
I want to hear some expert advise concerning this before I take the next step, to be honest I'm a novice in this area(never had anything to do with a single mum before now).
Do I go ahead to adopt the kid legally??

Sensible inputs would be well appreciated.
I'd be glad if this hits Front Page

CC: SEUN
LALASTICLALA
MYND44

in just 2 to 3yes from now,she will begin to fvck her baby daddy, and may possibly give birth to the guy's kids in your home.
Single mothers don't actually cut ties with their baby daddys,they only delay it just to get married.
Do not think you are going to be different.
As for changing the surname,you will regret it when you start having your own children,the 4yr old girl will never,I repeat,never ever truly bond with your biological children(especially the girls).
Do not create problems for yourself and unborn kids.

Animegirl:


First, we ladies except your flaws, having different kids from another woman but rain insults on single mothers forgetting they were heroines in their previous relationship.

Dear Op; you're a confuse man. You already changed the kid name to your surname because you want to open an account. Tell me Op what is the difference btw adoption and changing the kid's surname to yours? For you to open an account for the kid means you love her(kid).

The mother gave you a better option at least, all your spending on the child won't be in vain. You get to train the girl as yours and not another man's child.

Men are confuse, gezz.

hope you ll advice your brother or male child alike

and what happens when the mother starts another version of romance with her baby daddy behind the Op?

Sweetplum:
Maverick777, try and find out the real reason the baby daddy left before proceeding with marriage or adoption.
I m a woman that ll preach accountability.
You deserve to know every truth.
And to anyone who come here to bash women. God ll bash you too, amen!

this bitter single mum again

tiswell:
this bitter single mum again

Do I know you?
Have we met before?
For your new info, I v not given birth before. Am a rear rubber wife material.

When we think about finding someone, falling in love, and settling down, we rarely like to think
about one of the possible outcomes of getting married or getting divorced. Divorce is,
unfortunately, a real part of some relationships. that doesn’t mean it has to happen to you. While
you can’t prevent life from getting in the way, you can make sure your relationship is as strong
as possible to withstand them. And, ideally, that starts way before you even get married.




https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=4-oghen7gMU

Sweetplum:

Do I know you?
Have we met before?
For your new info, I v not given birth before. Am a rear rubber wife material.

story,damage control

Sweetplum:

I repeat, anyman here who come to bash a woman, God ll bash that man, amen!
Sorry, it be like say my post pepper your eyes?

English language in the mud

Maverick777:
I'd make this as brief as possible.. This is my debut post here on NL.
I'm in my early 30's, currently work in the oil and gas sector and I'd say I'm an 8.5/10 guy in all ramifications.
Now to the issue, I met this lady sometime last year(JUNE) at a popular fast food here in delta, she was (and still is) the manager of the place. One of the cashiers was being rude to me, she intervened and I must say, I was immediately lovestruck! She's really not the, sweep-you-off-your-feet kinda girl, but she seemed pretty smart (I'm extremely Sapiosexual).
Long story short, I gave her my card, she called, visited severally and after like 6months we got intimate and all.... Before all these, she already told me that she has a 4-year old daughter, which he had for a guy when she was still schooling, but later found out the guy had a family and she cut ties. She had the baby and he knows but she told him to stay away! And since then till now, there has been no communication whatsoever between them.
My dilemma is, I like her enough to wife her, taking in the kid is not an issue(I adore female kids) and they(MUM and DAUGHTER) both love me to bits, adore me and all. Overall I would say she's a 6.5/10 Lady.
Yesterday she suggested that why don't I adopt the kid legally, as I already changed her surname to mine, because I wanted to open accounts for her(THE KID), she said she had a dream that her baby daddy came to make amends, request for his daughter and serious issue broke out bla bla bla....
Now, I know ladies would always twist the narrative to suit themselves and all, and my gut feeling tells me there's more to that separation than she's telling!
I want to hear some expert advise concerning this before I take the next step, to be honest I'm a novice in this area(never had anything to do with a single mum before now).
Do I go ahead to adopt the kid legally??

Sensible inputs would be well appreciated.
I'd be glad if this hits Front Page

CC: SEUN
LALASTICLALA
MYND44

Why would u SIMPly change her daughter's surname and adopt her? Are u her biological father? Let her ex take care of the Bills, not u.

Sweetplum:

Na me you bash like this?
And you think you are intelligent.
Ok. Thanks for your compliments o.
And thanks in advance for any other bullet you may throw.
Last Drop:
You are a dumb man. You are adopting a child without proper consent. And you v the gut to quote and try to talk like a man with wisdom. Bloody simp. You n your urchins ll be here forming redpill. Redpill ko, blackpill ni. Mumuman called Maverick 777.
Ori e ti buru!

you must be terr.ible in reality

Guy just walk away jor

Forget adoption, trace her background to learn more about her, love them all as family, play your part well, marry the lady if you love her and invest on both kid

Hamzaaaaaaaa:

English language in the mud

Who is this he-goat?

tiswell:
you must be terr.ible in reality

I v said it again n again. I m very peaceful.
Na person wey find my trouble I dey try advise.

Sweetplum:

Who is this he-goat?

The name suits your elder brothers the best

Hamzaaaaaaaa:

The name suits your elder brothers the best

Aja ni o je furo e.

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Animegirl:


First, we ladies except your flaws, having different kids from another woman but rain insults on single mothers forgetting they were heroines in their previous relationship.

Dear Op; you're a confuse man. You already changed the kid name to your surname because you want to open an account. Tell me Op what is the difference btw adoption and changing the kid's surname to yours? For you to open an account for the kid means you love her(kid).

The mother gave you a better option at least, all your spending on the child won't be in vain. You get to train the girl as yours and not another man's child.

Men are confuse, gezz.

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makes no sense
being a feminist is not your calling

Sweetplum:

Aja ni o je furo e.

Aja ni o je obo e

Maverick777:

the child stays with her
the man stays in a city in delta state
and yes, he's married with like 4 kids, that's why she left him in the first place.
as for them still being in contact, I sincerely doubt that, but I know the dream stuff might be a figment of her imagination..
thanks for your input.

Then no problem. Do you personal questioning. Go for both spiritual and secular marriage counseling.

Do not hide anything from the counselor.