Sorry man. We all face these times. Try not to make it last longer because the negative emotions you generate in this period will resurface as a much harder problem for you now or in the future. You do not want that.

Focus on the love you have for her instead. She is close by and ready to comfort you but your depression may be a barrier. She should meet you in your dreams.

A

Cum make i use u don moni i promise your children no go suffer

Everything you feel right now is normal. After my uncle and younger sister died within the space of three months, I gave up on life.

Any day I wake up, I do my bit and don't bother myself about stuff.

Life is truly vanity

Bro, you just reminded me of my Mum’s demise. Firstly, accept my condolence.

After her demise, if I had stayed back home, I think it will had been very terrible because I had mild pains in my chest from time immemorial that comes up occasionally, but when she died..I didn’t cry aloud, I was deeply in tears inside of me, which is very dangerous..the next day, the heart/chest pain increased to the level I never witness…fortunately, I left for Nysc orientation camp after some days…while in camp, I was mourning but had friends and people around to talk and get busy with..I missed that one person’s call to know how I was in camp and all the motherly affections even though my elder sis tried to fit in the gap..but mum’s love in irreplaceable.

After 3weeks at the camp, her death and absence resurfaced on reaching the state of my Nysc, which she made way for me to serve through her connection…a cousin then gave me the biggest betrayal of my life, promised to let me stay in his house for some days before acclimatising to my new environment and subsequently, get my accommodation. On reaching the state, brother refuse to pick calls and then switched off his phone…I stayed at the motor park wondering where to go…I then went to fellowship camp…story long

That event brought back memories of my mum, the chest pain that was subsiding and extreme disappointment with my cousin who usually come to our crib and always felt at home way back…Nigga never called till date, since 2012.

Take heart bro…leave the environment if you can….but Mama’s demise will remain indelible in the heart…big moments will come, and all you can think of is WHERE IS MAMA

Stay strong for yourself and others.

OP I can relate with everything you said. Reading your sojourn here seem like I was telling my story the only difference between us is the fact that you’re not the first male child.

For me, my mom was strong and was looking very healthy and we were preparing to go home two days after she died. I bought her rice, she ate 3/4 and i was querying her if she wanted to starve me and she laughed. She asked instructed I give her her phone that she wanted to watch Movies and I few minutes later, my once healthy mother was gasping for air, looking at me while I run down the pathway of ISTH A&E ward yelling at the top of my voice calling out for doctors to help me. My mom died as a result of cardiac arrest.

In all of this, my mom’s god couldn’t do shi.t to stop her from dying. For someone who didn’t miss her daily text ( a JW pamphlet ) even while in a medical addled state one would have expected that an nonexisting god should come through since the said god has dominion over death. At least that’s what a rational, intelligent and productive person should do.

My mom’s death made me start seeing life from a different perspective…

That period was the toughest period of my life, I am grateful to NerdyAboki, he sent me a YouTube playlist. Amaka, my girlfriend too.

I’m trying to get busy and move on but sincerely, the whole: ”time heals” thing in my opinion does work especially when it relates to the death of a loved one. Everyday around 12pm, every 5th day of the month are period no matter how happy I’m, when this time comes, there’s this wave of sadness that envelop me.

Sleep in power Iya Kas. I miss you and I’d miss you more.


{I’ll not be going back to reread to correct any grammatical error}

Op just go download enya book of days mp3 listen to it, holding her pictures in your hands, and let the tears flow, do it for a week straight, if symptoms persists plz consult your doctor.

Please, accept my heartfelt condolences... your loss is still fresh. Please, give yourself time and try not to be alone as much as possible... may God's healing and comfort flow into your heart.

Only time can heal your pain, I have been through similar case.

dboY1123:
It is a month already that my mom died in my hands.. I am really depressed!! I have been seeing life as nothing and vanity, I can't get over her, memories with her kept coming back really hard I tried to keep myself busy by watching movies, playing games and so on..But that doesn't stop my mind from remembering her.

These days, nothing bothers me again, not even life or death, I still have a father but it doesn't change things..

There was a time I went to school (my ppa), my proprietor was trying to pacify me by talking about when he lost his wife back then and everything, I started feeling uneasy and extremely tired..it wasn't stress at all my stomach started aching and I felt like vomiting or even passing out..he noticed it and I quickly left his presence and I went back home to shower and rest..

Please how can I get over my mom, I'm so obsessed with her and her memories kept coming in my head that every time I felt I could have done something to rescue her despite everything I did, taking her to state hospitals and even private.. I am the last born and I am about 29years..I have elder ones like 45(first born) but I took so much responsibilities when she was sick and I was only the one she could call everytime she's depressed due to memory loss..I later found out her sickness was related to heart failure and it was congestive heart failure she was going through.. All those times we thought she had nocturnal asthma like early last year..

It was only last month we knew that it was cardiomyopathy or cardiomegaly heart related.. The general hospitals we took her too didn't say anything like that, one of them only said her liver seemed bigger than the normal one..And we thought it was edema cz her legs were swollen.. So, it was heart related disease and it led to cardiac arrest or heart attack cz she just vomited and stopped breathing all of a sudden..

It took me 3 good years to get over my mother's death, the mystery of time eventually healed me, now I live with her sweet memory even though I still miss her dearly.
I will make her my mother over and over .
You will be fine, time will heal you trust me.

God will console you.

dboY1123
Take heart bro its a phase it will surely pass...

The Los is your strength

dboY1123:


Please how can I get over my mom, I'm so obsessed with her and her memories kept coming in my head.

Stay strong.. Following my dad's death , my grief was profound and enduring..

The event was life-shattering for me and profoundly altered the course of my life.

But, you will be fine.. When the worst that can happen to you actually happens, and you bear it, then you are the strongest of men in the world. Which, actually, may NOT be a good thing.

So sorry, I hope time heals you.
And consider getting a babe or get married to raise a family.
Also, she is in a place of perfect peace. At the end, all men shall taste death

I’ve been preparing myself for my parent’s deaths since 2020 or so. They are getting old. I’m so scared of it.

I love them very much but I know I will have to bury them one day. I hope I can bear it.

Be strong. It is our parents’ prayer that we bury them not the other way round. We must all go one day. My condolences.

Damn!
My mum was buried last week too but I must say it's nothing to me anymore, I've console myself and decided to move on... It's more like a motivation to me for me to work harder and make her proud wherever she is.

You'll definitely get over it with time

dboY1123:
It is a month already that my mom died in my hands.. I am really depressed!! I have been seeing life as nothing and vanity, I can't get over her, memories with her kept coming back really hard I tried to keep myself busy by watching movies, playing games and so on..But that doesn't stop my mind from remembering her.

These days, nothing bothers me again, not even life or death, I still have a father but it doesn't change things..

There was a time I went to school (my ppa), my proprietor was trying to pacify me by talking about when he lost his wife back then and everything, I started feeling uneasy and extremely tired..it wasn't stress at all my stomach started aching and I felt like vomiting or even passing out..he noticed it and I quickly left his presence and I went back home to shower and rest..

Please how can I get over my mom, I'm so obsessed with her and her memories kept coming in my head that every time I felt I could have done something to rescue her despite everything I did, taking her to state hospitals and even private.. I am the last born and I am about 29years..I have elder ones like 45(first born) but I took so much responsibilities when she was sick and I was only the one she could call everytime she's depressed due to memory loss..I later found out her sickness was related to heart failure and it was congestive heart failure she was going through.. All those times we thought she had nocturnal asthma like early last year..

It was only last month we knew that it was cardiomyopathy or cardiomegaly heart related.. The general hospitals we took her too didn't say anything like that, one of them only said her liver seemed bigger than the normal one..And we thought it was edema cz her legs were swollen.. So, it was heart related disease and it led to cardiac arrest or heart attack cz she just vomited and stopped breathing all of a sudden..

Sorry, I can relate.

It’s a pity , just cry ur heart out and be strong. I lost both of my parent in one month interval ,both of them were sick. It hasn’t been easy I promise u but I am better today than yesterday . Time will heal u bro,remember u have to live on to make her proud!

Sorry Dear

That is when when we wished we had spent more time with them, the reality is that the important things of this world are intangible. Seek Jesus and he would release unto you his holy spirit to comfort you. We should also be prepared for days like that regardless of the pleasures we enjoy.

Truly no man can ransom another, or give to God the price of his life, for the ransom of their life is costly and can never suffice, that he should live on forever and never see the pit. For he sees that even the wise die; the fool and the stupid alike must perish and leave their wealth to others. Their graves are their homes forever, their dwelling places to all generations, though they called lands by their own names. Man in his pomp will not remain; he is like the beasts that perish. This is the path of those who have foolish confidence; yet after them people approve of their boasts. Selah Like sheep they are appointed for Sheol; death shall be their shepherd, and the upright shall rule over them in the morning. Their form shall be consumed in Sheol, with no place to dwell.
Psalms 49:7-14

You will out grow it… by the time u hustle and make 10m cash you willl live ur life. I was in ur shoes 9 years ago.. though I wish she was here to enjoy everything with me sha..

dboY1123:
It is a month already that my mom died in my hands.. I am really depressed!! I have been seeing life as nothing and vanity, I can't get over her, memories with her kept coming back really hard I tried to keep myself busy by watching movies, playing games and so on..But that doesn't stop my mind from remembering her.

These days, nothing bothers me again, not even life or death, I still have a father but it doesn't change things..

There was a time I went to school (my ppa), my proprietor was trying to pacify me by talking about when he lost his wife back then and everything, I started feeling uneasy and extremely tired..it wasn't stress at all my stomach started aching and I felt like vomiting or even passing out..he noticed it and I quickly left his presence and I went back home to shower and rest..

Please how can I get over my mom, I'm so obsessed with her and her memories kept coming in my head that every time I felt I could have done something to rescue her despite everything I did, taking her to state hospitals and even private.. I am the last born and I am about 29years..I have elder ones like 45(first born) but I took so much responsibilities when she was sick and I was only the one she could call everytime she's depressed due to memory loss..I later found out her sickness was related to heart failure and it was congestive heart failure she was going through.. All those times we thought she had nocturnal asthma like early last year..

It was only last month we knew that it was cardiomyopathy or cardiomegaly heart related.. The general hospitals we took her too didn't say anything like that, one of them only said her liver seemed bigger than the normal one..And we thought it was edema cz her legs were swollen.. So, it was heart related disease and it led to cardiac arrest or heart attack cz she just vomited and stopped breathing all of a sudden..

Death is inevitable, we that sympathize with you will die, you that we're sympathize with will die that's irony of life you need to get over it
I could remember when I saw my daddy lifeless body in my birthday month nothing I could do

It's a gradual process... I lost my mum over a year now and I feel the pain deep down and I cry sometimes... Take heart my dear.. take heart. . Immediately when she died everyone started misbehaving, my Dad is old and he behaves like he has lost everything after her death he is always sad ... He really misses her .. we all do . May Allah have mercy upon her.

dboY1123:
It is a month already that my mom died in my hands.. I am really depressed!! I have been seeing life as nothing and vanity, I can't get over her, memories with her kept coming back really hard I tried to keep myself busy by watching movies, playing games and so on..But that doesn't stop my mind from remembering her.

These days, nothing bothers me again, not even life or death, I still have a father but it doesn't change things..

There was a time I went to school (my ppa), my proprietor was trying to pacify me by talking about when he lost his wife back then and everything, I started feeling uneasy and extremely tired..it wasn't stress at all my stomach started aching and I felt like vomiting or even passing out..he noticed it and I quickly left his presence and I went back home to shower and rest..

Please how can I get over my mom, I'm so obsessed with her and her memories kept coming in my head that every time I felt I could have done something to rescue her despite everything I did, taking her to state hospitals and even private.. I am the last born and I am about 29years..I have elder ones like 45(first born) but I took so much responsibilities when she was sick and I was only the one she could call everytime she's depressed due to memory loss..I later found out her sickness was related to heart failure and it was congestive heart failure she was going through.. All those times we thought she had nocturnal asthma like early last year..

It was only last month we knew that it was cardiomyopathy or cardiomegaly heart related.. The general hospitals we took her too didn't say anything like that, one of them only said her liver seemed bigger than the normal one..And we thought it was edema cz her legs were swollen.. So, it was heart related disease and it led to cardiac arrest or heart attack cz she just vomited and stopped breathing all of a sudden..

Bro, you will overcome it. But, in all ways you make attempt to overcome the demise of your mom, never you take alcohol. Just be calm, is a forever thing. When my dad died few months ago on my hands, I felt same, I couldn't even cry. No tears. Even till date, I feel he is around me. Depression came. But when I realised the stages of grieve, I had to accept that truly, he is lying forever and I have to move ahead. It's a forever mourning.
Take heart bro.

UpInTheSky:
OP,
My condolences
Please stay strong

Be comforted knowing your mom is now with God,
I've watched videos of people who have gone to Heaven
and with what they say, it's a place to behold, so I'm sure your
mom is in a better place than this cruel earth and most importantly,
she's at peace and in no more pain.

May her soul rest in eternal peace and
may God give you the strength you
need during this difficult time.
Take it one day at a time.

Hugs, hugs.

Stop decieving the poor boy with fairytales. If he knows she has gone to heaven do you think he will be depressed in the first place. The only thing he knows now is that he's never going to see her again which is why he's depressed.

Pray for strength....and God's comfort.

It's not easy!