I thought we’d turned the corner after a series of blazing rows. But it’s been more than a month …

I have been married to my husband for nearly four years. He is 34 and I am 33, with no children. We have had problems with our sex life in the past, as I’ve wanted it more than my husband. We have had blazing rows about this and though I felt we had turned a corner recently it’s now been more than a month since we were intimate. I am tired of the effect this has on my self-confidence. He regularly stays up late and I often go to bed on my own as he loses track of time. I am becoming despondent in our marriage overall, especially with the duties I used to take pride in. He makes a lot of effort to keep up with his hobbies and friends, so I feel as though our sex life isn’t important enough to him. I don’t want sex to be a chore but unless I said something he would never raise the subject. What do I do?

Did you have feelings he was cheating on you ?

rzekman7:
I thought we’d turned the corner after a series of blazing rows. But it’s been more than a month …

I have been married to my husband for nearly four years. He is 34 and I am 33, with no children. We have had problems with our sex life in the past, as I’ve wanted it more than my husband. We have had blazing rows about this and though I felt we had turned a corner recently it’s now been more than a month since we were intimate. I am tired of the effect this has on my self-confidence. He regularly stays up late and I often go to bed on my own as he loses track of time. I am becoming despondent in our marriage overall, especially with the duties I used to take pride in. He makes a lot of effort to keep up with his hobbies and friends, so I feel as though our sex life isn’t important enough to him. I don’t want sex to be a chore but unless I said something he would never raise the subject. What do I do?

Do you both have plans to have kids or are you content with whichever way the wind blows in that department?

Do you also have friends and hobbies of your own to occupy your time and help keep your confidence and self-esteem maintained as well? None of that should be dependent on the choices and decisions made by another, even a husband. Please work on yourself so you maintain no matter the circumstances..

As for your husband not wanting sex and you feeling it should be an important aspect of your relationship before all his hobbies and friends, then I would suggest that you consider enlisting the aide of a professional marriage counselor to help you resolve any and all communication bottlenecks in your marriage so you can get to get to the bottom of why you are being deprived sex in your marriage.

Amara661:
Did you have feelings he was cheating on you ?

As in…

At this point you need to have very candid conversations about your issues and how you can move forward. Sexual deprivation no be small tin. It will take openness and vulnerability to get to the bottom of things as he may be going through something he didn’t feel he could share with you.

Start there, but approach him with love and affection on a good day - being feminine and gentle not like a bulldozer. If you understand how to massage a mans ego he will lower his defences to you.

Just IMO

rzekman7:
I thought we’d turned the corner after a series of blazing rows. But it’s been more than a month …

I have been married to my husband for nearly four years. He is 34 and I am 33, with no children. We have had problems with our sex life in the past, as I’ve wanted it more than my husband. We have had blazing rows about this and though I felt we had turned a corner recently it’s now been more than a month since we were intimate. I am tired of the effect this has on my self-confidence. He regularly stays up late and I often go to bed on my own as he loses track of time. I am becoming despondent in our marriage overall, especially with the duties I used to take pride in. He makes a lot of effort to keep up with his hobbies and friends, so I feel as though our sex life isn’t important enough to him. I don’t want sex to be a chore but unless I said something he would never raise the subject. What do I do?

are you a male or female

he is not used to sex, u know ppl who not used to fornication b4 marriage na

Ballzproblemm:
are you a male or female

No na hermaphrodite she be... person said her husband doesn’t want sex with her anymore you dey dere dey ask useless question

Your husband is either seeing someone else or he does not like eating your food. Or him just lazy.

Some women are all about you giving them pleasure and wont reciprocate certain sexual acts.

After a number of complaints from the husband and there is no change guy go just lock up and loose interest.

First of all.. You bore him during sex.. Secondly the man is tired of wasting sperm on you with no outcome (Child) my dear go and do fertility test, study your body the next time you raise the issue and he fuvvks you make sure you conceive or pack your things and leave..
I'm sure this things your facing is as a result of your over knacking when you were younger.. Now your brought a wide. Dry hole into marriage to use and suffocate somebody's son.. It shall not be well with you.

Stallionhorse:
First of all.. You bore him during sex.. Secondly the man is tired of wasting sperm on you with no outcome (Child) my dear go and do fertility test, study your body the next time you raise the issue and he fuvvks you make sure you conceive or pack your things and leave..
I'm sure this things your facing is as a result of your over knacking when you were younger.. Now your brought a wide. Dry hole into marriage to use and suffocate somebody's son.. It shall not be well with you.

grace they worry you. You actually hit the point aptly.

phenzy:


No na hermaphrodite she be... person said her husband doesn’t want sex with her anymore you dey dere dey ask useless question

But her moniker says otherwise

Stallionhorse:
First of all.. You bore him during sex.. Secondly the man is tired of wasting sperm on you with no outcome (Child) my dear go and do fertility test, study your body the next time you raise the issue and he fuvvks you make sure you conceive or pack your things and leave..
I'm sure this things your facing is as a result of your over knacking when you were younger.. Now your brought a wide. Dry hole into marriage to use and suffocate somebody's son.. It shall not be well with you.

na wa oo, una comments sometimes dey fear person for nairaland oo. Make una still dey pity people na

First question. Have you tried to make his Pr33k stand at attention? If not, Make it stand. He should want sex. An erect pr33k recognises it's erector

It surprises me to hear there are men who do not like sex. Could it be that you don't turn him on? Could he be a secret Gaybriel? Could he be having series of affairs outside using job and other flimsy excuses as cover up? He could also be carrying one life threatening STD and does not want to infect you cos of the love he has for you..

Problem with you women is.. you believe everything a man tells you especially when you are head over hills in love. Give your brain a chance to work, pls. Investigate! You are closer to him than the people you are seeking their opinion.

Stallionhorse:
First of all.. You bore him during sex.. Secondly the man is tired of wasting sperm on you with no outcome (Child) my dear go and do fertility test, study your body the next time you raise the issue and he fuvvks you make sure you conceive or pack your things and leave..
I'm sure this things your facing is as a result of your over knacking when you were younger.. Now your brought a wide. Dry hole into marriage to use and suffocate somebody's son.. It shall not be well with you.

Kilagbe, Kileju oga! Why so much darkness and bitterness.
Please, Stay away from snipers for your own good.

There’s this saying that if he’s not getting it from you then he’s getting it from someone else.

He’s 34 and thus very young.

Have you tried talking to him to find out what’s going on with him, Why he’s disinterested in you and sex and yet carries out his hobbies?

I don’t wanna tell you what’s in my mind,to avoid scattering your marriage.

Did you both agree not to have kids or you are trying to conceive?

If the tables were to be turned, these wannabe red pillers will ask him to divorce you.

Put your ears down, become more observant as he might have kids outside or planning to relocate without your knowledge.

Stallionhorse:
First of all.. You bore him during sex.. Secondly the man is tired of wasting sperm on you with no outcome (Child) my dear go and do fertility test, study your body the next time you raise the issue and he fuvvks you make sure you conceive or pack your things and leave..
I'm sure this things your facing is as a result of your over knacking when you were younger.. Now your brought a wide. Dry hole into marriage to use and suffocate somebody's son.. It shall not be well with you.

As in, are you a seer or sorcerer?
Or do you personally know the op?
Wahala!

Stallionhorse:
First of all.. You bore him during sex.. Secondly the man is tired of wasting sperm on you with no outcome (Child) my dear go and do fertility test, study your body the next time you raise the issue and he fuvvks you make sure you conceive or pack your things and leave..
I'm sure this things your facing is as a result of your over knacking when you were younger.. Now your brought a wide. Dry hole into marriage to use and suffocate somebody's son.. It shall not be well with you.

This is one of the useless comments I am expecting.

beautyhd:


This is one of the useless comments I am expecting.

The comment pain you no be small!
We all know you equally have an over used pussy. You're absolutely free to drink sniper and die today

A lady is pregnant outside…( friend’s secret)

beautyhd:
There’s this saying that if he’s not getting it from you then he’s getting it from someone else.

He’s 34 and thus very young.

Have you tried talking to him to find out what’s going on with him, Why he’s disinterested in you and sex and yet carries out his hobbies?

I don’t wanna tell you what’s in my mind,to avoid scattering your marriage.

Did you both agree not to have kids or you are trying to conceive?

If the tables were to be turned, these wannabe red pillers will ask him to divorce you.

If the thing pain you, you too tell her to divorce him abi? Oh, she can't because we all know marriage favours the women more.

He's obviously tired after four years of sex without children. That's men for you.
Don't be surprised he has a mistress he's trying out having a baby with.

You too, in that four years, what have you tried to do to salvage the situation? By this I mean, have you tried moving closer to God ( not all these fake prophets visits o) . I mean getting real born again and seeking God's face and intervention? Or all you care about is sexual gratification?because from your narrative, you didn't sound bothered about your childless situation. All you were ranting about is sex and your denial of it. Hm.

You better know what you want from that marriage and set your priorities right before God in prayers.

Finally, God is the only way out. If you can't humble yourself enough to submit yourself and all your worries to Christ, you might just remain the most confused person in your marriage.

I don't know why people think there's a solution outside Christ.

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Are you a Christian?
If you are.
Then what is Christ Jesus the Lord for?
Haven't you read He is a Helper, and saviour ?

rzekman7:
I thought we’d turned the corner after a series of blazing rows. But it’s been more than a month …

I have been married to my husband for nearly four years. He is 34 and I am 33, with no children. We have had problems with our sex life in the past, as I’ve wanted it more than my husband. We have had blazing rows about this and though I felt we had turned a corner recently it’s now been more than a month since we were intimate. I am tired of the effect this has on my self-confidence. He regularly stays up late and I often go to bed on my own as he loses track of time. I am becoming despondent in our marriage overall, especially with the duties I used to take pride in. He makes a lot of effort to keep up with his hobbies and friends, so I feel as though our sex life isn’t important enough to him. I don’t want sex to be a chore but unless I said something he would never raise the subject. What do I do?

The comrades above me said everything but what I have to add is...







Try and get pussy tightener since we all know what the problem is here

beautyhd:
There’s this saying that if he’s not getting it from you then he’s getting it from someone else.

He’s 34 and thus very young.

Have you tried talking to him to find out what’s going on with him, Why he’s disinterested in you and sex and yet carries out his hobbies?

I don’t wanna tell you what’s in my mind,to avoid scattering your marriage.

Did you both agree not to have kids or you are trying to conceive?

If the tables were to be turned, these wannabe red pillers will ask him to divorce you.

Put your ears down, become more observant as he might have kids outside or planning to relocate without your knowledge.

Look at this useless advice .. just wanna stir controversy in someone's home... All this single ladies giving married people advice...

beautyhd:


This is one of the useless comments I am expecting.

Your own is useless.. you are tagging another person's comment as useless.. check your own and edit accordingly..

This is one of the useless remarks I dewan anticipating

rzekman7:
I thought we’d turned the corner after a series of blazing rows. But it’s been more than a month …

I have been married to my husband for nearly four years. He is 34 and I am 33, with no children. We have had problems with our sex life in the past, as I’ve wanted it more than my husband. We have had blazing rows about this and though I felt we had turned a corner recently it’s now been more than a month
since we were intimate. I am tired of the effect this has on my self-confidence . He regularly stays up late and I often go to bed on my own as he loses track of time. I am becoming despondent in our marriage overall, especially with the duties I used to take pride in. He makes a lot of effort to keep up with his hobbies and friends, so I feel as though our sex life isn’t important enough to him. I don’t want sex to be a chore but unless I said something he would never raise the subject. What do I do?

So you no fit offer him any other except sex. So na true true say na only sex your gender gats to offer a man.

@the bolded your confidence begins with and ends with your body. You are scared you cannot use sex as a weapon on him in the future.

Abeg send my regards to your husband na real nigga he be. You yourself gerarah here jor!

phenzy:


No na hermaphrodite she be... person said her husband doesn’t want sex with her anymore you dey dere dey ask useless question

No mind am