Mattwillz:

Well,i was born to be greater than you..so i think it should

Wish. And I have 30 people working under me. Never been employed. Manga e ten digit per annum company. Fool

womenareapez:
why did you worked as twices as hard and fast and prayed hard?

Because your wife got that potential of rubbing it to your face and hence you won't want that public shame.
Now how do you feel being back at the top?

Your statement literally said it all!

You are a good man

He's a cunning man but he's doesn't know people are smarter than him.

He's trying to deceive so many persons here.

Sist nor think about the matter twice at all
He has seen someone he can control, thank God this work or salary issue comes up
He don see who he wan use as hand bag
Firstly the age difference, he don see who he can control or talk and he sees it after start ending that amount you he might not have the right or power to do all that with you

julie90:
I have been working for this company for two years. In December 2021, there was a change in management, a new manager was assigned to my Department. Before the change in management, I applied for some jobs in November 2021 but I didn't get any response.

Things between my new manager and I developed really quickly (he is not married and he is 10 years older than me). Although we have been working together, when he became the new manager we started dating. it was mutual, it wasn't like he forced me. We liked each other and we started dating in March 2022. We kept things professional in the office. Nobody in the office knows about this even till now.

Those companies I applied to in November 2021 reached out to me for an interview. I got two offers at the same time. Both offers come with great pay (similar to what my boyfriend currently earns) and a significant boost to my career. I spoke to my boyfriend about it and being my boss he told me to reject both offers, he told me he would be able to cater for my needs that the only commitment he has now is paying for his house and once he is done paying for it, he would have more money to take care of me and I didn't need a job where they would pay me what he's currently earning and be in a role similar to his.

I told him it's not the money but it would be about moving up the ladder in my career. These are offers people do not have, now I have two, he is asking me to reject them. He told me even if I have to move the only offer I should take is the one close to the company where we work which has a lower pay compared to the second offer. I told him I would go with the second offer which has more opportunities for me. Both offers are in the same state although my preferred offer is a bit far from where I live but it is still a reasonable location to commute everyday. At one point he told me, I was too ambitious and I took it as a compliment.

I noticed he changed since then, he informed the company management that I was leaving and we began the handover process, I noticed he changed after we had the discussion about me accepting the second offer but I thought it was about him missing me. May 31 was my last day and I noticed few days to my last day he was acting strange so I asked him what the matter was. He said he doesn't feel anything for me and we should stop seeing each other.

This is a man that was really excited when we were dating, all of a sudden doesn't feel anything for me because I got a high paying job? Is it wrong for a woman to be ambitious? When has it become a crime for a woman to aim high in her career? My role will still be to support him. I have never been rude to him and I am not going to be rude to him because we now earn the same salary. I really like him and I feel disappointed that he could act this way.

Is it now a crime for a woman to be ambitious?

You missed the point here, its not about being ambitious, its about two people cannot be working together unless they agree. He acted out of deep passion for you and much so more that you will place personal priority over couple goals, he is not saying u should move up the ladder, but move up the ladder and still stay close. Even if you want the send offer, there should be a subtle way to convince him and not make him look like he is against your progress, that why he is leaving you. talk to him

Khoielvis:
Hmm. What money can not destroy doesn't exist !


It's not about a woman being ambitious. Those good lifestyle everyone dreams to give their kids needs money. A good amount of women who leave financial offers to cater for marriage exclusively have regrets that spans into a decade some time more.



Yes, most men believe and would like a woman to retire and attend to the home needs exclusively.


These concerns are to be mutually discussed and agreed to. However a lady should have good backup, either created by herself or the guy in question. Why? Many fell out of love after a while, and you need a solid plan to get back to should things fall apart in the future.


Just as he believes your lack of long-term loyalty depends on being fully dependent on him is also why you should also have a dependence mechanism in this case, robust financial portfolio for your own long-term safety. Both parties must have mutually created safety measures to provide safety support should things go south.


With all these said, you haven't met your true husband you will spend the rest of your life with. This one has only been taking space.


He will come back, but by then, make sure he doesn't meet you where he left you. Take very good care of yourself. Beautify yourself. Go out, meet people, and who knows, life may connect you with someone that doesn't mind being with you inspite of your dreams. To me personally,any relationship that places demand on my dreams is not up for negotiation.



Run away from people who feel and believe their happiness is dependent on your unhappiness. That's low-level wizardry

The excellent words of a modern fool who is never able to appreciate the fact that a career woman is a receipt for disaster for men except the lazy ones.

An over ambitious woman is the death of a husband with no loyalty or honour or respect for anything but her stupid dreams.

An over ambitious woman is just another man with a pussy who has little time for relationship, family and home.

The boyfriend/boss is a sharp dude who knew the hoe was a snake who never even told him of wanting to apply for another job. He also knows she will screw any man at the top of affairs to get her ambition actualized just as she screwed him in the office to move up the ladder.

He did the right thing. Weak men who miss their mothers will find her type attractive.

Real men will see her as another snake and frigid bitch

Batam:

You lack morals.
It is a matter of time you will cry tire and nobody will console you. Omoradarada

Woe betide your father. Iwo omo ale la sa n la San. Don't bother quoting me for the rest of your miserable existence. Oto Le jati jati

Is he a wizard?

Am convinced he doesn't deserve you.
If he were to be Ngozi Okonjo Iwela hubby, she wouldn't get to where she is today.

Run for such man please.

Unshackled:


The excellent words of a modern fool who is never able to appreciate the fact that a career woman is a receipt for disaster for men except the lazy ones.

A overambitious woman is the death of a husband with no loyalty or honour or respect for anything but her stupid dreams.

An over ambitious woman is just another man with a pussy who has little time for relationship, family and home.

The boyfriend/boss is a sharp dude who knew the hoe was a snake who never even told him of wanting to apply for another job. He also knows she will screw any man at the top of affairs to get her ambition actualized just as she screwed him in the office to move up the ladder.

He did the right thing. Weak men who miss their mothers will find her type attractive.

Real men will see her as another snake and frigid bitch

Indeed. When you give birth to your daughters, do not educate them. Also, give your daughters out in marriage to uneducated person's. Hypocrite

IamMobisola:


This is not even true and you know it but because of your hate for women you won't see it.
There are lots of married women that are richer than their husbands and still didn't change or disrespect their husbands. Because you don't see it on Social media does not mean it doesn't exist. Not everyone lives a social media life where they come out and tell you that their wives are richer than them but still respect them.

We have a lot of women that are breadwinners of their home and people won't know because they respect their husbands and still play their wifely duties but they don't go online bragging about it or telling their neighbors about it. Some of them even buy cars for themselves with their own money but will tell people their husbands bought it for them so as not to bring their husband's self-esteem down.

we all know those women you mentioned are like 1% here in Nigeria!

If you talked about western world I would have agreed.

Let's all be realistic for once! A woman will alway strive to be ahead of a man and once that happens, the story always goes south!

Keep this at the back of your mind, men are logical beings while women are emotional beings hence them don't think straight!

Read the last paragraph of the op sentence and try and use your logical progressing unit to decode who the op really are!
If you really observe well, you will the see the clue behind her venting,

Did the man mentioned anything about her ambitious or career stuff? But she came to that conclusion

Why?

Because she got that potential of rubbing it to your face!

As a guy you should try and think outside the box unless otherwise

This one just created the thread to bash men

Connected1:

Continue deceiving her until she no longer finds a man to wife her.

There are about 20 women at where I work, 3 of them are on managerial levels while the others normal staffs and cleaners, they are all married except those 3 women on managerial levels, I mean most of them got married to guys working in the same company.

I am sure I don't need to tell you why they are still unmarried in a place where there's scarcity of women and many bachelors.

Just because you were able to meet up fast doesn't mean others would and for your to take it as a challenge means you sensed a threat was insecure like many others, you were only lucky to meet up fast else you for collect insults wey nor be your own.

With all due respect, You guys should stop making marriage a priority or do or die thing, that's why many women fall into wrong hands just because of marriage pressure. Life is more difficult now when you're broke.

Connected1:

He's a cunning man but he's doesn't know people are smarter than him.

He's trying to deceive so many persons here.

thank you! I always wonder how some of these men think

Khoielvis:



Hahaha. Not all. Any ways her approach to dating may be the issue. Jumping into exclusive dating with eyes on marriage direct may leave on disappointed. That's why at times people should not date exclusively. But sample between people and then choose the best fit.

Oshey o researcher

What sampling technique should we adopt?

VEHINTOLAR:
Shout "Hallelujah" for God just revealed your closest enemy to you !

the closest enemy is herself.

Plugsk:
He is not jealous, he is a wise person. He knows the dangers that comes when a woman earns more than the man.

not everyone will know this truth!

Mikester:
I agree with him. It isn't low self esteem or whatever a pained mind chooses to term it. It is doing what you feel is right. He has his reason for leaving you. There was no love between you both in the first place. It was just casual dating which I personally deem to have no value.

I personally cannot marry a more ambitious lady because I know what marriage entails and that different minds cannot run a home successfully. Either she unites with me exclusively and follow my lead as a real woman should or she moves on. Else, why do we term ourselves as one body?

We all make decisions based on what we know and what we feel. He knows why he left you and no one here has the right to criticize him on that, besides I'm certain a lot who are criticising him here are the actual failures in the real world, hence the bitterness.

For a lady like myself, if I look for a man who earns more than me, I’ll look for that man for a while. If I find them, they might not be my type of guys as they might be very arrogant thinking they have arrived because of their money. Or they might be way older than me.

My best bet, is to be with a guy who doesn’t have any issues with his wife earning so much money and who will still provide and take his responsibilities seriously even though I earn more. My money will be for back up plan and I will not lose respect for him as long as he takes his responsibilities seriously.
If he is also interested, we can start up a business that will make him earn more than me while I still earn much more.

This life is not hard oo. It depends on how you decide to see things.

sorry OP u were dating a boy in character but a man in physic move on with yr life real love go catch up with u

Khoielvis:




Indeed. When you give birth to your daughters, do not educate them. Also, give your daughters out in marriage to uneducated person's. Hypocrite

I know when you reply, you were going to go off point

julie90:
I have been working for this company for two years. In December 2021, there was a change in management, a new manager was assigned to my Department. Before the change in management, I applied for some jobs in November 2021 but I didn't get any response.

Things between my new manager and I developed really quickly (he is not married and he is 10 years older than me). Although we have been working together, when he became the new manager we started dating. it was mutual, it wasn't like he forced me. We liked each other and we started dating in March 2022. We kept things professional in the office. Nobody in the office knows about this even till now.

Those companies I applied to in November 2021 reached out to me for an interview. I got two offers at the same time. Both offers come with great pay (similar to what my boyfriend currently earns) and a significant boost to my career. I spoke to my boyfriend about it and being my boss he told me to reject both offers, he told me he would be able to cater for my needs that the only commitment he has now is paying for his house and once he is done paying for it, he would have more money to take care of me and I didn't need a job where they would pay me what he's currently earning and be in a role similar to his.

I told him it's not the money but it would be about moving up the ladder in my career. These are offers people do not have, now I have two, he is asking me to reject them. He told me even if I have to move the only offer I should take is the one close to the company where we work which has a lower pay compared to the second offer. I told him I would go with the second offer which has more opportunities for me. Both offers are in the same state although my preferred offer is a bit far from where I live but it is still a reasonable location to commute everyday. At one point he told me, I was too ambitious and I took it as a compliment.

I noticed he changed since then, he informed the company management that I was leaving and we began the handover process, I noticed he changed after we had the discussion about me accepting the second offer but I thought it was about him missing me. May 31 was my last day and I noticed few days to my last day he was acting strange so I asked him what the matter was. He said he doesn't feel anything for me and we should stop seeing each other.

This is a man that was really excited when we were dating, all of a sudden doesn't feel anything for me because I got a high paying job? Is it wrong for a woman to be ambitious? When has it become a crime for a woman to aim high in her career? My role will still be to support him. I have never been rude to him and I am not going to be rude to him because we now earn the same salary. I really like him and I feel disappointed that he could act this way.

Is it now a crime for a woman to be ambitious?

I love woman like you and dont blame your ex boyfriend that's how God created him and some guys are like that if you dont mind I'm single ready to mingle and you sound like my dream woman

julie90:
I have been working for this company for two years. In December 2021, there was a change in management, a new manager was assigned to my Department. Before the change in management, I applied for some jobs in November 2021 but I didn't get any response.

Things between my new manager and I developed really quickly (he is not married and he is 10 years older than me). Although we have been working together, when he became the new manager we started dating. it was mutual, it wasn't like he forced me. We liked each other and we started dating in March 2022. We kept things professional in the office. Nobody in the office knows about this even till now.

Those companies I applied to in November 2021 reached out to me for an interview. I got two offers at the same time. Both offers come with great pay (similar to what my boyfriend currently earns) and a significant boost to my career. I spoke to my boyfriend about it and being my boss he told me to reject both offers, he told me he would be able to cater for my needs that the only commitment he has now is paying for his house and once he is done paying for it, he would have more money to take care of me and I didn't need a job where they would pay me what he's currently earning and be in a role similar to his.

I told him it's not the money but it would be about moving up the ladder in my career. These are offers people do not have, now I have two, he is asking me to reject them. He told me even if I have to move the only offer I should take is the one close to the company where we work which has a lower pay compared to the second offer. I told him I would go with the second offer which has more opportunities for me. Both offers are in the same state although my preferred offer is a bit far from where I live but it is still a reasonable location to commute everyday. At one point he told me, I was too ambitious and I took it as a compliment.

I noticed he changed since then, he informed the company management that I was leaving and we began the handover process, I noticed he changed after we had the discussion about me accepting the second offer but I thought it was about him missing me. May 31 was my last day and I noticed few days to my last day he was acting strange so I asked him what the matter was. He said he doesn't feel anything for me and we should stop seeing each other.

This is a man that was really excited when we were dating, all of a sudden doesn't feel anything for me because I got a high paying job? Is it wrong for a woman to be ambitious? When has it become a crime for a woman to aim high in her career? My role will still be to support him. I have never been rude to him and I am not going to be rude to him because we now earn the same salary. I really like him and I feel disappointed that he could act this way.

Is it now a crime for a woman to be ambitious?

my dear if you re seeing this
Please live that mother fucker and you will meet some one like us who will be proud that our women are doing well in life

Babe if you see this post I beg
No let that idiot make you loose focus go into the and excel
You’re blessed and let no man stop you’re shine

We love you all from nairaland

Forget about him, am available , u can DM me, such guy don't want ur progress in life.

womenareapez:
we all know those women you mentioned are like 1% here in Nigeria!

If you talked about western world I would have agreed.

Let's all be realistic for once! A woman will alway strive to be ahead of a man and once that happens, the story always goes south!

Keep this at the back of your mind, men are logical beings while women are emotional beings hence them don't think straight!

Read the last paragraph of the op sentence and try and use your logical progressing unit to decode who the op really are!
If you really observe well, you will the see the clue behind her venting,

Did the man mentioned anything about her ambitious or career stuff? But she came to that conclusion

Why?

Because she got that potential of rubbing it to your face!

As a guy you should try and think outside the box unless otherwise

Everybody is ambitious, there is no man or woman in this life that is not ambitious in life.
She chose the second job because it pays higher than the first one and she gets a higher position. The guy doesn't want her going far away from him so that he can keep an eye on her which speaks Insecurity. He is her boyfriend and not her husband, he doesn't have any right to make decisions for her. If they were married then she would need to stay close to her husband but their relationship was barely three months when he told her to not take the second job because it is far from him.

The reason why he mentioned that she was ambitious was because she said the second job was like a promotion for her in her career plus the higher salary. That's why he said that

MeghaneMorgane:


For a lady like myself, if I look for a man who earns more than me, I’ll look for that man for a while. If I find them, they might not be my type of guys as they might be very arrogant thinking they have arrived because of their money. Or they might be way older than me.

My best bet, is to be with a guy who doesn’t have any issues with his wife earning so much money and who will still provide and take his responsibilities seriously even though I earn more. My money will be for back up plan and I will not lose respect for him as long as he takes his responsibilities seriously.
If he is also interested, we can start up a business that will make him earn more than me while I still earn much more.

This life is not hard oo. It depends on how you decide to see things.

Hope you find the one who complements you. Keep the faith.

julie90:
I have been working for this company for two years. In December 2021, there was a change in management, a new manager was assigned to my Department. Before the change in management, I applied for some jobs in November 2021 but I didn't get any response.

Things between my new manager and I developed really quickly (he is not married and he is 10 years older than me). Although we have been working together, when he became the new manager we started dating. it was mutual, it wasn't like he forced me. We liked each other and we started dating in March 2022. We kept things professional in the office. Nobody in the office knows about this even till now.

Those companies I applied to in November 2021 reached out to me for an interview. I got two offers at the same time. Both offers come with great pay (similar to what my boyfriend currently earns) and a significant boost to my career. I spoke to my boyfriend about it and being my boss he told me to reject both offers, he told me he would be able to cater for my needs that the only commitment he has now is paying for his house and once he is done paying for it, he would have more money to take care of me and I didn't need a job where they would pay me what he's currently earning and be in a role similar to his.

I told him it's not the money but it would be about moving up the ladder in my career. These are offers people do not have, now I have two, he is asking me to reject them. He told me even if I have to move the only offer I should take is the one close to the company where we work which has a lower pay compared to the second offer. I told him I would go with the second offer which has more opportunities for me. Both offers are in the same state although my preferred offer is a bit far from where I live but it is still a reasonable location to commute everyday. At one point he told me, I was too ambitious and I took it as a compliment.

I noticed he changed since then, he informed the company management that I was leaving and we began the handover process, I noticed he changed after we had the discussion about me accepting the second offer but I thought it was about him missing me. May 31 was my last day and I noticed few days to my last day he was acting strange so I asked him what the matter was. He said he doesn't feel anything for me and we should stop seeing each other.

This is a man that was really excited when we were dating, all of a sudden doesn't feel anything for me because I got a high paying job? Is it wrong for a woman to be ambitious? When has it become a crime for a woman to aim high in her career? My role will still be to support him. I have never been rude to him and I am not going to be rude to him because we now earn the same salary. I really like him and I feel disappointed that he could act this way.

Is it now a crime for a woman to be ambitious?

that is really bad, some men do not want there women to be at the top

womenareapez:
not everyone will know this truth!

which truth in wikes voice that a man is being foolish is the truth nah person marry okonjo the man they catch cruise wella

Unshackled:
I know when you reply, you were going to go off point

Hypocrite. Ofcourse you won't be able to stomach your hypocrisy. C'mon get lost

Coded081:
What makes you think is because you are about to earn as him that make him change towards you?

another wise one!

You see! Poverty is disturbing Many nairaland men here hence criticising the guy's decision, some ediots to the extent of putting their numbers to contact the said op.

bukatyne:


You are looking for a woman that works or a woman that is ambitious?

Her working is clearly not the issue as they met at work;

He has issues with her growth.

its relative, maybe you put it better.

Please move on blow your career

Julie90! the guy doesn't worth to be with a babe like you
Move on with your life jare...

julie90:


Is it now a crime for a woman to be ambitious?

OP, let me tell you something no one told you.
naturally, women are hypergamous in nature.. that's the reason you went ahead and dated your boss in the first place(am sure some of your colleagues asked you out too).
now, your ex-partner knows this, and he loved you enough to deter you, cause believe it or not, sooner rather than later you'd have clamored for someone above your status.
its not fiction, its a fact. that's how women are wired!
know this and know peace my dear.

Your boyfriend is a poor man. That's the attributes of poverty mentally inclined people. Good riddance to bad rubbish. You need a real man with self confidence.