truthsayer009:


The people who are normal on this forum are not upto 5, I can confirm it for you. It is giving me that hell fire "Evangelist Oluwafunmilayo Adebayo, alias Mummy G.O" kind of vibes.

If you ask her any question, she will reply with Bible verse and tell you something scary, related or unrelated.

For example:
Random NL post: Do you think women should get married early?

Kobo's reply: Genesis Chapter 1000, verse 900. Marriage is a curse, Marriage is unholy. God deemed it unholy.

LMAO!

DonroxyII:
There are alot of Mathematics in Between these "Loves and "Submissions" which we all failed to Address in Present Society. I believe the mathematics in Between are the causes of Marital Failures:

Love involves the one to be loved to attract that Love:

Submissions Don't just Happen, You must be worthy of That Submissions:

Overall, Marriage needs God to Survive in this Dispensations:

Nicely put.

UyaiIncomparabl:


I purposely skipped the post. He simply wrote a post on how women should handle men. Perhaps, he didn't understand what the topic meant.

Maybe.

cococandy:


1. My agreement with you is based mostly on the issue of Eve’s submission (aka being ruled over by Adam) which is verbatim in the Bible as a curse.

But marriage in general he stated is of this world not necessarily that marriage is cursed. Just simply put, being married isn’t a Christian requirement.

As for your last paragraph, hmm. I guess we can apply that to the reason why some priests and nuns stay away from marriage to better serve God. Interesting

1. Submission has absolutely nothing to do with the curse in Gen 3. Submission is a directive in the new testament to complement the husband's commandment which is loving his wife. Ephesians 5:21 tells us to submit one to another. A school of thought says Paul was talking to the Church generally; another school says Paul was talking to couples. Either ways, it is clear that submission is not a curse.

Mariangeles:


I usually do, but for the sake of those who do not know better.

I think it is important to sometimes.

bukatyne:


1. Submission has absolutely nothing to do with the curse in Gen 3. Submission is a directive in the new testament to complement the husband's commandment which is loving his wife. Ephesians 5:21 tells us to submit one to another. A school of thought says Paul was talking to the Church generally; another school says Paul was talking to couples. Either ways, it is clear that submission is not a curse.

Some things are stated more than once in the Bible albeit in different contexts. In the genesis context, it’s a curse on Eve directly from the mouth of God

I’m also familiar with the verses you stated above.

And the thread died !






Religious people in a bid to outdo each other killed what would have been interesting thread.

bukatyne:


Nicely put.

Thanks !

Acidosis:
Your problem is that you speculate too much from one bible verse or context. I don't think you're a Christian as you claim. You interpret the bible like radical Islamists who use qoran to kill Allah's critics.

Your narrative that God cursed marriage and what not on this forum is the height of anti-christianity. There are many bible passages where Jesus talked about marriage and even went on to encourage those who want to get married and have children.

We have parables in the same bible all the way from the book of Matthew where Jesus used the so called "cursed" marriage between a man and a woman to describe his second coming.

You cannot pick a singular verse from the scriptures, which you have misinterpreted, to dismiss popular facts in the same scriptures. How can God or Jesus not be interested or curse marriage? How else are we supposed to multiply and replenish the earth? Dey try use your brain sometimes.

And quit trying to be on the opposing side all the time. It's not a sign of brilliance. Your modus operandi on this forum is to always kick against what every other person agrees to. It's good to be critical but not at the expense of your sanity.

If everyone says that Buhari is male, you don't mind opposing that fact just to give a contrasting opinion?

This is my last response again for now.

Yet again you refuse to address the issue all so you can throw stones at me for saying that which you are uncomfortable with. Anyways, when you get around to it, below are the questions for you to respond to...

So you are insinuating that when Jesus Christ Himself said your marriages are of this world(unholy) , and not of the (holy)Kingdom of God in Luke 20 vs 34 -36, Jesus Christ was being antiChrist?

When Jesus Christ warned His followers not to submit themselves to any other teachers or masters/heads , authorities, decreeing they were instead, all of them, equals in the Kingdom of God - Matthew 23 vs 8 - 10 - , Jesus Christ was being antiChrist?

Angela62:


3. Support him. Men are at their best when their wive are supportive. For example, my husband never asks me about my income, but every of my penny goes to my household. The idea that a man has to carry all the financial responsibilities is a self-defeating adventure. Such a woman punishes herself due to her short-sightedness and selfishness by reducing her worth in his eyes, making her easily replaceable.

UyaiIncomparabl will not accept this.

She wants to eats her cake and have it back. As if men don't have their own needs.

bukatyne:
1. Submission has absolutely nothing to do with the curse in Gen 3. Submission is a directive in the new testament to complement the husband's commandment which is loving his wife. Ephesians 5:21 tells us to submit one to another. A school of thought says Paul was talking to the Church generally; another school says Paul was talking to couples. Either ways, it is clear that submission is not a curse.

Genesis 3 vs 16 is curse from the Almighty on marriage.
Matthew 23 vs 8 - 10 is a decree from God that no man/woman in His Kingdom is to serve another master/Head as they are all of them equal in the Kingdom of God
Luke 20 vs 34 - 36 is a reminder from the same Almighty of His curse in the beginning

Then you have Paul suddenly telling you in Ephesians 5 vs 21 that not only did God change His mind but God also upturned His judgment in the beginning to make that which He meant for a curse into a blessing instead. When exactly did God become one who changes His mind or makes mistakes?

pansophist:


UyaiIncompara.bl will not accept this.

She wants to eats her cake and have it back. As if men don't have their own needs.

Stop joking. I accepted everything she wrote wholeheartedly. I can't have and my man will struggle. I am so supportive if and when I have. Doesn't still mean I won't eat my cake and not want to have it back.

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ADUKKY:
I clocked 11 years in matrimony 2022.
Don't be carried away with the glitz and glamourof wedding, prepare for the marriage ahead.
As a woman, be financially inclined. Have a source of income, do not put all the financial responsibilities on the man.
Respect is key for men.
Avoid discussing your issues with every tom, dick and harry.
Never marry a man or woman who is not accountable to anyone.
Be prepared and know that there will be challenges in marriage but you can overcome if others have overcome.
Be prayerful.
Seek a man or woman whom you share similar ideologies. Even on minutest of issues, you will be surprised how inconsequential issues have become big issues in marriages.
Be prepared to compromise because you are different people raised in different backgrounds.
Communication is key. Talk, talk and talk about everything and anything. Never assume.

Chai.. see woman. Some men dey lucky sha. I had to go through ur dairy something I normally wouldn't do. I wish u the best of everything

bukatyne:


I can imagine how his marriage is/how his wife really feels.

The thread says: share what advise YOU would give YOUR younger self about marriage from your experience.

Baba wrote a 10 pager advise to women

What lesson has he learnt for himself in his marriage?

What has he learnt for himself to become a better husband?

As him wife dey show am pepper nkor

cococandy:

Some things are stated more than once in the Bible albeit in different contexts. In the genesis context, it’s a curse on Eve directly from the mouth of God

I’m also familiar with the verses you stated above.

My point is that submission in Ephesians 5 has nothing to do with the curse in Genesis 3.

The curse can also manifest in two ways:
1. A woman turning her husband/man to her god;
2. A husband ruling his wife instead of leading her.

One of the examples of the manifestation of that curse is the story of Leah (Jacob's first wife).

She kept giving birth to gain the husband's love till her fourth son when she decided to focus on God.

There are several examples of couples in the old testament and in their interactions, you never see their husbands rule over them.

That's because both the husbands & wives knew/had an idea of God.

A good example of the submission is in Philippians 2 where Paul gave an example in Jesus Christ.

killmods:

As him wife dey show am pepper nkor

Naaaa!

He is the one showing her pepper

bukatyne:


Naaaa!

He is the one showing her pepper

Lool.. maybe oo but sha I know pepper is involved seriously

So the curse of God on Eve does not apply to all women?

Basically you’re saying that women can choose whether this curse applies to them or not.

Yes?

bukatyne:


My point is that submission in Ephesians 5 has nothing to do with the curse in Genesis 3.

The curse can also manifest in two ways:
1. A woman turning her husband/man to her god;
2. A husband ruling his wife instead of leading her.

One of the examples of the manifestation of that curse is the story of Leah (Jacob's first wife).

She kept giving birth to gain the husband's love till her fourth son when she decided to focus on God.
There are several examples of couples in the old testament and in their interactions, you never see their husbands rule over them.

That's because both the husbands & wives knew/had an idea of God.

A good example of the submission is in Philippians 2 where Paul gave an example in Jesus Christ.

UyaiIncomparabl:
This post is for mature, married folks.

Married folks, you have all had experiences in your various marriages for however long you have stayed married. Most importantly, you have gained knowledge from them. That being said, wisdom is what you can do today but couldn't do before. It's what you would do before but never would now.

So, the question is, If you could travel back through time to advise your younger self about marriage, what advice would you give?

Got married much earlier

Is the one I gave myself that I’m following till now. Nothing like marriage, enjoy life make life enjoy you then you Rest.

UyaiIncomparabl:
This post is for mature, married folks.

Married folks, you have all had experiences in your various marriages for however long you have stayed married. Most importantly, you have gained knowledge from them. That being said, wisdom is what you can do today but couldn't do before. It's what you would do before but never would now.

So, the question is, If you could travel back through time to advise your younger self about marriage, what advice would you give?

Never go into marriage if you are not stable financially, it has a great effect on other areas of the marriage

Never ignore the bad in someone hoping you can bear it just to keep them in your life.

Don’t marry a student

Don't marry out if pity. No rush into marriage cos you fit rush out .

If you are not married, stay off.

Let us read comments.

UyaiIncomparabl:
This post is for mature, married folks.

Married folks, you have all had experiences in your various marriages for however long you have stayed married. Most importantly, you have gained knowledge from them. That being said, wisdom is what you can do today but couldn't do before. It's what you would do before but never would now.

So, the question is, If you could travel back through time to advise your younger self about marriage, what advice would you give?

Work hard to be financially stable before you think of settling down as a man. At worst, make sure you have a sustainable income or business that brings in steady income no matter how small. Don't get married hoping that marriage will bring luck that will make you rich later. Don't marry when you are financially unprepared, its a disaster in our present world. make sure you have a sustainable business or job or handwork before you go carry person daughter as wife.



I married at the age I wished to get married. I also married a lady that understands and supports me, and also gives me freedom to live happily without choking me with love or married women wahala lolz



So far so good, I have no regrets about my marriage, but the only thing I wished is that my wife had younger ones to flood our house and keep the whole house bubbling with people cos I love that feeling of having a large family with plenty humans, makes the house lively for kids.



Finally, I will advice single guys out there that want a happy marital life to avoid marrying girls below 27yrs. Marry mature ladies. Marry someone within your age bracket (5 years age gap at most), unless you are marrying a second wife which should be at least after your first marriage have lasted at least 20yrs and your last child of your first marriage at least 18yrs

Ishilove:
Hahahahaha!

think more than to work

Marriage should be a contract thing. If we like ourselves, we renew the contract.
Stress is bad bad bad

Kobojunkie:
Submission is born of God's curse on marriage which rendered marriage of this world and not of the Kingdom of God - Genesis 3 vs 16 & Luke 20 vs 34 -36. Therefore, there is nothing Christian about marriage or your formula.

Great info here but can we really run away from that curse

think more than to work

UyaiIncomparabl:
This post is for mature, married folks.

Married folks, you have all had experiences in your various marriages for however long you have stayed married. Most importantly, you have gained knowledge from them. That being said, wisdom is what you can do today but couldn't do before. It's what you would do before but never would now.

So, the question is, If you could travel back through time to advise your younger self about marriage, what advice would you give?

I am not enjoying my marriage at all.

Ferminist all the way..say no to marraige..