Ajibade123:

God can't be this complicated
you people are just deriving different theories to massage your egos

Michelle55:

Sometimes, it's best if you could just let some topics go and learn. It isn't compulsory that you must comment, arguments don't make one sound wise kobo rather it reveals the level of your knowledge in certain topics.
Seat this one out and let's not turn this beautiful thread into arguments.
Danke!

cococandy:

Some things are stated more than once in the Bible albeit in different contexts. In the genesis context, it’s a curse on Eve directly from the mouth of God

I’m also familiar with the verses you stated above.

UyaiIncomparabl:


Stop joking. I accepted everything she wrote wholeheartedly. I can't have and my man will struggle. I am so supportive if and when I have. Doesn't still mean I won't eat my cake and not want to have it back.

hopexter:
Is the one I gave myself that I’m following till now. Nothing like marriage, enjoy life make life enjoy you then you Rest.

Ajibade123:

so people shouldn't marry again or the wives shouldn't submit or what's your point gan gan this man??

franchasofficia:
Work hard to be financially stable before you think of settling down as a man. At worst, make sure you have a sustainable income or business that brings in steady income no matter how small. Don't get married hoping that marriage will bring luck that will make you rich later. Don't marry when you are financially unprepared, its a disaster in our present world. make sure you have a sustainable business or job or handwork before you go carry person daughter as wife.



I married at the age I wished to get married. I also married a lady that understands and supports me, and also gives me freedom to live happily without choking me with love or married women wahala lolz



So far so good, I have no regrets about my marriage, but the only thing I wished is that my wife had younger ones to flood our house and keep the whole house bubbling with people cos I love that feeling of having a large family with plenty humans, makes the house lively for kids.



Finally, I will advice single guys out there that want a happy marital life to avoid marrying girls below 27yrs. Marry mature ladies. Marry someone within your age bracket (5 years age gap at most), unless you are marrying a second wife which should be at least after your first marriage have lasted at least 20yrs and your last child of your first marriage at least 18yrs

Angela62:
I am married for about a decade now, and I am enjoying my marriage. Honestly, if the worse happens and I became a widow, I will not marry any other man, I will train my kids alone. That is how much I love my husband and cherish my marriage. Since childhood, I have always been close to my grandmother, I grew up with her since my mum died when I was a child. I learned a lot from her. I can still remember the advice she gave to me when I wanted to marry my husband, and I will tell you exactly that.

1. Look at the qualities and characters of the man you want to marry. Most ''shine shine'' men, as my grandma will put it are not the real men. `Just as sugar is sweet but unhealthy, lots of men are like that. That bricklayer that sends his mum money in the village every month, that doesn't go to a club, doesn't smoke and buy expensive designers, he might not even give you butterflies, those are the real men. Ten years from now when you are pregnant with your third child, his masculinity will be like an umbrella to protect, provide and be the best father for your kids.

But you see those ones that are doing fine boys only, care more about the phone they use and the girl they sleep with this weekend than their future, those you must avoid. They may be attractive now, but when the difficulties of marriage come especially financially, then you realize that truly, internal beauty (characters and virtues) is what keeps marriage. So do not sacrifice the future due to your youthful exuberance.

2. Look at his patterns, those are the secrets to his future and of course, your future. Does he wakes up and go to work every day? What is the relationship he has with his family? How does he handle stress? is he hardworking? Do people around him respect him? Where does he go after work? What is your assessment of his friends? `What are his goals? etc. You might be clouded with feelings with this assessment especially when you are in love, so you might ask people you trust for advice. I saw this thread some few years ago by pansophist, where he wrote about qualities you should look for in a man for marriage, I implore you to check it out. The guy is on point. As I read through it, I kept nodding my head in affirmation because my husband easily covered all these qualities.

https://www.nairaland.com/6257463/part-two-traits-woman-should

Also when I first met my husband, I wasn't that interested. He appears so ordinary (if you know what I mean), but as I scratch further, the depth of his manliness opens up. I was not attracted at first, but everything fell into place, and I was glad I didn't just brush him away. But I couldn't see his qualities quickly, it was my grandma that pointed it all out. So you should really have someone older, that have walked the talk of marriage, to advise and guide you.

3. Support him. Men are at their best when their wive are supportive. For example, my husband never asks me about my income, but every of my penny goes to my household. The idea that a man has to carry all the financial responsibilities is a self-defeating adventure. Such a woman punishes herself due to her short-sightedness and selfishness by reducing her worth in his eyes, making her easily replaceable.

Wisejohnson47:
I am not enjoying my marriage at all.

Kobojunkie:
Submission is born of God's curse on marriage which rendered marriage of this world and not of the Kingdom of God - Genesis 3 vs 16 & Luke 20 vs 34 -36. Therefore, there is nothing "Christian" about marriage, or your formula.

camri:
will you submit your salary to your husband?

osazsky:
who u marry..una nor date..or na arrangee..sorry for this so painful..this means i must be a lucky man o...i thank God for my caring wife..no issues at all..but i pray God makes it right for you..pls dont tolottate an abusive mariage its better to walk away.incase of infidelity talk to an elder in his family or her family.u will be fine dear..hold on..it is well amen

Acidosis:


Good one. E dey post like antichrist

Ndibuna:
See how these women have turned this beautiful thread and derailed it into an argumentative cesspit, pathetic

UyaiIncomparabl:


Very funny, but somewhat true.

UyaiIncomparabl:

NO.

JovialJune:
Don't marry Nigerian boys

Albertone:
I dislike when people twist bible passages to suit their desires.

Look at that same Genesis before the chapter 3 you quoted--Genesis 2:24.
How about these passages?--Titus 2:4,Ephesians 5:25.
Isn't it the bible that said "He that findeth a wife findeth a good thing"?

Divoc19:
Interesting thought sir.

Angela62:
I am married for about a decade now, and I am enjoying my marriage. Honestly, if the worse happens and I became a widow, I will not marry any other man, I will train my kids alone. That is how much I love my husband and cherish my marriage. Since childhood, I have always been close to my grandmother, I grew up with her since my mum died when I was a child. I learned a lot from her. I can still remember the advice she gave to me when I wanted to marry my husband, and I will tell you exactly that.

1. Look at the qualities and characters of the man you want to marry. Most ''shine shine'' men, as my grandma will put it are not the real men. `Just as sugar is sweet but unhealthy, lots of men are like that. That bricklayer that sends his mum money in the village every month, that doesn't go to a club, doesn't smoke and buy expensive designers, he might not even give you butterflies, those are the real men. Ten years from now when you are pregnant with your third child, his masculinity will be like an umbrella to protect, provide and be the best father for your kids.

But you see those ones that are doing fine boys only, care more about the phone they use and the girl they sleep with this weekend than their future, those you must avoid. They may be attractive now, but when the difficulties of marriage come especially financially, then you realize that truly, internal beauty (characters and virtues) is what keeps marriage. So do not sacrifice the future due to your youthful exuberance.

2. Look at his patterns, those are the secrets to his future and of course, your future. Does he wakes up and go to work every day? What is the relationship he has with his family? How does he handle stress? is he hardworking? Do people around him respect him? Where does he go after work? What is your assessment of his friends? `What are his goals? etc. You might be clouded with feelings with this assessment especially when you are in love, so you might ask people you trust for advice. I saw this thread some few years ago by pansophist, where he wrote about qualities you should look for in a man for marriage, I implore you to check it out. The guy is on point. As I read through it, I kept nodding my head in affirmation because my husband easily covered all these qualities.

https://www.nairaland.com/6257463/part-two-traits-woman-should

Also when I first met my husband, I wasn't that interested. He appears so ordinary (if you know what I mean), but as I scratch further, the depth of his manliness opens up. I was not attracted at first, but everything fell into place, and I was glad I didn't just brush him away. But I couldn't see his qualities quickly, it was my grandma that pointed it all out. So you should really have someone older, that have walked the talk of marriage, to advise and guide you.

3. Support him. Men are at their best when their wive are supportive. For example, my husband never asks me about my income, but every of my penny goes to my household. The idea that a man has to carry all the financial responsibilities is a self-defeating adventure. Such a woman punishes herself due to her short-sightedness and selfishness by reducing her worth in his eyes, making her easily replaceable.

Kobojunkie:
OMGosh! So what Jesus Christ said, you deem imaginary?

So, if you don't have any clue what is contained in scripture, why jump into this conversation to begin with?

Durabest:
I have been married for six years now with two beautiful Childre.My advice would be that,1:Don,t be disperate to go into marriage,2: Don,t pretend to be what you are not in order to win a man's heart.3:When your guy friends are around him do not join their conversation when you are not invited even when they are talking about your village people joining a conversation you are not invited will devalue your guy,4:Try to knw when your guy is needt of food don,t always wait 4 him to ask b4 you serve him food.5:If you don't love a man,don't go into marriage with him.6:always be truthful don't ever belive a lie can gurantee you marriage.7:don't hide what you hate and don't hate what he love most just show litle advice if u don't like it.8: don't go into marriage with man who don't love you.9:When a man tells you things that he hates and asked you to stop doing those things he detest don't dare him.10: Be humble.11:don,t always feel without you he can't sx so there4 you will give him sx when you feel like.

Kobojunkie:
Jesus Christ didn't lift the curse by His death. What He did was instead provide a path to salvation from God's curse in Genesis 3 vs 16 - 22, and it is to this He declared that only those who endure till the end will be saved - Matthew 24 vs 13 - not before the end.

As for the curse on childbearing, we'll, every child born into this world is born into a cursed existence, removed from God from birth. Those who decide to find their way back to Him needing to suffer and endure tribulations to make it.

As we know God created some Eunuchs(childless) from birth , made some Eunuchs(childless) in this life, and allowed others to choose to live as Eunuchs(childless) for the sake of His Kingdom, well, it becomes sort of a no brainer for anyone who truly understands God in this. Do you drag a soul into a cursed existence, so it can suffer and endure tribulation and probably fail to reach God in the end? Or do you forego all that?

Bobloco:
This thread was going to be a beautiful thread judging from the comments on the first page

Boom! From the second page, it began to get derailed because those with entitlement mentality invaded

Kobojunkie:
Submission is born of God's curse on marriage which rendered marriage of this world and not of the Kingdom of God - Genesis 3 vs 16 & Luke 20 vs 34 -36. Therefore, there is nothing "Christian" about marriage, or your formula.

Eagba:

I like what this person is smoking.
It's the ki n d of smoke that makes you g o o on a long rant and at the end you ask" what am I saying"

Kobojunkie:
I am not the one who made this thread about bible study. I simply corrected a person who made false claims about the Christianity. That is all I did. The resulting attack, I had absolutely nothing to do with. And if you notice, not a single one of those who rose to attack were able to even show me wrong in my submission.