I work with an NGO that cares for Siclklers. Please don't even try it if you love your sanity. Even if you don't love yourself, kindly pity your unborn kids. I bet you, if you happen to give birth to a sickler, you will never forgive yourself, given that you are aware of the consequences of what you're going into

Jasiman:
Good morning Nairalanders, please I need urgent help.

My relationship is on the verge of break up due to genotype issue and I sincerely need your advice. I will appreciate if medical experts on this field and those with experience can help out and Share their experience.

I love this lady so much and she's everything any man can pray for except for the genotype. She equally love me so much as well.
On her part, she has booked consultation with doctors and all they keep telling her isn't good at all. No hope at all.

On my part, I have this strong believe that we will give birth to health kids since we are not planning on having much. Maximum of three.
I have also done some researches and also heard about "bridgeclinic". I don't know if it will work and the success rate.

Please, is there any hope at all or not.
I really appreciate your advice as I anticipate them.
Thank you

Please ��� mod.

Modified: we both have AS genotype

Good. Very Good.

Go ahead and marry. The village people that are after you will be very happy to end your own lineage after wasting all the money you earn on SS children who are called Abiku / Emere in Yoruba and Ogbanje at the other side.

On the Judgement Day, you will still end up in Hell Fire together because the Abikus / Ogbanje that you will give birth to will never allow you stay in Heaven continue

If you can have IVF, then go ahead. Genotype shouldn't stop you getting married to the love of your life especially when it can be avoided by IVF.
They will use the embryo that's not ss

ezugegere:
I work with an NGO that cares for Siclklers. Please don't even try it if you love your sanity. Even if you don't love yourself, kindly pity your unborn kids. I bet you, if you happen to give birth to a sickler, you will never forgive yourself, given that you are aware of the consequences of what you're going into

Thanks

naija4life247:


Good. Very Good.

Go ahead and marry. The village people that are after you will be very happy to end your own lineage after wasting all the money you earn on SS children who are called Abiku / Emere in Yoruba and Ogbanje at the other side.

On the Judgement Day, you will still end up in Hell Fire together because the Abikus / Ogbanje that you will give birth to will never allow you stay in Heaven continue

Haba... Na fight?

eyinjuege:
If you can have IVF, then go ahead. Genotype shouldn't stop you getting married to the love of your life especially when it can be avoided by IVF.
They will use the embryo that's not ss

Thanks a whole lot. That's exactly what this thread is all about.
I want to know if there's any hope at all before we go our separate ways.

Don't want to lose a good lady if I can get a solution

Jasiman:


Thanks a whole lot. That's exactly what this thread is all about.
I want to know if there's any hope at all before we go our separate ways.

Don't want to lose a good lady if I can get a solution

So, throughout your marriage you will use condom? Or how do you plan to have sex during the IVF time to prevent pregnancy? Or no sex at all? How many abortions will your wife do in fear? You better think straight and clearly.

Forget love for now
Even though not for yourself but the sake of the unborn kids.
Love is never enough reason to be selfish �
You want to trade your kids health because of what can be avoided?
There are so many reasons why you too aren't fit to marry.

This just made me remember Mercy (May her soul rest in peace) she died after our senior waec after battling for years with SS Anemia

I also have a close friend that lost his twin girls in the space of 1year, all because he's AS and got married to an AS.
The marriage was blessed with 3kids including the twins and now they are no more
Marriage between him and his wife has ended, he's now in search of an AA person.

Brother think twice
Love is never enough
There's always someone else the cap can still fit.
Please and please avoid everlasting pains.

I know this is possible medically. Get her pregnant and do the phenotype of d foetus after one or two months in d womb. If it comes out SS, you can abort d baby and if otherwise, you keep it but you may not be able to have more than one child to avoid having SS children. I learnt this somewhere.

Jasiman:


Thanks a whole lot. That's exactly what this thread is all about.
I want to know if there's any hope at all before we go our separate ways.

Don't want to lose a good lady if I can get a solution

If you have the money, speak with a fertility specialist about it first.
If you can't afford the IVF and all, just don't bother

baby124:

So, throughout your marriage you will use condom? Or how do you plan to have sex during the IVF time to prevent pregnancy? Or no sex at all? How many abortions will your wife do in fear? You better think straight and clearly.

There is a reason we have contraceptives.
So many options that are safe including non hormonal ones like the copper coil.
It's a shame ladies that are sexually active don't explore it in Nigeria and would rather use abortions as their own form of contraception

eyinjuege:


There is a reason we have contraceptives.
So many options that are safe including non hormonal ones like the copper coil.
It's a shame ladies that are sexually active don't explore it in Nigeria and would rather use abortions as their own form of contraception

Contraceptives while doing IVF? Do you also think that contraceptives are 100%? So you live your life constantly in fear of having sex recklessly with your own husband? Ha! Except they abstain from sex during the whole IVF and pregnancy periods. So that no mistake will happen! If you have sex during the IVF stage, how do you even know which process entered? Could be natural, and you won’t know till you can test the foetus. Some women are touch and go, I hope you know? They easily get pregnant.

Plus some women get pregnant while pregnant. I hope you know that.

if I’m in your shoe big bro , ama get out of the relationship, I’m not finna allow love to blind me from seeing the pains ahead of me and thinking on how I can circumvenge the pain . Big bro , pain is pain . Nobody loves pain , and the pain is real , pls don’t step in if you are not fully equipped financially

Jasiman:
Good morning Nairalanders, please I need urgent help.

My relationship is on the verge of break up due to genotype issue and I sincerely need your advice. I will appreciate if medical experts on this field and those with experience can help out and Share their experience.

I love this lady so much and she's everything any man can pray for except for the genotype. She equally love me so much as well.
On her part, she has booked consultation with doctors and all they keep telling her isn't good at all. No hope at all.

On my part, I have this strong believe that we will give birth to health kids since we are not planning on having much. Maximum of three.
I have also done some researches and also heard about "bridgeclinic". I don't know if it will work and the success rate.

Please, is there any hope at all or not.
I really appreciate your advice as I anticipate them.
Thank you

Please ��� mod.

Modified: we both have AS genotype

Be asking questions you hear!

Both of you are AS and you are still insistent because I guess you didn't grow up with a sibling or siblings with the SS genotype.

Please end the relationship for the sake of your kids so that you don't watch them in pain because of a selfish love. Some of these kids grow to hate their parents for subjecting them to such pain and trauma.

When the issues start, all this totori love will go out the front door. Project into the future.

Freelane33:
if I’m in your shoe big bro , ama get out of the relationship, I’m not finna allow love to blind me from seeing the pains ahead of me and thinking on how I can circumvenge the pain . Big bro , pain is pain . Nobody loves pain , and the pain is real , pls don’t step in if you are not fully equipped financially

Thanks, I really appreciate

OP take heart. I had the experience too. But I have learnt to leave with it. It is so painful how genotype has to be a criteria for one to be with someone you are compatible with. Although I am still single, I won't marry someone because the person is AA.

Jasiman:
Good morning Nairalanders, please I need urgent help.

My relationship is on the verge of break up due to genotype issue and I sincerely need your advice. I will appreciate if medical experts on this field and those with experience can help out and Share their experience.

I love this lady so much and she's everything any man can pray for except for the genotype. She equally love me so much as well.
On her part, she has booked consultation with doctors and all they keep telling her isn't good at all. No hope at all.

On my part, I have this strong believe that we will give birth to health kids since we are not planning on having much. Maximum of three.
I have also done some researches and also heard about "bridgeclinic". I don't know if it will work and the success rate.

Please, is there any hope at all or not.
I really appreciate your advice as I anticipate them.
Thank you

Please ��� mod.

Modified: we both have AS genotype

Please, don't take that risk,Let her go. I lost my immediate younger brother to the cold hands of death because of same issue. He was SS. The pains he went through each time he had crisis is still fresh in my memory .Till date, I still feel bad about it. I try as much as possible to advise people against it.

@Op; Does it mean both of you never asked about your genotype at the beginning of your relationship/your getting to know each other? Common mate; who does that in this 21st century? That said, are you waiting to hear from us that its ok for both of you to carry on? The genotype issue should have been the first question you should have asked before venturing into the relationship. If you would not have kids then you can go ahead; but if you would be thinking of having kids then it’s not advisable as there is no guarantee that you might not have SS children. From what you have written here, you seem to be so sure of yourself not having SS kids base on your statement; right? Maybe you need to go to the hospital to see for yourself the crisis that an SS child goes through then may be your eyes will clear because the love you think you have for each other, if at all you have an SS child going through crisis, will disappear. I've not even mentioned the financial aspect of taking care of an SS child. One can excuse the not knowing of the older generation having SS children. But in this generation, IT WILL BE CALLED A WICKED ACT as the situation could have been avoided by knowing your genotype at the meeting stage of your relationship. Don't say you weren't warned. ENOUGH SAID.

gannod:







Please, don't take that risk,Let her go. I lost my immediate younger brother to the cold hands of death because of same issue. He was SS. The pains he went through each time he had crisis is still fresh in my memory .Till date, I still feel bad about it. I try as much as possible to advise people against it.

Sorry for your loss.

My elder brother who is in his 40s is also SS but we thank God for sustaining him this far. He is now married with kids and made sure his wife is AA because anything outside that is calamity. He is looking very fresh and one wouldn't easily know his genotype because he is very conscious of his diet and steadily on his supplements but we hear am when he was younger.

When he was 22, he had a crisis that slipped him into coma for 4 days at LUTH idi-araba, Lagos....I still shiver from just recollecting it because he was actually confirmed dead and was being prepared to be moved to the mortuary, his coming back to life was a profound miracle and reason why over the years when he provokes any of us his younger ones, we ignore him as we are still grateful he is alive.

I think there's a thread on Nairaland where I read about changing genotype if it's eventually SS. I mean changing before foetus is formed.

xedyl:
Mr lover lover , only God is irreplaceable. Get yourself AA girl.

The voice of wisdom.

Mindlog:


Sorry for your loss.

My elder brother who is in his 40s is also SS but we thank God for sustaining him this far. He is now married with kids and made sure his wife is AA because anything outside that is calamity. He is looking very fresh and one wouldn't easily know his genotype because he is very conscious of his diet and steadily on his supplements but we hear am when he was younger.

When he was 22, he had a crisis that slipped him into coma for 4 days at LUTH idi-araba, Lagos....I still shiver from just recollecting it because he was actually confirmed dead and was being prepared to be moved to the mortuary, his coming back to life was a profound miracle and reason why over the years when he provokes any of us his younger ones, we ignore him as we are still grateful he is alive.

Thanks. God will continue to be with him and be with you( his siblings)

eyinjuege:


There is a reason we have contraceptives.
So many options that are safe including non hormonal ones like the copper coil.
It's a shame ladies that are sexually active don't explore it in Nigeria and would rather use abortions as their own form of contraception

Are you a woman? You can’t use contraceptives when trying to conceive and not everyone can take contraceptives. By the way, they are not 100%.

Jasiman:

Yeah

If your calc goes wrong and you birth a ss child (which is quite probable) you'll probably regret meeting your spouse. The financial and emotional stress of catering for a constantly sick child is no joke....think well before you leap

Jasiman:
Good morning Nairalanders, please I need urgent help.

My relationship is on the verge of break up due to genotype issue and I sincerely need your advice. I will appreciate if medical experts on this field and those with experience can help out and Share their experience.

I love this lady so much and she's everything any man can pray for except for the genotype. She equally love me so much as well.
On her part, she has booked consultation with doctors and all they keep telling her isn't good at all. No hope at all.

On my part, I have this strong believe that we will give birth to health kids since we are not planning on having much. Maximum of three.
I have also done some researches and also heard about "bridgeclinic". I don't know if it will work and the success rate.

Please, is there any hope at all or not.
I really appreciate your advice as I anticipate them.
Thank you

Please ��� mod.

Modified: we both have AS genotype

If you have made up your mind that you can't do without her

You can go ahead, whatever comes out you bear it

But make sure you don't complain

Jasiman:

Yeah

Do you love her enough not to have a child with her but to adopt? Or not to have any at all?

Your answer to my question is the answer to your question.

Jasiman:

On my part, I have this strong believe that we will give birth to health kids since we are not planning on having much. Maximum of three.

See your mouth like "not much". You're not a serious somebody. Even AA couples these days don't desire more than two.