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Unusual Behavior Between My Step Brother And My Wife by grop1040: 9:15pm On Aug 11, 2022 |
Hi guys, Something happened 9 months ago, I decided to keep mute or probably just wait for the right time to commence my investigation to actually know what is going on between my step brother and my wife. So I'm 9 years already into my marriage, and we have 3 kids. My step brother who is the 2nd of my mum has temperamental problem. He's bossy and very vulgar plus he's controlling, everybody knows him for that, he was married 13 years ago, however after his family relocated to the USA, he later found out that his 3kids aren't his, the marriage ended like that, ever since then he's been traumatized, emotionally and any other way one can describe him as. Sometimes in order to at least feel that children presence around him, he would ask me to have my children come over to his place for some days, and I could witness how that really helped him over time, but then I noticed the absence of his wife started making him familiarize with my wife in certain odd manners which I was not really down with. For example, if he comes to our house, most times comes around with a friend, either female or male, my wife seems not to be the attache type who would sit with us in the living room, she will rather be upstairs in the room, I have witnessed cases where he will shout at her, saying how can everybody be here and ur there upstairs? There was even a time when one of the visitors he came with sighed and made face in a way that defined, wow, "was that necessary". Or times when he will ask her to cook stew for her, if she forgets or probably didnt want to do it because she knew it isnt her duty, she will be yelled upon, you'll here things like, where is the egusi i told u to make, even the one you made last time, u didnt put enough this and that Now yall might think am a dullard or a simp, or someone too relaxed as gentle and as patient as I am, I be original demon, if I start my madness, the result will end in eternal damage, and our family background from my mums side where this my brother was born, we tend to uphold unity over adversity, so when things like this occur, mum would rather have us calm and not fight so unity can continue. So sometimes last year, the major issues started grooming that made me start to think if there was something going on with my step and my wife, it started with when the kids were with him, so madam and I were suppose to go for outing, so we decided to branch at his place to check up on the kids, on getting there while in his living room, he said to my wife "I like your hair" she responded thanks, he was like are u guys going out, I was like yea am taking her out, next thing she asked my madam, so when are we going on our own outing? I shrugged and didnt understand where that came from, though she didnt answer him. While we were leaving, I was waiting for her to bring up the topic and put it to me that why did ur brother say such a thing, even if its a joke, its too expensive, but she didnt, I brought up the topic, and she was like shes surprised too that she never thought he would say such a thing. 5 days later, we had a family party in his house, my other brothers, cousins and my mum, my children were there, while the caterer were cooking outside, and we were all in his living room drinking, he opted to get some meat to dish and give everybody to at least be chewing something, he served it round but when it got to my wives turn, the one he already bit off from was what he gave her, funny thing is, it was only my mum and myself that saw the scene, my wife was not aware, that was when I knew something could be going on. Afterwards, I put the ish through to my wife, she acted disgusted and said she cant blv he would do such, that although my mum already called her to say the same thing. So I asked details of what she discussed with my mum, she said my mum advised her that whenever he calls her, she shouldnt pick, that when he knows its obvious that shes avoiding his call, he probably would want to report to her, and then she will now break the silence of what she my wife have been experiencing with him thus her refusal to pick his call. So I called my mum and I was like being calm, patient and cooperating with the useless policy of the family doesnt mean that the recent things happening won't seat any longer with me, that am gonna have to confront him and put him in his place. My mum begged me and begged, cos she's 76 years old, I considered and I had no choice but to cooperate with her advise. The funny thing is, after this whole ish, I asked her that if he calls, will you pick, she answered yes I will, but I will have to see what he has to say first to know if I will continue the conversation or not, I was like for real? You must be kidding me, it means something that I am not suppose to know of is happening, she was like oh well its ur fault, why didn't u confront him instead of listening to ur mums advise. Since then, I have let it slide, but what actually made me bring up this issue again, was when I went to my bros house to pick some stuffs my sister sent from the USA, madam was off to the market, I called her to ask if she would like the only size 10 of the shoe I saw cos she wears 9, she didnt pick after calling like 4 times, immediately my brother called her with his own phone, she picked and was like sorry when you called I try to pick but it was nt connecting, I just weak at that moment sey wetin dey sup. Guys, ladies, from deep experiences u guys must have gone through, what do u think could be wrong and what do yall think I should do, something could be happening that if I dont unravel early, it might be the cause of ones demise or destruction. 117 Likes 13 Shares |
Re: Unusual Behavior Between My Step Brother And My Wife by grop1040: 9:15pm On Aug 11, 2022 |
mods, kindly push this post to the FP 11 Likes 4 Shares |
Re: Unusual Behavior Between My Step Brother And My Wife by Ecos(m): 9:22pm On Aug 11, 2022 |
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Re: Unusual Behavior Between My Step Brother And My Wife by omotoshodontee1: 9:23pm On Aug 11, 2022 |
M having hard time in believing this story Sha... very bitter to swallow 27 Likes 3 Shares |
Re: Unusual Behavior Between My Step Brother And My Wife by grop1040: 9:24pm On Aug 11, 2022 |
omotoshodontee1: I wont come here to type a long epistle like that all in the name of formulating or making up a story. It did happen. 220 Likes 13 Shares |
Re: Unusual Behavior Between My Step Brother And My Wife by Ecos(m): 9:27pm On Aug 11, 2022 |
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Re: Unusual Behavior Between My Step Brother And My Wife by Tolexander: 9:27pm On Aug 11, 2022 |
My step brother who is the 2nd of my mum has temperamental problem.half brother 68 Likes 5 Shares |
Re: Unusual Behavior Between My Step Brother And My Wife by Osoboshi: 9:27pm On Aug 11, 2022 |
Man this ur brother don too cross line,and ur wife e be like u no dey put am for line if she do wrong. My advice is look straight into there eyes and tell both of them what u don't want.u need to place authority in ur home 393 Likes 26 Shares |
Re: Unusual Behavior Between My Step Brother And My Wife by Abduljohn(m): 9:32pm On Aug 11, 2022 |
Man! Try to trust your wife and also man up to tell your half brother that you can't tolerate him around your wife. Don't wait until your Mum advice materialize but be diplomatic in your approach so as not to affect the family 62 Likes 6 Shares |
Re: Unusual Behavior Between My Step Brother And My Wife by Nobody: 9:32pm On Aug 11, 2022 |
Investigation thoroughly please, to know if they have had anything together in the past or presently so you won't make a disastrous conclusion.. 186 Likes 11 Shares |
Re: Unusual Behavior Between My Step Brother And My Wife by Nobody: 9:33pm On Aug 11, 2022 |
bukky1994: 5 Likes |
Re: Unusual Behavior Between My Step Brother And My Wife by gasparpisciotta: 9:38pm On Aug 11, 2022 |
Your brother is traumatized and probably sees your wife as his wife and your wife may just want to play along as a woman considering the fact the he is your step brother. On the other hand, investigate further or raise it with your brother to put your mind to rest or confirm your suspicions. Anyhow it’s still a family matter. Women dey craze sha!!! 161 Likes 9 Shares |
Re: Unusual Behavior Between My Step Brother And My Wife by Nobody: 9:41pm On Aug 11, 2022 |
This matter be as e get oo.. make the ancestors come intervene as this one pass elders power ![]() 8 Likes |
Re: Unusual Behavior Between My Step Brother And My Wife by gaby(m): 9:45pm On Aug 11, 2022 |
There's something fishy smelling between them. E be like say your brother hold small if yes, your wife got easily carried away. If it smells like poo, most times it always is poo. Never doubt or relegate your gut instincts/intuition. 206 Likes 10 Shares |
Re: Unusual Behavior Between My Step Brother And My Wife by TheGreatIYANU: 10:07pm On Aug 11, 2022 |
Don't make any drastic decisions in haste... Lay your bait and wait for a bite. MODIFIED: on second read of your post, OP, all I can say is you're a vugging pussie! Please delete this thread and go deal with your sh*t! It's embarrassing... the fact that you have to even bring it for us to judge, my God! 27 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: Unusual Behavior Between My Step Brother And My Wife by HarunaWest(m): 10:08pm On Aug 11, 2022 |
grop1040:From the look of things. He has a secret that you don't know. A secret between he and your wife. I don't think they are having an affair. First thing first, run a coded DNA test on your kids to confirm paternity before asking other questions 303 Likes 22 Shares |
Re: Unusual Behavior Between My Step Brother And My Wife by Slynation(m): 10:21pm On Aug 11, 2022 |
Interesting...if I say lemme advise you, gbese will surely happen, so I rather keep my mouth shut But since she's your wife, try checking her whatsapp chat with your step bro, because from the look of things, your step bro sees your wife as "Our wife" 107 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Unusual Behavior Between My Step Brother And My Wife by obiekunie01: 10:21pm On Aug 11, 2022 |
grop1040: Bro what really do you want to hear from us that you don't already know but too scared to face it. is it the fact that your step-brother has used the frustration from his ex-cheating wife to knack your hoe-wife's brains out and turn her to his sex slave just to prove to himself that he is still a worthy man and that all women are cheats! or you just want us to tell you to relax that you will soon end-up 6feet below so they have the freedom they so desire so as to continue their unhindered kpanshin. or you just want to hear from us that your mother is also aware that they are fucking themselves mad but advised your hoe-wife to keep answering your step-bro whenever he calls her so she wont provoke your step-bro into spilling the beans on her. ok i get it - you want us to tell you that your wife is so used to fuking your bro that she is no longer afraid of what your reaction will be if you finds out. Ok. let me tell you this, whichever way you want it, you are already a loser. You either man up and cutout with the little respect you have for yourself by divorcing you wicked asawo wife - dont even give her any reason for the divorce. just go to court and seek to divorce her on irreconcilable difference and fear for your life. that way, you would av defeated them totally. (thou when you divorce her, be rest assured she will move in with your step-bro. but he will dump her after 6 months cause she will no longer give him tht excitement of fukn your wife). But if you decide to continue with the marriage, i guarantee you that you will soon be dead - max two years. take care of you bro. 146 Likes 15 Shares |
Re: Unusual Behavior Between My Step Brother And My Wife by Asquare84(m): 10:22pm On Aug 11, 2022 |
Have you discussed with your pastor, or seek a face of God in prayers to change the behavior of your wife 6 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: Unusual Behavior Between My Step Brother And My Wife by nairalanderr: 10:29pm On Aug 11, 2022 |
talk to your brother make him take his time in how he deals with your wife. u give people little leeway and they start to take advantage of you. stand your ground and say your mind to both your wife and half brother they will not beat you 9 Likes |
Re: Unusual Behavior Between My Step Brother And My Wife by grop1040: 10:30pm On Aug 11, 2022 |
HarunaWest: I already ran DNA on my son, he was the only one that I doubted, but result came out that am the biological father. However instinct kept telling me to run it again. 103 Likes 7 Shares |
Re: Unusual Behavior Between My Step Brother And My Wife by grop1040: 10:31pm On Aug 11, 2022 |
Slynation: Because I formerly get access to her phone, she has graduated from keeping any secrets there. So am not expecting to see anything there. Trust me 3 Likes |
Re: Unusual Behavior Between My Step Brother And My Wife by GboyegaD(m): 10:33pm On Aug 11, 2022 |
Why not have a real conversation with her instead of acting police catch the thief? 19 Likes |
Re: Unusual Behavior Between My Step Brother And My Wife by ifihearam: 10:41pm On Aug 11, 2022 |
Asquare84: Fool..pastor kee you there...what is wrong with you people and pastor, then seek the face of God for what na ![]() @OP Firstly, without being told it seems you are struggling financially and prolly depend on your half brother, he helps you out financially and also your wife is low key very very materialistic(I stand to be corrected). There is something definitelt going on between them and I can assure you that your wife respects him way more than you for obvious reasons..This did not just start recently,it has been on but you were oblivious of it. I advise you to first and foremost run a DNA test for your kids, play calm and check the conversations between him and your wife while she is asleep, if its deleted then you should be more concern, take another step by getting close to your brother and also breeze through his phone, i hope you know how to do it smartly, and there you will get your answer because he wont see it coming. Lastly, be very careful as you are inconsequential in this equation..you see that your wife and step brother? NEVER TRUST THEM. 118 Likes 7 Shares |
Re: Unusual Behavior Between My Step Brother And My Wife by Machalla(m): 10:48pm On Aug 11, 2022 |
Hmmmm Every mistake starts from being nice to people. Well as for nice and good people that cant help being nice then your reward is not on earth but in heaven .. Earth survival laws doest support kind hearted ones @Op Well experiences makes us wiser. Don't doubt your gut. From your write up I can see that you had all it takes to take back your home and put everyone in their rightful place. Most families if not all has at least one stubborn black sheep that give the rest of the family members much to worry about. You are a family man now and you are lord over your home and family. Make him understand that. That is all I can say 24 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Unusual Behavior Between My Step Brother And My Wife by Slynation(m): 10:52pm On Aug 11, 2022 |
grop1040:Oh she graduated... ![]() 5 Likes |
Re: Unusual Behavior Between My Step Brother And My Wife by MrbasHH: 10:52pm On Aug 11, 2022 |
grop1040: Omo this is so deep ooo…. I no dey like this kind story. When I still dey single. My girl friend then now my wife bn see one of her old time church friend (male) few years ago during inec adhoc training. We dey waka together and all of a sudden she was no where to be found and when I come look back I bn see her with the guy talking, gisting and laughing … omo the kind shout wey I shout for am. The guy had to beg me. What an insolence me no dey take nonsense when it come to my woman matter ooo. Her parent know say me get Choco for head reason why they supported my marriage with her. What I’m saying in essence is that you for don voice out. Make you talk your mind make everybody know wetin dey sup when that your stepbrother dey trespass. Which kind nonsense be that. You no fit try shit with my woman because I be real nigga! my judgement and para na instant. I no dey look face. And as for your woman. She fit no get anything to do with that your brother. E fit be say na fear dey make am react like that and as things be now brother man if you no do anything asap and if anything never sup between them before. Bro the guy don already put fear for your wife body and Baba that your brother go use that advantage Bleep your wife to stupor. No vex bro…… that’s the power of mind controlling. The guy don shallow your wife ….. the guy don capture her mind come put fear for her body. Na you fuckup …. Na man you be na…. Why you go dey control my wife for where I dey ?na you pay for dowry? Bros take charge. No dull yourself. Be wise, be smart. The nonsense must stop now. Be brave . Your woman too mumu small. You wey be the horseband oh sorry husband call am for 4times she no pick and almost immediately your brother call and she pick up. Lol……hmmm (she go tell me wetin she see for soup wey make am do hand like that) Na for palace we go take settle the matter. Brother man be wise brother man. 188 Likes 15 Shares |
Re: Unusual Behavior Between My Step Brother And My Wife by Orgasmgiver123(m): 10:54pm On Aug 11, 2022 |
I didn’t read anything but I’ll say, kill that guy before he snatches your wife ( i hope I’m not off point ) Damn... nasty... I’m out of here 4 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Unusual Behavior Between My Step Brother And My Wife by bobbybrown007: 10:55pm On Aug 11, 2022 |
Just go for DNA test first from there we no what's up 5 Likes |
Re: Unusual Behavior Between My Step Brother And My Wife by bdon123(m): 11:00pm On Aug 11, 2022 |
Investigate further,spy her fone....look for more evidence 1 Like |
Re: Unusual Behavior Between My Step Brother And My Wife by jimmychang: 11:08pm On Aug 11, 2022 |
Nothing don sup my guy,but this guy sees all women as sluts and your wife is not an exception, he is on revenge and stuff. HE NO FIT FORM TOUGH FOR HIM WIFE WEY CHEAT ON AM NA YOUR WIFE HE WAN FORM BOSS FOR. BRO,NO LOOSEGUARD.She is now giving him more respect and she is scared of him.And that kind fear go turn to another thing. And baba learn to mark your Territory boss...and are you depending on your brother.Which kind see finish be this ![]() 37 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Unusual Behavior Between My Step Brother And My Wife by Tinububalls: 11:10pm On Aug 11, 2022 |
Op. Firstly, I will say you're scared of your brother, and you're trying to push the blame to your wife. Maybe your wife till feels pity for your brother because of his past. This made her to start playing the good wife. Your wife is silently praying for the day you will address this issue with your brother so that she will be free at last. Bro, talk to your brother, tell him you don't like the way he talks/address or treat your wife, you can use the meat incidence as an example. Tell him you have discussed this with your wife and she isn't happy. From his words and reactions, as a coded guyman you will know if he is bleeping your wife. 113 Likes 8 Shares |
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