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Re: My Wife's Ex-Boyfriend Is About To Ruin My Marriage by Nyanabo(m): 10:36am On Aug 17, 2022
Oga quit the marriage, and make sure to announce to all of her infidelity. Then be sure that child is truly yours before you claim it as yours. Infidelity shouldn't be condone be it from the man or woman.

Once you notice it you step aside else the other spouse will end up killing you.
Re: My Wife's Ex-Boyfriend Is About To Ruin My Marriage by AdeWire001: 10:37am On Aug 17, 2022
Adevector:
Fool

Big fool
as in if Op papa read this jargons he suppose kill op
OP is Fool
OP is MUMU
OP Dull

in fact OP is everything
Re: My Wife's Ex-Boyfriend Is About To Ruin My Marriage by okoloto: 10:37am On Aug 17, 2022
Have you check why you are not making it? An adulterous wife brings the man down financially. Very soon you will turn to a bigger. Sleeping with another man while 5 months pregnant is the height of it all. Run for your life my brother. That marriage will never end well..
Re: My Wife's Ex-Boyfriend Is About To Ruin My Marriage by Jephyard(m): 10:37am On Aug 17, 2022
Soulflai:
I shouldn't have brought this here but the emotional bargage is too heavy for me to move on in. My marriage of 2 years is about to crumble.

I met my wife in Kaduna Southern part in 2017. Our relationship had been a long distance one as I base in Lagos while she also work in Kaduna, but we eventually married in 2020. The bone of contention is the issue of her ex. That point we are dating, I always caution her to cut communication with the guy, she will do it by deleting the number, but later I will find out they're still relating.

Last month, I purchased a new phone and I had to give her my own. So on the process of reinstalling Whatsapp on her phone, I retrieved all the backup Whatsapp messages 7 which left me devastated. The chat history with her ex really left me broken.

On multiple occasions after I paid her dowry, she met with the guy and they had sex. Multiple times pals! Even after marriage, when she is 5 months pregnant, the guy still had her with my baby inside her!

I am really broken pals, I confronted her on this, she started crying that she will cut communication with him. The guy even send some money to her account on difference time this year.

This is the height of emotional damage. I am just leaving each day just to find my leg financially. I am trying my best, but it is not enough.

Lastly, I called the so-called ex on phone to cut communication with her, the guy is in Kaduna I think while we are in Lagos. She also blocked him all avenues likewise. My decision now is that any time I discovered any form of communication between her and the guy, it is over with the marriage. I think she is not really in to me like that, which beg the question while she married me in first instance.

If am your brother, what advice would you recommend? I only choose to be lenient because the kids are just too small to have their parents separated early. If not, I would have sent her parking!.

Right now I am just not happy with life afterall.

At Op. You are really a great guy for being calm up till now, you have done well. You have passed the first phase of the difficult situation like not making a hasty decision. I understand you are trying to understand the situation has a whole before you take the next step. The easy way out is to divorce your wife but there is much more.

If you still love her, keep her. But call a family meeting and make everyone know what has happened say everything that you know.Also call the ex to join in the meeting too he is part of the problem. From there make your decision. Anything done in the hidden filter away when they are exposed.

Do not spare anyone the agony and shame of this disgraceful act. Also note that women hate their secret being exposed.

Cancel all emotion from today hence fort. Also do DNA on your kid.

And I will advice most guys here if you are in a relationship with any woman either married or courting or serious relationship always routinely check your woman phone. There is nothing like privacy in a relationship. Don't let anyone deceive you with that privacy nonsense as long you can see her unclothedness privacy is of the table.

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Re: My Wife's Ex-Boyfriend Is About To Ruin My Marriage by Ebubu9: 10:40am On Aug 17, 2022
Beautyblogger:


She is evil. My ex whom I broke up with since last year hasn't allowed me breathe. You know what I did? I got a restraining order against him even though I've been single. So, imagine what I'd do if I'm married.

A woman who loves her man would never entertain any ex. She had to sleep with him while pregnant. So barbaric. You need to end this marriage before things get worse.

How are you sure the baby is even yours??
na your kind I wan marry. Many women make their ex their bestie even inside marriage, and they want their marriage to find peace.
Re: My Wife's Ex-Boyfriend Is About To Ruin My Marriage by Mokason288(m): 10:40am On Aug 17, 2022
Soulflai:
if whatever I write up there that my wife cheat with her ex is lie, then I should not see tomorrow.I am sad
Eeeeeeeyaaaah I feel your pain bro
Re: My Wife's Ex-Boyfriend Is About To Ruin My Marriage by FullBlastLight: 10:42am On Aug 17, 2022
Vikkoh:
What other advice do you want Bros?

She was pregnant and was still collecting from her EX?
That's the height of it my brother.

You can't cope with someone like that and if you decide to manage the situation hoping she'd change, kindly write down your will and carefully allocate your properties to your Child/Children cos she'll lead you to your grave in years to come.

Dump her sorry a$$ and take care of your children the best way you can.
Forget what the society would say. Your life and sanity matters and you shouldn't joke with that.

Meanwhile, don't listen to the Righteousness guy.
Him go start to dey explain how your story is a sign of end time angry.



Mumu!cool

Righteousness kii u dia! grin

If d situation is not an end time sign, tell us, what is it?

Are stuff like dis prevalent in d olden days?

Extra-marital affairs wit pregnancy in d belly? Haba!
Re: My Wife's Ex-Boyfriend Is About To Ruin My Marriage by davillian(m): 10:43am On Aug 17, 2022
Lmao,
I can forgive a cheating girlfriend but a cheating wife that's the end ...
Yours is an unrepentant cheater....
Re: My Wife's Ex-Boyfriend Is About To Ruin My Marriage by 4ward4: 10:43am On Aug 17, 2022
Useless, idiotic mumu man
Re: My Wife's Ex-Boyfriend Is About To Ruin My Marriage by HustlePro: 10:45am On Aug 17, 2022
Soulflai:
I shouldn't have brought this here but the emotional bargage is too heavy for me to move on in. My marriage of 2 years is about to crumble.

I met my wife in Kaduna Southern part in 2017. Our relationship had been a long distance one as I base in Lagos while she also work in Kaduna, but we eventually married in 2020. The bone of contention is the issue of her ex. That point we are dating, I always caution her to cut communication with the guy, she will do it by deleting the number, but later I will find out they're still relating.

Last month, I purchased a new phone and I had to give her my own. So on the process of reinstalling Whatsapp on her phone, I retrieved all the backup Whatsapp messages 7 which left me devastated. The chat history with her ex really left me broken.

On multiple occasions after I paid her dowry, she met with the guy and they had sex. Multiple times pals! Even after marriage, when she is 5 months pregnant, the guy still had her with my baby inside her!

I am really broken pals, I confronted her on this, she started crying that she will cut communication with him. The guy even send some money to her account on difference time this year.

This is the height of emotional damage. I am just leaving each day just to find my leg financially. I am trying my best, but it is not enough.

Lastly, I called the so-called ex on phone to cut communication with her, the guy is in Kaduna I think while we are in Lagos. She also blocked him all avenues likewise. My decision now is that any time I discovered any form of communication between her and the guy, it is over with the marriage. I think she is not really in to me like that, which beg the question while she married me in first instance.

If am your brother, what advice would you recommend? I only choose to be lenient because the kids are just too small to have their parents separated early. If not, I would have sent her parking!.

Right now I am just not happy with life afterall.

GO AND DO DNA TEST... THAT IS THE ONLY THING I WILL TELL YOU.
Re: My Wife's Ex-Boyfriend Is About To Ruin My Marriage by mankan2k7(m): 10:46am On Aug 17, 2022
Safe money for DNA for all your children
Re: My Wife's Ex-Boyfriend Is About To Ruin My Marriage by 123papas(m): 10:46am On Aug 17, 2022
Soulflai:
no, definitely no,am just too broke to cater for my kids alone
Take heart
Re: My Wife's Ex-Boyfriend Is About To Ruin My Marriage by FullBlastLight: 10:47am On Aug 17, 2022
Lamanii22:
seek God's counselling ke....


He shld hv said devil's counsel? Huh?

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Re: My Wife's Ex-Boyfriend Is About To Ruin My Marriage by BiggyBB(m): 10:47am On Aug 17, 2022
Bro you are dead already if you're not careful...
It's obvious she loves this other guy than you and that bro makes you dispensable and disposable.
It's very obvious that she has no iota of respect or regards for you, your marriage, your family and her family.
It's very obvious that you let her have her ways most times to the detriment of your feelings so much so that you're so predictable especially with your supposed kids.
Take the bull by the horn
Don't allow women know your weakness it's more deadly than a snake venom.
Just retreat alittle restrategize and start taking calculative step towards freeing yourself, nobody can help here ooo except you yourself.
My one kobo advise.

PS: I reside in KD so i know wetin OP dey talk and this kind thing the reverse happen too wella.
Re: My Wife's Ex-Boyfriend Is About To Ruin My Marriage by lovat(m): 10:48am On Aug 17, 2022
Soulflai:
I don't really she is like that ,she always talks about going to church every now and then,I don't doubt her but till this happened.
I don't understand how you reason. Dump that stupid arse and move on. Nothing go happen. You will find a way with your kids. Disgrace her and show the messages to her family members and also yours.

Your family will come together for you.
Re: My Wife's Ex-Boyfriend Is About To Ruin My Marriage by James214: 10:48am On Aug 17, 2022
[quote author=Soulflai post=115765744]I shouldn't have brought this here but the emotional bargage is too heavy for me to move on in. My marriage of 2 years is about to crumble.

I met my wife in Kaduna Southern part in 2017. Our relationship had been a long distance one as I base in Lagos while she also work in Kaduna, but we eventually married in 2020. The bone of contention is the issue of her ex. That point we are dating, I always caution her to cut communication with the guy, she will do it by deleting the number, but later I will find out they're still relating.

Last month, I purchased a new phone and I had to give her my own. So on the process of reinstalling Whatsapp on her phone, I retrieved all the backup Whatsapp messages 7 which left me devastated. The chat history with her ex really left me broken.

On multiple occasions after I paid her dowry, she met with the guy and they had sex. Multiple times pals! Even after marriage, when she is 5 months pregnant, the guy still had her with my baby inside her!

I am really broken pals, I confronted her on this, she started crying that she will cut communication with him. The guy even send some money to her account on difference time this year.

This is the height of emotional damage. I am just leaving each day just to find my leg financially. I am trying my best, but it is not enough.

Lastly, I called the so-called ex on phone to cut communication with her, the guy is in Kaduna I think while we are in Lagos. She also blocked him all avenues likewise. My decision now is that any time I discovered any form of communication between her and the guy, it is over with the marriage. I think she is not really in to me like that, which beg the question while she married me in first instance.

If am your brother, what advice would you recommend? I only choose to be lenient because the kids are just too small to have their parents separated early. If not, I would have sent her parking!.

Right now I am just not happy with life afterall.


Start by running a DNA on your children the real shocker will come.

Don't be an idiot at the same time stupid, she is a LovePeddler. And prostitute don't change. Be the man you're meant to be and call the marriage off, otherwise she will punish you again for things she knows she should not be forgiven for.

I don't how else to say it , you're weak and weak men always kill their wife's due to domestic violence, is just a matter of time before the devil will wisper into your ear and heart to do the damage after all the plains she has cost you. Instead, walk away from that fraudulent union in the name of marriage.

A weak man is the man who knows the right thing to do but choose not to. You allowed yourself to be manipulated by a daughter of eve through shedding of tears.

When you walk with the mentality of nobody is irreplaceable no matter how attached you think you are with them. Can't you see that she has replaced you with her boyfriend. You're the mugu here if you don't replace her too. We have over 1billion women in the world and you allow just one person to cause you pain. Bros man up and do the needful or suffer the pain of regrets.

Note: If you kill her due to anger,you will spend the rest of your life in kirikiri or Kuje prison or even collect death sentence.
Re: My Wife's Ex-Boyfriend Is About To Ruin My Marriage by lovat(m): 10:48am On Aug 17, 2022
Soulflai:
I don't really she is like that ,she always talks about going to church every now and then,I don't doubt her but till this happened.
I don't understand how you reason. Dump that stupid arse and move on. Nothing go happen. You will find a way with your kids. Disgrace her and show the messages to her family members and also yours.

Your family will come together for you. ..
Re: My Wife's Ex-Boyfriend Is About To Ruin My Marriage by Coolgent(m): 10:49am On Aug 17, 2022
Soulflai:
I shouldn't have brought this here but the emotional bargage is too heavy for me to move on in. My marriage of 2 years is about to crumble.

I met my wife in Kaduna Southern part in 2017. Our relationship had been a long distance one as I base in Lagos while she also work in Kaduna, but we eventually married in 2020. The bone of contention is the issue of her ex. That point we are dating, I always caution her to cut communication with the guy, she will do it by deleting the number, but later I will find out they're still relating.

Last month, I purchased a new phone and I had to give her my own. So on the process of reinstalling Whatsapp on her phone, I retrieved all the backup Whatsapp messages 7 which left me devastated. The chat history with her ex really left me broken.

On multiple occasions after I paid her dowry, she met with the guy and they had sex. Multiple times pals! Even after marriage, when she is 5 months pregnant, the guy still had her with my baby inside her!

I am really broken pals, I confronted her on this, she started crying that she will cut communication with him. The guy even send some money to her account on difference time this year.

This is the height of emotional damage. I am just leaving each day just to find my leg financially. I am trying my best, but it is not enough.

Lastly, I called the so-called ex on phone to cut communication with her, the guy is in Kaduna I think while we are in Lagos. She also blocked him all avenues likewise. My decision now is that any time I discovered any form of communication between her and the guy, it is over with the marriage. I think she is not really in to me like that, which beg the question while she married me in first instance.

If am your brother, what advice would you recommend? I only choose to be lenient because the kids are just too small to have their parents separated early. If not, I would have sent her parking!.

Right now I am just not happy with life afterall.


Let sleeping dog lie for now but let her know that if she associate with him again in any form you will do the needful.
Warn him again to stay clear from your wife, if he call her again... Im in Kaduna too i will advice u on what to do.

NB: DNA to ensure you are the father of her child
Re: My Wife's Ex-Boyfriend Is About To Ruin My Marriage by bikefab(m): 10:49am On Aug 17, 2022
Carry out a DNA test on your kid(s). Probability is that they may not be yours. Finally send her packing to continue whoring with her ex
Re: My Wife's Ex-Boyfriend Is About To Ruin My Marriage by FullBlastLight: 10:50am On Aug 17, 2022
Halimaatz:
Nonsens.e


Mumu!cool

Re: My Wife's Ex-Boyfriend Is About To Ruin My Marriage by Ibrahim3307(m): 10:50am On Aug 17, 2022
Lamanii22:
First go and do DNA on that your first baby....
exactly

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Re: My Wife's Ex-Boyfriend Is About To Ruin My Marriage by jojothaiv(m): 10:50am On Aug 17, 2022
Mehnnnnnn.

I've decided not to ever offer advice on matrimony and relationship affairs but as this your matter be so, K leg plenty.

Whatever your decision, kindly factor in your mental health and peace of mind into the picture.
Re: My Wife's Ex-Boyfriend Is About To Ruin My Marriage by FullBlastLight: 10:51am On Aug 17, 2022
2special:
silly advice, will you seek the face of God when you see a snake in your room before killing it



Mumu!cool

Re: My Wife's Ex-Boyfriend Is About To Ruin My Marriage by ufuosman(m): 10:51am On Aug 17, 2022
If your story is true, why are u still keeping her because she will continue doing it till she divorce you... Send her back and move on with your life...
Re: My Wife's Ex-Boyfriend Is About To Ruin My Marriage by nnamsoabia77(m): 10:53am On Aug 17, 2022
It's your wife who wants to ruin your marriage and not her ex boyfriend.
Re: My Wife's Ex-Boyfriend Is About To Ruin My Marriage by romunu(m): 10:53am On Aug 17, 2022
Two words, “DIVORCE HER”
Soulflai:
I shouldn't have brought this here but the emotional bargage is too heavy for me to move on in. My marriage of 2 years is about to crumble.

I met my wife in Kaduna Southern part in 2017. Our relationship had been a long distance one as I base in Lagos while she also work in Kaduna, but we eventually married in 2020. The bone of contention is the issue of her ex. That point we are dating, I always caution her to cut communication with the guy, she will do it by deleting the number, but later I will find out they're still relating.

Last month, I purchased a new phone and I had to give her my own. So on the process of reinstalling Whatsapp on her phone, I retrieved all the backup Whatsapp messages 7 which left me devastated. The chat history with her ex really left me broken.

On multiple occasions after I paid her dowry, she met with the guy and they had sex. Multiple times pals! Even after marriage, when she is 5 months pregnant, the guy still had her with my baby inside her!

I am really broken pals, I confronted her on this, she started crying that she will cut communication with him. The guy even send some money to her account on difference time this year.

This is the height of emotional damage. I am just leaving each day just to find my leg financially. I am trying my best, but it is not enough.

Lastly, I called the so-called ex on phone to cut communication with her, the guy is in Kaduna I think while we are in Lagos. She also blocked him all avenues likewise. My decision now is that any time I discovered any form of communication between her and the guy, it is over with the marriage. I think she is not really in to me like that, which beg the question while she married me in first instance.

If am your brother, what advice would you recommend? I only choose to be lenient because the kids are just too small to have their parents separated early. If not, I would have sent her parking!.

Right now I am just not happy with life afterall.
Re: My Wife's Ex-Boyfriend Is About To Ruin My Marriage by Doctore9(m): 10:53am On Aug 17, 2022
Soulflai:
I shouldn't have brought this here but the emotional bargage is too heavy for me to move on in. My marriage of 2 years is about to crumble.

I met my wife in Kaduna Southern part in 2017. Our relationship had been a long distance one as I base in Lagos while she also work in Kaduna, but we eventually married in 2020. The bone of contention is the issue of her ex. That point we are dating, I always caution her to cut communication with the guy, she will do it by deleting the number, but later I will find out they're still relating.

Last month, I purchased a new phone and I had to give her my own. So on the process of reinstalling Whatsapp on her phone, I retrieved all the backup Whatsapp messages 7 which left me devastated. The chat history with her ex really left me broken.

On multiple occasions after I paid her dowry, she met with the guy and they had sex. Multiple times pals! Even after marriage, when she is 5 months pregnant, the guy still had her with my baby inside her!

I am really broken pals, I confronted her on this, she started crying that she will cut communication with him. The guy even send some money to her account on difference time this year.

This is the height of emotional damage. I am just leaving each day just to find my leg financially. I am trying my best, but it is not enough.

Lastly, I called the so-called ex on phone to cut communication with her, the guy is in Kaduna I think while we are in Lagos. She also blocked him all avenues likewise. My decision now is that any time I discovered any form of communication between her and the guy, it is over with the marriage. I think she is not really in to me like that, which beg the question while she married me in first instance.

If am your brother, what advice would you recommend? I only choose to be lenient because the kids are just too small to have their parents separated early. If not, I would have sent her parking!.

Right now I am just not happy with life afterall.

She's unrepentant. Very sad bro. Reporting her to your or her family wouldn't do any good
Re: My Wife's Ex-Boyfriend Is About To Ruin My Marriage by lovelyefem(m): 10:56am On Aug 17, 2022
@ OP please kindly reach me @femitechnic@yahoo.com
Re: My Wife's Ex-Boyfriend Is About To Ruin My Marriage by donsheddy1(m): 10:56am On Aug 17, 2022
thundervirus:
First and foremost, go and do a DNA test to ascertain if dat child is URS, before I give u any advice.
From the guy's explanation, you should have noticed he's not financially buoyant so therefore can't afford his so called wife let alone a paternity test.

OP, sulk it up. Take your decisions when you're man enough.
Re: My Wife's Ex-Boyfriend Is About To Ruin My Marriage by Smithroll44: 10:58am On Aug 17, 2022
Try to know by DNA test to confirm if you’re the father of the first child it’s very important so you wouldn’t train bastard child
Re: My Wife's Ex-Boyfriend Is About To Ruin My Marriage by RillJ(m): 10:58am On Aug 17, 2022
That you chose to focus on the 'EX' means you are not ready to come to terms with your challenge.

Your 'wife' prefers the path of ignominy. She never left, neither will she ever leave the 'EX'. The earlier you wake up the better you are likely to be.
Re: My Wife's Ex-Boyfriend Is About To Ruin My Marriage by clothingonline(m): 10:59am On Aug 17, 2022
Take hrt oooo


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