Sincerely, I messed up big time and I never thought I could find myself in this kind of mess, please I need your advice. Not to waste time. Am married for eight years now to a beautiful woman and have 3lovely kids.
About two years ago I employed this girl to work with me, she was in her early 20's and I was 37 then. This Girl became very respectful and very committed to her job. About five months down the line we start getting too close and most time I caught her stirring at me she will smile. Each time my wife complain about her closeness to me I will assure her that there is nothing to worry about.

To cut this short, we became fond of each others and we sometimes kiss in the office and in two occasions I took her out and romanced her but I avoided making a penetration into her. I bought her phone and other things.

Early this year she gained an admission in one poly in the North. Due to her parents financial strength I practically carried all the responsibilities. My wife was aware I assisted her but not to the extend that I did.

From January till this month I send her money every month for her upkeep and other things at least 25-30k monthly. But an issue came up last month.

I saw some of her pictures and videos on tik tok which was very undecent, I called her and scolded her but I observed she wasn't happy the way I talked to her. I went ahead and reported her to her and hell got loosed. She called my wife and Informed her that I have cheated on her and that I have had sex with her twice. Which is not exactly the truth. Now my family is falling apart. My wife is threatening to end the union.

Please, I need every advice that I can get, to earn my wife trust again. Also what can I do to this girl? Can I sue her? Please bear with my grammatical bluders.

I think you should have sex with her so that the story can be true

Tell her the truth no need to lie and show genuine repentance n rekindle the love by buying her things she never requested for

Josepin:
Sincerely, I messed up big time and I never thought I could find myself in this kind of mess, please I need your advice. Not to waste time. Am married for eight years now to a beautiful woman and have 3lovely kids.
About two years ago I employed this girl to work with me, she was in her early 20's and I was 37 then. This Girl became very respectful and very committed to her job. About five months down the line we start getting too close and most time I caught her stirring at me she will smile. Each time my wife complain about her closeness to me I will assure her that there is nothing to worry about.

To cut this short, we became fond of each others and we sometimes kiss in the office and in two occasions I took her out and romanced her but I avoided making a penetration into her. I bought her phone and other things.

Early this year she gained an admission in one poly in the North. Due to her parents financial strength I practically carried all the responsibilities. My wife was aware I assisted her but not to the extend that I did.

From January till this month I send her money every month for her upkeep and other things at least 25-30k monthly. But an issue came up last month.

I saw some of her pictures and videos on tik tok which was very undecent, I called her and scolded her but I observed she wasn't happy the way I talked to her. I went ahead and reported her to her and hell got loosed. She called my wife and Informed her that I have cheated on her and that I have had sex with her twice. Which is not exactly the truth. Now my family is falling apart. My wife is threatening to end the union.

Please, I need every advice that I can get, to earn my wife trust again. Also what can I do to this girl? Can I sue her? Please bear with my grammatical bluders.

You should be telling your wife this, not the world. Why do we feel the need to talk every time to the world than to the person that deserves the information



Follow this redpill advice. You loose your worth in the relationship by begging her. When she brings down hell, keep quiet and use the quietness to confuse her.


Walk up to whom your wife can listen to without emtions attached. She's currently thinking through her emotions currently. Did you see Atiku or Okowa going near Wike regardless of how badly they want to reconcile with him?


Use your senses, stop putting your wife on a pedestal. If positions could switch, I would also do the same and worse than you


Have people speak with her, and not when the heat is on, lest you expose yourself as desperate and weak. If she wants to divorce, let her go please. You'll get others. Shakira has been replaced the world didn't crumble


Btw, you're also melodramatic and unstable. Control your emotions. Please, its just a woman threatening to leave you, not the Holy Spirit

garriAndsugar:
I think you should have sex with her so that the story can be true

No sir, the relationship is over, we can't have anything to do with each other anymore

dollytino4real:
Tell her the truth no need to lie and show genuine repentance n rekindle the love by buying her things she never requested for

I have tried to let her know what happened but is very hard to believe because I took the girl to a guest house

It’s better you come out and tell your wife what really happened between you and the girl if your wife wants to stay she will, if she does not want to let it be. You have already made the mistake so man up for it.

Oga stop chasing shadows if u sue her .it a waste of fund .ignore ur wife.women will surely threaten in that kind of situation.threaten d girl with juju believe me d tru will com out

What do you want to sue her for?

Oga take your L and apologize to your wife. Even if you didn’t penetrate the lady, it’s still adultery.

I’m happy she even reported you to your wife. The money you have been sending her monthly would go a long way for your wife and children.

Some situations demands that you deny any wrongdoing even if you are as guilty as sin.


You shouldn't have confessed to any form of romance with her to your wife.

kushma:
It’s better you come out and tell your wife what really happened between you and the girl if your wife wants to stay she will, if she does not want to let it be. You have already made the mistake so man up for it.

I have done this sir, but she kept asking, how can I take a lady to a hotel and come around to tell her that I didn complete the act not once but twice

Something tells me u are not telling d true .u kiss but u didn't touch .broda lie another lie.


So kissing her is not cheating abi.giving a girl that is not ur wife attention is cheating .u must not toritori her first


My only advice is to ignore ur woman ,she will calm down na initial gragra

Calibrator:
Some situations demands that you deny any wrongdoing even if you are as guilty as sin.


You shouldn't have confessed to any form of romance with her to your wife.

I denied it initially but my wife kept mounting pressure, and she said she has been suspecting before now

Abfinest007:
Something tells me u are not telling d true

Why will I lie here, nobody knows me. I wish there is something I can do to thank girl legally. Is very painful. Now she has blocked my lines

And you foolishly later admitted wrongdoing.

Confessing at first is even preferable than to deny then admit later.


Going forward, even if you are telling the truth, she will continue mounting pressure on you in case you will crack again.


You are truly fvcked bro!

Josepin:


I denied it initially but my wife kept mounting pressure, and she said she has been suspecting before now

Josepin:
Sincerely, I messed up big time and I never thought I could find myself in this kind of mess, please I need your advice. Not to waste time. Am married for eight years now to a beautiful woman and have 3lovely kids.
About two years ago I employed this girl to work with me, she was in her early 20's and I was 37 then. This Girl became very respectful and very committed to her job. About five months down the line we start getting too close and most time I caught her stirring at me she will smile. Each time my wife complain about her closeness to me I will assure her that there is nothing to worry about.

To cut this short, we became fond of each others and we sometimes kiss in the office and in two occasions I took her out and romanced her but I avoided making a penetration into her. I bought her phone and other things.

Early this year she gained an admission in one poly in the North. Due to her parents financial strength I practically carried all the responsibilities. My wife was aware I assisted her but not to the extend that I did.

From January till this month I send her money every month for her upkeep and other things at least 25-30k monthly. But an issue came up last month.

I saw some of her pictures and videos on tik tok which was very undecent, I called her and scolded her but I observed she wasn't happy the way I talked to her. I went ahead and reported her to her and hell got loosed. She called my wife and Informed her that I have cheated on her and that I have had sex with her twice. Which is not exactly the truth. Now my family is falling apart. My wife is threatening to end the union.

Please, I need every advice that I can get, to earn my wife trust again. Also what can I do to this girl? Can I sue her? Please bear with my grammatical bluders.

mumu man..

SarutobiEky:
mumu man..

Thank you

Josepin:

Thank you

you go dey sponsor woman wey no be your sister, or relative, or wife for school. You deserve everyrhing that's happening to you right now.

SarutobiEky:
you go dey sponsor woman wey no be your sister, or relative, or wife for school. You deserve everyrhing that's happening to you right now.

Brother, I regret

Josepin:


Brother, I regret

just go beg your wife..if she go gree

You didn't have sex with her but you had carnal knowledge of her, right?

Bunnybee:
What do you want to sue her for?

Oga take your L and apologize to your wife. Even if you didn’t penetrate the lady, it’s still adultery.

I’m happy she even reported you to your wife. The money you have been sending her monthly would go a long way for your wife and children.

My family by God's grace is not suffering.

Please what if I threaten her with police. I mean the girl

Stupid nigga .. embarrassing men anyhow .. nonsense write up .. kitten

Josepin:
Sincerely, I messed up big time and I never thought I could find myself in this kind of mess, please I need your advice. Not to waste time. Am married for eight years now to a beautiful woman and have 3lovely kids.
About two years ago I employed this girl to work with me, she was in her early 20's and I was 37 then. This Girl became very respectful and very committed to her job. About five months down the line we start getting too close and most time I caught her stirring at me she will smile. Each time my wife complain about her closeness to me I will assure her that there is nothing to worry about.

To cut this short, we became fond of each others and we sometimes kiss in the office and in two occasions I took her out and romanced her but I avoided making a penetration into her. I bought her phone and other things.

Early this year she gained an admission in one poly in the North. Due to her parents financial strength I practically carried all the responsibilities. My wife was aware I assisted her but not to the extend that I did.

From January till this month I send her money every month for her upkeep and other things at least 25-30k monthly. But an issue came up last month.

I saw some of her pictures and videos on tik tok which was very undecent, I called her and scolded her but I observed she wasn't happy the way I talked to her. I went ahead and reported her to her and hell got loosed. She called my wife and Informed her that I have cheated on her and that I have had sex with her twice. Which is not exactly the truth. Now my family is falling apart. My wife is threatening to end the union.

Please, I need every advice that I can get, to earn my wife trust again. Also what can I do to this girl? Can I sue her? Please bear with my grammatical bluders.

Be a man and handle it, why are you calling people to advise.Did you ask for advice before allowing your Willie control your thoughts.uselessmen everywhere.

Josepin:
Sincerely, I messed up big time and I never thought I could find myself in this kind of mess, please I need your advice. Not to waste time. Am married for eight years now to a beautiful woman and have 3lovely kids.
About two years ago I employed this girl to work with me, she was in her early 20's and I was 37 then. This Girl became very respectful and very committed to her job. About five months down the line we start getting too close and most time I caught her stirring at me she will smile. Each time my wife complain about her closeness to me I will assure her that there is nothing to worry about.

To cut this short, we became fond of each others and we sometimes kiss in the office and in two occasions I took her out and romanced her but I avoided making a penetration into her. I bought her phone and other things.

Early this year she gained an admission in one poly in the North. Due to her parents financial strength I practically carried all the responsibilities. My wife was aware I assisted her but not to the extend that I did.

From January till this month I send her money every month for her upkeep and other things at least 25-30k monthly. But an issue came up last month.

I saw some of her pictures and videos on tik tok which was very undecent, I called her and scolded her but I observed she wasn't happy the way I talked to her. I went ahead and reported her to her and hell got loosed. She called my wife and Informed her that I have cheated on her and that I have had sex with her twice. Which is not exactly the truth. Now my family is falling apart. My wife is threatening to end the union.

Please, I need every advice that I can get, to earn my wife trust again. Also what can I do to this girl? Can I sue her? Please bear with my grammatical blunders.

Don't sue her, tell your wife the truth, apologies, forgive yourself, and forget her completely. Never make contact with her anymore, silence is the best answer for a fool like her. You acted SIMply but nobody is above mistakes. Block her line everywhere. Move on.

kingscare1:


Don't sue her, tell your wife the truth, apologies, forgive yourself, and forget her completely. Never make contact with her anymore, silence is the best answer for a fool like her. You acted SIMply but nobody is above mistakes. Block her line everywhere. Move on.

Thank you sir, I just did that now

Thats why its good to eat kpekus when you have the chance?? Now you wouldn't be feeling this bad.. Cause I know wetin pain you pass be say you never chop the kpekus no be say your wife wan leave you.. Cause we all know no Nigerian woman will leave her husband with three kids cause of one fling.

I'll advice to beg the girl to call your wife and deny the whole story she told her.. Then find way go chop that kpekus..

Josepin:
Sincerely, I messed up big time and I never thought I could find myself in this kind of mess, please I need your advice. Not to waste time. Am married for eight years now to a beautiful woman and have 3lovely kids.
About two years ago I employed this girl to work with me, she was in her early 20's and I was 37 then. This Girl became very respectful and very committed to her job. About five months down the line we start getting too close and most time I caught her stirring at me she will smile. Each time my wife complain about her closeness to me I will assure her that there is nothing to worry about.

To cut this short, we became fond of each others and we sometimes kiss in the office and in two occasions I took her out and romanced her but I avoided making a penetration into her. I bought her phone and other things.

Early this year she gained an admission in one poly in the North. Due to her parents financial strength I practically carried all the responsibilities. My wife was aware I assisted her but not to the extend that I did.

From January till this month I send her money every month for her upkeep and other things at least 25-30k monthly. But an issue came up last month.

I saw some of her pictures and videos on tik tok which was very undecent, I called her and scolded her but I observed she wasn't happy the way I talked to her. I went ahead and reported her to her and hell got loosed. She called my wife and Informed her that I have cheated on her and that I have had sex with her twice. Which is not exactly the truth. Now my family is falling apart. My wife is threatening to end the union.

Please, I need every advice that I can get, to earn my wife trust again. Also what can I do to this girl? Can I sue her? Please bear with my grammatical bluders.

You're almost 40 and you still don't have sense. Shame on you.

That girl is STUPID

Cut every thing about her off

07kjb:
That girl is STUPID

Cut every thing about her off

Just did this, I wish there is something I could do to teach her better lesson. I know she will be feeling smart now