This is funny and pathetic at the same time

Op did not have sex yet he's paying school fees and upkeep and still got burned......


There's level to this thing called simping oooo

Its like some people are born simps

I know you should do sex with her so that the story can be true

It's even better she blocked you, at least that money you have been spending on her, you will have sense now and be using it for something better or spend it on your family.
Why u wnt even sue her self...?
Just lock up the matter, try man up, beg your wife, if she no gree. Look for someone that she listens to, if e no still work then just lock up. Life goes on

Josepin:
Sincerely, I messed up big time and I never thought I could find myself in this kind of mess, please I need your advice. Not to waste time. Am married for eight years now to a beautiful woman and have 3lovely kids.
About two years ago I employed this girl to work with me, she was in her early 20's and I was 37 then. This Girl became very respectful and very committed to her job. About five months down the line we start getting too close and most time I caught her stirring at me she will smile. Each time my wife complain about her closeness to me I will assure her that there is nothing to worry about.

To cut this short, we became fond of each others and we sometimes kiss in the office and in two occasions I took her out and romanced her but I avoided making a penetration into her. I bought her phone and other things.

Early this year she gained an admission in one poly in the North. Due to her parents financial strength I practically carried all the responsibilities. My wife was aware I assisted her but not to the extend that I did.

From January till this month I send her money every month for her upkeep and other things at least 25-30k monthly. But an issue came up last month.

I saw some of her pictures and videos on tik tok which was very undecent, I called her and scolded her but I observed she wasn't happy the way I talked to her. I went ahead and reported her to her and hell got loosed. She called my wife and Informed her that I have cheated on her and that I have had sex with her twice. Which is not exactly the truth. Now my family is falling apart. My wife is threatening to end the union.

Please, I need every advice that I can get, to earn my wife trust again. Also what can I do to this girl? Can I sue her? Please bear with my grammatical bluders.

But this story is not complete.

Adejo1:
It's even better she blocked you, at least that money you have been spending on her, you will have sense now and be using it for something better or spend it on your family.
Why u wnt even sue her self...?
Just lock up the matter, try man up, beg your wife, if she no gree. Look for someone that she listens to, if e no still work then just lock up. Life goes on

Why I feel like suing her, is because I felt she took advantage of my simplicity. Though I have blocked her off completely but I still feel cheated

empire02:
But this story is not complete.

What should I add

Why will I lie here, nobody knows me. I wish there is something I can do to thank girl legally. Is very painful. Now she has blocked my linesWhy will I lie here, nobody knows me. I wish there is something I can do to thank girl legally. Is very painful. Now she has blocked my lines...

Some people have full academic sponsorship yet they still live without a damn for the future?


If only i have been priviledged to 25k monthly since the beginning of this year, i wouldn't be struggling with school fees right now.

OP you bleeped up sha.
If you had no flings with her then you would have been able to chastise her without issues.

Lack of self control has brought thorns into your home. Just act wisely. It's your decision and your home. If you cherish your HOME then set aside your ego and make things right. Discard that girl.

Confess and apologise to your wife and don't let her go until she forgives you.

I repeat, SET ASIDE YOUR EGO. You've fccked already. If you don't understand her pains, imagine you in her shoes.

Goan beg that woman.

You may see this as a "simps' advice" though. "Alphas' advice" is somewhere up there.

It's your marriage; not mine; not theirs.

Josepin:
Sincerely, I messed up big time and I never thought I could find myself in this kind of mess, please I need your advice. Not to waste time. Am married for eight years now to a beautiful woman and have 3lovely kids.
About two years ago I employed this girl to work with me, she was in her early 20's and I was 37 then. This Girl became very respectful and very committed to her job. About five months down the line we start getting too close and most time I caught her stirring at me she will smile. Each time my wife complain about her closeness to me I will assure her that there is nothing to worry about.

To cut this short, we became fond of each others and we sometimes kiss in the office and in two occasions I took her out and romanced her but I avoided making a penetration into her. I bought her phone and other things.

Early this year she gained an admission in one poly in the North. Due to her parents financial strength I practically carried all the responsibilities. My wife was aware I assisted her but not to the extend that I did.

From January till this month I send her money every month for her upkeep and other things at least 25-30k monthly. But an issue came up last month.

I saw some of her pictures and videos on tik tok which was very undecent, I called her and scolded her but I observed she wasn't happy the way I talked to her. I went ahead and reported her to her and hell got loosed. She called my wife and Informed her that I have cheated on her and that I have had sex with her twice. Which is not exactly the truth. Now my family is falling apart. My wife is threatening to end the union.

Please, I need every advice that I can get, to earn my wife trust again. Also what can I do to this girl? Can I sue her? Please bear with my grammatical bluders.

Who did u report her to?

Oga, you said in your write-up, no penetration. It means the gbola played at the gate of the kpekus except that it didn't have a pass.

Interesting. OP, you are a cheat! And you are still not truthful here that you have not slept with that your side chick.

You are a married man cheating on your wife and still have entitlement mentality to control how your side chick will behave online. Is she your wife ?

Imagine, you want to sue. Sue for what?

You better go and beg your wife for forgiveness. I hope she will be able to forgive you.

What married men don't know is that no girl you cheat with who knows you have a wife and children would ever fully respect you.

The girl is doing runs, you are probably not the only married man that is bankrolling her...she feels she doesn't need your 25k monthly anymore.

Next time respect your wife and children and be faithful, if you want to taste different soup once in a while, employ the services of a call girl that doesn't know you, do your thing and never call her again.

SarutobiEky:
you go dey sponsor woman wey no be your sister, or relative, or wife for school. You deserve everyrhing that's happening to you right now.

Exactly,my guy! What was his intention with all that sponsorship of a stranger if not to chop? He's a loser.

Your story is incomplete. You have been sleeping with her. Cut her off. Make up with your wife.

Lesson learnt. Move on with your life.

MisterMan123456:


Exactly,my guy! What was his intention with all that sponsorship of a stranger if not to chop? He's a loser.

He has been sleeping with her. The reason why he stated that they indulged in romance without penetration is because the girl has seen his private part and can describe it to his wife if she ask for proof.

He should cut her off, apologize to his wife and move on.

Mentholated:
Your story is incomplete. You have been sleeping with her. Cut her off. Make up with your wife.

Lesson learnt. Move on with your life.

I took her to a Geust house twice but didn't penetrate her I was that cautious

czarr:
What married men don't know is that no girl you cheat with who knows you have a wife and children would ever fully respect you.

The girl is doing runs, you are probably not the only married man that is bankrolling her...she feels she doesn't need your 25k monthly anymore.

Next time respect your wife and children and be faithful, if you want to taste different soup once in a while, employ the services of a call girl that doesn't know you, do your thing and never call her again.

Thank you so much, so there is nothing I can do to the girl? I still feel she deserves to be called to order

Truvelisback:
Who did u report her to?

I reported her to her father and her brother but there responses was looks suspicious to me. As if the have a hand in the whole thing

MisterMan123456:


Exactly,my guy! What was his intention with all that sponsorship of a stranger if not to chop? He's a loser.

I don't Pity him... let him lie on the bed he laid..should teach him a lesson

Brother, I regretBrother, I regret...

gbowoade85142:
Brother, I regretBrother, I regret...

You know her right?

SarutobiEky:
I don't Pity him... let him lie on the bed he laid..should teach him a lesson

Thanks, sure I will get over this. My wife is beginning to listen though she kept crying. I wish there is any move I can make against that girl that is one of the reasons I brought this matter to this forum.

Josepin:


Just did this, I wish there is something I could do to teach her better lesson. I know she will be feeling smart now

Your wife should know that she's a home breaker and that theres an element of truth in what u are telling her.... Calm down when her anger ends she will treat both ur Bleep up and that of the girl.

And when the girl is hungry again she will remember u .. just give her time and lay low. When she finally contacts you, ask her why she did what she did ... She will confess then send evidence to ur wife

Learn to see single women in their 20s as explorers. Don't advise them. They'll listen to your advice, but they'll always go against it. Only advise women in their 30s and above — these are the ones who listen.

Unfortunately many more people will still fall in this trap. Almost everyone is a cheat (both males and females). It will shock you to know that your wife was or is planning to cheat on you without you being aware one bit. Don't cheat, but if you can't help it, make sure not to get caught but the chances are there that you'll be caught so don't do it in the first place.

For Op, I really don't know the nature of your wife but I have handled situations like this before. If your wife truly loves you, apologize to her, compliment her, appeal to her love language. The reason why she is angry with you Is because she thinks she is not adequate enough hence your looking outside (and most woman don't like that one bit). If she is too stubborn or irrational (as most women are) go ghost mode, employ the silent treatment, be happy always, dance around the house and enjoy your Life, if you're valuable in her eyes she will wonder what's is wrong and question herself about her inadequacies and will find subtle ways to bring you back. The worse is that she may decide to leave you but at least you enjoyed yourself and made yourself happy. She may consider the kids and stay as some women will. The variables are endless and it depends on the situations and make up of your woman. Some are forgiving some are not too forgiving. Watch out!

You sponsored an unrepentant Olosho to school baami. You can actually teach her some lessons anyways. You have her cell number? Give us let's share it for people to be calling her for hook ups first. Let's stalk her...

Idiot, money duh dey your hand na

TheZeezle:
You sponsored an unrepentant Olosho to school baami. You can actually teach her some lessons anyways. You have her cell number? Give us let's share it for people to be calling her for hook ups first. Let's stalk her...

Sorry I have deleted band and deleted her numbers even though she did that first the moment she reported to my wife. Though, I don't see this your advice being helpful in anyway except you explain better, her contact is still on my wife phone

dontrulee:
Unfortunately many more people will still fall in this trap. Almost everyone is a cheat (both males and females). It will shock you to know that your wife was or is planning to cheat on you without you being aware one bit. Don't cheat, but if you can't help it, make sure not to get caught but the chances are there that you'll be caught so don't do it in the first place.

For Op, I really don't know the nature of your wife but I have handled situations like this before. If your wife truly loves you, apologize to her, compliment her, appeal to her love language. The reason why she is angry with you Is because she thinks she is not adequate enough hence your looking outside (and most woman don't like that one bit). If she is too stubborn or irrational (as most women are) go ghost mode, employ the silent treatment, be happy always, dance around the house and enjoy your Life, if you're valuable in her eyes she will wonder what's is wrong and question herself about her inadequacies and will find subtle ways to bring you back. The worse is that she may decide to leave you but at least you enjoyed yourself and made yourself happy. She may consider the kids and stay as some women will. The variables are endless and it depends on the situations and make up of your woman. Some are forgiving some are not too forgiving. Watch out!

Very encouraging. Thanks so much sir

garriAndsugar:
I think you should have sex with her so that the story can be true

Funny reply. Your username show say u no just send anybody till you smack garri and sugar first.

Back to the topic: She's crazy and if your story is true, your discussion with her gave her the impression that you are still dating her sha. No right-thinking woman will behave like that, knowing full well you're sponsoring her. Watch out chief, she may likely have a photo/video that she will use in blackmailing you.

Josepin:


Sorry I have deleted band and deleted her numbers even though she did that first the moment she reported to my wife. Though, I don't see this your advice being helpful in anyway except you explain better, her contact is still on my wife phone

Bro you can't sue the girl! If you no penetrate, u kissed and press Bounda so you can only make her feel the heat to realize she bleeped up.

advanceDNA:
This is funny and pathetic at the same time

Op did not have sex yet he's paying school fees and upkeep and still got burned......


There's level to this thing called simping oooo

Its like some people are born simps

Papa like Op wan form father to small pikin wey Don see ur gbola and thinks respect go dey, funny thing is after paying her fees and giving monthly stipends, without having sex with her, Na one poly sharp guy go dey chop her, while his left to pick the pieces of whats left of his marriage