Double red card,

MaryAye:
I met this guy where I normally get my fruits for biz. We got talking and exchanged contact.

He seems to be a nice guy but when I told him I had a son and narrated the circumstances behind his birth and my life, he told me he was cool with it.

Of lately, I noticed he talks ills of my son and assume it's a joke. I will try to shade it off but he repeated it again after the church service yesterday.

I'm considering giving him a chance because he's cool but his singular act of insulting and shouting at my son when he comes to my shop seem to disturb me.

Please, do you think his behaviour is a red flag or not?

Ybaby:


How are you sure your dad is your dad? You look alike ABI? Because if you don't have a DNA document stating you are your dad's child then you may be a baastard....most likely a basstard

My dad was the only man my mom fvcked throughout her childbearing age.
Her family keep their daughters clean until they meet their men. They even check for evidence of virginity after the wedding night. If she isn't a virgin, the wedding will be dissolved.

the boy go revolt at the end. he go say you no be my father!!

deavicky:
are you sure you are training that boy well?. Because the man could be doing that because of ur son's abnormal character.

How old is your son? Is he a toddler? Preteen or a Teenager? Or a full fledged youth? Give us this details and we know how best to advice you.

Nyanabo:
How old is your son? Is he a toddler? Preteen or a Teenager? Or a full fledged youth? Give us this details and we know how best to advice you.

He's 4, sir.

There is a young single mom in my church. I can't imagine how any suitor, no matter how pleasant, will not have a problem with the lady's seven year-old son. The boy is "spoilt" from inside out.
My point? Sit your man down, listen to him DISPASSIONATELY. You might have gained more than a husband after the chat.

Wish you God's best. It will be well.

MaryAye:
I met this guy where I normally get my fruits for biz. We got talking and exchanged contact.

He seems to be a nice guy but when I told him I had a son and narrated the circumstances behind his birth and my life, he told me he was cool with it.

Of lately, I noticed he talks ills of my son and assume it's a joke. I will try to shade it off but he repeated it again after the church service yesterday.

I'm considering giving him a chance because he's cool but his singular act of insulting and shouting at my son when he comes to my shop seem to disturb me.

Please, do you think his behaviour is a red flag or not?

So what chance you wan give this NICE guy?
I know you deserve a second chance to find a nice man, but what of the boy's father?

MaryAye:


He's 4, sir.

Trustedapparel:
y are you forcing the young man to like your bastard son Didn't that. Your bastard son has a father ? Send that your bastard son to his father.....if you want to marry......all this virginerians with manipulative agenda self........

The supposed bastard father you are shouting died as a result of accident. He was a great great and great guy.

Oh, this is a different matter then. Hope you are not lying to us. In that case, this is an ok relationship but you have to be NICE and patient with the guy. I suspect the guy is not being strict with the boy if he understands the circumstances.

it is just you that is overreacting! he will treat the boy like his own !

MaryAye:


The supposed bastard father you are shouting died as a result of accident. He was a great great and great guy.

you are being strict with the guy. na you wan settle down

MaryAye:


The supposed bastard father you are shouting died as a result of accident. He was a great great and great guy.

MaryAye:


The supposed bastard father you are shouting died as a result of accident. He was a great great and great guy.

Sorry about the loss but you need to understand that men aren't emotional all the times when it comes to correcting a child, a man can be hostile towards a child when giving corrections and still love the child dearly, as much as go out of his way to do things for the child. My point is .... sincerely check if the guy is deliberately doing that then decide for yourself what you want coz the truth is....you ladies are so emotional when it comes your children getting sticks from a man other than their father ...most women see it as wickedness, so if you can reason beyond this and be logical...just may be it'll work but know that any man you want to be with must love your son too for the relationship to work else na future trouble una dey prepare for

frog12:
you are being strict with the guy. na you wan settle down

I am more focused on my fruit biz and giving this young lad the best.

i think this your advice go drive them away from each other. since the boy father is late, if the NICE guy understands he will not mistreat the boy as wickedness. The woman is just overreacting !

RomanGreen:


Sorry about the loss but you need to understand that men aren't emotional all the times when it comes to correcting a child, a man can be hostile towards a child when giving corrections and still love the child dearly, as much as go out of his way to do things for the child. My point is .... sincerely check if the guy is deliberately doing that then decide for yourself what you want coz the truth is....you ladies are so emotional when it comes your children getting sticks from a man other than their father ...most women see it as wickedness, so if you can reason beyond this and be logical...just may be it'll work but know that any man you want to be with must love your son too for the relationship to work else na future trouble una dey prepare for

garriAndsugar:
Can't you read the handwriting on the wall? Or you need glasses?

Which hand writing? Why you no carry second hand material go give your brother nah? The person wey give am belle but no marry am, no be something he see?

jeromestarks:

My dad was the only man my mom fvcked throughout her childbearing age.
Her family keep their daughters clean until they meet their men. They even check for evidence of virginity after the wedding night. If she isn't a virgin, the wedding will be dissolved.

SMH



It will break your heart to know the things your mum got up to before and after marriage..... Is it because those days no camera phone and xender

Your mum was known in town as jagunlabi the village bicycle who will later raise a son she did not train to respect women....

The boys referred to her as hop on hop off.... Every boy rode her back then... They bent her over under the tree, put her back down in the market, held her two legs up in the bolekaja trailer... She was wild

Now learn to respect women. The women you disrespect are someone mum today or tomorrow.

Women are the passage to earth.... "Your any man is free to enter" mum should have taught you to respect women.

it takes two to grow the tree. you need the soil for firm foundation, and water with sun to grow properly!
without these, the tree may not grow well. as long as he is a NICE and of good character and from nice family, I think you are ok.

He will not mistreat the boy as long as the nice guy is of good character! you are overreacting! unless this is another fake post!

MaryAye:


Sir, I'm not desperate to get married. If I was, I would have been somewhere as I type this but I am more focused on my fruit biz and giving this young lad the best.

MaryAye:


The supposed bastard father you are shouting died as a result of accident. He was a great great and great guy.

My dea, this NL has plenty people from Yaba left ... Do not take anything to heart here. The right man will love your son. My step dad married my mum with her 4 kids after my dad tired. I love my step dad and he loves us very much too. Protect your son ..... Or you will regret it.

Madam that child God gave you as a responsibility, if you sacrifice his Joy and peace for your selfish motives, your punishment will be till you leave this earth.

besides it immature to be asking us these questions, you are supposed to find out yourself by experience!

How old are you anyway??

MaryAye:


I am more focused on my fruit biz and giving this young lad the best.

after your dad tired? wetin dat mean?
you sound like a SPOILED brat !
the man has no obligation to care for you as long as you have a Father!

Ybaby:


My dea, this NL has plenty people from Yaba left ... Do not take anything to heart here. The right man will love your son. My step dad married my mum with her 4 kids after my dad tired. I love my step dad and he loves us very much too. Protect your son ..... Or you will regret it.

Ybaby:


SMH



It will break your heart to know the things your mum got up to before and after marriage..... Is it because those days no camera phone and xender

Your mum was known in town as jagunlabi the village bicycle who will later raise a son she did not train to respect women....

The boys referred to her as hop on hop off.... Every boy rode her back then... They bent her over under the tree, put her back down in the market, held her two legs up in the bolekaja trailer... She was wild

Now learn to respect women. The women you disrespect are someone mum today or tomorrow.

Women are the passage to earth.... "Your any man is free to enter" mum should have taught you to respect women.

Read my comment again. This time do it slowly.

This is the price u pay for fornicating outside wedlock!! Run oo! U no want still get sense! Keep your self till your wedding night or your regret and carry another belle or hiv!

this na fake POST jor. she dey tell us at last minute say boy father is late. why you no tell us from the beginning

frog12:
this na fake POST jor. she dey tell us at last minute say boy father is late. why you no tell us from the beginning

If you have painstakingly gone through my previous thread on my profile, you wouldn't be saying otherwise.

What benefit will I get if it was fake. Are you giving me anything. Don't let your past experience becloud good judgement. Stop sounding like a broken record please.

MaryAye:
I met this guy where I normally get my fruits for biz. We got talking and exchanged contact.

He seems to be a nice guy but when I told him I had a son and narrated the circumstances behind his birth and my life, he told me he was cool with it.

Of lately, I noticed he talks ills of my son and assume it's a joke. I will try to shade it off but he repeated it again after the church service yesterday.

I'm considering giving him a chance because he's cool but his singular act of insulting and shouting at my son when he comes to my shop seem to disturb me.

Please, do you think his behaviour is a red flag or not?

Don’t move in with him! It will be hard for your kid, because kids are pretty good at intuiting when an adult finds them tolerable at best and doesn’t really want them around. It will be hard for him, living with a kid he doesn’t especially like but who still need to be raised and cared for pretty much 24/7. And it will be hard for you… Maybe in a few years you’ll be in a different position; maybe you’ll decide this is too serious an incompatibility and end up splitting anyway. But living together is a serious commitment that will affect your kid’s daily life, and you should not move ahead with this plan now that you’ve learned this.

Ja pa... he will maltreat ur boy...
This one just want to knack u ni....
Tell him off abeg...

Come to me let me manage your over slack vagina, I will not say bad remarks about your boy but might fvck you forcefully and very hard so he can hear you scream and when he runs over to help you I shoot his ass. Can't date single mothers, they're actually very sweet to fvck though. Oh my God! Shout out Hannah, Vivian & Faith. God bless you 3 for the cheap but sweet pussies

Zee0007:
He doesn't hate him, probably the guy is seeing some behaviours about the boy that you easily condole. As a man, he knows if your boy persist with such behaviour, he will be doom.

I think you should sit down with him and discuss what is the rationale behind his act towards the boy. A simple communication with him will clarify most of your assumptions.

Wow! Beautiful perspective!

MaryAye:
I met this guy where I normally get my fruits for biz. We got talking and exchanged contact.

He seems to be a nice guy but when I told him I had a son and narrated the circumstances behind his birth and my life, he told me he was cool with it.

Of lately, I noticed he talks ills of my son and assume it's a joke. I will try to shade it off but he repeated it again after the church service yesterday.

I'm considering giving him a chance because he's cool but his singular act of insulting and shouting at my son when he comes to my shop seem to disturb me.

Please, do you think his behaviour is a red flag or not?

ITS AS RED AS BLOOD ! STAY AWAY FROM HIM!
Has he bought him gifts, Played with him, Taken him to get Ice Cream on his own ? If the answer is no ... KEEP WALKING, he's only interested in your pants.

MaryAye:
I met this guy where I normally get my fruits for biz. We got talking and exchanged contact.

He seems to be a nice guy but when I told him I had a son and narrated the circumstances behind his birth and my life, he told me he was cool with it.

Of lately, I noticed he talks ills of my son and assume it's a joke. I will try to shade it off but he repeated it again after the church service yesterday.

I'm considering giving him a chance because he's cool but his singular act of insulting and shouting at my son when he comes to my shop seem to disturb me.

Please, do you think his behaviour is a red flag or not?

You don't need advice. ....... You already have your answer........

I once dated a lady like this, on one occasion she had asked the son 2 come 2 d hotel where we are to pass msg 2him.
After dat I quit silently.

And U didn't tell us how old is ur son?
And also ur sons manners of approach?
If ur son looks at him with scorn ?
U nid 2 sit ur son down and tell him that such an uncle is our good friend. They might become good pals in ur absence, and ur son might like him more.
U are the one 2 control ur son and solve it since u have said that the guy has bn nice 2u and u guys might tie the nut

Leave the dude abeg,you either choose between your son's wellbeing or an idiot who probably needs you for sex.

This is a red flag oo,make e no be say one day the guy go try hurt your kid oo.

u think everything is about sex..?

u are to fast to conclude its about sex...see, alot of kids are really wayward especially when breaded by a single mum...

yes,he was careless with his utterances,but that son mayb wayward and he is telling it in plain words...