Oga is not about gen-z generation come to think of it science has open our eyes. it has been happening since before this generation

Ever since my spouse know about income and my house building....five years ago till now I still never financially balance and the house abandoned...all what the gender see present not future...pay rent ,pay sch fees for kid and buy foodstuffs and etc ....so wht I did last is to start saving all my increments that come in every year...my spouse never know the salary increments..that how surviveing it...come to knw of it she works also but she complained how her money use finished fast....omo fear woman...

everythinggirly:
He even told you it's 200k instead of 250k he tried abeg.
A close friend of mine told his girlfriend that he's earning 45k only to find out that he's earning 120k.
If you trust your woman enough you can go ahead and tell her the amount you're earning, I don't see any harm in that, what if something happens, maybe accident or death? Some don't even disclose how many bank accounts they have to their wives. After all, you're the man of the house, if she demands for something that is irrelevant tell her no.





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That is why there is something called a will that they have with a lawyer or firm incase anything happens...all what you're saying is superstory...you want to know how much a man earns so you can increase your expenses off him...ekwensu

Islandlady:
Whatever, as a woman I am entitled to have my personal money for upkeep and also to take care of my parents n siblings!

They will definitely be my kids but I need my personal money to take care of myself too! So that is why I will lend their father the money and collect it back! Simple

You’re so selfish dear
God forbid

Great0ne1:

Collect the money from him and use it to feed your ancestors abi? What could be more fulfiling than spending your money, on your family ? Honestly most of you women are just worthless

Thank God u said most because this op is among that most

I'm not married though.

However I feel people should do what works for them and this should be based on the type of partner they are involved with.

I know what comes into my boyfriend's account at every point in time.

Infact, I'm currently keeping some money that he intends using soon.

I think he trusts me so much with his money because I would never ask him for money.
He gives me money whenever he pleases and I'm always satisfied with whatever he gives.

Afterall no be him born me.

Islandlady:
Whatever, as a woman I am entitled to have my personal money for upkeep and also to take care of my parents n siblings!

They will definitely be my kids but I need my personal money to take care of myself too! So that is why I will lend their father the money and collect it back! Simple

Even to spend on your kids is a problem . u are a liability in disgise.
Is only you who is entitled to take care of your parent.,,? your husband wont take care of his parent ba?

Let me talk the other side of life about women..example is my mum..my mother got married to a uniform officer thou he is late,during thier lifetime as a couple ,there was a time I was supprise my mum tooks his husband feeding money for the upkeep for the family to go and buy land and build erect a house small small and they move in till it was completed(although the husband is a busy interstate travelling type he come home every six-month in a year) ,just bc house rent has skyrocketed in the area they are living .....that the kind rare women that worth to knw ur income bc they see the future not the present....but on the other hand after the man passed away...the family and the children of the man drove my mother away from the same house he has help the man accomplished....what a sad �� moment....now my mum is starting afresh again to finally complete her own apartment...but she felt sad uptill this moment as am typing....well if u may ask why the husband family did such is because my mum never bear a child for the man during thier married days ...but the said man has 3 children already before she married my mum..

Corporate2020:


Upon all you wrote in your first paragraph, you still posted the second paragraph. You will never learn until you become a victim

Yeah.

I've got three sisters plus my mother, and I know which of them I can disclose my finances to without having the fear of being billed to death. Not everyone is the same, and the few considerate women are extremely good at managing their husband's resources.

Islandlady:

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Hm but I still think in a marriage partners should have mutual understandings about their earnings, projects and all instead of keeping most issues like a secret which could lead to breach of Trust!

This here is the ultimate, mutual understanding is the keyword and I want to use my parents as an example, I once told my younger sister how much my parents could have achieved if only they do things together considering the fact that thier personality is quite smae in terms of finance they are both prudent and honest but somehow they don't seem to engage in doing things together that I was even forced to ask my mum one time that what will be her advice for my sisters when married to engage in joint business and projects, and her answer was that it's good and at the same time not good due to external factors, husband might be trusted but can you say same of the husband's family and lots of things time will not permit me. So it's more of the unforseen circumstances rather than the mutual understanding of the now.

Trust or no trust, there are secrets one would take to the grave and some things are better left unsaid.

An example is your body counts, would you want your spouse to go through the ugly pictures of the past when you know you're a rough rider in your hay days or would you rather hold your peace.

Apply that logic to your income too.

Islandlady:
Oh no that is actually unfair, I will pay and collect the money from the father later on.

LINES SPEAKS..
Just imagine from A woman's desk and perspectives.. Babe calm down and act like a Woman you are n be like a Man

Islandlady:

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Hm but I still think in a marriage partners should have mutual understandings about their earnings, projects and all instead of keeping most issues like a secret which could lead to breach of Trust!

in most cases when a woman knows how much you’re earning it will not end well.

The question is why should I declare my income to you? This is the first step in the controlling mechanism.

brosom:
U get luck sef say him tell u 200k,

If na me na 100k I go tell u gaskia .


Some wife's no deserve to know the actual earning of their partners because e get why

Hahahaha u r funny

What if his salary was increased after u discussed it?
By the way is the salary you are after?
Are you not even happy that the salary is higher than quoted?
You, how much is your paycheck.?
Can't he save again?

ednut1:
easy to say

Exactly... Na so one of our aunties build house but her husband dae pay rent for close to ten years b4 d man know who has the house... That gender is so manipulative... No trust woman

Islandlady:
Oh no that is actually unfair, Nah I can't have the money and watch my kid stay at home because of school fees, I will pay and collect the money from the father later on.

Why will you pay and collect the money from the father later, is he not your child.
Husband pay 50% , wife pay 50% of the school fees .
By the time the wife has invested a lot her body go make her concentrate on the marriage

bomsilaga:

It means his wife is not responsible. Telling my wife as it is has saved me a while lot of stress because she plans accordingly.
Know your spouse because there's is no right or wrong way of doing this.

For some couples I think letting your wife know how much u earn works fine for them as it helps them plan and for others it doesn't and I don't think it's about been responsible or not.

Then when the children grow they gravitate towards their mother. Truely life no balance, men done suffer. No wonder Chalie boy want a divorce after several years of marriage. Men!!!, hold your ears and listen: your mental health and general well being is very important unless you're ready to jeopardize it in the name of sacrifice. Las las it's not worth it. Just do your best and be justified.

Islandlady:
Whatever, as a woman I am entitled to have my personal money for upkeep and also to take care of my parents n siblings!

They will definitely be my kids but I need my personal money to take care of myself too! So that is why I will lend their father the money and collect it back! Simple

My own wife knows my salary, she even receive alerts of the payment most times as we use our phones together.

But I regret letting her know, she will be spending without calculating and the whole salary, finished and yet she feels there should be more money as the figure sounds huge to her ears, not minding we have a building projet at hand.

What work for me may not work for others, in my case, I regret letting her know.

lawrenzooo:
Here is what my married friend told me "don't ever allow your wife know how much you are earning because if she knows she would keep demanding until she is sure you salary is finished".
That was his on personal experience. According to him he didn't tell his wife about subsequent promotions.

Mine will even borrow recklessly without letting me know, when salary is paid, she will start telling me, pay this person this amount, pay that one this amount.

She will use money for food stuffs on other irrelevancies. And will still be complaing.

Ready100:
As a man, the day you mistakenly tell your woman your income rate,,,,,, you are finished

You are right. Most women see salary as manna from heaven, no saving mentality. They neither think of retirement, disengagement from service or even financial emergencies, all they want is to show off to their fellow gender how comfortable they are.

Islandlady:
I don't depend on any man, so if a man can't be honest and tell me his earnings, to hell with him...How much are they earnings sef

Lol.good that he should go to hell. So why are you getting worked up about him not telling the truth about his salary.

kazyhm:


Life long mistake........ thinking your case will be different with you wife


Ask Johnny Depp

Jonny paid her 10 mili $$ directed by court
Oya make she pay Him 2 mill $$, directed by court I no get.

TenQ:

It is a stupid advice.

Wisdom is this :
If your wife doesn't know how much you earn, you've just turn yourself into an ATM . She will bring outrageous money and collect from you beyond your earnings.

1. Join a hefty Cooperative Organisation. The money is only for capital projects
2. Show her ALL your income: in fact, give her the ATM of the remaining.
3. From the remaining, give both yourselves some pocket money. The rest belong to your family.
3. She will still collect the remaining and even part of your pocket money BUT this time around, her bills will be reasonable and she will manage it as she knows she can't ask you for N5 if it finishes.

I don't think it's a stupid advice since it's workings for him.
Every marriage is unique I guess couples would just have to find out what works for them and make their choice.

Lemme tell you a true-life story that happened to me.

As a man never disclose what you have in your bank account to your wife or anybody, they have no business with it. If u want to live long don't do it. Let them be contended with what you can give to them to take care of the family..

This disclosing of stuff is one of the things that killed my father.


My father made me and my brother his next of kin immediately he died suddenly my step mother conieved with the bank manager went to court and Forged fake documents putting herself and her children above our names without our concents and removed the money in my father's account above 9M naira, bribed the manager and other people in millions to achieve this from my father's money. All this happened just 2 days that my father passed away.. I was told that the day my step mother asked my father how much he has in his account,my father got angry at her and didn't take it likely with her...



We are still recovering from this.


Maybe she finds out about the money and discide to kill him... Is only God that knows.


As next of kin I didn't have access to the money or consulted for any actions.....

It depends on the woman though,.. but as a man they should be contended with what you give them...


My Mom is a blessing to me when my father is alive ,my mom contributed equally to my growing up as a child,,, while my father gaves his little money for feeding my mom doubles it so that me and my brothers will be comfortable.

Clothing, house rent, feeding is mostly my mom the only thing my dad contributed was his little money for feeding and school fees....

anochuko01:


Wouldn't it be unwise to think that all women are the same?

You will regret this words of yours in the future...

Most f**lish men said the same thing until they got burnt.

Islandlady:
Oh no that is actually unfair, Nah I can't have the money and watch my kid stay at home because of school fees, I will pay and collect the money from the father later on.

Who is the this one na,you've just been jumping on every comment. The truth is that never tell your woman exactly what you earn to avoid problems.

A WOMAN WILL DO WORST. I REMEMBERED MY BOSS WIFE THAT WORKS WITH PRESIDENCY DURING GOODLUCK ADMINISTRATION. MY BOSS TAKE HOME WAS 245K AND THE HAPPY WEEKEND MONEY SHARE OF HIS WIFE WAS 50K WEEKLY ASIDE HER SALARY. MY BOSS ALWAYS LAMENTING AND SUBJECTED UNDER FINANCIAL PRESSURE.
ONE DAY I CONFRONTED MY BOSS TO KNOW WHAT EXACTLY THE WOMAN IS BRINGING TO TABLE,I WAS SHOCKED ABOUT WHAT I HEARD .

Cutehector:
stories.

Okay

Abemy:
My own wife knows my salary, she even receive alerts of the payment most times as we use our phones together.

But I regret letting her know, she will be spending without calculating and the whole salary, finished and yet she feels there should be more money as the figure sounds huge to her ears, not minding we have a building projet at hand.

What work for me may not work for others, in my case, I regret letting her know.

thank you for being honest.