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Re: How Do I Tell My Unmarried Elder Sister That She Is Getting Too Old? by Grupo(m): 1:33pm On Oct 16, 2022
You want to hit your elder sister because she doesn't want to get married?

Are you sure you don't take mkpụrụ mmiri?

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Re: How Do I Tell My Unmarried Elder Sister That She Is Getting Too Old? by DaddyRochie1642: 1:33pm On Oct 16, 2022
IntelChief:


All my ancestors both male and female got married. It won't be in my time that either me or any of my siblings will not marry


Oga how can you prove to us that all your ancestors both male and female got married, we need proof grin

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Re: How Do I Tell My Unmarried Elder Sister That She Is Getting Too Old? by funkyjaay: 1:35pm On Oct 16, 2022
see,for this life.not everyone will get married.so don't force her in some that tomorrow u people will start settling family issues here and there
Re: How Do I Tell My Unmarried Elder Sister That She Is Getting Too Old? by dapadawee: 1:35pm On Oct 16, 2022
Aareakinwunmi:

She knows.
And she's is not happy about it
Let your children start calling her by her name
Re: How Do I Tell My Unmarried Elder Sister That She Is Getting Too Old? by Emperor88(m): 1:35pm On Oct 16, 2022
IntelChief:


All my ancestors both male and female got married. It won't be in my time that either me or any of my siblings will not marry
Do you know @Bimbo and a lot of people in marriage would have wished they never got married? How is getting married an ultimate goal? How does marriage define someone? You need help not your sister. She is a rear bread
Re: How Do I Tell My Unmarried Elder Sister That She Is Getting Too Old? by Nobody: 1:35pm On Oct 16, 2022
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Re: How Do I Tell My Unmarried Elder Sister That She Is Getting Too Old? by Zimmermann(m): 1:36pm On Oct 16, 2022
MufasaLion:
WTF is your business? She's an adult and she's fulfilled! What's norms to you, your mother and everyone else, is not norms to her!

I'm glad I have nobody like you as a sibling. Disgusting thing!
Why do you sound so bitter grin grin grin
Re: How Do I Tell My Unmarried Elder Sister That She Is Getting Too Old? by dchamp234(m): 1:37pm On Oct 16, 2022
Can you send me her number? I'm looking for a wife.
Re: How Do I Tell My Unmarried Elder Sister That She Is Getting Too Old? by 07kjb: 1:37pm On Oct 16, 2022
How old is she?

Don't tell her, she will feel insulted by you

Share her number to me let me counsel her
Re: How Do I Tell My Unmarried Elder Sister That She Is Getting Too Old? by UMUNNA001(m): 1:37pm On Oct 16, 2022
Hmmmmm, my dear, sometimes it's that way.
Mt little advice is that pick a courage an confront her and ask her what her problems.

But you will start by joking with her.

You can even go out with her.
Don't be afraid of taking to her.

She may give you some of her few reasons

I rest my case here...
Re: How Do I Tell My Unmarried Elder Sister That She Is Getting Too Old? by Emperor88(m): 1:38pm On Oct 16, 2022
Kobojunkiee:
1. Clearly, your sister is not as small-minded as you seem to be as an individual. undecided

2. So because of that, you expect the same will happen to your sister even though she does not seem to be concerned about such things even now? undecided

3. So, because she didn't mention marriage and to you, marriage is an ultimate achievement, you would rather have a situation where your sister is dragged into living in the same tiny world you obviously exist in? undecided

4. I put it to you that there is absolutely nothing wrong with your sister as she seems to have a clear idea of what she wants for herself and her life. You, on the other hand, don't even seem to know your left from your right and that seems why you think it is your place to push your views on your sister, going as far as to claim you are the man in the family and all that rubbish talk. undecided

Leave the woman alone and focus on getting your life correct abeg! undecided

Gawd bless you...she will rather see her sis marry an id1ot in the name of marriage.

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Re: How Do I Tell My Unmarried Elder Sister That She Is Getting Too Old? by funshint(m): 1:38pm On Oct 16, 2022
You don't need to tell her; she already knows. You can try matchmake her with someone responsible if possible.
Re: How Do I Tell My Unmarried Elder Sister That She Is Getting Too Old? by Eleyigidgan: 1:38pm On Oct 16, 2022
IntelChief:
My elder sister is around 32 years and still not serious with marriage. Her only focus is on making money and she had been very successful in that aspect. She has a well paying job and is not only comfortable but also supports me financially sometimes.

But I just can't imagine why she is not disturbed about the fact that she is still single at her age. A lot of guys I know had been approaching her but she never accepts even a relationship offer from them, talk more of marriage. (And am very sure that she is not a lesbian or any of that).

As a church guy, I have seen a lot of women stock in this not being married thing and jumping from one church to the other seeking for husbands. Some of them, out of desperation, fall victims in the hands of fake pastors and sharp guys. I really don't want my sister to go through such.

Initially, I wasn't disturbed, but right now, this issue is burning not only me but also my aging mother. My mother had even stylishly urged my sister to go get married on several occasions. But she won't.

What really got me mad was when I was discussing with my sister some days back about her future plans. She told me stuffs like planning on travelling abroad for greener pastures, bla bla bla, but made no mention of marriage.

Honestly guys, I am tired. And as a man in the family, I am thinking of changing it for my sister. Am planning on threatening her that if she doesn't take the issue of marriage serious, I will go physical with her and teach her some lessons. But the issue is that she is my elder sister and I have some respect for her. And my action might end up affecting the bond in the family.
you're a very big fool for posting this rubbish
Re: How Do I Tell My Unmarried Elder Sister That She Is Getting Too Old? by rolams(m): 1:39pm On Oct 16, 2022
Tell the way you ask here!
Re: How Do I Tell My Unmarried Elder Sister That She Is Getting Too Old? by Spells(m): 1:39pm On Oct 16, 2022
Africans and myopic thinking...marriage is not a must. If love find her good and fine...but i repeat do not try to force or persuade her.
Re: How Do I Tell My Unmarried Elder Sister That She Is Getting Too Old? by cooooooks(m): 1:39pm On Oct 16, 2022
You talk anyhow and she will cut you off.

Leave her alone. Let her live her life.

If she marries and has problem, na you go solve am?

IntelChief:
My elder sister is around 32 years and still not serious with marriage. Her only focus is on making money and she had been very successful in that aspect. She has a well paying job and is not only comfortable but also supports me financially sometimes.

But I just can't imagine why she is not disturbed about the fact that she is still single at her age. A lot of guys I know had been approaching her but she never accepts even a relationship offer from them, talk more of marriage. (And am very sure that she is not a lesbian or any of that).

As a church guy, I have seen a lot of women stock in this not being married thing and jumping from one church to the other seeking for husbands. Some of them, out of desperation, fall victims in the hands of fake pastors and sharp guys. I really don't want my sister to go through such.

Initially, I wasn't disturbed, but right now, this issue is burning not only me but also my aging mother. My mother had even stylishly urged my sister to go get married on several occasions. But she won't.

What really got me mad was when I was discussing with my sister some days back about her future plans. She told me stuffs like planning on travelling abroad for greener pastures, bla bla bla, but made no mention of marriage.

Honestly guys, I am tired. And as a man in the family, I am thinking of changing it for my sister. Am planning on threatening her that if she doesn't take the issue of marriage serious, I will go physical with her and teach her some lessons. But the issue is that she is my elder sister and I have some respect for her. And my action might end up affecting the bond in the family.
Re: How Do I Tell My Unmarried Elder Sister That She Is Getting Too Old? by Kajaard: 1:40pm On Oct 16, 2022
IntelChief:


Then let her at least take the guys approaching her serious. What is hard in that?

Wow, I find people like you very irritating and nauseating. This is how women are forced into unhappy marriages by families et al.

She is happy, why can't you be happy for her? Mind your fvcking business.

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Re: How Do I Tell My Unmarried Elder Sister That She Is Getting Too Old? by Lexusgs430: 1:40pm On Oct 16, 2022
IntelChief:
My elder sister is around 32 years and still not serious with marriage. Her only focus is on making money and she had been very successful in that aspect. She has a well paying job and is not only comfortable but also supports me financially sometimes.

But I just can't imagine why she is not disturbed about the fact that she is still single at her age. A lot of guys I know had been approaching her but she never accepts even a relationship offer from them, talk more of marriage. (And am very sure that she is not a lesbian or any of that).

As a church guy, I have seen a lot of women stock in this not being married thing and jumping from one church to the other seeking for husbands. Some of them, out of desperation, fall victims in the hands of fake pastors and sharp guys. I really don't want my sister to go through such.

Initially, I wasn't disturbed, but right now, this issue is burning not only me but also my aging mother. My mother had even stylishly urged my sister to go get married on several occasions. But she won't.

What really got me mad was when I was discussing with my sister some days back about her future plans. She told me stuffs like planning on travelling abroad for greener pastures, bla bla bla, but made no mention of marriage.

Honestly guys, I am tired. And as a man in the family, I am thinking of changing it for my sister. Am planning on threatening her that if she doesn't take the issue of marriage serious, I will go physical with her and teach her some lessons. But the issue is that she is my elder sister and I have some respect for her. And my action might end up affecting the bond in the family.


Marriage is not by force ......... We don't all have to get married........

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Re: How Do I Tell My Unmarried Elder Sister That She Is Getting Too Old? by SPAMBOX7: 1:41pm On Oct 16, 2022
You want to go physical to make your sister get married wow. Never read anything dumber
Re: How Do I Tell My Unmarried Elder Sister That She Is Getting Too Old? by Emperor88(m): 1:41pm On Oct 16, 2022
Kobojunkiee:
People like you need to be publicly flogged for this level of idiocy in what is the 21st century..... undecided

He should be used as a medical specimen. So senseless human being in the 21st century. He even said he is a church guy, asin a lot of religious people don't have sense. If only those who are married tell him what they go through and what they hide in the name of being religiously correct, he will just shut up his mouth.

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Re: How Do I Tell My Unmarried Elder Sister That She Is Getting Too Old? by Kajaard: 1:42pm On Oct 16, 2022
Kobojunkiee:
1. Clearly, your sister is not as small-minded as you seem to be as an individual. undecided

2. So because of that, you expect the same will happen to your sister even though she does not seem to be concerned about such things even now? undecided

3. So, because she didn't mention marriage and to you, marriage is an ultimate achievement, you would rather have a situation where your sister is dragged into living in the same tiny world you obviously exist in? undecided

4. I put it to you that there is absolutely nothing wrong with your sister as she seems to have a clear idea of what she wants for herself and her life. You, on the other hand, don't even seem to know your left from your right and that seems why you think it is your place to push your views on your sister, going as far as to claim you are the man in the family and all that rubbish talk. undecided

Leave the woman alone and focus on getting your life correct abeg! undecided

Truer words were never spoken. Well said Kobo cool
Re: How Do I Tell My Unmarried Elder Sister That She Is Getting Too Old? by Rubbiish(m): 1:42pm On Oct 16, 2022
freddie009:
When a woman starts making money, she believes she doesn't need a man. Does that mean women date men because of financial gains?
Most times you hear them say "I make my own money, I don't need you"

We all need a companion, trust me. She might not feel it now until she approaches 40, and then her friends/colleagues will be focusing on their kids and family. She will be left all alone, then she will become desperate.

Exactly @bold
U see most people saying what is marriage here are mostly below 30 yrs. When u approach 40, whether male or female, u must feel that absence of family. When u see all ur friends & colleagues now doing school run, u must feel that sense of regret. If i had started earlier. But u can only get this feeling when u approach 40, because by then reality sets in & it is not a good one. U begin to question all u have ever worked for, who will enjoy the money u have worked for, the so called career u are dying so hard to build becomes unfulfilling because there isn't anyone to enjoy the money u are making from it.

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Re: How Do I Tell My Unmarried Elder Sister That She Is Getting Too Old? by kingsceemark(m): 1:42pm On Oct 16, 2022
IntelChief:
My elder sister is around 32 years and still not serious with marriage. Her only focus is on making money and she had been very successful in that aspect. She has a well paying job and is not only comfortable but also supports me financially sometimes.

But I just can't imagine why she is not disturbed about the fact that she is still single at her age. A lot of guys I know had been approaching her but she never accepts even a relationship offer from them, talk more of marriage. (And am very sure that she is not a lesbian or any of that).

As a church guy, I have seen a lot of women stock in this not being married thing and jumping from one church to the other seeking for husbands. Some of them, out of desperation, fall victims in the hands of fake pastors and sharp guys. I really don't want my sister to go through such.

Initially, I wasn't disturbed, but right now, this issue is burning not only me but also my aging mother. My mother had even stylishly urged my sister to go get married on several occasions. But she won't.

What really got me mad was when I was discussing with my sister some days back about her future plans. She told me stuffs like planning on travelling abroad for greener pastures, bla bla bla, but made no mention of marriage.

Honestly guys, I am tired. And as a man in the family, I am thinking of changing it for my sister. Am planning on threatening her that if she doesn't take the issue of marriage serious, I will go physical with her and teach her some lessons. But the issue is that she is my elder sister and I have some respect for her. And my action might end up affecting the bond in the family.

Honestly guys, I am tired. And as a man in the family, I am thinking of changing it for my sister. Am planning on threatening her that if she doesn't take the issue of marriage serious, I will go physical with her and teach her some lessons. But the issue is that she is my elder sister and I have some respect for her. And my action might end up affecting the bond in the family.


So you want her to get married and abandon her wealth for you? All in the name of relocating to her husband house, go and hustle for your own money ooo

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Re: How Do I Tell My Unmarried Elder Sister That She Is Getting Too Old? by kingxsamz(m): 1:42pm On Oct 16, 2022
IntelChief:
My elder sister is around 32 years and still not serious with marriage. Her only focus is on making money and she had been very successful in that aspect. She has a well paying job and is not only comfortable but also supports me financially sometimes.

But I just can't imagine why she is not disturbed about the fact that she is still single at her age. A lot of guys I know had been approaching her but she never accepts even a relationship offer from them, talk more of marriage. (And am very sure that she is not a lesbian or any of that).

As a church guy, I have seen a lot of women stock in this not being married thing and jumping from one church to the other seeking for husbands. Some of them, out of desperation, fall victims in the hands of fake pastors and sharp guys. I really don't want my sister to go through such.

Initially, I wasn't disturbed, but right now, this issue is burning not only me but also my aging mother. My mother had even stylishly urged my sister to go get married on several occasions. But she won't.

What really got me mad was when I was discussing with my sister some days back about her future plans. She told me stuffs like planning on travelling abroad for greener pastures, bla bla bla, but made no mention of marriage.

Honestly guys, I am tired. And as a man in the family, I am thinking of changing it for my sister. Am planning on threatening her that if she doesn't take the issue of marriage serious, I will go physical with her and teach her some lessons. But the issue is that she is my elder sister and I have some respect for her. And my action might end up affecting the bond in the family.

You people are funny.
A woman who is doing well for herself financially and also making plans to better her future but you're more concerned about her getting married. I mean, if she's not concerned about that, why should you? It's her life. Maybe she's not interested in marriage or doesn't care about it or just not ready. It's her life anyway. Marriage is not the end goal in life.

Just saw the part where you said you're planning to threaten her or hit her.
You're very stoooop!D.

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Re: How Do I Tell My Unmarried Elder Sister That She Is Getting Too Old? by Originalsly: 1:43pm On Oct 16, 2022
IntelChief:


Am planning on threatening her that if she doesn't take the issue of marriage serious,I will go physical with her and teach.her some lessons.


grin grin grin ... this is sooo hilarious! ... but I know you dead serious.

Bro... not supporting your violence .... but if you take your planned physical action... plus the lessons ..... and she becomes desperate to get married.... do you realize you can open a school ? ... IntelChief Marriage by Force Academy? ... can you imagine how many of the wealthy would pay through the nose to have their wayward and lesbian daughters set to marriage mode? Think about it ... but also think about relocating to Kiri Kiri.

She just need to have male friends ... she needs to have trust and confidence in men... and in time marriage will come up. You can't force someone to marry... reason her small small about having a bf... leave marriage out of any conversation... one step at a time.
Re: How Do I Tell My Unmarried Elder Sister That She Is Getting Too Old? by ozil123: 1:43pm On Oct 16, 2022
IntelChief:
My elder sister is around 32 years and still not serious with marriage. Her only focus is on making money and she had been very successful in that aspect. She has a well paying job and is not only comfortable but also supports me financially sometimes.

But I just can't imagine why she is not disturbed about the fact that she is still single at her age. A lot of guys I know had been approaching her but she never accepts even a relationship offer from them, talk more of marriage. (And am very sure that she is not a lesbian or any of that).

As a church guy, I have seen a lot of women stock in this not being married thing and jumping from one church to the other seeking for husbands. Some of them, out of desperation, fall victims in the hands of fake pastors and sharp guys. I really don't want my sister to go through such.

Initially, I wasn't disturbed, but right now, this issue is burning not only me but also my aging mother. My mother had even stylishly urged my sister to go get married on several occasions. But she won't.

What really got me mad was when I was discussing with my sister some days back about her future plans. She told me stuffs like planning on travelling abroad for greener pastures, bla bla bla, but made no mention of marriage.

Honestly guys, I am tired. And as a man in the family, I am thinking of changing it for my sister. Am planning on threatening her that if she doesn't take the issue of marriage serious, I will go physical with her and teach her some lessons. But the issue is that she is my elder sister and I have some respect for her. And my action might end up affecting the bond in the family.

Why don't you work and go and marry? You want to get physical? omo, na joblessness dey cause this rubbish. You people should let her marry at her own time. No dey pressure pesin.

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Re: How Do I Tell My Unmarried Elder Sister That She Is Getting Too Old? by Lama70(m): 1:43pm On Oct 16, 2022
IntelChief:
My elder sister is around 32 years and still not serious with marriage. Her only focus is on making money and she had been very successful in that aspect. She has a well paying job and is not only comfortable but also supports me financially sometimes.

But I just can't imagine why she is not disturbed about the fact that she is still single at her age. A lot of guys I know had been approaching her but she never accepts even a relationship offer from them, talk more of marriage. (And am very sure that she is not a lesbian or any of that).

As a church guy, I have seen a lot of women stock in this not being married thing and jumping from one church to the other seeking for husbands. Some of them, out of desperation, fall victims in the hands of fake pastors and sharp guys. I really don't want my sister to go through such.

Initially, I wasn't disturbed, but right now, this issue is burning not only me but also my aging mother. My mother had even stylishly urged my sister to go get married on several occasions. But she won't.

What really got me mad was when I was discussing with my sister some days back about her future plans. She told me stuffs like planning on travelling abroad for greener pastures, bla bla bla, but made no mention of marriage.

Honestly guys, I am tired. And as a man in the family, I am thinking of changing it for my sister. Am planning on threatening her that if she doesn't take the issue of marriage serious, I will go physical with her and teach her some lessons. But the issue is that she is my elder sister and I have some respect for her. And my action might end up affecting the bond in the family.

You earn the respect of any right thinking man like me. I thank you for taking that aspect of her life into consideration; despite the benefits you are getting from her.

However, I have observed that it's difficult to advise financially stable people especially women. This is an uphill task. Only God can give the wisdom for things like this. I pray He guides you. Keep praying for her in that direction while your mother does the talking aspect.

I will join you in prayers too. Good luck!

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Re: How Do I Tell My Unmarried Elder Sister That She Is Getting Too Old? by bluefilm: 1:44pm On Oct 16, 2022
IntelChief:
My elder sister is around 32 years and still not serious with marriage. Her only focus is on making money and she had been very successful in that aspect. She has a well paying job and is not only comfortable but also supports me financially sometimes.

But I just can't imagine why she is not disturbed about the fact that she is still single at her age. A lot of guys I know had been approaching her but she never accepts even a relationship offer from them, talk more of marriage. (And am very sure that she is not a lesbian or any of that).

As a church guy, I have seen a lot of women stock in this not being married thing and jumping from one church to the other seeking for husbands. Some of them, out of desperation, fall victims in the hands of fake pastors and sharp guys. I really don't want my sister to go through such.

Initially, I wasn't disturbed, but right now, this issue is burning not only me but also my aging mother. My mother had even stylishly urged my sister to go get married on several occasions. But she won't.

What really got me mad was when I was discussing with my sister some days back about her future plans. She told me stuffs like planning on travelling abroad for greener pastures, bla bla bla, but made no mention of marriage.

Honestly guys, I am tired. And as a man in the family, I am thinking of changing it for my sister. Am planning on threatening her that if she doesn't take the issue of marriage serious, I will go physical with her and teach her some lessons. But the issue is that she is my elder sister and I have some respect for her. And my action might end up affecting the bond in the family.

Why don't you go ahead and marry her yourself since you want to show that you are the man of the house?

Nonsense angry
Re: How Do I Tell My Unmarried Elder Sister That She Is Getting Too Old? by macphilip: 1:44pm On Oct 16, 2022
You talk so immature, despite being older than your sister.
Age definitely is not a criteria for wisdom
Re: How Do I Tell My Unmarried Elder Sister That She Is Getting Too Old? by TheGift: 1:44pm On Oct 16, 2022
You want to join the hundreds in society that have already told Her she is "getting old" Have you found the Man that you are going to force to marry Her,before you start thinking of changing it for Her?

So what are you going to do, beat Her black and blue? (hope you don't beat your own wife Sha). Maybe when you are done getting physical she will hurry and Marry a Man to help Her retaliate.

You are not happy that your sister is productive and not helplessly in need of a Man to meet Her daily needs. How are you sure Her husband is even in this country?

Better Face your life and leave Her alone, you have your own problems to take care of.
SHE IS NOT A CHILD.

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Re: How Do I Tell My Unmarried Elder Sister That She Is Getting Too Old? by lookingfly: 1:44pm On Oct 16, 2022
MufasaLion:


And why don't you emulate your ancestors' way of life by ditching your mobile phone, so as to stop posting about a happy lady that's not married?

she's not happy, this i can tell you. Ladies always want to be loved or married. Until you get close to them before they open up to you.

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