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My 16 Year Old Live-in Maid Is Pregnant For A 20 Year Old Boy by DSS1335: 12:11am On Oct 29, 2022 |
I am writing this with a sorrowful heart! This is quite a lengthy piece!! In 2018, My wife brought a live-in maid toward the end of her gestational period as we eagerly anticipate the birth of our first fruit after 8 years of marriage. We took the young girl as part of our family, she was just 13 years old in JSS2 at the time she joined us. She does minor household chores, like washing the dishes, keeping the house in and out clean, that's all. I made sure her education was not interrupted, she continued her schooling from Js3 till she completed her SSCE this year. Outsiders thought she was my first child considering the way she was being taken good care of. At 16 years age, the evidence of proper nutrition was so glaring in her physique, the young girl of yesterday was already a beautiful damsel. I protected her from ravenous men old enough to be her father. Even from her classmates. Perhaps the mistake i made was in buying her phone before WAEC exam started. Well, the need for constant communication can not be overemphasized because i and my wife go out for work in the morning. My wife comes back in the day while i return back in the evening. Living her our 2 kids in her care: My first Child is 3 years plus in Nursery, the second is about 2 years in Prenursery. When her mother made a stop by to visit her daughter 5 months ago after 4 years, she was so full of praise and thanking us for taking good care of her daughter, and begged us to allow her stay longer with us rather than her returning back to the village after completing her WAEC. I and my wife plan that i will take up the responsibility to train her up in University so she can be light to her family. Her elder siblings didn't complete their secondary school! Today, all those dreams and aspirations have been shattered! The innocent girl child i took as a daughter is 5 months pregnant without even knowing she was pregnant! How possible? I could have swear with my life that she was still a virgin and innocent. Damm it! Where do I start from eh?? Well, my wife was rattled up by a what she called a terrible nightmare, she dreamt that she saw her girl carrying a new born baby. That was around 3 A.M she woke her up from sleep and asked her if she was pregnant, the girl denied it ignorantly. My wife had no reason to suspect her as she always buy her pads for her monthly menses except for this month. Then examined her and her suspicion became heightened as she saw a remarkable changes, her bra can't fit any longer, her bellybutton was out with black line running down! She ordered her to pee and run her test kit, it came back positive! My wife broke down in tears. That morning, we didn't go to work for the day. we grilled her with questions. She confessed to us that she had intercourse only once in the month MAY yet she was still seeing her monthly menses. That she had a boy friend whom they secretly communicate on phone every day. That she lost her virginity to the boy. And they did it only ones in less than 30 minutes as she came back to check the kids who were still sleeping in the afternoon. The boy came to visit her grand mother who return from the USA, she refused traveling to the East due to insecurities and rented a flat opposite my compound for just 3 months from March to June. During her stay, all her children and grandchildren came to visit her. It was one of her grand son that lured my maid and took advantage of her innocences. We contacted the boy on phone and told him what happened, he denied it that it is impossible for him to be held responsible that he had sex with her only once and that's not enough to get a girl pregnant! I swear,i could have dealt with him fatally if he were within my reach. Well, i was able to comport myself and explain to him in details after which he kept quiet. He is just 20 years old awaiting admission. We have informed the girl's mother too who became shock and cold! And asked her daughter to return back to the village! Considering this scenario, i came up with the plan to make that boy and family take up the responsibility of the pregnancy, she can't remain with my family anymore so as not draw unnecessary attention. I will track down the boy and his family and file a statutory rape charge against them if all avenue to resolve this case peacefully fail. From Pregnancy to child care is no joke. My people that is no joke at all. I feel very bad and compassionate for the innocent young girl who will be forced to sacrifice her future to be in the family way. Any honest advise on how best to tackle this issue at hand would be appreciated 205 Likes 16 Shares |
Re: My 16 Year Old Live-in Maid Is Pregnant For A 20 Year Old Boy by libertyfather(m): 12:23am On Oct 29, 2022 |
Responsibility for pregnancy u say? God will help you 9 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: My 16 Year Old Live-in Maid Is Pregnant For A 20 Year Old Boy by STARGREEN(m): 12:24am On Oct 29, 2022 |
Admittedly it's not so easy to have absolute control of people, Yet being a minor under someone's tutelage please permit me to sight lack of close supervision. For now let she be with the parents when the shock is over, kindly find a way to put her back to her feet. Even if it's vocational education. 142 Likes 7 Shares
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Re: My 16 Year Old Live-in Maid Is Pregnant For A 20 Year Old Boy by mariahAngel(f): 12:27am On Oct 29, 2022 |
You see some boys ehn? They're like horñy ekuke dogs that cannot control themselves. Going about, ruining destinies with their nonsense "one eyed snake". Nonsense! libertyfather: Of course! If the irresponsible boy is old enough to have sex, he should be old enough to accept the reward/consequence that comes with having sex. 204 Likes 16 Shares |
Re: My 16 Year Old Live-in Maid Is Pregnant For A 20 Year Old Boy by PJtech: 12:34am On Oct 29, 2022 |
Lack of supervision from parent/guardian. A girl got 5month pregnant under ur roof, you negleted ur guardian role(ur wife should take 90% of the blame) do have a talk with ur wife, never leave ur kids with same fate as this poor girl.... Learn from this mistake 185 Likes 8 Shares |
Re: My 16 Year Old Live-in Maid Is Pregnant For A 20 Year Old Boy by Lastpharoah33: 12:47am On Oct 29, 2022 |
I can understand the utter disappointment on your ward. Naivety and a little touch of youthful ebullience got the better of her. Someone mentioned lack of supervision, you saying dude should put a tracker on the girl? Or maybe have her be on leash to be dragged along, huh? Life happened to her, if what you wrote up there is what really transpired (as regards to your benevolence towards your ward), I really think taking her back to her mom is a good step. But am totally against going ballistic on the nig that did put her in the family way. It's a choice thing. Either he embraces with full chest or bounce. Nature/karma will always take it's cause. 221 Likes 4 Shares |
Re: My 16 Year Old Live-in Maid Is Pregnant For A 20 Year Old Boy by Foodqueen(f): 1:27am On Oct 29, 2022 |
You need to be more vigilant with your own children. Taking good care of a child is not about just providing the basics. 80 Likes 6 Shares |
Re: My 16 Year Old Live-in Maid Is Pregnant For A 20 Year Old Boy by Karleb(m): 2:18am On Oct 29, 2022 |
The head that wants to suffer will definitely suffer. 132 Likes 4 Shares |
Re: My 16 Year Old Live-in Maid Is Pregnant For A 20 Year Old Boy by Karleb(m): 2:19am On Oct 29, 2022 |
mariahAngel: Same goes for the girl. 151 Likes 12 Shares |
Re: My 16 Year Old Live-in Maid Is Pregnant For A 20 Year Old Boy by sweetman2022: 2:55am On Oct 29, 2022 |
If the family of the boy will not take care of the baby. You can go ahead and report it as a statutory rape against the boy or you focus on helping the girl and her mother taking care of the baby coming on its way. You have tried for what you have done for the family. The only minus I can detect from your side is you guys failed to give the girl a good sex education in which every teenager needs. That is the stage of their life where their ignorance is at peak and can mar them for life. You guys probably assume her to be innocent and leave her just like that. Well this is an example to follow a better path towards your own children about giving them early sex education, so they will be better prepare for the wolves out there. 213 Likes 15 Shares |
Re: My 16 Year Old Live-in Maid Is Pregnant For A 20 Year Old Boy by sisisioge: 3:50am On Oct 29, 2022 |
Wowzerful! They will not hear o! See now! Once they start having breast, they are grown up. Well, off to the village and good luck with the pregnancy. 23 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: My 16 Year Old Live-in Maid Is Pregnant For A 20 Year Old Boy by Beey(f): 4:33am On Oct 29, 2022 |
DSS1335:You taking the girl in and supporting her education is commendable. It sounds like she was a bit idle and that’s how she found time to meet with the young man. I want to believe that she’s not as naive as people may want to make it sound. At that age, she must have had some biology lessons. It was probably curiosity and the excitement of being told that she’s loved, that pushed her into that situation. Now with that said, my advise is for you to reconsider your decision. People fall down and then get back up again. Pregnancy though highly discouraged at her age, is not the cause for her to receive a lifetime of condemnation. Have her go to the village and have the baby. Let her stay till the baby is weaned. Am sure she’ll face difficulties that will force her to mature and focus. After that, she can leave the baby with her mother and go back to school. Please save her from becoming another addition to statistics of poverty and lack of education. Please continue to sponsor her studies as you had planned. Take her as if she were your own daughter who made a mistake and give her a 2nd chance. In the future, go for domestic help who are over 18 years old and can handle the consequences of their actions. 289 Likes 21 Shares |
Re: My 16 Year Old Live-in Maid Is Pregnant For A 20 Year Old Boy by Richy4(m): 4:50am On Oct 29, 2022 |
OP, Please ignore anyone that wants to blame you or your family on this thread... U did your best... Just go ahead with your plans of tracking the boy down... Inform his parents that their son got responsibilities now... What I have to tell u is that despite her pregnancy/ mistakes, some girls still gets their act right in terms of future endeavours... If she wants to go back to school 2 or 3yrs after child delivery, it's still possible... Pregnancy is not a death sentence... She's just a teenager and they make mistakes.. N.B Thank God it wasn't you buddy...I guess you are too honourable to do that.... But my mind was skipping on your behalf.. imagining the scenario and what would be going through your wife's mind as she was trying to extract the information from her.... 122 Likes 6 Shares |
Re: My 16 Year Old Live-in Maid Is Pregnant For A 20 Year Old Boy by Gentlechika(m): 5:08am On Oct 29, 2022 |
mariahAngel:he asked for advise, and u ended up making no sense. 25 Likes |
Re: My 16 Year Old Live-in Maid Is Pregnant For A 20 Year Old Boy by zed7: 5:29am On Oct 29, 2022 |
When you have an 'adult' or teenager under your roof, anything can happen. It can even happen to the best trained biological child. I have learnt how to stop judging. I could have gotten girls pregnant also but I was just lucky. My parents talked and also raised me well but as a young man, we still went ahead and took stupid risks. If my sons do ever get a girl pregnant before time (I pray not), I will have to force them to take responsibility. Everyone should be responsible for his or her actions. In your case, track down the boy and force him to take responsibility, if the family refuses, please sue for rape. He raped a minor. You cannot come and derail someone's life and then go about enjoying yours. 124 Likes 7 Shares |
Re: My 16 Year Old Live-in Maid Is Pregnant For A 20 Year Old Boy by ceeceeuwa: 5:41am On Oct 29, 2022 |
DSS1335:Early sex education would have prevented this. I hope you have the phone conversation with the young man where he agreed to sleeping with her ony once recorded? You can inform the boys family with that evidence so he won't later deny having any knowledge of the girl. Once the boys family agrees to take responsibility for the pregnancy, she should be taken to her mum. Sincerely,this young girl needs your family support at this time,so she would not end up a liability to her family. Any financial and emotional support you would give her is welcome. Do not just abandon her with her mother! Please do follow up! 21 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: My 16 Year Old Live-in Maid Is Pregnant For A 20 Year Old Boy by ecolime(m): 6:15am On Oct 29, 2022 |
Chaiii Few months ago, our 19 year old live-in maid ran off with a 20 years old boy. She packed and moved to a ghetto here in PH because of "love" ![]() Thank God we were able to track her, got her arrested and bundled her back to her family in Ijora, Lagos where we brought her from. Once they turn teenagers, it's very easy for boys to deceive them. This is a girl that had a big room, A.C, quality clothes and latest gadgets to herself. She wrote WAEC last year and was only awaiting admission. My wife loved her so much and took her like a daughter. You will never know she isn't our blood. She flew and travelled everywhere with us but unfortunately, Penis derailed her life. I was so grateful she didn't get pregnant else it would have been a different story. Now, we don't do live-in maids again. It's cash and carry. Our new maid comes to clean up the house once we are back from work at 4pm.. (she works 5pm to 7pm). Then work on Saturdays too (8am to 5pm) Once you are done, go back to your house. While she's fully off on Sunday. You always want the best of life for them but they don't love their lives enough. It is well with you bro ![]() 132 Likes 9 Shares |
Re: My 16 Year Old Live-in Maid Is Pregnant For A 20 Year Old Boy by ruggedtimi(m): 6:41am On Oct 29, 2022 |
DSS1335:she can still achieve a good education....she is even lucky having a child @16..by the time she gets to 30yr, she would turn back and smile without regret. Op i think making the boy's family to accept to take responsibility for the upkeep of the girl is very important at this point. 26 Likes 1 Share |
Re: My 16 Year Old Live-in Maid Is Pregnant For A 20 Year Old Boy by mariahAngel(f): 6:59am On Oct 29, 2022 |
Gentlechika: What about you? Did you give any advice or make any sense by your own comment? First remove the beam from your eyes next time, before looking for specks in other people's eyes. Anyways, what other advice does op need than to send the girl to go stay her mother, until she gives birth and weans the baby? Meanwhile, op can help them (the girl and her mum) by getting the boy and his family to take responsibility for the pregnancy. If op is generous enough, the girl can continue her (secondary) schooling after giving birth (out of op's generosity) but not in his house. 6 Likes |
Re: My 16 Year Old Live-in Maid Is Pregnant For A 20 Year Old Boy by ValCon888: 8:15am On Oct 29, 2022 |
My advice is not for the girl, but for the boy. That 20 year old boy should make sure a DNA test is carried out before anyone pins a pregnancy on his head. Just like the OP was shocked that a "naive" 16 year old girl is pregnant under his roof, he'll be further shocked that child doesn't belong to the young man in question, but one of her multiple sex partners. 73 Likes 6 Shares |
Re: My 16 Year Old Live-in Maid Is Pregnant For A 20 Year Old Boy by GboyegaD(m): 8:44am On Oct 29, 2022 |
Quite unfortunate. This is the kind of story one hears and supports sex education in schools. OP, if only you had taken the pain to educate he. 3 Likes |
Re: My 16 Year Old Live-in Maid Is Pregnant For A 20 Year Old Boy by Richy4(m): 8:47am On Oct 29, 2022 |
ValCon888: Have you visited Google yet to find out the cost of DNA test in Nigeria?..It doesn't come cheap... Are u sure a 20yr old who is most likely a university student can afford that? 17 Likes 1 Share |
Re: My 16 Year Old Live-in Maid Is Pregnant For A 20 Year Old Boy by padi94(m): 9:43am On Oct 29, 2022 |
Na wa o... The truth is you can't prevent her from having sex. It would hv been better to teach her preventive measures that would hv stopped the unwanted pregnancy. 6 Likes |
Re: My 16 Year Old Live-in Maid Is Pregnant For A 20 Year Old Boy by DSS1335: 10:28am On Oct 29, 2022 |
zed7: Thank you for your honest advise. We have been able to trace through the help of the estate caretaker and contacted her aunty who was their grandmother's point of contact in PH through out their 3 months stay. She has accepted to help us mediate in the case, she will inform her Mother (the boy's grandma) and her sister(the boy's mother) about all that transpired. That the boy lives with his parents in Obigbo before ABA. If all efforts to resolve this case peacefully fails, i will file for statutory rape charge. ValCon888: This doesn't make any sense! What will she gain for withholding such a very sensitive information from us? When she was in SS1, i was forced to change her school after 3rd term, she confided in my wife that one of her male teacher was giving her undue attention to the point of inviting her to his house coupled with the fact that senior boys in her school were also disturbing her. This girl doesn't lack anything, whatever she needs or payment that comes, we clear it. We live comfortably in my 3 bedroom flat. She has her own room, i don't allow her to watch any kind of indecent movie or music by ensuring that such channels are under lock filtering out only cartoon, starlife, zeeworld, and other children friendly channels. my wife has her room but we sleep together with our 2 kids. Sometimes in June, my wife went through her phone call history, she receives call only from the guy constantly and other female friends whom we assumed were her classmates. we inquired what association she has with this boy that calls her all time even at odd hours of the night. we knew something wasnt ok as WhatsApp chat and sms were deleted. She wasn't allowed to use Facebook as we tried our best to keep her under close watch. On weekends, in our presence, she isn't allowed to use phone as my wife always hold it. What else could we have done. Our best wasn't enough i guess! And yes, my wife taught her sex education, i guess she was just too stupid, gullible, naive to fall for whatever the boy said. This a big lesson to all parents. We have learnt ours in a very hard way 90 Likes 3 Shares |
Re: My 16 Year Old Live-in Maid Is Pregnant For A 20 Year Old Boy by Nemesis0147(m): 10:42am On Oct 29, 2022 |
Please whatever you decide on doing. Don’t blackmail that boy...don’t accuse him of rape when he didn’t do it!! Let him and your ward take responsible for their actions!! Not by blackmailing him,,,two wrongs doesn’t make a right. 22 Likes 4 Shares |
Re: My 16 Year Old Live-in Maid Is Pregnant For A 20 Year Old Boy by DSS1335: 11:01am On Oct 29, 2022 |
Nemesis0147: A minor according to our constitution is any child below the statutory age of 18. They are still going through the adolescent phase of maturity. They are incapable of making rational decisions. Sleeping with such a child despite her consent is called a statutory rape within the context of our legal frame work. He risks 14 years imprisonment. That is the only hope i have now to hold the boy and his family on their jugular. That young girl must not suffer alone. So i don't care whatever method i deploy to ensure that they take responsibilities 67 Likes 7 Shares |
Re: My 16 Year Old Live-in Maid Is Pregnant For A 20 Year Old Boy by UjuJoan2: 11:01am On Oct 29, 2022 |
DSS1335: Imagine if this girl were your actual child. Think of what you would have done, and then do it. 7 Likes 1 Share |
Re: My 16 Year Old Live-in Maid Is Pregnant For A 20 Year Old Boy by Nemesis0147(m): 11:23am On Oct 29, 2022 |
DSS1335:my bad I just went through your post again. She is only 16. You have a case then....mehnn,the way people ruin their lives for nothing. Just because of a 5mins pleasure. 11 Likes |
Re: My 16 Year Old Live-in Maid Is Pregnant For A 20 Year Old Boy by DSS1335: 11:26am On Oct 29, 2022 |
ecolime: I have come to realize that live-in maids who were discriminated and ill-treated will not have the gut to misbehave this way. This girl enjoy all loves bestowed on her by my wife. She dress the way my wife does and use good perfumes. My tenants all thought she was my first child. I loved her the way i would loved my child.i took compassion on her due to her mother and wanted her to be light to her family. I guess God have good reasons for the twist in her fate! Honestly i wouldn't have given it a second thought to have her abort the foetus had we discovered this pregnancy earlier. 19 Likes |
Re: My 16 Year Old Live-in Maid Is Pregnant For A 20 Year Old Boy by lanre9ja(m): 11:50am On Oct 29, 2022 |
Beey: I love this advice, please u can still go ahead and assist their family by sponsoring her education after given birth to the innocent baby, it a lesson on her part, likewise the boy has to take responsibility for his actions.... God bless u and ur family 10 Likes 1 Share |
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