Ganjafama:
An innocent girl having sex at the age of sixteen! The girl was obviously over pampered. If she was made to dress dirty, work like crazy and made to dorn a "gorimakpa" hairstyle she would have been as wise as anything.

STARGREEN:
Lack of close supervision

so you are blaming the op?
Are you serious?

Op please drop ur number..

The best option is to abort the child,because that boy and his family will cause trouble

pocohantas:
This is another reason I don’t endorse underaged maid. Nothing on this earth can ever make it appealing to me.

If you are not 22yrs and above, I have no business with you. Shalom!

How many married women will bring in maids of that age?

Op is a decent man like me sha

mariahAngel:
You see some boys ehn? They're like horñy ekuke dogs that cannot control themselves.
Going about, ruining destinies with their nonsense "one eyed snake".
Nonsense!



Of course!
If the irresponsible boy is old enough to have sex, he should be old enough to accept the reward/consequence that comes with having sex.

I blame the parents not the children. Teach your boys and girls about sex and the need to use protection if they must do it. You guys are busy hiding behind religion.

This is one of the consequences of shying away from discussing sex and what it entails and the need for protection if one must do it.

Lastpharoah33:
I can understand the utter disappointment on your ward. Naivety and a little touch of youthful ebullience got the better of her.

Someone mentioned lack of supervision, you saying dude should put a tracker on the girl?
Or maybe have her be on leash to be dragged along, huh?

Life happened to her, if what you wrote up there is what really transpired (as regards to your benevolence towards your ward), I really think taking her back to her mom is a good step.

But am totally against going ballistic on the nig that did put her in the family way. It's a choice thing. Either he embraces with full chest or bounce. Nature/karma will always take it's cause.

Don t mind him

Kirchoffs:
Oga sharrap and blame your housemaid cum Foster child and leave the boy out of it. When she dey open leg she no no abi.

Dollar is now 800 and you expect a boy of 20years to come and play daddy with the mad inflation in Nigeria now.

Am sure you got the poor girl pregnant and now wnt to frame an innocent boy to take the fall for it

Why are there so many fools on this space?

The boy and girl had sex, yet you are blaming the girl alone, why should he be left out of it? The mumu nor know say naira no dey smile yet e dey fvck girl anyhow? He must face the music with girl or go to jail.

And at the bolded, may you be accused falsely on something you did not do in the nearest future, Amen.

Dolt.

Megabig:


If it wasn’t rape, don’t file rape charges against an innocent person, they both did it, let the girl face her issues,her family is now aware and should know what next to do. it’s pregnancy, don’t try to destroy someone’s life for no reason.

So, the boy and his family should go about enjoying his life while the girl suffers alone? Like she impregnated herself abi?

Op drop ur number biko

@DSS1335
I read your post and replies.
You on the right track.
Get that boy fast and keep us updated.

LienwaltAbel:

Will any sane 22 year old agree to work for maltreatment and unbalanced diet? That's why these child traffickers and molesters go for underaged children as maids. We're still living in the 17th century in Africa

The exact problem, Nigerians know they treat their maids unfairly most times, that is why they are always looking for minors. I can’t keep a minor in my house as a maid. I can never do it o. If say na 24yrs old girl carry belle now, would we be having this topic?

Laws are in place for a reason.

Freshgrace4life:
You have really done well , parents should teach their children sex education , leaving it for the school alone is not enough , most underaged girls are likely to fall into some cheap lies by Hot boys .. and it should be for both genders , guys can also control their sexual urges ...

One got to tell them it is not every time the place scratches you that you need to scratch it.

It is not every time it rises up that you need to use it.
I hated it then when my parents kept strong protective eyes on me. Looking back, I'm thankful.
I hope to be protective as well.

Unplanned pregnancy in teenagers isn't the right way to start life.

DSS1335:
I am writing this with a sorrowful heart!
This is quite a lengthy piece!!


In 2018, My wife brought a live-in maid toward the end of her gestational period as we eagerly anticipate the birth of our first fruit after 8 years of marriage.

We took the young girl as part of our family, she was just 13 years old in JSS2 at the time she joined us. She does minor household chores, like washing the dishes, keeping the house in and out clean, that's all. I made sure
her education was not interrupted, she continued her schooling from Js3 till she completed her SSCE this year. Outsiders thought she was my first child considering the way she was being taken good care of.

At 16 years age, the evidence of proper nutrition was so glaring in her physique, the young girl of yesterday was already a beautiful damsel. I protected her from ravenous men old enough to be her father. Even from her classmates. Perhaps the mistake i made was in buying her phone before WAEC exam started. Well, the need for constant communication can not be overemphasized because i and my wife go out for work in the morning. My wife comes back in the day while i return back in the evening. Living her our 2 kids in her care: My first Child is 3 years plus in Nursery, the second is about 2 years in Prenursery.

When her mother made a stop by to visit her daughter 5 months ago after 4 years, she was so full of praise and thanking us for taking good care of her daughter, and begged us to allow her stay longer with us rather than her returning back to the village after completing her WAEC. I and my wife plan that i will take up the responsibility to train her up in University so she can be light to her family. Her elder siblings didn't complete their secondary school!

Today, all those dreams and aspirations have been shattered! The innocent girl child i took as a daughter is 5 months pregnant without even knowing she was pregnant! How possible? I could have swear with my life that she was still a virgin and innocent. Damm it! Where do I start from eh??

Well, my wife was rattled up by a what she called a terrible nightmare, she dreamt that she saw her girl carrying a new born baby. That was around 3 A.M she woke her up from sleep and asked her if she was pregnant, the girl denied it ignorantly. My wife had no reason to suspect her as she always buy her pads for her monthly menses except for this month. Then examined her and her suspicion became heightened as she saw a remarkable changes, her bra can't fit any longer, her bellybutton was out with black line running down! She ordered her to pee and run her test kit, it came back positive! My wife broke down in tears.

That morning, we didn't go to work for the day. we grilled her with questions. She confessed to us that she had intercourse only once in the month MAY yet she was still seeing her monthly menses. That she had a boy friend whom they secretly communicate on phone every day. That she lost her virginity to the boy. And they did it only ones in less than 30 minutes as she came back to check the kids who were still sleeping in the afternoon.

The boy came to visit her grand mother who return from the USA, she refused traveling to the East due to insecurities and rented a flat opposite my compound for just 3 months from March to June. During her stay, all her children and grandchildren came to visit her. It was one of her grand son that lured my maid and took advantage of her innocences.

We contacted the boy on phone and told him what happened, he denied it that it is impossible for him to be held responsible that he had sex with her only once and that's not enough to get a girl pregnant! I swear,i could have dealt with him fatally if he were within my reach. Well, i was able to comport myself and explain to him in details after which he kept quiet. He is just 20 years old awaiting admission. We have informed the girl's mother too who became shock and cold! And asked her daughter to return back to the village!

Considering this scenario, i came up with the plan to make that boy and family take up the responsibility of the pregnancy, she can't remain with my family anymore so as not draw unnecessary attention. I will track down the boy and his family and file a statutory rape charge against them if all avenue to resolve this case peacefully fail. From Pregnancy to child care is no joke. My people that is no joke at all. I feel very bad and compassionate for the innocent young girl who will be forced to sacrifice her future to be in the family way.

Any honest advise on how best to tackle this issue at hand would be appreciated

Send her home back to her parents and wash your hands off her.

Blame the rampant insecurity in the East.

DSS1335:
I am writing this with a sorrowful heart!
This is quite a lengthy piece!!


In 2018, My wife brought a live-in maid toward the end of her gestational period as we eagerly anticipate the birth of our first fruit after 8 years of marriage.

We took the young girl as part of our family, she was just 13 years old in JSS2 at the time she joined us. She does minor household chores, like washing the dishes, keeping the house in and out clean, that's all. I made sure
her education was not interrupted, she continued her schooling from Js3 till she completed her SSCE this year. Outsiders thought she was my first child considering the way she was being taken good care of.

At 16 years age, the evidence of proper nutrition was so glaring in her physique, the young girl of yesterday was already a beautiful damsel. I protected her from ravenous men old enough to be her father. Even from her classmates. Perhaps the mistake i made was in buying her phone before WAEC exam started. Well, the need for constant communication can not be overemphasized because i and my wife go out for work in the morning. My wife comes back in the day while i return back in the evening. Living her our 2 kids in her care: My first Child is 3 years plus in Nursery, the second is about 2 years in Prenursery.

When her mother made a stop by to visit her daughter 5 months ago after 4 years, she was so full of praise and thanking us for taking good care of her daughter, and begged us to allow her stay longer with us rather than her returning back to the village after completing her WAEC. I and my wife plan that i will take up the responsibility to train her up in University so she can be light to her family. Her elder siblings didn't complete their secondary school!

Today, all those dreams and aspirations have been shattered! The innocent girl child i took as a daughter is 5 months pregnant without even knowing she was pregnant! How possible? I could have swear with my life that she was still a virgin and innocent. Damm it! Where do I start from eh??

Well, my wife was rattled up by a what she called a terrible nightmare, she dreamt that she saw her girl carrying a new born baby. That was around 3 A.M she woke her up from sleep and asked her if she was pregnant, the girl denied it ignorantly. My wife had no reason to suspect her as she always buy her pads for her monthly menses except for this month. Then examined her and her suspicion became heightened as she saw a remarkable changes, her bra can't fit any longer, her bellybutton was out with black line running down! She ordered her to pee and run her test kit, it came back positive! My wife broke down in tears.

That morning, we didn't go to work for the day. we grilled her with questions. She confessed to us that she had intercourse only once in the month MAY yet she was still seeing her monthly menses. That she had a boy friend whom they secretly communicate on phone every day. That she lost her virginity to the boy. And they did it only ones in less than 30 minutes as she came back to check the kids who were still sleeping in the afternoon.

The boy came to visit her grand mother who return from the USA, she refused traveling to the East due to insecurities and rented a flat opposite my compound for just 3 months from March to June. During her stay, all her children and grandchildren came to visit her. It was one of her grand son that lured my maid and took advantage of her innocences.

We contacted the boy on phone and told him what happened, he denied it that it is impossible for him to be held responsible that he had sex with her only once and that's not enough to get a girl pregnant! I swear,i could have dealt with him fatally if he were within my reach. Well, i was able to comport myself and explain to him in details after which he kept quiet. He is just 20 years old awaiting admission. We have informed the girl's mother too who became shock and cold! And asked her daughter to return back to the village!

Considering this scenario, i came up with the plan to make that boy and family take up the responsibility of the pregnancy, she can't remain with my family anymore so as not draw unnecessary attention. I will track down the boy and his family and file a statutory rape charge against them if all avenue to resolve this case peacefully fail. From Pregnancy to child care is no joke. My people that is no joke at all. I feel very bad and compassionate for the innocent young girl who will be forced to sacrifice her future to be in the family way.

Any honest advise on how best to tackle this issue at hand would be appreciated

Sir, i would appreciate you the way you took care of the girl.
But it saddeneds me to hear that she became pregnant.
For you to want to deal with the young man shows how you took this girl as a family.
I would want you to please reap from the fruit you have sown in this young girl's life.
Please kindly get the boy family to pay for up keep of the pregancy then when delivered they can have the baby.

I would really want this girl to attend university.
Please can you also plead with your wife because she would be hurt the most to bear the society hyppcritical shame.
Just imagine it as your own biological teenage daugheter pregancy.
Kindly drop ur digit let rub minds sir.

Lizzydonnah:



So, the boy and his family should go about enjoying his life while the girl suffers alone? Like she impregnated herself abi?

They are two gullible people who had sex, how is the girl suppose to get pregnant if they didn’t do it together, the family of the girl should pursue the case as they want and others can assist to make sure the boys family also take some part of the responsibility, you can’t charge someone for rape when it wasn’t rape. That’s my point.

Megabig:


If it wasn’t rape, don’t file rape charges against an innocent person, they both did it, let the girl face her issues,her family is now aware and should know what next to do. it’s pregnancy, don’t try to destroy someone’s life for no reason.

well it only that she is a minor in this case and this law says it is rape because minors can't give consent as the sex is between a minor and an adult according how the laws looks at it

dettolgel:


I blame the parents not the children. Teach your boys and girls about sex and the need to use protection if they must do it. You guys are busy hiding behind religion.

This is one of the consequences of shying away from discussing sex and what it entails and the need for protection if one must do it.

You need to know when to shove your disdain for religion where the sun doesn't shine, irreligious people don't that have this type of problem? Or the western world that you low esteem people like to praise and elevate don't also have teenage pregnancy problem?

The Op has said it several times that she was thought sex education, the girl was so free with Op and his wife that she told them when she was being harassed by a teacher and some boys, and they changed her school immediately, try and read other comments next time.

GloriousGbola:


As middle class parents, the missus and I are at the point where we are constantly haranguing the 12 and 14 year old about 'discipline', 'critical thinking', 'common sense', 'responsibility' and a whole lot of other words. It often feels like an uphill task but every once in a while they do something in public that makes you realize it may be working


Most of these poor kids (and A lot of others) do not learn common sense in their formative years and are unable to take smart decisions later in their lives.

You might have a point though.

mariahAngel:


I believe the (major) reason why these occurrences are common with maids is because they have this mentality of you are not my father/mother, so you can't tell me what to do.
At first, they usually start out humble, then it gets to a point, they become defiant.

I understand you but it also happens with biological children.

PJtech:
Lack of supervision from parent/guardian. A girl got 5month pregnant under ur roof, you negleted ur guardian role(ur wife should take 90% of the blame)

do have a talk with ur wife, never leave ur kids with same fate as this poor girl.... Learn from this mistake

So sorry but you are very wrong on this.
Note she was still having her menstruation. And the man's wife was the one buying her the sanitary pads. I've come across more than 3 adults who were pregnant without even knowing until it was about 4-5months and one of them is likely going to put to birth next month. She only discovered she was pregnant when the pregnancy was over 5 months meanwhile she was still seeing her period. She only found out when she started adding weight and feeling abnormal.

Megabig:


They are two gullible people who had sex, how is the girl suppose to get pregnant if they didn’t do it together, the family of the girl should pursue the case as they want and others can assist to make sure the boys family also take some part of the responsibility, you can’t charge someone for rape when it wasn’t rape. That’s my point.

It is statutory rape go look it up, the boy must be charged with rape because he slept with a minor.

lapo:
Blame the rampant insecurity in the East.

lol if not for IPOB and ESN miscreants dem. It wont had happen abi?

Lack of supervision and proper relationship with ur wards leads thos this. Under ur very roof?

u buy her pads bt don't have proper sex education talks with her and then she feel prey to the wolves.

ValCon888:
My advice is not for the girl, but for the boy.

That 20 year old boy should make sure a DNA test is carried out before anyone pins a pregnancy on his head.

Just like the OP was shocked that a "naive" 16 year old girl is pregnant under his roof, he'll be further shocked that child doesn't belong to the young man in question, but one of her multiple sex partners.

I strongly believe this is a 1 time thing,she's probably telling the truth...the only thing is that,she is young and naive,she was h*rny while ovulating,went to the guy who has been disturbing her with love and boom,pregnancy happened!!!

Oga, are you sure the pregnancy is not yours
Let's start our investigation from here

DSS1335:


A minor according to our constitution is any child below the statutory age of 18. They are still going through the adolescent phase of maturity. They are incapable of making rational decisions. Sleeping with such a child despite her consent is called a statutory rape within the context of our legal frame work. He risks 14 years imprisonment. That is the only hope i have now to hold the boy and his family on their jugular. That young girl must not suffer alone. So i don't care whatever method i deploy to ensure that they take responsibilities

Same constitution that recognises marriage of underaged children. Please, don't destroy the lads life because you have the means. Talk to his family, I am sure they will not reject their child

pocohantas:


The exact problem, Nigerians know they treat their maids unfairly most times, that is why they are always looking for minors. I can’t keep a minor in my house as a maid. I can never do it o. If say na 24yrs old girl carry belle now, would we be having this topic?

Laws are in place for a reason.

Exactly what we fail to understand. Nigerians will always look for ways to cut corners. If your grandmom is sick and needs a caregiver hire one or leave her to die. Simple. All this child labour nonsense sickens me.

Sorry I didn't read the story.

16 year old maid is still an abuse jare!

She doesn't know enough to give her consent to serve as a maid. The age for that should be 18 - 26 years of age, so they can still catch up with life and be ready to be wives and moms.

24SEVEN:


Send her home back to her parents and wash your hands off her.

Exactly, he is even trying to sue for rape when it clearly wasn’t