DSS1335:


A minor according to our constitution is any child below the statutory age of 18. They are still going through the adolescent phase of maturity. They are incapable of making rational decisions. Sleeping with such a child despite her consent is called a statutory rape within the context of our legal frame work. He risks 14 years imprisonment. That is the only hope i have now to hold the boy and his family on their jugular. That young girl must not suffer alone. So i don't care whatever method i deploy to ensure that they take responsibilities

mariahhAngel:
You see some boys ehn? They're like horñy ekuke dogs that cannot control themselves.
Going about, ruining destinies with their nonsense "oneeyedsnake". I am sure I know that bolded afonja ideeyot

gfon:
The girl didn't say she was raped oga...that's how you guys accuse guys wrongly for rape. Not saying what he did was right,but let him take responsibility for his actions. So when the baby is born,they would take him/her to visit the dad serving a life sentence You try

Beey:
You taking the girl in and supporting her education is commendable. It sounds like she was a bit idle and that’s how she found time to meet with the young man. I want to believe that she’s not as naive as people may want to make it sound. At that age, she must have had some biology lessons. It was probably curiosity and the excitement of being told that she’s loved, that pushed her into that situation. Now with that said, my advise is for you to reconsider your decision. People fall down and then get back up again. Pregnancy though highly discouraged at her age, is not the cause for her to receive a lifetime of condemnation. Have her go to the village and have the baby. Let her stay till the baby is weaned. Am sure she’ll face difficulties that will force her to mature and focus. After that, she can leave the baby with her mother and go back to school. Please save her from becoming another addition to statistics of poverty and lack of education. Please continue to sponsor her studies as you had planned. Take her as if she were your own daughter who made a mistake and give her a 2nd chance. In the future, go for domestic help who are over 18 years old and can handle the consequences of their actions.

mariahAngel:
You see some boys ehn? They're like horñy ekuke dogs that cannot control themselves.
Going about, ruining destinies with their nonsense "one eyed snake".
Nonsense!

Of course!
If the irresponsible boy is old enough to have sex, he should be old enough to accept the reward/consequence that comes with having sex.

zed7:
When you have an 'adult' or teenager under your roof, anything can happen. It can even happen to the best trained biological child. I have learnt how to stop judging. I could have gotten girls pregnant also but I was just lucky. My parents talked and also raised me well but as a young man, we still went ahead and took stupid risks.

If my sons, do ever get a girl pregnant before time (I pray not), I will have to force them to take responsibility. Everyone should be responsible for his or her actions.

In your case, track down the boy and force him to take responsibility, if the family refuses, please sue for rape. He raped a minor. You cannot come and derail someone's life and then go about enjoying yours.

PJtech:
Lack of supervision from parent/guardian. A girl got 5month pregnant under ur roof, you negleted ur guardian role(ur wife should take 90% of the blame)

do have a talk with ur wife, never leave ur kids with same fate as this poor girl.... Learn from this mistake

pocohantas:
This is another reason I don’t endorse underaged maid. Nothing on this earth can ever make it appealing to me.

If you are not 22yrs and above, I have no business with you. Shalom!

Richy4:


Have you visited Google yet to find out the cost of DNA test in Nigeria?..It doesn't come cheap...
Are u sure a 20yr old who is most likely a university student can afford that?

DSS1335:
I am writing this with a sorrowful heart!
This is quite a lengthy piece!!


In 2018, My wife brought a live-in maid toward the end of her gestational period as we eagerly anticipate the birth of our first fruit after 8 years of marriage.

We took the young girl as part of our family, she was just 13 years old in JSS2 at the time she joined us. She does minor household chores, like washing the dishes, keeping the house in and out clean, that's all. I made sure
her education was not interrupted, she continued her schooling from Js3 till she completed her SSCE this year. Outsiders thought she was my first child considering the way she was being taken good care of.

At 16 years age, the evidence of proper nutrition was so glaring in her physique, the young girl of yesterday was already a beautiful damsel. I protected her from ravenous men old enough to be her father. Even from her classmates. Perhaps the mistake i made was in buying her phone before WAEC exam started. Well, the need for constant communication can not be overemphasized because i and my wife go out for work in the morning. My wife comes back in the day while i return back in the evening. Living her our 2 kids in her care: My first Child is 3 years plus in Nursery, the second is about 2 years in Prenursery.

When her mother made a stop by to visit her daughter 5 months ago after 4 years, she was so full of praise and thanking us for taking good care of her daughter, and begged us to allow her stay longer with us rather than her returning back to the village after completing her WAEC. I and my wife plan that i will take up the responsibility to train her up in University so she can be light to her family. Her elder siblings didn't complete their secondary school!

Today, all those dreams and aspirations have been shattered! The innocent girl child i took as a daughter is 5 months pregnant without even knowing she was pregnant! How possible? I could have swear with my life that she was still a virgin and innocent. Damm it! Where do I start from eh??

Well, my wife was rattled up by a what she called a terrible nightmare, she dreamt that she saw her girl carrying a new born baby. That was around 3 A.M she woke her up from sleep and asked her if she was pregnant, the girl denied it ignorantly. My wife had no reason to suspect her as she always buy her pads for her monthly menses except for this month. Then examined her and her suspicion became heightened as she saw a remarkable changes, her bra can't fit any longer, her bellybutton was out with black line running down! She ordered her to pee and run her test kit, it came back positive! My wife broke down in tears.

That morning, we didn't go to work for the day. we grilled her with questions. She confessed to us that she had intercourse only once in the month MAY yet she was still seeing her monthly menses. That she had a boy friend whom they secretly communicate on phone every day. That she lost her virginity to the boy. And they did it only ones in less than 30 minutes as she came back to check the kids who were still sleeping in the afternoon.

The boy came to visit her grand mother who return from the USA, she refused traveling to the East due to insecurities and rented a flat opposite my compound for just 3 months from March to June. During her stay, all her children and grandchildren came to visit her. It was one of her grand son that lured my maid and took advantage of her innocences.

We contacted the boy on phone and told him what happened, he denied it that it is impossible for him to be held responsible that he had sex with her only once and that's not enough to get a girl pregnant! I swear,i could have dealt with him fatally if he were within my reach. Well, i was able to comport myself and explain to him in details after which he kept quiet. He is just 20 years old awaiting admission. We have informed the girl's mother too who became shock and cold! And asked her daughter to return back to the village!

Considering this scenario, i came up with the plan to make that boy and family take up the responsibility of the pregnancy, she can't remain with my family anymore so as not draw unnecessary attention. I will track down the boy and his family and file a statutory rape charge against them if all avenue to resolve this case peacefully fail. From Pregnancy to child care is no joke. My people that is no joke at all. I feel very bad and compassionate for the innocent young girl who will be forced to sacrifice her future to be in the family way.

Any honest advise on how best to tackle this issue at hand would be appreciated

Jovialjune1:


You need to know when to shove your disdain for religion where the sun doesn't shine, irreligious people don't that have this type of problem? Or the western world that you low esteem people like to praise and elevate don't also have teenage pregnancy problem?

The Op has said it several times that she was thought sex education, the girl was so free with Op and his wife that she told them when she was being harassed by a teacher and some boys, and they changed her school immediately, try and read other comments next time.

Beey:
You taking the girl in and supporting her education is commendable. It sounds like she was a bit idle and that’s how she found time to meet with the young man. I want to believe that she’s not as naive as people may want to make it sound. At that age, she must have had some biology lessons. It was probably curiosity and the excitement of being told that she’s loved, that pushed her into that situation. Now with that said, my advise is for you to reconsider your decision. People fall down and then get back up again. Pregnancy though highly discouraged at her age, is not the cause for her to receive a lifetime of condemnation. Have her go to the village and have the baby. Let her stay till the baby is weaned. Am sure she’ll face difficulties that will force her to mature and focus. After that, she can leave the baby with her mother and go back to school. Please save her from becoming another addition to statistics of poverty and lack of education. Please continue to sponsor her studies as you had planned. Take her as if she were your own daughter who made a mistake and give her a 2nd chance. In the future, go for domestic help who are over 18 years old and can handle the consequences of their actions.

ValCon888:
My advice is not for the girl, but for the boy.

That 20 year old boy should make sure a DNA test is carried out before anyone pins a pregnancy on his head.

Just like the OP was shocked that a "naive" 16 year old girl is pregnant under his roof, he'll be further shocked that child doesn't belong to the young man in question, but one of her multiple sex partners.

mariahAngel:


Local government unu di vely vely denjelus!
Agwo nwere otu anya!



Hapuga some of these maids.
No matter how careful/watchful you are with them, they will find ways to maneuver you if they want to.

Op and his wife planned/did the best for her, but the girl decided to waste the opportunity.
She took their benevolence for granted, and must learn the hard way.

armyofone:


One got to tell them it is not every time the place scratches you that you need to scratch it.

It is not every time it rises up that you need to use it.
I hated it then when my parents kept strong protective eyes on me. Looking back, I'm thankful.
I hope to be protective as well.

Unplanned pregnancy in teenagers isn't the right way to start life.

STARGREEN:
Admittedly it's not so easy to have absolute control of people, Yet being a minor under someone's tutelage please permit me to sight lack of close supervision.

For now let she be with the parents when the shock is over, kindly find a way to put her back to her feet.

Even if it's vocational education.

Jovialjune1:



Why are there so many fools on this space?

The boy and girl had sex, yet you are blaming the girl alone, why should he be left out of it? The mumu nor know say naira no dey smile yet e dey fvck girl anyhow? He must face the music with girl or go to jail.

And at the bolded, may you be accused falsely on something you did not do in the nearest future, Amen.

Dolt.

Beey:
You taking the girl in and supporting her education is commendable. It sounds like she was a bit idle and that’s how she found time to meet with the young man. I want to believe that she’s not as naive as people may want to make it sound. At that age, she must have had some biology lessons. It was probably curiosity and the excitement of being told that she’s loved, that pushed her into that situation. Now with that said, my advise is for you to reconsider your decision. People fall down and then get back up again. Pregnancy though highly discouraged at her age, is not the cause for her to receive a lifetime of condemnation. Have her go to the village and have the baby. Let her stay till the baby is weaned. Am sure she’ll face difficulties that will force her to mature and focus. After that, she can leave the baby with her mother and go back to school. Please save her from becoming another addition to statistics of poverty and lack of education. Please continue to sponsor her studies as you had planned. Take her as if she were your own daughter who made a mistake and give her a 2nd chance. In the future, go for domestic help who are over 18 years old and can handle the consequences of their actions.

nedekid:
I am boozing with a paddy and I read this post out to him. Below is his advice he said I should post on his behalf.
If the girl does not want the pregnancy and seeing it will ruin her future. Take her to a proper hospital and get rid of it. Simple.
Hopefully the girl would have learnt a lesson.
Furthermore, he advices once one gets such house help, while doing the normal hiv etc tests, administer "depo Provera". In that case, you will not hear anything like belle.

Sorry to say this but I don't agree with your friend especially with the red ink ...

U can't administer anything like contraceptive injection to a minor that is not your child without getting the parent's consent... Or without the child even knowing what you were doing... It's wrong in all ramifications... Let's just say he said that under the influence of alcohol

Munzy14:

Lmao..o kwesiri i di o..Ihe emere muta nwa adihu easy

A man is always ready maka ita..But a lady will determine if it will happen or not.

She can still be what destiny holds for her, despite the pregnancy.

Ahu ga aju go di ya oyi for now..

DSS1335:
I am writing this with a sorrowful heart!
This is quite a lengthy piece!!

...
Any honest advise on how best to tackle this issue at hand would be appreciated

NoToPile:


I understand you but it also happens with biological children.