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Re: My 16 Year Old Live-in Maid Is Pregnant For A 20 Year Old Boy by Elsueno: 4:59pm On Oct 29, 2022 |
sigh...... Taking care of female kids is very very hard Woh....but what can we do, they are also a blessing from God, All we can do is try our very best 2 Likes |
Re: My 16 Year Old Live-in Maid Is Pregnant For A 20 Year Old Boy by MoneyMustBMade(m): 5:00pm On Oct 29, 2022 |
DSS1335: The family of the boy needs to take responsibility of it, most |
Re: My 16 Year Old Live-in Maid Is Pregnant For A 20 Year Old Boy by AfonjaConehead: 5:01pm On Oct 29, 2022 |
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Re: My 16 Year Old Live-in Maid Is Pregnant For A 20 Year Old Boy by deflover(m): 5:05pm On Oct 29, 2022 |
gfon: It's clear u don't understand the law She is 16 By law she is a minor And it doesn't matter if she is the one who bleeped him It's rape He is the adult She is a kid 2 Likes |
Re: My 16 Year Old Live-in Maid Is Pregnant For A 20 Year Old Boy by akbonus: 5:05pm On Oct 29, 2022 |
Beey: GOD BLESS YOU FOR THIS ADVICE,I THINK THE HOLY SPIRIT MINISTERED THIS TO YOU IF YOU ARE CHRISTIAN,IF NOT YOU MUST BE VERY INTELLIGENT PERSON,AGAIN GOD BLESS YOU. 2 Likes |
Re: My 16 Year Old Live-in Maid Is Pregnant For A 20 Year Old Boy by naturefellow(m): 5:07pm On Oct 29, 2022 |
mariahAngel:appropriate response to a thoughtless opinion 1 Like |
Re: My 16 Year Old Live-in Maid Is Pregnant For A 20 Year Old Boy by seunattorney: 5:09pm On Oct 29, 2022 |
That's her own little way to bring light to her family mad children u want to have sex u cannot buy ₦250 condom u want to enjoy it raw |
Re: My 16 Year Old Live-in Maid Is Pregnant For A 20 Year Old Boy by achillesfoot(m): 5:09pm On Oct 29, 2022 |
zed7:Perfect and very reasonable response... Keep it up. 1 Like |
Re: My 16 Year Old Live-in Maid Is Pregnant For A 20 Year Old Boy by naturefellow(m): 5:09pm On Oct 29, 2022 |
PJtech:easy to trade blames until you're a parent yourself having to look after a female ward ![]() 2 Likes |
Re: My 16 Year Old Live-in Maid Is Pregnant For A 20 Year Old Boy by Joybeau: 5:10pm On Oct 29, 2022 |
First off, it is not uncommon that a- 16 year old young girl should indulge in sex without knowing the repercussion of such indulgence. The blame still fall on the parent or caregiver for failing to protect her on the status of her being a minor. She is still under your care and custody and you failed her. That's why I blame our culture that stiffs reception to Sexuality education. Most African homes shy away or vilify sexuality education, but we must embrace it. I mean home based sexuality education, I said Sexuality education and not sex education because Sexuality education encompasses sex education, knowledge of one's body, sex orientation and behaviour. Sexuality education is taught age-wisely to children right after birth till adulthood. Children are the vulnerable population owing to the fact that their cognitive ability is not fully developed. So, you as the caregiver must live up to the task of protecting them not just physically but also emotionally. Else they will be preyed upon. " Giving information is not giving permission" . At her age she's supposed to have learnt about her body( I mean womanhood) and the consequences of engaging in risky behaviour. You can mail me at gilbertjoy63@gmail.com or send me a pm here for more information on what parents should know to enable them carry out effective sexuality education You can also get daily or weekly tip on sexuality education as well as buying a resource book authored by myself 2 Likes |
Re: My 16 Year Old Live-in Maid Is Pregnant For A 20 Year Old Boy by nedekid: 5:11pm On Oct 29, 2022 |
I am boozing with a paddy and I read this post out to him. Below is his advice he said I should post on his behalf. If the girl does not want the pregnancy and seeing it will ruin her future. Take her to a proper hospital and get rid of it. Simple. Hopefully the girl would have learnt a lesson. Furthermore, he advices once one gets such house help, while doing the normal hiv etc tests, administer "depo Provera". In that case, you will not hear anything like belle. 1 Like |
Re: My 16 Year Old Live-in Maid Is Pregnant For A 20 Year Old Boy by micflo28(m): 5:18pm On Oct 29, 2022 |
You mentioned that the boys grandmother just arrived from the US. Its means that the family is well to do. See how they can be of help to help the girl through this stage of pregnancy and cater for the child after its born. You should have taught the girl as much as your kids the implications of sex and its consequences. Brave it into her once you see male kids in the neighbourhood. She is in experimental stage and the boy is in his "Take advantage of her" stage. They both failed to get guided. 1 Like |
Re: My 16 Year Old Live-in Maid Is Pregnant For A 20 Year Old Boy by NoToPile: 5:18pm On Oct 29, 2022 |
pocohantas: Well a lot of times these things don't happen as a direct maid sort of thing, it always start with one person saying let my daughter live with you people and you take care of her education feeding and all to them its one burden less. So the girl lives with them and they send her to school, she takes care of the younger ones as siblings also does chores Some of these situations is kind of similar to the nwa boy matter. Lots of girls who had no hope or means as a result of the poverty level of their parents have made something out of their lives from such arrangements. 9 out of 10 times these arrangements are as a result of poverty, like the scenerio of this girl /family the OP painted. 1 Like |
Re: My 16 Year Old Live-in Maid Is Pregnant For A 20 Year Old Boy by iamme1234(m): 5:21pm On Oct 29, 2022 |
My brother in the lord You have tried your best to RIse the girl child from dust to the brim. In Wasiu Ayinde’s song He says rora se rora shey ooooo Anybody to bafe se ore.. My brother with humility of mind Let that girl go and visit his family You have done the best Don’t take her in anymore because this might affect your future and the future of your kids. I have done help to a peak in this life that I later Blamed my self woefully. Listen let that girl go and always support her with anything you can while she is with her parent. Remember this girl might grow up a bit and developed too much likeness in you hence put your wife’s life in jeopardy.. I won’t say more than this This life has taught me lesson that I can’t regain back. Brother this is where God want you to assist the girl child till. If you proceed You will remember I told you this tales Shalom.. 1 Like |
Re: My 16 Year Old Live-in Maid Is Pregnant For A 20 Year Old Boy by akbonus: 5:21pm On Oct 29, 2022 |
Richy4: DID YOU READ WHERE THEY SAID THE GRANDMOTHER CAME VISITING FROM THE UK,AND HAVE TO RENT A FLAT FOR JUST 3 MONTHS DUE TO INSECURITY IN THE EAST?SO THE GRANDMOTHER SHOULD TAKE OVER,BECAUSE IT WAS HER INABILITY TO RETURN TO THE VILLAGE THAT GAVE RISE TO HER UNTAMED GRANDSON TO PUT HIS P IN THE WRONG HOLE AT THE WRONG TIME IN THE WRONG LOCATION WITH THE WRONG PERSON, QED. 1 Like |
Re: My 16 Year Old Live-in Maid Is Pregnant For A 20 Year Old Boy by xeratek: 5:23pm On Oct 29, 2022 |
DSS1335:Another fake story by patlex AKA Patrick Enyum and group |
Re: My 16 Year Old Live-in Maid Is Pregnant For A 20 Year Old Boy by Nobody: 5:24pm On Oct 29, 2022 |
Do these: FIRST AVOID ABORTION. 1. Track the boy and inform his family. You'll be surprised what support they too can render, especially the potential 'Great-Grand-Ma'... 2. If they refuse, file for 'Statutory Rape' as the girl is still underaged according to our laws. The young man is above 18 and could do time. 3. Support her relocation to her Mom who happens to be the BEST person to guide her with love through this period. You and Wifey can send assistance from time to time. 4. Both you and Wifey should continue to provide 'Parental care' for the child, if you can, even if the family of the boy is non-responsive. 5. Try to see her return to school and live her dream, she has learnt her lesson and will apply the learnings going forward. 6. When she and the boy come of age and wishes to marry her, be the Father that you've always been to her and guide her accordingly. 7. You have the right to be utterly disappointed, but please don't stop showing her love. Bless you Bro. 2 Likes |
Re: My 16 Year Old Live-in Maid Is Pregnant For A 20 Year Old Boy by dettolgel: 5:24pm On Oct 29, 2022 |
Jovialjune1: So just this my one post is enough for you to conclude that I have disdain for religion? ![]() So because other people have similar problems that is why you are not going to fix yours? My dear tell me the western countries with serious teenage pregnancy problem and I will show you that they have a large number of religious nuts among them. Instead of going about insulting yourself, why don't you look at the rate of teenage pregnancy in "irreligious" countries like Belgium, Netherlands, Luxembourg, I mean western Europe (at least they are not religious) even within these countries find the cohorts that are responsible for the larger share of teenage pregnancy and all fingers will be pointing to those communities that are blinded by religion. ![]() My dear my crux is with people like you that can't separate reality from wishful thinking. ![]() Back to your rants, was the boy taught sexual education? The boy's ignorance was even everywhere when he thought he couldn't get her pregnant from just one sexual encounter. If she was taught sexual education why did she have sex without protection? I doubt if she was taught because according to the op she said it was a short session. You see your life? ![]() I repeat no hiding behind religion, sexual education should be taught. As long as you guys keep hiding behind religion the result is teenage pregnancy and avoidable deaths from illegal abortion. If you like come back to insult yourself thinking that you are insulting me ![]() 1 Like |
Re: My 16 Year Old Live-in Maid Is Pregnant For A 20 Year Old Boy by blaise26abj(m): 5:24pm On Oct 29, 2022 |
Beey: God bless you with that advice . She is still a child and does not understand the gravity of her mistake . I frown at using young girls who are still underage as domestic helps . It is child labour and it is bad . Use adults . I know of a woman whose maid got pregnant by the boyfriend that the woman knew . She continued working till she had to go have the baby. |
Re: My 16 Year Old Live-in Maid Is Pregnant For A 20 Year Old Boy by Basiljoe: 5:28pm On Oct 29, 2022 |
ValCon888:Well spoken. |
Re: My 16 Year Old Live-in Maid Is Pregnant For A 20 Year Old Boy by Munzy14(m): 5:29pm On Oct 29, 2022 |
mariahAngel:Lmao..o kwesiri i di o..Ihe emere muta nwa adihu easy ![]() A man is always ready maka ita..But a lady will determine if it will happen or not. She can still be what destiny holds for her, despite the pregnancy. Ahu ga aju go di ya oyi for now.. ![]() |
Re: My 16 Year Old Live-in Maid Is Pregnant For A 20 Year Old Boy by luluosas(m): 5:35pm On Oct 29, 2022 |
I am speechless ooooo |
Re: My 16 Year Old Live-in Maid Is Pregnant For A 20 Year Old Boy by B2B23: 5:36pm On Oct 29, 2022 |
It's sad what happened and I can feel your pain. Don't blame yourself, adolescent is the age of kids thinking they know it all and also the age of exploration. You did your best it's unfortunate it had to end this way. Locate the boys family and let them be aware and take responsibility. After the child's birth don't neglect the girl, keep to your promise to see her through the university. 1 Like |
Re: My 16 Year Old Live-in Maid Is Pregnant For A 20 Year Old Boy by Freshgrace4life(f): 5:39pm On Oct 29, 2022 |
armyofone:I also thank God for my parents , then I thought they were too harsh & strict on us not knowing that they were protecting us back then , even in terms of you being independent , they also played a bigger role . It is now that I am seeing everything, I can bet you , during my teenager years ,some of the n that got pregnant or impregnated someone back then as a teenager , it was hell for them , some have moved on with their lives with different partners.. I know of two ladies , they are back fully into the street & you know what that means .... 1 Like |
Re: My 16 Year Old Live-in Maid Is Pregnant For A 20 Year Old Boy by okoroemeka(m): 5:40pm On Oct 29, 2022 |
STARGREEN:for me I think the idea that the op has that she has sacrificed her future to be in a family way is actually false,I have seen many instances were the girl bounced back better than before,also the opinion of lack of close supervisor is also a naive idea,a matured growing girl is no longer supposed to live in another man's house as house help except in her own mother's house,because growth brings about a rapid spike in hormones that make these girls almost uncontrollable like a dog in heat,I have seen countless examples of such,if they don't get pregnant they will run away at a slight provocation,Bleep the men in the house,Bleep negihbours and co,infact any wise woman cannot keep a girl that is above 16 yrs in her house,good husband or not I don't care,a pair of standing puffy breasts greeting you brother good morning is not a way to test the ridgidity of a man's self control. |
Re: My 16 Year Old Live-in Maid Is Pregnant For A 20 Year Old Boy by Kirchoffs: 5:44pm On Oct 29, 2022 |
Jovialjune1:May you never amount to anything in life you this worthless piece of trash , may the curses go back on your useless head a thousand fold. You must be very stupid, to mention me. Bi ewure ba boju we yin a fi epè fun elèpè |
Re: My 16 Year Old Live-in Maid Is Pregnant For A 20 Year Old Boy by Kavod: 5:44pm On Oct 29, 2022 |
Beey:This na the best advice..... Ask she enjoyed the gbolar and betrayed their trust then she should go and give birth in the village and make her raise that child till the baby is a year old, This life is getting really rotten. In my state, 11 to 16 years old now have sugar DADDIES. They all want to be the new regina Daniel. And the top it up, their parents are in full support. 1 Like |
Re: My 16 Year Old Live-in Maid Is Pregnant For A 20 Year Old Boy by Vuproff: 5:51pm On Oct 29, 2022 |
Do all you can do but Keep the girl and keep the child. Don't let them suffer or loose the child to death because she is now in the village. You rightly said people see her as your 1st child, so please treat her as your first child. See her as your adopted child. Help her, clean her up and get her back into school and other vocational skills. She might not just be a light to her family, she and that unborn child can be a light to us all including your immediate family. She has paid her dues ever since joining you, it is the best time to pull her closer and take care of the gift and blessing God has brought through her mistake. This remains my take, cos i know you can do all these and more. God bless you for being different so far so good. |
Re: My 16 Year Old Live-in Maid Is Pregnant For A 20 Year Old Boy by Richy4(m): 5:56pm On Oct 29, 2022 |
nedekid: Sorry to say this but I don't agree with your friend especially with the red ink ... U can't administer anything like contraceptive injection to a minor that is not your child without getting the parent's consent... Or without the child even knowing what you were doing... It's wrong in all ramifications... Let's just say he said that under the influence of alcohol ![]() 1 Like |
Re: My 16 Year Old Live-in Maid Is Pregnant For A 20 Year Old Boy by mariahAngel(f): 5:59pm On Oct 29, 2022 |
Munzy14:O kwa ya? Unu wu dike n'agha. ![]() A man is always ready maka ita..But a lady will determine if it will happen or not. Of course. Mma'm ga a si "nwata rie ihe o kwere muru anya, ya a raha". ![]() I pray they give her all the support she needs to have the baby. |
Re: My 16 Year Old Live-in Maid Is Pregnant For A 20 Year Old Boy by NigerianAngelo(m): 6:00pm On Oct 29, 2022 |
DSS1335: Don't throw the girl under the bus like that. First, is the boy and the girl related? Next still send her to some tertiary education from her village, even an OND program or so. Don't leave her like that after four years. But if you ask for my honest advice: Arrange for the boy and the girl to marry. What you are seeing as a dangerous case could turn out extremely light in six months. Just sponsor the boy to some work, or the girl to some work, ond or work-allowance support. Do it for God. Imagine what Christ would have done and do the same. |
Re: My 16 Year Old Live-in Maid Is Pregnant For A 20 Year Old Boy by mariahAngel(f): 6:03pm On Oct 29, 2022 |
NoToPile: True. |
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