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Re: My Dad And I Aren't In Good Terms by Enacto(f): 12:07am On Nov 13, 2022 |
My mum is not in support of anything she was even mad at me when she heard I push him.........my behavior that day was as a result of a bottle up anger which has been like that for months balarabe01: 1 Like |
Re: My Dad And I Aren't In Good Terms by Enacto(f): 12:09am On Nov 13, 2022 |
Thank you very much for your kind gesture, I have managed to pay for my tuition fee and still struggling to raise fee for my clearance in school kunle75: |
Re: My Dad And I Aren't In Good Terms by Enacto(f): 12:12am On Nov 13, 2022 |
I think mine is the other way round there is no love at home, Even while in secondary school I tried going to a boarding school in other to leave home but I couldn't. Techm8: |
Re: My Dad And I Aren't In Good Terms by Enacto(f): 12:31am On Nov 13, 2022 |
Because I added not caring for my mom doesn't mean I'm emphasising on it. Even b4 the incident my mom has been the one feeding herself and I never feel concern cos I don't want to interfere but to the extent of him now ignoring both myself and my niece was what got me angry. Till today I'm not even concern about money or feeding I'm old enough to take care of myself now even if it is hard I will go through it, it been 2years already and I have apologized to him if it because of the money I didn't collect from him I just want him to see that there is nowhere I can get the money if it not in full and without it I won't be able to graduate. Infact I have always wanted to earn on my own but from the start he will never allow me hustle just like my brother's because I'm his only female child and also his last child. Awesome01: |
Re: My Dad And I Aren't In Good Terms by manmade(m): 12:53am On Nov 13, 2022 |
Enacto:ok oo, bitter truth is that once you're above 18 years which I'm sure you are far above ,no one is responsible for your up keep ,your brother knew this and that is why he is getting your dad's respect, adulthood is not by age my sister. |
Re: My Dad And I Aren't In Good Terms by Awesome01(m): 1:38am On Nov 13, 2022 |
Enacto: Let's leave your Mum's issue out of it for now. Babe, this man is your dad and he is not a Saint just like you are not a Saint too in this matter. But this is Africa, fathers don't apologise to their children even when they know they are wrong. It is our culture. It's an Ego thingy. (It is you the child that will polish that his ego back, by saying you are sorry). When you pushed him, he sees it as a disrespect to his position as head of the family. You then made it worse by moving out the very next day and stayed away for long. To him, you are proving that you can fend for yourself and needs nothing from him. So he allowed you to have your freedom. Only for you to come back begging for money again, he may just be trying to see how much your arrogant attitude has brought you, so he gave you 50k to test you, but you failed immediately by dropping the money asking where he expects you to get the rest. You should have taking that with thanks first and then beg him for more. You continued bruising his ego everytime. Just like you pushed him as a result of pent up anger, remember that he's human like you who also has his own pent up anger. So, shutting you out may be his own way of reacting. I will advice you again. Go and beg him. Make peace with him ( but there's a catch). Don't t ask him for money that day o. Give him some days to process you apology or else, he will see through you and conclude that you only came because of money. |
Re: My Dad And I Aren't In Good Terms by kunle75(m): 4:20am On Nov 13, 2022 |
Enacto: Dm me,let's see how that can be sorted too. |
Re: My Dad And I Aren't In Good Terms by Sleyanya1(m): 9:07am On Nov 13, 2022 |
Enacto: Yes, I understand to an extent via experience. Distance and most importantly your genuine success will change all that. Don't also forget the most important, prayers. The distance will make you both have zero or little time for bants or arguments when you're in same space. Your success will give him this "proud-father" feeling and if you show him genuine care, he'd definitely bless you. In hope you all get the peace and harmony you desire. Get as many blessings from your parents as you can while they're alive. It's important. |
Re: My Dad And I Aren't In Good Terms by Originalsly: 12:20pm On Nov 13, 2022 |
Enacto: It is wrong for you to be entitled to your father's money. Do you remember anyone telling you it was right? What makes you think it is right? ... and up to what age you are entitled to this right? You are already a full fledged adult ... should be standing on your own two feet ... not dependent on your parents for anything.... but here you are ... 24 years old ... broke and angrily refusing help from your parents because it is not enough. If not your father.... alternatives... another man as in your boyfriend ... or doing something illegal. It is not in you to do for yourself .... it is the duty for someone else to provide for you ... you are entitled to reap ... not to sow. Life is out there waiting to slap your kind in the face and kick you down the ladder where you can choose to remain or get up back on your own strength. |
Re: My Dad And I Aren't In Good Terms by kunle75(m): 7:26pm On Nov 13, 2022 |
Enacto: I have reached out to you. I need some info from you please. Thanks |
Re: My Dad And I Aren't In Good Terms by Ephemmm: 2:18pm On Nov 14, 2022 |
Enacto: I agree with you. But some parents are not performing their duties like her father, and heaven has not fallen. A man who has been performing his responsibilities cannot just stop without a cause as indicated in her write up. She rejected 50k, but thankfully she has now realized how difficult it is to get 1k per day. |
Re: My Dad And I Aren't In Good Terms by soleexx(m): 7:05pm On Jan 30, 2023 |
bumy27: Sorry abt dat |
Re: My Dad And I Aren't In Good Terms by teblu(m): 6:18am On Feb 14, 2023 |
Anonymoususher:Yeah, it's a good question. Why did she leave the house for a year...ask yourself again. |
Re: My Dad And I Aren't In Good Terms by Enacto(f): 2:26am On Mar 28, 2023 |
I left for school,I was in 400lvl and my school is Faraway. Moreover, all through my University days, I don't come home often I usually stay back or go to my cousin's place. teblu: |
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