advanceDNA:


Some women wont agree with you...i've heard many women say they cant pay their own child's school fees.... and if for some reason they do..they must collect it back from their husband....

PlayMaker14:



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So many top personalities with that name...

I must not be in Lagos to choose the name.

Sweetvie:
Seriously
The kids is ours
So whoever pay the fees among us should not be the problem. I think d problem is just abt money. We lady just believes husband should be responsible for everything and the thing is most ladies just jump into a relationship/ marriage without any financial back up. So it makes their demand more higher and it not favourable to the husband. That's why I do say marry a working class or someone who reason alongside with you.

advanceDNA:


Its a mentality.....u'd be surprised some working class women have the that "their money is theirs alone..but their husband's money is for the home" and once in a while t contribution is only from the goodness of their heart

Sweetvie:
Lol
I love to be the one asking the question
Well, I thought you are coz almost everybody here is in Lagos
Personalities? Like? Actually apart from the singer i don't think av come across the name.

Sweetvie:
Seriously I Sometimes agree with you guys... Ladies are weird and I can also say some guys doesn't worth it but not on my own kid. I wanna give the best to my kids.
But seriously where are we getting that mentality from? For a family to work the wife n husband need to join hand together and support each other. If money is only coming from one side it gonna cause a lot of problems and the family won't have much progress.

PlayMaker14:
I'll let you guess my location.


Oxlade Chamberlain is a Professional footballer playing for Liverpool in England.

Sweetvie:
Seriously I Sometimes agree with you guys... Ladies are weird and I can also say some guys doesn't worth it but not on my own kid. I wanna give the best to my kids.
But seriously where are we getting that mentality from? For a family to work the wife n husband need to join hand together and support each other. If money is only coming from one side it gonna cause a lot of problems and the family won't have much progress.

advanceDNA:


Its like u are not from nigeria.... its not very common for nigerian women to be reasonable in their dialogues.... u are very balanced in your submissions and verdicts

Sweetvie:
Oh! Yeah
Oxlade Chamberlain... So it bcoz of him?

Ok. The last thing am good at is guessing

sharpwriter:

Both of you are funny.... The mentality is simply from our culture, it's been like that whether Yoruba, Igbo or Hausa... However, the oyinbo system has infused more awareness about financial responsibility sharing.

PlayMaker14:
With time, you'll know where I'm from....

Sweetvie:
Haaa Edo?

PlayMaker14:



No...

Sweetvie:
I'll just beat you ni
Is it in Nigeria or outside Nigeria?

Sweetvie:
Lol... Our culture? How?

PlayMaker14:
Wo, kilo shelè? (I nor sabi Yoruba)

I still dey this country and I nor dey carry last.

sharpwriter:

We run a Partriarchy way of life here.

Sweetvie:
Lol... You never see anything
Shebi you know how to ask questions

If you're d one in that picture you should be Yoruba or hausa but you don't really look like hausa lol

Mind you, you're disturbing this thread
Op should kick u out

PlayMaker14:
I already gave you a clue in my last reply.

When you see it, let me know... I am out of this thread. Odabó

LivelyMandem:
Guys in the house, what is your experience like dating single mothers.

I recently met a beautiful young lady who has never been married but has a daughter with a guy who isn't taking up much of the responsibility.

I have a good job and can obviously take care of the basics. The issue started from when I started giving her some money randomly not for any particular purpose. She called me recently and said her daughter's school fee is due and how much am I bringing.

In my head, she is not my child so why do you want to push the responsibility on me so fast. If I ask about the dad, she'll say I shouldn't worry because he's irresponsible.

We're not intimate yet because she said no sex before marriage, na that one we still dey fight about.

My question is, is it ok for her to ask me for her child fees just because we're dating or am I supposed to automatically take up the girls upkeep because I'm dating her mother?

LivelyMandem:
Guys in the house, what is your experience like dating single mothers.

I recently met a beautiful young lady who has never been married but has a daughter with a guy who isn't taking up much of the responsibility.

I have a good job and can obviously take care of the basics. The issue started from when I started giving her some money randomly not for any particular purpose. She called me recently and said her daughter's school fee is due and how much am I bringing.

In my head, she is not my child so why do you want to push the responsibility on me so fast. If I ask about the dad, she'll say I shouldn't worry because he's irresponsible.

We're not intimate yet because she said no sex before marriage, na that one we still dey fight about.

My question is, is it ok for her to ask me for her child fees just because we're dating or am I supposed to automatically take up the girls upkeep because I'm dating her mother?

LivelyMandem:
Guys in the house, what is your experience like dating single mothers.

I recently met a beautiful young lady who has never been married but has a daughter with a guy who isn't taking up much of the responsibility.

I have a good job and can obviously take care of the basics. The issue started from when I started giving her some money randomly not for any particular purpose. She called me recently and said her daughter's school fee is due and how much am I bringing.

In my head, she is not my child so why do you want to push the responsibility on me so fast. If I ask about the dad, she'll say I shouldn't worry because he's irresponsible.

We're not intimate yet because she said no sex before marriage, na that one we still dey fight about.

My question is, is it ok for her to ask me for her child fees just because we're dating or am I supposed to automatically take up the girls upkeep because I'm dating her mother?

Okoroawusa:
A single mother said no sex before marriage and you agreed.... what is wrong with young men of this generation?

LivelyMandem:
Guys in the house, what is your experience like dating single mothers.

I recently met a beautiful young lady who has never been married but has a daughter with a guy who isn't taking up much of the responsibility.

I have a good job and can obviously take care of the basics. The issue started from when I started giving her some money randomly not for any particular purpose. She called me recently and said her daughter's school fee is due and how much am I bringing.

In my head, she is not my child so why do you want to push the responsibility on me so fast. If I ask about the dad, she'll say I shouldn't worry because he's irresponsible.

We're not intimate yet because she said no sex before marriage, na that one we still dey fight about.

My question is, is it ok for her to ask me for her child fees just because we're dating or am I supposed to automatically take up the girls upkeep because I'm dating her mother?

obaaderemi:
Can you imagine?
Someone slept with her until she had a child, got dumped. Now the OP is paying for her mistake. She wants to be controlling the op and I'm sure whenever she sees the action man that made her pregnant she will become very gentle.

No sex before marriage indeed.

LivelyMandem:
Guys in the house, what is your experience like dating single mothers.

I recently met a beautiful young lady who has never been married but has a daughter with a guy who isn't taking up much of the responsibility.

I have a good job and can obviously take care of the basics. The issue started from when I started giving her some money randomly not for any particular purpose. She called me recently and said her daughter's school fee is due and how much am I bringing.

In my head, she is not my child so why do you want to push the responsibility on me so fast. If I ask about the dad, she'll say I shouldn't worry because he's irresponsible.

We're not intimate yet because she said no sex before marriage, na that one we still dey fight about.

My question is, is it ok for her to ask me for her child fees just because we're dating or am I supposed to automatically take up the girls upkeep because I'm dating her mother?