alobright17:

I thought you even have something hard. This is just bellow me. Try hard in your next response.

Nextlife1:
All I needed is kind advise I believe we still have good people here on nairaland
Am so confused now.
I have told her about it she is still writing her final year exam I don't want her to fail exam because of this problem reason am keeping it to myself for now.

Kollins11:
What stupid advice do you need? Are you normal at all? dey swear for you? What kind of SIMPle breed are you?
I'm always angry when I read stories like this from a married man.

Never you wife a Nigerian liability wh0re. Your wife belongs to the street but una no go hear. I'm sure you saw lots of red flags when you both were dating but you were hoping she would change afterwards.

it's a total disrespect for a married woman to cheat on her husband. A Cheating wife can kill you one day. Thats the truth. Bundle her like firewood and kick her out of your house.

I would rather die than to marry a Nigerian liability wh0re. That gender are all useless... All of them.

Zonefree:

So, you get mind go pay bride price for an untrained Nigerian liability?

You still get mind dey send her go school.

After schooling, you'll still establish her.

All these just for procreation

Now, see the result.


To pay bride price for an untrained Nigerian girl is 4th most foolish things on earth!

ahnie:

Not everyone is like your momma.
Winks

Ebubu:

so if you marry a wife with a degree, you can’t sponsor her for Masters education if she desires to be a lecturer?

ahnie:

Taa rie nsi.
Akuya banza marankunyan.wallaihi ba ke da hankali.

alobright17:
if this is all you can offer then I'm disappointed. I said get come with something hard.

jessylaurel:

She's his wife oga. Read well not girlfriend.

emkz:
I am sorry to read about what happened to you.

I read some of your responses saying you don't want her to fail her exams.

You are broken right now and she's stronger than you. Get that clearly. Nothing will make her fail.

You will experience a range of emotions, including making excuses for her.

What you must do.

(1) Find a trusted friend or family member and get support. Unload your heart to them. Do not involve your mother or father, it may kill them seeing you in pain.

(2) You may think you can live with her. You can't. The mental images will continue to play in your head and eat you up slowly, and worse so when you see her. So do well to send her away or you can leave the house and environment for her.

(3) You'd go through a process of pain and even depression. Get support. At some point, see a therapist. Catholic priests are the best here. Do not discuss matters with any useless Pastors. Many of them will want to get their share of the loose woman you married.

(4) Finally, count your losses and move away from that woman. Right now, she has no respect for you and you are a burden to her for disturbing the life she wants to lead. Never confront the dogs she laid with, they are not your business. Do not stay in a marriage ruined by cheating because of your children. Those children would suffer.

PS: You are not wrong to have loved her and do not let one dog to ruin your quest to find love again. She threw your love away. Now that you have loved her, you should now love yourself. Look after yourself.

I wish you well.

jessylaurel:


But a cheating horseband cannot kill right?....LOL

ahnie:
Taa rie nsi. Akuya banza marankunyan.wallaihi ba ke da hankali. You re throwing jabs at Nigerian women and your mama isn't exempted.
Rago

Nextlife1:
No she was not like that when I meet her And we love each other we have children together.

Nextlife1:

We are married for more than 5 years now and I love her
Reason for me to send her to study.

Nhemzie17:


See this ugly beech displaying nuisance all around. Rest IJN

grandstar:


She probably married you because you sent her to school and not for love. Even if the love was initially there, higher institutions are very immoral where youths want to taste life.

I would suggest you first confront her about her cheating. Tell her you suspect she is cheating, that you just have that inkling. Inform her that the day you catch her, that will be the end of the marriage.

The motive here is to get her to stop or better still, create the atmosphere to send her packing. It's like you are cleverly giving her a second chance. Perhaps, invite her family. Do not say you have any evidence. That it is just a hunch.

Why I say you should go this route is because you would have kicked her out already if you wanted to without seeking our advise. You are not so keen on kicking her out though the revelations has truly troubled you.

If she knows you have evidence, she will either beg for forgiveness or change her tactics. What you really, really want is for her to change her ways and be faithful.

You too need to be faithful (Read Hebrews 13:4).. it is double standard and hypocritical for you too to be engaging in adulterous acts and expecting her to put up with it. Perhaps, let her know you too will be faithful.

If she does not change, then do what you have to do.

Nextlife1:
All I needed is kind advise I believe we still have good people here on nairaland
Am so confused now.
I have told her about it she is still writing her final year exam I don't want her to fail exam because of this problem reason am keeping it to myself for now.

Zonefree:

You allowed your love for a Nigerian girl becloud your sense of reasoning. Now, another small boy dey smash your beloved wife with reckless abandon.

Pele o.

MufasaLion:


Wether you have been married for a decade or century, your actions are not justifiable. It's unwise to do what you are doing. Even the elites that their kids will end up marrying rich folks, will always enroll their kids in school, some till Ph.D. level before/after marriage.

You people (both genders) always let love becloud your reasoning hence the reason you always settle for less. Your wife was not exposed to some lifestyle before marriage but now that she's schooling, she's met men of different social class which has made her feel more valuable and reckless at the same time.

Also, men like you that have plans to enroll their woman in school should also upgrade their own life in terms of education, enlightenment and social class because women like your wife will be carried away easily by some basic things.

Women are hypergamy in nature, so it's part of the reasons you're being cheated on and disrespected.

ahnie:

Lord of the ring...rest

jessylaurel:


Don't mind him. Such low level of intelligence written all over his words.

Nextlife1:
Hi
I never expected that this day will come in my life.
I discovered that my wife I sent to school is cheating on me with her school matter and other married men.
Please I need advice on how to handle this.

Nextlife1:
Hi
I never expected that this day will come in my life.
I discovered that my wife I sent to school is cheating on me with her school matter and other married men.
Please I need advice on how to handle this.

Nextlife1:
All I needed is kind advise I believe we still have good people here on nairaland
Am so confused now.
I have told her about it she is still writing her final year exam I don't want her to fail exam because of this problem reason am keeping it to myself for now.

Nextlife1:
Hi
I never expected that this day will come in my life.
I discovered that my wife I sent to school is cheating on me with her school matter and other married men.
Please I need advice on how to handle this.

Nhemzie17:


Your ugliness was so obvious to you that you had to hide your face with a sticker.

ahnie:

Expect the weyreys to come for you...bunch of stupid idiots.
People that cannot maintain 2 minutes erection.

Nextlife1:

No she was not like that when I meet her
And we love each other we have children together.

MufasaLion:
When will you people (both genders) learn to stop bearing the burden that was never meant for you?

Doesn't she have a father or mother that could enroll her in school? You left educated women to marry someone you'll be funding her education, what for?

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