Samantha123:
I'm not a man and I'm definitely not married, but as a woman, I think the man should give her silent treatment and pretend that she's not even present in the house.

Eat out and come home only to sleep until she acknowledges her wrongs.

And I think that it'll also depends on the kind of event she went to.

Can you take it as a woman

Candidlady:



meaning you will always say yes to all his biddings yeah?

I ll try to be good as possible as I can.

culf:
NA to quietly ignore her oo, all through her stay, i will hardly call and when we talk, the call will be so formal.

if e pain me well well, NA to call MIL

Desist from doing that last line boss.

No matter how bad MD/CEO fight dem no day call regulator to interfere o.

Only call your in-law during emergency particularly health related. #my opinion#

Rechargeam247:
Scenario:

You have a good marriage, you pamper and take care of your wife, family and responsibilities.

On this particular day, your wife wanted to travel for an event, you asked her not to go for this particular event, kindly note, she is very social and travels a lot, you allow her, give her the freedom she needs.

Now, she ignored you and travelled, what can you do to express your displeasure, get her to apologise and avoid a repetition of such?

Creative solutions asides sex or money should be proferred

Married men and women only*

To the women, if you were the woman in this scenario, what can your husband do to get you to apologise and make you not repeat such?

Looks are good but every young man out there should look properly before marrying a lady. I repeat look well.
The freedom the man gave her was too much and probably she has been socializing without the husband even looking. That is the reason she could flout the man's instruction
And to young wives, don't do that because something might happen when you disregard your husband's instruction just for the single reason of disobeying the head over you.
The man will have to sit the woman down and tell her the reason he didn't want her to go out and puts down the rules for her no more social outings if he's not going to the same place.

Rechargeam247:

She works, she has businesses. The children are in the university.

She isn't cheating, just disrespectful.

Oh, even better. Wetin remain again. Let kids just finish university.

After that if her disobedience continues, give her total freedom. Make she go. Otherwise her hurt to you go kpeme you and she will inherit all the property. Her kids will still adore her after contributing to kpemering the man. I cannot come and go and kpeme.

Just let her continue for now.

Is this the first time she is disrespecting you?
Is she denying you sex or touch ?
Is he richer than you or have her own money ?



Your wife no send your papa...she ignored you and traveled.You are the one that allowed it.You gave her too much freedom and she is rubbing it on your face.

Una go see shege ...intentional men.Maybe you have gut feeling that she is going to see someone else.No she don finally go.She has businesses,she feel she is bigger than you and has more money and might end up resenting you.While resenting you,she will meet another man who she will complain to and he will support her and her fish brain will fall in love with him.He will vandalise her kpatakpata

I read a story like this,this guy usually gives his wife freedom to travel around on business only to end up disrespecting and cheating on him while rubbing it on his face.

frozen70:


NEXT time you catch her in any stupid act that is near to infidelity, take her home to her parents with your children

Tell them to train her how to be faithful and loyal, if they ask you what happen, tell them to ask her to explain

You will be sending allowance and if possible let the children start schooling there

Try this during holidays so that by the time she spent the holidays with her parents and you did not come for your children, her parents will know that it's no longer a joke

If her parents calls you, pick their call, listen to them ans if they invite you, tell them you will let them know when you are ready, that for now you need peace

By the time she sees that you are not responding her head will reset properly

Then by the time she comes back, let her have something doing
Either teaching or anything that will bring income to her, then let her face one responsibility at home, maybe children provision or whatever

By that time she will be busy with thinking on how to carry out her task

There is no time to tolerate nonsense

And what if her parents self no send you....

Rechargeam247:
Scenario:

You have a good marriage, you pamper and take care of your wife, family and responsibilities.

On this particular day, your wife wanted to travel for an event, you asked her not to go for this particular event, kindly note, she is very social and travels a lot, you allow her, give her the freedom she needs.

Now, she ignored you and travelled, what can you do to express your displeasure, get her to apologise and avoid a repetition of such?

Creative solutions asides sex or money should be proferred

Married men and women only*

To the women, if you were the woman in this scenario, what can your husband do to get you to apologise and make you not repeat such?

First there is a loop hole in this union.

For him to ask her not to, and she moved, that's highly disrespectful.

Confronting her and silent treatment is what it takes to discipline.
But, I find it awkward when couples don't work as a team.

It kills the vibes

Rechargeam247:

She works, she has businesses. The children are in the university.

She isn't cheating, just disrespectful.

Children in the university. I can see you've been managing the nonsense for more than 10 years.

I pray your children even listen to your opinion as a father since the mother is disrespectful she will definitely be in control of your children's life and if your wife is the one that pampers children I pray your children are not into social vices like serious smoking, alcoholism, gambling etc.

I will advise you take charge with full force if you want to reap anything good from your children when you get old.

My neighbor's wife use the same child pampering and disrespectful attitude towards her husband to end up raising chronic smoker and drunkard son who ended up suffering from psychosis till date, the woman died in 2018 from stroke and leaving the husband to keep buying monthly psychiatrist drugs for the useless left over son till today Jan 2023

Dimples2022:


I’m not married but I’d think withdrawal of the D will help me apologise but my legs won’t let him rest

what do u mean ur legs

Even my ex girl would seek permission and give countless of reasons before she would travel...

Hmm
Omoh!!!! Wanted to say a thing or two then I noticed the op have kids in University and mine are still in secondary school.

Oga, am suppose to be looking up to you for advice and not the other way.

My own be say, Dem never born that wife wey go try that nonsense because I'm in charge of my house. Na Africa we dey.

Rechargeam247:
Scenario:

You have a good marriage, you pamper and take care of your wife, family and responsibilities.

On this particular day, your wife wanted to travel for an event, you asked her not to go for this particular event, kindly note, she is very social and travels a lot, you allow her, give her the freedom she needs.

Now, she ignored you and travelled, what can you do to express your displeasure, get her to apologise and avoid a repetition of such?

Creative solutions asides sex or money should be proferred

Married men and women only*

To the women, if you were the woman in this scenario, what can your husband do to get you to apologise and make you not repeat such?

Is there a reason you wanted her not to go?
Did you discuss the reason with her?
You've got to understand dat your wife is your gee not your dota

I'm not yet married but if I were to be in her shoes I will apologize to my husband and make him see reasons why I have to be at that particular event at the very moment. And lastly I go give am him favorite

Hathor5:


This silent treatment affects everyone in the family, it creates a bad atmosphere in the home and more importantly doesn't work on many people as they will just go on about their business.

If there are kids, it affects them too.

And why would he leave his home? Is it not his place of rest? If there are kids, won't he miss time with them?

She should be drop money for food and be caring for her and still not eat the food.....all this funny women sef.....they never want to pay for the consequences of their action

Samantha123:
I'm not a man and I'm definitely not married, but as a woman, I think the man should give her silent treatment and pretend that she's not even present in the house.

Eat out and come home only to sleep until she acknowledges her wrongs.

And I think that it'll also depends on the kind of event she went to.

A wife that disrespect the husband,you think she will allow him to even touch her.Are you sure you are a woman.Everything is sex to you.Ask him when last he had sex with his wife,I am not sure it is up to 4 times last year. .

Woman wey dey disrespect her husband.Sexc with him will be disgusting and she is finding it somewhere

Against your order she still traveled. It shows she's got no respect for you. Can she do that to her boss in the office?

What do you do? Keep silent ..
Silence tortures..

Pray for her while on the journey as you need a special kind of Grace to do these...!

When she returns if at all you know the day she will come prepare her favorite meal and leave the house on her return without informing her your proposed whereabout.

Come back later and take a warm bath and serve yourself a dinner without talking to her. Off to go to bed and no show or special discussion. Be very serious in reprimanding her strictly else your say will never be heard in the house.

When she cook do not eat, if she talk to you do not answer and if she dey on the mode leave the bed for her. She will cry and beg you.

She won't come back to my house

Samantha123:
You haven't answered any of my questions.

Where did I say the man must leave the house?

And how does giving his wife silent treatment affects the kids when both parties will be talking to their kids?

And why must you make everything about the kids as if the couple are married to the kids and not each other?

Can you just give a logical reasoning without being emotional, because you're starting to sound annoying.

If she cared about how the kids would feel, she'd have listened to her husband and not attend the event in the first place.

So you have a short fuse too?

Sit her down and talk to her, tell her how you feel and that it should never repeat itself again and tell her the implications of disobeying you.

marriage na scam cos if women just had enough money, they would not seek the opposite gender.

Be man enough and give sound warming. Next time you act accordingly. Her action is disrespectful.

One of the outfalls of civilization is that more women are forcing their way for more power, more say and headship. Reducing the family into FG/ASUU relationship may not be the best. A wise woman should surround her husband/home with mentors so her husband can steer their ship successfully. Even God despised Lucifer when he started flouting God's instructions. A well guided husband is not likely to handout unreasonable instruction

Stupid is a man who allows their women to travel alone. Even going around the town na wahala.
10, 20 years later, they'll crying on twitter that the children is not his.

Solution: Before she comes back put her belongings outside, then marry another. DON'T NEGOTIATE WITH TERRORISTS!

[it's like the woman is the breadwinner or she's from a wealther background
quote author=frozen70 post=119797752]

NEXT time you catch her in any stupid act that is near to infidelity, take her home to her parents with your children

Tell them to train her how to be faithful and loyal, if they ask you what happen, tell them to ask her to explain

You will be sending allowance and if possible let the children start schooling there

Try this during holidays so that by the time she spent the holidays with her parents and you did not come for your children, her parents will know that it's no longer a joke

If her parents calls you, pick their call, listen to them ans if they invite you, tell them you will let them know when you are ready, that for now you need peace

By the time she sees that you are not responding her head will reset properly

Then by the time she comes back, let her have something doing
Either teaching or anything that will bring income to her, then let her face one responsibility at home, maybe children provision or whatever

By that time she will be busy with thinking on how to carry out her task

There is no time to tolerate nonsense [/quote]

Rechargeam247:
Scenario:

You have a good marriage, you pamper and take care of your wife, family and responsibilities.

On this particular day, your wife wanted to travel for an event, you asked her not to go for this particular event, kindly note, she is very social and travels a lot, you allow her, give her the freedom she needs.

Now, she ignored you and travelled, what can you do to express your displeasure, get her to apologise and avoid a repetition of such?

Creative solutions asides sex or money should be proferred

Married men and women only*

To the women, if you were the woman in this scenario, what can your husband do to get you to apologise and make you not repeat such?

for me its mostly about reasons

whats the reason(s) you didnt want her to travel

and whats the reason(s) she went after you asked her not to go


if these two things can be honestly answered, then you will have at least 80% solution to your problem

my 20 naira...

Rechargeam247:
Scenario:

You have a good marriage, you pamper and take care of your wife, family and responsibilities.

On this particular day, your wife wanted to travel for an event, you asked her not to go for this particular event, kindly note, she is very social and travels a lot, you allow her, give her the freedom she needs.

Now, she ignored you and travelled, what can you do to express your displeasure, get her to apologise and avoid a repetition of such?

Creative solutions asides sex or money should be proferred

Married men and women only*

To the women, if you were the woman in this scenario, what can your husband do to get you to apologise and make you not repeat such?

Hmm,

No one said Prayer.

More often than not, a negative way of corecting may escalate especially if Satan use your matter to do project.

Whatever way you fix it , don't forget to support it with prayer.

I assure you God knows how to deal with a disobedient Lady.

God commands a Wife submits, If she doesn't, report Her to God.

BTW, I do support the silent treatment thing, but it takes time depending on the person , for it to have the effect you want

As far as marriage is concern,punishing your partner is like punishing yourself. She don do am she don do am. Na to save yourself from stress by forgiving her. Na person wey carry unforgiven heart na im heart dey pain.
Talk to her in a way that she will understand that such behaviour can ruin the marriage,that She should desist from such behaviour in future for the sake of peace. If she is a good woman she will apologise and desist from such act.

Na to overlook weytin don pass

Shampoo77:
Sit her down and talk to her, tell her how you feel and that it should never repeat itself again and tell her the implications of disobeying you.

BEST ADVICE/COMMENT of All.

OP, Come and Learn from this Guy/Lady..

Marriage is all about COMMUNICATION. You as a Couple sit down and Thrash out Differences.

Some Ladies Here are Talking about Silent Treatment..
while some Guys are talking about ORDERS as if their Marriage is a Police Station or Military Cantonment!