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Re: I Am Depressed by LadyRosa(f): 9:29pm On Jan 13, 2023 |
drdeath: Groundnut sit-down for ya own head. 2 Likes |
Re: I Am Depressed by spiceadole: 9:29pm On Jan 13, 2023 |
breakthrough22: Marry a new wife. Afterall,women are everywhere. Yeye dey smell 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: I Am Depressed by Mrkumareze(m): 9:30pm On Jan 13, 2023 |
Jashub: You should be bold enough to tell OP about his anger too. Anger is fvcking bad, I'm a member of that team but I learnt to manage mine to a bearable minimum 14 Likes 1 Share |
Re: I Am Depressed by HIPROFILE(m): 9:30pm On Jan 13, 2023 |
breakthrough22: As simple as it sounds and is written, it is just too difficult for some persons to utter even when thats all it takes to save a potential calamity amongst the people involved…WHY 1 Like |
Re: I Am Depressed by Rapht933: 9:32pm On Jan 13, 2023 |
patient is every thing in this life. it's risk taken decision when u are angry
ask questions before any decision is taken. 5 Likes |
Re: I Am Depressed by kaywhy09(m): 9:32pm On Jan 13, 2023 |
breakthrough22: This is exactly one of the issues. You have your faults too. Above all, this mess happens when there's no sustainable financial buoyancy. Be strong, you'll find your peace. 1 Like |
Re: I Am Depressed by favour32(m): 9:32pm On Jan 13, 2023 |
Recent marriages be like home videos. If them act finish, everybody enter e house. 1 Like |
Re: I Am Depressed by Lucrativress(f): 9:33pm On Jan 13, 2023 |
breakthrough22: I don't blame you OP If she had resources of her own from time, you'll respect her and not scare her with those "pack out of my out rants" Her messages sounds like that of a woman who has bottled up hurts for years, the tone of her text seems like that of a woman you've made to cry. Don't you trust your wife? Don't you know if she is capable of cheating on you or not? Have you ever caught her cheating? Do you know the meaning of benefits of doubts at all? When she explained why she didn't pick your calls, why not give her the benefit of doubt? You are now seeing money, next thing is shouting at flimsy stuffs for her to leave your House I pity you You don't like peace of mind, a woman that stayed since 2013, built up and persevered with you, I'm sure there were other men asking her out as at then but she decided to stick with you. If you follow those saying dump her and stuffs, truth is, you'll never come across someone who loves you internally on a crude emotional level. That her texts shows you've hurt her, better cry and kneel and beg her to come back, win her back and work on your silly trust issues. Stop taking out your financial anger on her, learn to be a gentleman.. 29 Likes |
Re: I Am Depressed by descarado: 9:33pm On Jan 13, 2023 |
Very toxic man. Kudos to those who manage toxic relationship. Yours truly can't. 11 Likes 1 Share |
Re: I Am Depressed by Prechgold1180(m): 9:35pm On Jan 13, 2023 |
WhoDeyHause: Shut up kid 11 Likes 1 Share |
Re: I Am Depressed by Nicepoker(m): 9:37pm On Jan 13, 2023 |
Op go ahead and marry another woman. I will support you financially |
Re: I Am Depressed by sorextee(m): 9:38pm On Jan 13, 2023 |
Nice one. I like this your response. This is why if I call you twice and you didn't pick up, if it's an important call, I will send an SMS to let you know why I was calling. If it's not an important call, I will let u be till u call back. That man has serious anger issues. He needs to work on himself first. Just as you said earlier too, seems it ain't the first time he's doing such to his wife. Kobojunkie: 9 Likes |
Re: I Am Depressed by IamMobisola(f): 9:38pm On Jan 13, 2023 |
abbey621: Lie of the century. Na him born the child with his womb? Lol. Except there’s a case sickness or mental disorder with the mother or if the mother poses a danger to the child(ren). The mother always gets custody of the child(ren), even here in Nigeria except of course the father is wealthy and dirty person who would rather bribe a judge to get custody. 16 Likes |
Re: I Am Depressed by Isabi4lov: 9:39pm On Jan 13, 2023 |
some men sef , i don't just know how you people will bring stories that sound irritating online and expect online in-laws to clap for you There are somethings one need to be ashamed of especially in public , this story is one of such , you guys are just three in the house yet you can't coordinate your home. You're just saying I love my wife , I love my wife guess you don't know the true meaning of love . We are tired of hearing all these stories in marriages , we want to hear stories that will encourage the singles to see the need of getting married. Maybe you guys are just cooking up these stories to spite the female gender . My wife is this and that , what about you the husband 11 Likes 1 Share |
Re: I Am Depressed by chris51(f): 9:39pm On Jan 13, 2023 |
TheGoodAmerican: God bless you for your mature advice. You are very honest, it's now left for the angry man to accept your advice 12 Likes 1 Share |
Re: I Am Depressed by chris51(f): 9:39pm On Jan 13, 2023 |
chris51: 2 Likes |
Re: I Am Depressed by Iamthoney(m): 9:39pm On Jan 13, 2023 |
Person wey dey calm and reserve go gently probe him wife how the phone was able to ring when there was power outage and from then gauge her response. Op just run conclude by himself cos that is how he’s being treating his wife. Baba your Bleep up pass your wife own 8 Likes |
Re: I Am Depressed by ZINNYBANKS: 9:39pm On Jan 13, 2023 |
make person just give birth jare all these marriage wahala too much .. 1 Like |
Re: I Am Depressed by Father254: 9:39pm On Jan 13, 2023 |
[quote author=breakthrough22 post=119912002]Good evenning , I came back home from work this night to find out my wife and my son have packed and abandoned me . My son is 4 years old and I really don't mean to hurt my wife . She travelled on the 26th of December to her dad house here in Lagos .I missed her so much and I sent her money to come back last Saturday though she said she will be coming on Sunday only for me to call her between 2pm and 8pm without her picking the call . The phone rang times without number .I later gave the last try and the no was busy answering other call .She later picked and said there was no light .So,she couldn't charge. I was mad because the excuse was too flimsy .I challenged her to tell her but your phone rang .I was mad and I lost trust in her that moment and flashed back to the excuse that she will not come on Saturday. Seriously ,I was angry and different thoughts came to my mind like May be she went to see another man . That hour ,I told her I don't want to see her again .I was angry though .She didn't come on Sunday. She came back very early yesterday which was Monday. I will not lie ,I have been so angry ,ranting and telling her to go back to her parent house that I don't trust her again. To my surprise ,I came back tonight and she already packed all her loads ,packed my son things without leaving any thing .Her wardrobe and my son wardrobe have been empty as I am typing .She packed everything . Seriously ,I am depressed cos I love her .I love my son .I can't even allow him to stay over there to start schooling. Me and my wife have been together since 2013 .We have gone through a lot of difficulties together and now ,things are beginning to look good for us .I am so down right now .I called he dad and her brother .It is like they took that decision together . I have never beaten her before but I do nag especially when bills are weighing me down .His dad and his brother was just shouting at me .Fear of been a single dad or living alone at this stage of my life will make me a walking ghost and the fact that ,I really love my son too and also my wife too will one day kill me . Imagine ,that Saturday she changed what she saved my no with and saved with my son name.I attached my call history .Check the image of the missed calls. Please what do I do?I am devastated . Some of her chats this night .. [1/10, 9:35 PM] SWEETHEART: Hv always endure with u even though u did not hv money,but u always rain insult on me everyday .am not coming back I want to work and make my own money,u said u hv never achieved anything good bcoz of me!u said I am your biggest mistake in life and now hv made up my mind with you.you pushed me to the wall!u make me carry luggage in the hot sun and cry ,am tired,I cried and cried and endure all bcoz of love so nao am ready to work and earn good for myself and my son. [1/10, 9:40 PM] SWEETHEART: U can change ur key am not coming again [1/10, 9:46 PM] SWEETHEART: Am not ,u know is too late for me to come back to .... and u urself know is my biggest fear bcoz I don't like coming here but u make me come back,is too late. Even wen u always tell me to go,I will still wait but u make me come back to my fear It is too late. [1/10, 9:46 PM] SWEETHEART: ...will start school on Monday here and just take responsibility of it, if u don't want to loose ur son too. This is the problem of marrying a beautiful wife and maybe she feels she can take care of herself without you. If a woman wants to cheat on you nothing can stop her and that's the more reason to guide your heart by trusting what she says about her location. To safe yourself from HB. Never give room to negative imagination. She may be saying the truth of being faithful since it's easier for a man to cheat than a woman. Just trust her until her sins finds her out openly. When a woman cheats, love is gone and in a short while it will show. Call the father and speak with him that is if you have finished everything about her traditional rights. She will come back if you press the family button. 3 Likes |
Re: I Am Depressed by grandstar(m): 9:39pm On Jan 13, 2023 |
Jashub: Na wa oh! You have zero empathy for the woman. She's miserable and tired of the abuse. I feel for her. Your own be say "She is a woman. She should even be happy that a man has to even put up with it". When I say 'it', I mean the woman. They are human and have a right to be treated decently (Read Matthew 7:12). Men who maltreat their wives may have their prayers hindered by God. 18 Likes |
Re: I Am Depressed by Mrkumareze(m): 9:39pm On Jan 13, 2023 |
OP, there's no marriage without lapses. From your explanations, you have accepted bn guilty . Please , work on your Anger, I was once in that team but I'm currently doing well in its management . Learn to keep calm, giving room to exchange of words causes much anger. Also learn to tolerate certain things, once a man get married, he must accommodate some nonsense and sense. Even those who claim to be Alpha, when u view their secrete in marriage, u will be wondering if its d the same man or another version. So for now, just let her relax, she will be back to you. Her parents she ran to ll still provoke her someday . Any woman who once enjoyed freedom from her parents, ll hardly survive going back to them. On Sunday, you can get a matured man to accompany to her parents house, just tell them you came to check if your wife and kids actually returned to them. 3 Likes 1 Share |
Re: I Am Depressed by chinonyinye: 9:40pm On Jan 13, 2023 |
breakthrough22: So, you opened your mouth to tell somebody that she is your biggest mistake in life and that you have never achieved anything in life because of her? And you are wondering why she left. Why are you complaining now? I thought you'd be very happy that the mistake has decided to right itself and leave. You are not even feeling remorseful about your behavior. You claim you get angry easily yet you destroy someone's happiness and self esteem and the most annoying part is that your cronies on nairaland are supporting you that you are right even when it is very clear that you are very toxic. You are even feeling arrogant and can't apologize. Please change your keys oo. You wife doesn't deserve an inconsiderate and verbally abusive person like you. 16 Likes |
Re: I Am Depressed by angelboy01(m): 9:40pm On Jan 13, 2023 |
abbey621:Bros see for this life everything no be gra gra. Doing all that might lead to regret later, I will advice he frees her for now. He should take care of his son. The guy sef get anger issues bros. Just because you are broke you start nagging, the thing is irritating bro, very irritating. The best is to control your emotions and put it in check. If after a while she doesn't accept coming back then it's up to him to move on or divorce her. 2 Likes |
Re: I Am Depressed by Lucrativress(f): 9:40pm On Jan 13, 2023 |
Her text said a lot, seems he blames her for his misfortunes, like she holds his destiny. Your tears have not started, emptiness is coming, go ahead and marry someone who won't see beyond the money you have, your old age will be hollow, you will fear death than hell Fire. Better flow with peace and familiarity, you're familiar with her, I hope you look after your child also or you probably left only her to put him to bed daily. If you don't want to cry, go and beg her and fix your marriage. Respect her 12 Likes |
Re: I Am Depressed by nkemdi89(f): 9:40pm On Jan 13, 2023 |
Broke men knows how to hurt their partners with words, even when their partner stay put to all the emotional , physical and financial torture, ego won't make them to appreciate it. Better go and beg her. 14 Likes |
Re: I Am Depressed by riverbird: 9:41pm On Jan 13, 2023 |
Jashub: Op don't play with this particular advice.... And I only wanted to read posts at the beginning but I felt the need to say something, you said you called her from 2pm down to 8pm and all through the phone rang but she did not pick the calls and when she later did all she told you was that there's no light (that woman was lying), and never apologized, see ehn...since she was the one who packed her own kaya and left don't ever make the mistake of begging her to come back to your house, and don't ever send a dime either as upkeep.....when she feels the heat her brain will reset back th factory default. 5 Likes |
Re: I Am Depressed by Prettychild(f): 9:41pm On Jan 13, 2023 |
breakthrough22:What’s she apologizing for? You always use words to hurt her? Do you know how painful that is? Sir please work on your temperament, no one wants to stay with a nagging spouse biko. 4 Likes |
Re: I Am Depressed by Meandmycrew(f): 9:41pm On Jan 13, 2023 |
Re: I Am Depressed by Eromzi(m): 9:41pm On Jan 13, 2023 |
breakthrough22:Op it's clear from the chat you pushed your wife to the wall. there is no justification for some things you say in anger, what is the meaning of you are the biggest mistake I ever made you are the reason my business is not going well your wife action is as a result of bottled up pain you have passed her through, and you are saying by January ending if she does not come you will not take her back, you are not serious bro....you never repent. when you make people feel worthless they react to situations in various , TRUST ME THIS IS THE CHEAPEST OF IT YOU GOT thank God she did not commit suicide and kill your son too. you need give her time to heal and prove to her that you will love her and respect her. I am not also justifying her action. but you be man no mean say you go take mouth reduce your wife to crayfish just my two cent 10 Likes |
Re: I Am Depressed by Anakazo22: 9:41pm On Jan 13, 2023 |
breakthrough22:Your ego will kill you there, what do you mean that you didn't chase her or did I read something different. You use your anger to chase her away because I believe this is her first time of moving out of your house... even if you don't send her a dime her family will cater for her till she stands on her feet...who knows she might see some other man who will be ready to foot her bills. You better humble yourself and go and apologize to her period and stop forming strong man 10 Likes |
Re: I Am Depressed by IamMobisola(f): 9:42pm On Jan 13, 2023 |
I hope women have learnt to be financially independent of their husbands so they won’t be listening to threats like “pack your things and go back to your father’s house” like the national anthem, something like “because of you things have gone bad for me” Or things like “You are the worst mistake of my life” Very toxic human being and even has the audacity to come and post such online. Mumu 17 Likes |
Re: I Am Depressed by AMI3(m): 9:42pm On Jan 13, 2023 |
Op, u Fu"k up bro. It is like u are too arrogant. U can not control your emotion when u are angry u will talk too much. This is a woman u have spend so many years with. Did u pay for her bride price? She has endure with u when the going was tough yet u never value her. As the say goes u never what u have until u lost it 8 Likes |
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