greatermax77:
Yes, it's not everyone that has issues in their marriage.
Don't allow anyone to deceive you
Good marriage is sweet

Truvelisback:
With the financial stress and headache? Coupled with the high cost of living. How is it sweet? How many men can afford marriage? Let's be realistic.

Jennyclay:
Yes.

Marriage is a blessing when you marry the right man who would support you, stand by you, spend on you, Love you, take good care of you and the kid. But marriage will be a curse if you mistakenly marry a broke struggling good for nothing man.

Jennyclay:
Yes.

Marriage is a blessing when you marry the right man who would support you, stand by you, spend on you, Love you, take good care of you and the kid. But marriage will be a curse if you mistakenly marry a broke struggling good for nothing man.

Curiouscity:


The bold words above is the bane of marriages in many Nigerian families. Some girls/ladies go into marriages as a source of wealth or some would say "poverty alleviation ".

You listed all the good things a man could do which requires "no money", but the only bad characteristic is being "broke".

Jashub:
Marriage isn't a blessing ,especially if you're the type of guy who's stuck with a disrespectful female.

Curiouscity:
■The bold words above is the bane of marriages in many Nigerian families. Some girls/ladies go into marriages as a source of wealth or some would say "poverty alleviation ".
■You listed all the good things a man could do which requires "no money", but the only bad characteristic is being "broke".

Kobojunkiee:
You mean the type of man who thought of marriage as a way to achieve his lust for power and control, particularly by way of hypogamy?

Jashub:
■ Hypogamy isn't what men do...and you know why?Most men are actually richer than their female counterparts, which in essence forces them to marry below their status .

Kobojunkiee:
1. Please stop. So the many unmarried rich women out there are what? Cow fodder?

The vast majority of Nigerian men desire power and control in marriage and they know the only way they can get that is to marry down. That is why many of them will date successful women but marry down when it is time to settle down. This is not a secret at all.

Jennyclay:
Yes.

Marriage is a blessing when you marry the right man who would support you, stand by you, spend on you, Love you, take good care of you and the kid. But marriage will be a curse if you mistakenly marry a broke struggling good for nothing man.

Mindlog:


Is paying for eggs and surrogates, then nannies for the babies, cheaper for the man?

Jashub:
■You're talking rubbish as usual . Please where are the men that are marry the so called "rich women"? ■What's the statistics and can you name them? .
■Secondly , do men get to spend the money that women make ...?
■You keep deceiving yourself by eulogizing modern women(aka feminists)who actually have no value to a man . In fact, what value does a woman bring other than pussy and herself ?

wunmi590:


It is a blessing to some and not a blessing to some.


But I won't advice somebody who is not working to delve or even thin of marriage this time, things are extremely hard, high and difficult for some families, to the extent of regretting while they got married....

Marriage no be beans, but if you got a loving and hard working woman to support you, fear not...

Kobojunkiee:
1. Comprehension be your issue abi wetin?

2. So, now you want statistics, huh? Go on nairaland to see troves of posts from Nigerian men insisting it is better to marry down for their peace of mind or whatever when in actual fact, they do so in order that they can sit as gods over their women in marriage.

3. So a man marrying a woman in the same economic class as he is at least is out of the question because the man cannot spend the money the woman makes?

4. Modern women? This has been the culture in that country since the time of your ancestors — marry down in order to claim power and control over women in marriage. The men who go against the grain remain in the minority even to this day.

5. Abandon Hypogamy, and find common sense abeg!

Truvelisback:
Even those working aren't finding it easy either. The burden is more on the men than women.

Jennyclay:
Yes.

Marriage is a blessing when you marry the right man who would support you, stand by you, spend on you, Love you, take good care of you and the kid. But marriage will be a curse if you mistakenly marry a broke struggling good for nothing man.

Jashub:
■What do women bring to the table...? That's the question I asked.
■As for modern women, was your grandmother talking and dressing like Cardi B or Nicky Minaj?
■Continue deceiving yourself...you go old for your papa house

Kobojunkiee:
You mean the type of man who thought of marriage as a way to achieve his lust for power and control, particularly by way of hypogamy?

Kobojunkiee:
1. That is a stupid question to ask since you decide by your choice what the woman you want has to bring to the table, the same way women decide what their men bring to the table. if you want a woman who handles and brings half of the finances to the table, then commonsense is that you will want to date only those women who are able to do that in the relationship. It is nonsensical to ask this question while you blindly go around picking women who don't even measure up to that which you want from them on the table.

2. Why does the modern woman or cardi B or Nicky Minaj have to dress like their grandmothers? Do you yourself dress as your ancestors did? Nonsense !

3. Please stop spewing trash pretending you can hit wisdom by it.

Jashub:
So what do you bring to the table ? Let me guess , your entitled mentality and pussy ...right?

Truvelisback:
It isn't Cheaper either. However, the cost of marriage is a lifetime debt. It is only who can afford it would enjoy it.

Kobojunkiee:
Again, this is a very stupid question to ask a random person since no random person can meet your standard. You decide what your standard is and then you find dates that match that standard you have for yourself.

Hypogamy is not of common sense but of foolishness for both men and women, so it makes no sense for a man to date hypogamously, then go out and complain that he is having to carry it all on his head — only a fool does that.

Curiouscity:


The bold words above is the bane of marriages in many Nigerian families. Some girls/ladies go into marriages as a source of wealth or some would say "poverty alleviation ".

You listed all the good things a man could do which requires "no money", but the only bad characteristic is being "broke".

Jashub:
■You're still talking like someone whose suffering from selective Amnesia, but
I'll still throw the question: ■What do women bring to the table ? Because it is obvious that men are : 1. The providers in the marriage 2. The pay the bills, rent and children's school fees 3. Proctect the kids and the women(even the ungrateful ones) from harm .
■With all these , what do women actually bring to the table other than pussy (which is sold in a brothel for 2500)? If you can't answer , then you'll perish in your father's house unmarried and bitter