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I’m Losing It by Nobody: 10:17pm On Feb 04, 2023 |
I really don’t know how to stop thinking, not even for a second my mind is always faraway please help I’m slipping away.... I’m a woman of 27years, lonely, don’t have a relationship, not financially ok , don’t have any skills even though I just graduated waiting for mobilization and I planned to acquire one while in service. I never actually thought about life much till I graduated, I gained admission when I was 20years and I actually thought I still have much time to achieve a lot of things in life . It was now I realized how much time I had wasted in not paying much attention to my life even when I know that it never too late. My financial life has been basically sponsored by me Incase you are wondering how I get funds to live by. Last year, I got a casual job , did a thrift business though not something big but I was able to saveup and was able to live on that even now I still have something I can depend on without asking from anybody by living within my limit. My relationship life has been ok too, I left my last relationship early last year and that was the last time I got laid. It has not been easy to abstain but with determination here I’m going months without it. I must say I’m lonely, I crave to love and be loved yet I don’t want to get into any relationship now because I don’t want to fall into unsafe hands and having unnecessary sex. I feel like a failure like I don’t have purpose for my life, I crave for intimacy but even if I get someone who likes me or wants to settle down with me I’m not sure I’m ready for that now because I’m not financially stable yet. Is there something wrong with me or I’m just over reacting? |
Re: I’m Losing It by ahnie: 10:33pm On Feb 04, 2023 |
Let me invites the elders. Cc Richy4 Mindlog God1000 These are the few sensible ones that came to my mind. Peace 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: I’m Losing It by Kobojunkie: 10:34pm On Feb 04, 2023 |
Ficklemind:You are overreacting! ![]() If your mind is racing, pick up books to read or watch some good movies to get the distraction your mind might be in need of. If skills are what you desire, then pick up books to help you learn at least some essential ones like sack gardening skills, composting, writing, reading comprehension, etc. You don't need to start with the heavy stuff at first. Learn basic skills and build on those as you go. You never know you might even spot opportunities to make money simply from just those. ![]() As for getting laid, if it is that important to you then consider paying a man for sex if you must, but I think it makes more sense to maybe consider why your last relationship ended and maybe spend your time learning from any mistakes you may have made in that relationship to better prepare yourself so are not to fall for the same in your next relationship. ![]() 6 Likes 1 Share |
Re: I’m Losing It by ahnie: 10:36pm On Feb 04, 2023 |
Kobojunkie:Kobojunkie of laive,this is the first time you ve made sense to me in all your posts. Warmest hugs ![]() Nice one darling |
Re: I’m Losing It by Ahmed0336(m): 10:38pm On Feb 04, 2023 |
![]() In summary, na konji wan format your brain so? ![]() 1 Like |
Re: I’m Losing It by Treassured: 10:53pm On Feb 04, 2023 |
In Summary👇 Sapa+Loneliness=Suicidal. Sorry OP, I pray you will be fine. Try and talk to someone okay. May God ease our Affairs. |
Re: I’m Losing It by vastolord4(m): 10:58pm On Feb 04, 2023 |
Is it the sex? A normal functioning human can get sex from any person you deem fit for the job be it friend or neighbour. As for the job/financial issue, its gonna take a little longer to get a random perfect job cos every employer doesn't know what's gonna happen during/after this election.. In general, make sure you've got a side hustle even if it chinchin you can learn, start it now! It's never too late.. just get a time routine for your daily plans mapped out and make sure job applications and online learning skills are part of this list. Good luck to our future 1 Like |
Re: I’m Losing It by superintendents(m): 11:05pm On Feb 04, 2023 |
remove financial stable it has nothing to do with your marriage,your man would be taking care of that.. 2 Likes |
Re: I’m Losing It by Richy4(m): 11:15pm On Feb 04, 2023 |
Just calm down dear ... In my opinion you came into this world alone, u didn't enter with anyone( except if u are a twin), you are not supposed to compare yourself with anyone... It's an individual race... You have to work on your mindset and erase those thoughts that suggests to you that you were a failure... There are people that wished to be in your shoes today.. If I understand correctly, u went to the university... I believe that there are 27yr old ladies in Nigeria and around the world who were not privileged to attend the university like u did... You did not drop out, so what part of a failure are we discussing here? In terms of companionship, what you were struggling with is indecision... I want a man,.. I don't want a man..., I want a man but no commitment ...I am lonely.. I don't want to fall into wrong hands etc... Dear life itself is a risk..If we keep on counting the number of people that drowned in the ocean, no one will drink water... I will suggest that Instead of thinking about being a failure which u were not, think about how to keep or maintain a relationship when u get one... <<If I find a man that I like today.. can I still be celibate with him? If no, how long do I give in? << If I have a man today, what % commitment do I tell them I wanna commit in the relationship.. in other words, how slow or fast do we go? <<How long will I be with him before telling him that I am ready for serious commitment.. << If I mistakenly get pregnant what next? If he says he will like to marry me do I picture him as the man I want to spend the rest of my life with?... Stop thinking too much of what u don't have, it's time u count your blessings ...HBP kills faster than cancer nowadays.. Also look into those skills you wanted that you feel will make you more confident and useful to yourself and the society.. Good luck Dear. ![]() 9 Likes 3 Shares |
Re: I’m Losing It by wwwkaycom(m): 11:21pm On Feb 04, 2023 |
Wow! |
Re: I’m Losing It by doggedfighter(f): 11:28pm On Feb 04, 2023 |
ahnie:Gloriousgbola Acidosis Gboyegad ,come and put mouth for this matter |
Re: I’m Losing It by ahnie: 11:31pm On Feb 04, 2023 |
Re: I’m Losing It by doggedfighter(f): 11:34pm On Feb 04, 2023 |
ahnie: Ahnie, I dey. How are your soldiers ? How was your footwear shopping ? You got what you wanted ? God1000: Greetings too, better person. 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: I’m Losing It by Foodqueen(f): 6:03am On Feb 05, 2023 |
Reality is setting in that you won't be young forever. Start making all the moves now. |
Re: I’m Losing It by Cutehector(m): 6:49am On Feb 05, 2023 |
Abi should i befriend her and teach her how to be independent financially or should i not? Ok i shouldn't. |
Re: I’m Losing It by God1000(m): 11:31am On Feb 05, 2023 |
There's nothing wrong with you, and I don't think you should even rush things, be painstaking about the choices you make from now on. You are already a graduate at 27, a lot can still change during your service year, get a skill while serving and try to save money to start small business after your NYSC. ahnie doggedfighter My greetings |
Re: I’m Losing It by Acidosis(m): 4:50pm On Feb 05, 2023 |
Richy4: Well stated. 2 Likes |
Re: I’m Losing It by Richy4(m): 5:51pm On Feb 05, 2023 |
Acidosis:Thanks bro.. It was just straight from the heart.. Many are still feeling the impact of COVID.. so many lost their jobs and business,some can't pay mortgage anymore..a lot of houses on sale..We really need to start counting our blessings and ignore certain things out of our control.. Hope you are well buddy ![]() 3 Likes 1 Share |
Re: I’m Losing It by obinna58(m): 6:12pm On Feb 05, 2023 |
![]() You don’t have any problem, next!!!! |
Re: I’m Losing It by Autobot05: 6:38pm On Feb 05, 2023 |
Ficklemind: pocohantas Jovialjune1 Siofra Make una come update una sister with pink pill 😂😂😂 Congregation of evening newspapers 😂😂😂 1 Like |
Re: I’m Losing It by pocohantas(f): 6:44pm On Feb 05, 2023 |
These boys would create 5000 threads a day if you let them. Agenda must agend. 1 Like |
Re: I’m Losing It by ibkayee(f): 6:53pm On Feb 05, 2023 |
My relationship life has been ok too, I left my last relationship early last year and that was the last time I got laid. It has not been easy to abstain but with determination here I’m going months without it. I must say I’m lonely, I crave to love and be loved yet I don’t want to get into any relationship now because I don’t want to fall into unsafe hands and having unnecessary sex.OP is definitely a hairy guy with stained boxers pretending to be a woman 😂 3 Likes |
Re: I’m Losing It by LekkiG: 8:28pm On Feb 05, 2023 |
ahnie: Sorry to say, you too like food |
Re: I’m Losing It by Bitchiamjay(m): 9:17pm On Feb 05, 2023 |
[quote author=ibkayee post=120662533] OP is definitely a hairy guy with stained boxers pretending to be a woman 😂[/quote You no well at all 😂😂😂 1 Like |
Re: I’m Losing It by LittleBigDick(m): 9:27pm On Feb 05, 2023 |
Sell your kidney and use the money to change your life |
Re: I’m Losing It by AjiBussu(m): 1:10pm On Feb 06, 2023 |
I think you're just confused. Get laid first, then you will know exactly what you want ![]() |
Re: I’m Losing It by Nobody: 1:41am On Feb 10, 2023 |
vastolord4: Actually I can’t say it the sex , my body really wants it thou but I don’t want to have it with just a random person. I have refused advances because I know for now, I don’t want to do a relationship with sex involve. As for the job, I already set my mind at getting a skill during my service year and I’m optimistic that things will fall into the right places with hard work and determination. 2 Likes |
Re: I’m Losing It by Nobody: 1:42am On Feb 10, 2023 |
Richy4: Thank You, this actually motivates me. 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: I’m Losing It by Nobody: 1:43am On Feb 10, 2023 |
AjiBussu: I’m not confused. I want both the financial freedom and my body never stop asking for sex. 1 Like |
Re: I’m Losing It by GboyegaD(m): 1:58am On Feb 10, 2023 |
doggedfighter: I truly don't know how to advice people like this but I did try without sounding too serious/religious. OP, the good thing is you are not as bad as you think you are and this is a time to put your plans in place. Service year is near no doubt but please, do not focus only on the skill part only. Think of what next in terms of career while you also work on acquiring skills. That said, be open to healthy relationship while you build yourself. Try as much as you can to follow the advice of Richy4 as well so that you do not get yourself beclouded by the effect of a good sex if that comes without properly evaluating what you want. Make friends with both sexes online and offline, develop an habit and you would be surprised how attractive you did become both within and without. 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: I’m Losing It by infogenius(m): 6:47am On Feb 10, 2023 |
Ficklemind: The bolded is were ur problem lie and solution lies. As it stands u are not ready for marriage because there is something missing. U have not found ur purpose in life. Finding it purpose and aligning with it is the most important thing on ur scale of preference. Get books online or watch videos on YouTube that will show you how to find your purpose in life and go ahead ,find it and fulfill it. You will find happiness when you find and run with ur purpose |
Re: I’m Losing It by KanwuliaExtra: 8:18am On Feb 10, 2023 |
You may have anxiety issues. Seek medical help or counseling on how to find ways to relax and appreciate the finest things in your life. The best things in life are not planned. 1 Like 1 Share |
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