DonroxyII:
Western World has their Culture and We have our Culture..... Our Culture is Respect Based Culture ....

If We have Respect for Ourselves as a Nation, Continents and Globe, The world would have been a Better place !

The Corrections seems Harsh .... Personally, I use Respect for Wife of a Friend while I can Disrespect My Friend as I Like !

WackyJ1:


The problem is that Nigeria is focused on "Respect" without actually solving problems.

"Respect" for the sake of respect is not what moves nations forward. It is not "Respect" for the sake of respect that give you respect on the Global stage.

It is your achievements, the solutions you bring and how you've elevated the standard of living of your citizens that brings respect.

Now, you said that you use Respect for the wife of a friend, please, how does referring to your Wife's friend by the name she has borne since she came to this earth, a sign of disrespect.

DonroxyII:
Bro Cultures is Cultures.... Cultures and Civilisations is an Emotional Phenomenon!

Where I come from We prostrate to greet our parents and elders to some people that's balderdash ....

I once joined an Islamic sect Ahlusuunah that states you shouldn't prostrate for nobody but God while I think about my Grandmother I simply drop them ....

Respect other people's emotions and wishes and you would be good or gtfo them if you can't can !

WackyJ1:


People's individual emotions and wishes is not culture.

I am ready to stand before any elder of any tribe in this country to ask them whether referring to a man's wife by her name is wrong.

I have asked everyone around me including my parents and they have said there is nothing wrong.

I am ready to travel to your village to talk to your elders if need be.

Ishilove:
So much ado about nothing.

Op, it's a cultural thing. You either get with it or get out ... from the friendship

WackyJ1:


Which cultures in particular?

I was allowed to call her by her first name until he did traditional wedding for her.

This is someone who has called me her padi.

Richy4:

So have you mapped out what she and your friend will be calling you?👿

WackyJ1:


We don't talk anymore.

The guy was angry with me for renting my own hotel room in the hotel on that Friday night before the wedding. (He promised me a room to myself, I came and he put me in a room with himself and one other guy).

He didn't call me from that night until the wedding. I simply took my load and travelled back. Later I saw pictures of someone wearing the suit I was supposed to wear.

This is someone who is owning me thousands of Naira and was even still asking me to borrow him morning that Friday Afternoon.

Klass99:


Have you at least recovered the money he owes you or are you forfeiting it as bad debt?

I honestly don't think you did anything wrong by calling his wife her given name. I think as a people we are unnecessarily stuck up on titles and recognition in this part of the world.

I don't mind if a 4 year old calls me Klass without aunty sef. Klass is my name and titles only reinforce authority, seniority and barriers to easy relations with others.

Richy4:

Please my brother, let him be.. you are not eating from his table... He is not eating from yours... Let him be..

I will suggest that you ignore him and the money that he is owing you for now until all the euphoria of marriage dies down and he now comes back from cloud 9 to the normal earth where he inhabits... Give him 3months ok.. he will be back to the planet.

I underestimated you man.. what u did by making yourself comfortable at a hotel have renewed my respect for you.. u got some levels🤓.. carry go buddy ✔️📯💯🏅

pocohantas:
I don’t call any of my friends spouses by their names, male or female. I accord them that respect.

Klass99:


Lol 😂. Sorry ehn, it's like this thing really pained you. That's what happens when you are dealing with shallow minded individuals who don't understand life or lack depth and substance. If I were you, I must collect my money sha.

WackyJ1:


Lool.

It understandable that you underestimated me.

I left a lot of details out.

I also contributed money for the best man suit that he casually gave to someone else.

He's owing me tens of thousands. I did not eat from his table but he has eaten from mine without recompense and yet he's disrespected me on top.

But I've let him go.
Let's see what happens when as you say the Euphoria comes down.

Richy4:
Giving your suit to someone else without batting an eyelid confirms that you are not so important.. Even a difficult bride that was full of hormones on her day can not do that to her bridesmaids, camera man or cake designer..
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DonroxyII:
Well .... Whatever Rocks Ya Boat ...Until dem plank you 2by2 for Head you no go Reset ....

Even if Good gestures is misinterpreted I just rendered I'm sorry and Walk Away.... next time I Correct myself in front of such fellow ..... You no get work dey fight unnecessary drama ...

I'm a Yoruba man ... there is "O" there is "e" ... e is a prefix for Respect ...
O is a Prefix for Comradeship..

Once a Female friend is Married ... I changed it to "e" to mark my respect for her marital life and Mix with "O" once we are together ....

A colleague of mine got Married to a girl in my Department she was in 300L while I was in year 2 of Masters .... Very Junior to me age ....

I started using "e"(Prefix for Respect) for Her Once she Married my Colleagues even while they were dating .... E.g Sister Ayoka, e bami ki Bro Seye ..(Sister Ayoka, help me greet seye) ...

That's Our Culture....

I could sound English by Saying "Ayoka ba mi ki Seye" .... (Ayoka, Greet seye):

Next stages of Couples gossips is gonna be on Ya Head.... Next thing is Ore re Baje(Your Friend is Disrespectful, He has been calling me by my first name ... one day one day I go change am for him ....

To avoid stories that Touches the heart ... simply Comply and Move On......

A Yoruba-Man is known for much Diplomatic-Relations na why dem call us Tortoise!

WackyJ1:


Abi.. This is the key point here.

Whenever these kinds of things occur, I wonder, the kind of madness that has to enter a man's brain for him to do what he did.

It is hormone induced day buddy...You as the groom would want your day to be perfect and memorable... Nothing should go wrong.. but most times it does...

That's why it is necessary for a groom to surround himself with good friends... not one or two but three or more... Because if he( the groom)screams at one of the groomsmen, the others might have good words to calm him down...and also speak to the one that got the third degree burns... I guess you were the one that got the third degree burn

WackyJ1:


So you cannot call any of your friends by their first name once they are married to someone else?

So you can call them by their first name up until the point they do their traditional wedding,

Then your friend Amarachi now becomes Amadi's wife and you can never call her by Amarachi again?

Just asking for clarification..

pocohantas:


This is basic English. Don’t stress me if you missed it. Once again, I can’t call my FRIEND’S SPOUSE, FRIEND’S SPOUSE!

Your chochocho is too much!

Klass99:


He was your friend na, you would know best how to get it back. I have recovered money from guys who were owing me in different ways;

1. I told one I will show up at his office and create such an embarrassing scene he would be ashamed to show his face at work for weeks - and it worked, even though I don't think I had the guts to do what I threatened.

2. I told another one a true story about how my neighbour was murdered over money he owed some people and his murder was staged as a suicide. My intent was not to scare him but caution him about OPM (other people's money). In his case I was ready to forfeit the money after sharing the story, but surprisingly he paid me 24 hours later.

3. My friend got her money back from her male cousin by publicly embarrassing him at social functions and family gatherings. She would just ask to everyone's hearing, where is my 100k or when am I getting back this 100k you borrowed.

I have never taken money from anyone and not paid them back, so I think the good will I build and extend to others, comes back to me. These guys could have said do your worse and I won't be able to do anything but forfeit and move on. I always make an effort to recover, leave it to God is not my default reaction, it is a last resort.

WackyJ1:


You're an insane person.

What kind of childish infantile moronic female is this.

If you do not have the mental bandwith to engage in a logical discussion or defend your points in a rational manner then leave this place and go and find your other babies to play with in the Romance section.

pocohantas:


More rants! Na your type dey quick get high bp. Now I see why your friend cautioned you. You talk too much.

WackyJ1:



This is my last response to you.

4ward4:
Also from his response it show there is a hidden grudge between you two.