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Re: What Are You Doing With A Man That Can't Meet Your Needs? by Karleb(m): 11:43pm On Mar 11, 2023 |
EriMma1: She obviously married a lazy man. That's her choice and has nothing to do with your write up. 1 Like |
Re: What Are You Doing With A Man That Can't Meet Your Needs? by Kobojunkie: 11:44pm On Mar 11, 2023 |
talk2hb1:But would you want your daughter or baby sister to put her fate in the hands of a man taking care of her? ![]() 1 Like |
Re: What Are You Doing With A Man That Can't Meet Your Needs? by Kobojunkie: 11:46pm On Mar 11, 2023 |
Raalsalghul:Now you are talking! The problem was created by men folk and the solution ought to equally involve a change from the menfolk. ![]() |
Re: What Are You Doing With A Man That Can't Meet Your Needs? by talk2hb1(m): 11:46pm On Mar 11, 2023 |
Kobojunkie:Off Point, neither of them should be a liability to one another. 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: What Are You Doing With A Man That Can't Meet Your Needs? by Business3600: 11:47pm On Mar 11, 2023 |
Its very simple, if you are a guy and your doing really well for yourself financially. Please look for a lady thats working and earning good salary or she got her own business. I support 50-50. No cheating. Bills should be split into two 1 Like |
Re: What Are You Doing With A Man That Can't Meet Your Needs? by Afonjacrusder(f): 11:54pm On Mar 11, 2023 |
author=EriMma1 post= That night, I didn't know where I was. Serious stomach cramps and I was just coiling up in the room that day holding my stomach. Again this lawyer guy no get shishi to even take me to the nearest clinic. In his confusion he gave me garlic to chew. That seemed to help a little but omor, I broke up with him. EriMma1 Broke pucci girl.🤮 As the lawyer guy no get shishi to treat you, so you couldn't afford the money or at least called your broke arse Dad to raise funds for your own treatment; what if you had died miserably like a dog that you are? EriMma1 you are synonymous to poverty. You have known poverty since birth🤮 6 Likes |
Re: What Are You Doing With A Man That Can't Meet Your Needs? by EriMma1: 11:54pm On Mar 11, 2023 |
MemoriesAndMe: Why shouldn't he take me to the hospital? Even if someone who's working and has all the money falls sick will she know where she is? How much more be able to access her money at that time? So if that is the case, he can't do something pending when she gets revived? See... I'm not making a boast. When I was still in my early 20s my dad fell sick and by the next day I got to his house and found him lying really sick. He could not even get up or do anything. Immediately I said what is this, I called my sister and quickly we got a taxi and rushed him to the hospital. From the test to bills and everything, my sister and I fute everything. He was proud of us till he died many years after. Now, a lawyer can not call even common bike to take me to the nearest clinic not to talk of futing the hospital bill you say I should not talk?? Abegi! |
Re: What Are You Doing With A Man That Can't Meet Your Needs? by achimendy(m): 11:55pm On Mar 11, 2023 |
EriMma1: Madam go find work so you can cater for your needs. Stop disturbing people with your entitlement song. 1 Like |
Re: What Are You Doing With A Man That Can't Meet Your Needs? by mikebabs101: 11:56pm On Mar 11, 2023 |
EriMma1:This one just dey talk nonsense. Let Mee tell you something, ladies with your mentality are hardly loyal , they will always believe there a man out there they will meet that will make life so soft for them without lifting a finger , they will keep opening their legs for men , fall for men with sweet mouth and one day realised they have wasted their time and got played while looking for men pay their bills. Pls go get a job , everybody dey strive for a better life be it a man or a woman, men no get two heads or for hands |
Re: What Are You Doing With A Man That Can't Meet Your Needs? by dododawa1: 11:56pm On Mar 11, 2023 |
Few girls,their father can't meet their demanded,we be looking for husband to fulfill their needed,you old for your Papa house,not this generation of men. 2 Likes |
Re: What Are You Doing With A Man That Can't Meet Your Needs? by Pardubice: 11:57pm On Mar 11, 2023 |
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Re: What Are You Doing With A Man That Can't Meet Your Needs? by achimendy(m): 12:02am On Mar 12, 2023 |
EriMma1: This one na gold-digger o |
Re: What Are You Doing With A Man That Can't Meet Your Needs? by SomehowBROWN(m): 12:04am On Mar 12, 2023 |
Lol, if only you could afford drugs for yourself at that time EriMma1: |
Re: What Are You Doing With A Man That Can't Meet Your Needs? by EriMma1: 12:05am On Mar 12, 2023 |
Rayban25: You never talk wetin dey pain you. Where in my post did I attack men who could not take care of me? I only used my experience as a case study, nothing more. Swallow the bitter truth and work with it |
Re: What Are You Doing With A Man That Can't Meet Your Needs? by Kobojunkie: 12:10am On Mar 12, 2023 |
Business3600:That makes sense, right? However, Nigerian culture, even to this day, says the man should carry it all on his own, which is against common sense. So, you see, you have a culture that goes against commonsense preached regularly even to this day. So why insult people like OP who go with culture? ![]() |
Re: What Are You Doing With A Man That Can't Meet Your Needs? by EriMma1: 12:11am On Mar 12, 2023 |
Karleb: Stop sounding emotional. No be fight. It is what it is. whichever ways you choose to look at it. Fact remains that a man who can not take care of his household is worse than an infidel. |
Re: What Are You Doing With A Man That Can't Meet Your Needs? by Kobojunkie: 12:12am On Mar 12, 2023 |
achimendy:Your culture extols men to take on 100% of the financial burden in marriage. OP is merely preaching your culture to you. Why does that make her a gold digger? I don't see any one here equally disavowing your culture and traditional beliefs in the same breath. ![]() |
Re: What Are You Doing With A Man That Can't Meet Your Needs? by EriMma1: 12:13am On Mar 12, 2023 |
Abarichi: Then let him keep to himself now abi? Shoo |
Re: What Are You Doing With A Man That Can't Meet Your Needs? by EriMma1: 12:15am On Mar 12, 2023 |
Creamypussy: Suffering and smiling. Body go tell you when the time comes unless you come run go for back go hook one rich man cos I know your type. You come and say wrong perception to appear nice. Make one guy living in a face me I slap you house come approach you now, you go spit fire for him head. Aunty, Weldon. |
Re: What Are You Doing With A Man That Can't Meet Your Needs? by Lanretoye(m): 12:15am On Mar 12, 2023 |
EriMma1:if your needs were met from your own house,and you couldn't afford a nearby clinic to treat your self from suya poison you ate.yoi can't even afford to buy suya for your self and that's why the bought you the one of your class.ypu for don die that day self. 1 Like |
Re: What Are You Doing With A Man That Can't Meet Your Needs? by EriMma1: 12:22am On Mar 12, 2023 |
jeromestarks: Because it is written that cursed is he that hangeth on a tree, your curse is hereby nullified and cancelled in my life. I can not be cursed because Jesus has nailed every curse against me on the cross of Calvary. Now,Because it is written that they shall be taken in, in their own device, I decree, may your curse return back to you and work against you by the authority in Jesus name. Amen. 1 Like |
Re: What Are You Doing With A Man That Can't Meet Your Needs? by kevotek1000(m): 12:22am On Mar 12, 2023 |
[quote author=EriMma1 post=121634822]No no no... You tell me? A man who cannot meet your needs should not be anywhere around you because he'll only be a stumbling block to your progress and cause you to miss out on great opportunities that would have come your way through those who understand the assignment. Don't ever let such men around you. I've never been an advocate for starting small with a man after my past experiences even before the economy got this bad not to talk of now that it has plunged deep into meltdown. A lot of ladies who went into such mess in the early 2000s are still carrying the family till today while the men are struggling to meet up with no headways or hopes in sight. This takes me to the next point. As a single man still struggling, don't ever brainwash or be brainwashed by any girl to go into marriage and manage with you until things get better. Y'all have seen that e go better has become the prayer of a poor man. So run away from such trap. Make it to a reasonable level first before going for a woman. I don't want to begin to go into details of the eventualities that may likely occur and become very grave due to inability to tackle them financially. Use your tongue to count your teeth. I remember a long time ago when I was dating one struggling guy. The aunty asked him a very good question I'll never forget in my life and that taught me a lesson I've been applying in life's situations. He invited me to come spend the weekend with him that the aunt was around so I could feel relaxed. When I got there and the aunty saw me, she called him aside and asked him the following. You know we are struggling to eat in this house. Your salary is not enough and you brought in a young girl. What if there's an emergency in the course of her stay, what will you do? How will you go about it? When he told me, I became scared and thought the aunt was right. I now remembered one certain time I visited a friend. So that night we strolled out to buy suya. I don't know if it was from the suya paper or the unhygienic environment it was prepared that gave me food poison. That night, I didn't know where I was. Serious stomach cramps and I was just coiling up in the room that day holding my stomach. Again this lawyer guy no get shishi to even take me to the nearest clinic. In his confusion he gave me garlic to chew. That seemed to help a little but omor, I broke up with him. So, with this few points of mine, I believe iv been able to convince and not confuse you on the need to stay away from a man that cannot cater for your needs. If you attack me, it shows you're a struggling guy or dating a struggling guy. Una eyes go soon clear. My own don clear tey tey. Enjoy. I sense you're going to be a chronic liability, you want a guy to measure up and take financial responsibilities. What are you going to be contributing to the man's life other than your body. Dating a Nigeria lady with this kind of thinking is risky. No suprise most men abandoned their wife here when they travel out of the country. |
Re: What Are You Doing With A Man That Can't Meet Your Needs? by EriMma1: 12:27am On Mar 12, 2023 |
Esoresor: Correct! |
Re: What Are You Doing With A Man That Can't Meet Your Needs? by UyaiIncomparabl(f): 12:30am On Mar 12, 2023 |
I detest topics that instigate gender wars/slurs or this type that talks about ‘providing or not’. It could turn very messy, especially on a forum like this where men are mostly patriarchal, sentimental, and manifest tendencies of irresponsibility and misogyny. As a woman, you know what you want and that should lie deep within you. There's no point voicing out here about this or that. You will only be setting yourself up for drags. Do you want a provider man? Fine. Keep it inside of you. Don't even spill when you meet him. Let him exude his true qualities and virtues to know if he is truly a ‘provider man’. You want what you want and that's no one's business. It's non-negotiable. Provider men don't stay on the internet all through the day arguing baselessly and endlessly. I learned this the hard way. 7 Likes 3 Shares |
Re: What Are You Doing With A Man That Can't Meet Your Needs? by Kobojunkie: 12:34am On Mar 12, 2023 |
kevotek1000:1. Nigerian culture and tradition imposed on even women by a patriarchal system encourage women to depend wholly on men in marriage. The same culture guarantees men who do so a seat as gods in marriage. So, it isn't the women per se wanting men to measure up and take financial responsibility but the culture that pushes such ideas on these women even as part of their upbringing. ![]() 2. Her body is all she is culturally required to bring to her marriage, so why hate her for accepting culture? ![]() |
Re: What Are You Doing With A Man That Can't Meet Your Needs? by EriMma1: 12:34am On Mar 12, 2023 |
Bullythebully: Hmmm.... So this is the thing that is cursing himself?. Smh. My brother, thank you for humbling him. With this he'll learn to tread carefully and in fact should be the one to deactivate. 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: What Are You Doing With A Man That Can't Meet Your Needs? by THEMORALMEN: 12:36am On Mar 12, 2023 |
[quote author=EriMma1 post=121634822]No no no... You tell me? A man who cannot meet your needs should not be anywhere around you because he'll only be a stumbling block to your progress and cause you to miss out on great opportunities that would have come your way through those who understand the assignment. Don't ever let such men Presently everybody is struggling one way or the other in this country. Even the rich.....I can attest to it. The Present economy ain't producing millionaires. It only producing average ok guyz and average ok guyz are not and will not cater for a girl need. Except she is a wife or fiancée. They may cater for one night stand girls for a moment just to chop and clean mouth for that day. And that is dat Most girl needs are basically things dat gravitate their sense. The belief of being provided for has cloud many of them reasoning. (entitlement mentality) Forgetting that the only man that is meant to cater for your need is your father and once you turn adult then you cater for urself till you see a partner that will cater for you as you in turn will cater for him. Most girls that really walk on the path of their needs being meet by men. End up at the hand of Bleep boiz. And Bleep boiz will giv a girl all she ever want as far as he can Provide. But mind you the abuse, the physical beaten, the emotional damage she wil witness will make her understand that there is always a 2 SIDE OF A COIN. |
Re: What Are You Doing With A Man That Can't Meet Your Needs? by biyiwyle(m): 12:38am On Mar 12, 2023 |
EriMma1: So you dont even have yet? Best of luck. |
Re: What Are You Doing With A Man That Can't Meet Your Needs? by kevotek1000(m): 12:39am On Mar 12, 2023 |
EriMma1: Let me remind you histories... In the olden days both father and mother till the ground. |
Re: What Are You Doing With A Man That Can't Meet Your Needs? by Enemyofpeace: 12:44am On Mar 12, 2023 |
Na girls like you dey end up husbandless and begin their drivers or gatemen to sleep with them just to born childrens.Mtcheeeeeeeeew! 1 Like |
Re: What Are You Doing With A Man That Can't Meet Your Needs? by Nobody: 12:45am On Mar 12, 2023 |
EriMma1: I know you intentionally skipped my other mention so here it is again
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Re: What Are You Doing With A Man That Can't Meet Your Needs? by Nobody: 12:46am On Mar 12, 2023 |
EriMma1:This is the most useless post I've seen over the years. You are broke from your soul, spirit and body. People that think low of themselves this way digust me. You have no value at all. Useless piece of dung 3 Likes |
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