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My Husband Has Gone To See His Side Chick's Mother by lummy247: 4:41pm On Mar 14, 2023 |
Please, I need advice. I went through my husband's phone and I saw a message he shared with his side chick. In the text message, the side chick was telling him to get something for her mother. He responded that he doesn't have an idea on what to buy. The lady later suggested that He should buy Provisions for her. They talk everyday and they exchange romantic texts everyday. They even have a pet name for each other. My husband is a Civil Engineer and some weekends he travels for 'work', I know he has gone to see her. This relationship with the side chick is gradually affecting my marriage. I have the fear of what will happen if she gets pregnant. For him to see her mother, it shows that they are already very close. He also sends her money. I see the transactions on his Bank App. Please I need advice, what can I do. 32 Likes 3 Shares |
Re: My Husband Has Gone To See His Side Chick's Mother by Kobojunkie: 4:46pm On Mar 14, 2023 |
lummy247:1. Well, all you can do is decide for yourself whether you want to be part of the polygamous union that he has already forced on you — he already has at least one concubine, according to you — or whether you would rather divorce him and move on. I'm sorry but there isn't much else you can do. ![]() 164 Likes 8 Shares |
Re: My Husband Has Gone To See His Side Chick's Mother by Tenrack: 5:11pm On Mar 14, 2023 |
lummy247:cheat on him. Modified: I was just kidding o. Ah. Make Una take am easy on me. Op if he's not willing to change. Seek a divorce. No be by force to say married.. he suppose respect you. 36 Likes 8 Shares |
Re: My Husband Has Gone To See His Side Chick's Mother by Nobody: 5:13pm On Mar 14, 2023 |
No husband will stress me in this life, that’s all I can say. 68 Likes 5 Shares |
Re: My Husband Has Gone To See His Side Chick's Mother by advanceDNA: 5:24pm On Mar 14, 2023 |
Side chick 3 - housewife 0 The nightmare of every house wife 126 Likes 8 Shares |
Re: My Husband Has Gone To See His Side Chick's Mother by marlow1962(m): 5:25pm On Mar 14, 2023 |
Hmm, I don’t want to give the impression that I supports he’s sidechick lifestyle, but on a serious note there’s something you’re lacking that the so called side chick has. Check within yourself, married man no dy carry get side chick to the extent em dy buy provisions go see em side chick mama, cun even get pet names ontop. 208 Likes 18 Shares |
Re: My Husband Has Gone To See His Side Chick's Mother by Nobody: 5:35pm On Mar 14, 2023 |
nonsense post ![]() 16 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: My Husband Has Gone To See His Side Chick's Mother by Nobody: 5:37pm On Mar 14, 2023 |
advanceDNA:And this makes you happy? 24 Likes 1 Share |
Re: My Husband Has Gone To See His Side Chick's Mother by Nobody: 5:38pm On Mar 14, 2023 |
See them talking through their noses. They are so unconcerned about the hurt of their wives when it comes to coitus matters 49 Likes |
Re: My Husband Has Gone To See His Side Chick's Mother by advanceDNA: 5:40pm On Mar 14, 2023 |
IyaebeTheGreat: If u read happiness in my comment then thats clearly what u want to see... not my problem.... 54 Likes 4 Shares |
Re: My Husband Has Gone To See His Side Chick's Mother by ConfidentialDoc: 7:40pm On Mar 14, 2023 |
Either your husband is a scoundrel. Or you are the scoundrel who pushed him to side chick 59 Likes 1 Share |
Re: My Husband Has Gone To See His Side Chick's Mother by Kobojunkie: 7:48pm On Mar 14, 2023 |
ConfidentialDoc:If a wife is pushing him to take a concubine, shouldn't he in that case divorce her so he can be with the other woman then? In both cases, the man is a scoundrel. ![]() 57 Likes 3 Shares |
Re: My Husband Has Gone To See His Side Chick's Mother by ConfidentialDoc: 7:50pm On Mar 14, 2023 |
Kobojunkie: Okay 4 Likes |
Re: My Husband Has Gone To See His Side Chick's Mother by Kobojunkie: 7:55pm On Mar 14, 2023 |
marlow1962:1. So, if your wife or girlfriend cheats on you, it means there is something you are definitely lacking and so she isn't to blame for seeking that thing outside of your relationship with her? ![]() 155 Likes 12 Shares |
Re: My Husband Has Gone To See His Side Chick's Mother by marlow1962(m): 8:17pm On Mar 14, 2023 |
Kobojunkie:She knows that her husbands has a lady he’s fvkin outside, yet she stayed. She no take up the case, so my bro no be everybody dy fit keep calm. 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: My Husband Has Gone To See His Side Chick's Mother by Goodlady(f): 8:20pm On Mar 14, 2023 |
advanceDNA:You mean a wife that's depending on her husband abi? My advise, dear females, empower yourself. Don't be a second class citizen in the house of any man. They all v tendencies to cheat. It's just that some are hiding cos of their financial ability. The first thing that enter a hustling man's head after getting rich is how to sleep with all.the girls that do him yanga before. That's the begining of badluck! Men are scum! 75 Likes 5 Shares |
Re: My Husband Has Gone To See His Side Chick's Mother by Kobojunkie: 8:21pm On Mar 14, 2023 |
marlow1962:1. She obviously didn't keep calm about it as revealed by her OP. She wouldn't have been able to make the connection and discoveries she has about the affair if she had. As for her staying, well, she is here asking what her options may be, isn't she? So, why do you seek to blame her for her husband having a side-chick? ![]() 24 Likes |
Re: My Husband Has Gone To See His Side Chick's Mother by advanceDNA: 8:27pm On Mar 14, 2023 |
Goodlady: Weda she is depending or not depending... side chick is winning... allow me play the card u women usually play by always blaming the man for ur infedility.... ... " there's something she's not doing right that is pushing her man out".... she should sit him down lovingly, find out, and do the right thing to make him happy" ![]() 59 Likes 6 Shares |
Re: My Husband Has Gone To See His Side Chick's Mother by Goodlady(f): 8:38pm On Mar 14, 2023 |
advanceDNA:If not that she's not financially independent, she doesn't need the man 5 Likes |
Re: My Husband Has Gone To See His Side Chick's Mother by advanceDNA: 8:41pm On Mar 14, 2023 |
Goodlady: Really.??...so all he needs the man for is money?? Okay ooo.... There is a new thread that need ur attention...mayb u should advice the girl she doesnt need the man for anything before she makes a mistake ![]() 19 Likes 1 Share |
Re: My Husband Has Gone To See His Side Chick's Mother by frozen70(f): 1:45am On Mar 15, 2023 |
lummy247: If you know that you have never pushed him to the wall in any way, just seat him down and let him know the implications of having a committed extra martial affairs But if you have made him to starf dating outside the marriage, then you need to change some attitude of yours Men will always want to be where their heart will find peace of mind Especially of such a man provides enough for their family but their wives treats them in an ill mannered way I am not justifying him having affairs outside his marriage but by default, they will behave so 21 Likes 1 Share |
Re: My Husband Has Gone To See His Side Chick's Mother by Dshocker(m): 4:33am On Mar 15, 2023 |
Goodlady: And the girls that did yanga will open their legs, why? 13 Likes |
Re: My Husband Has Gone To See His Side Chick's Mother by Foodqueen(f): 5:32am On Mar 15, 2023 |
Let him know that you know all what's happening, and then acts as if u don't care. He will jump fence to want to know if you are cheating on him too. Making him uncomfortable by asking him " when next is he travelling ' Leave his presence to receive some calls, even if it's your mom calling you. You can soak your pillow when he isn't around cos of the emotional trauma, but always show happiness whenever he's around. He will get confuse, and won't have peace of mind. Na man wey get peace of mind de cheat happily. 49 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: My Husband Has Gone To See His Side Chick's Mother by Mindlog: 5:42am On Mar 15, 2023 |
frozen70: No one is triggered by their partner/spouse to cheat because infidelity is a decided action. The cheating spouse has rationalized and keeps rationalizing reason for being unfaithful. If the husband in focus ends the marriage with the OP and marries the present side chick, he will cheat on her. "Finding peace when a married person is with a side chick or side guy" is a mirage, an escapist construct of the mind because when they are no longer the side attraction but becomes spouse......the "peace" tends to evaporate and the cheating spouse will be more likely to tolerate more than what he/she tolerated in their previous marriage. No one is your reason to cheat, you convince yourself it is okay to cheat.....take responsibility. 35 Likes |
Re: My Husband Has Gone To See His Side Chick's Mother by Tenrack: 7:12am On Mar 15, 2023 |
Goodlady:really now? |
Re: My Husband Has Gone To See His Side Chick's Mother by mrblessed(m): 7:19am On Mar 15, 2023 |
Who knows if the side chick's mum is interested in being an active player. Maybe she is poised to throw off the toga of mere observer and become a credible participant. The story depicts a weak woman: a woman without power and one that has already given up. Madam, please do something, take back your husband and control the narrative. 4 Likes |
Re: My Husband Has Gone To See His Side Chick's Mother by Tokskob2008: 8:00am On Mar 15, 2023 |
We only get to read one sided story on NL every time so whoever gives advice or judgement based on a one side story isn't doing any justice at all... Someone up there said it's when a man gets financial stability that he shows his true color well that's right but it's not only a man's thing, it's all humans. Nobody knows what this wife put her husband through during their struggling days or even presently that the guy now decides he wants to start doing rubbish about now that he is ok. I'm not saying his actions are right neither I'm siding with the woman too because we don't really know how everything started. 24 Likes |
Re: My Husband Has Gone To See His Side Chick's Mother by Nobody: 8:03am On Mar 15, 2023 |
Find ways to make him jealous ie look attractive , touch grass and socialise with other folks hopefully you see a man that likes you , then you spend time with that man , you sef go forget say you get hubby 5 Likes |
Re: My Husband Has Gone To See His Side Chick's Mother by Dogalmighty17: 8:16am On Mar 15, 2023 |
I'm sorry for the unfortunate situation you find yourself. Your husband is actually very disrespectful to your Union. 6 Likes |
Re: My Husband Has Gone To See His Side Chick's Mother by Karlifate: 8:31am On Mar 15, 2023 |
frozen70: 💯 OP, as much as I detest your husband's actions. Check yourself first. Human beings are always flawless, perfect & without stain in their own version of a story. - Have you been nagging, outrightly or subtly? - Do you still take care of your appearance, or you believe no one is looking at you again, since you're "married"? - Are you idle, or do you contribute to the progress & well-being of the family? - Do you encourage him & spontaneously call him and/or send text (online & offline) to him, just to show that you care about him? - Do you speak his love language to him, or you just assume he's comfortable doing things your own way? - Do you guys communicate comprehensively, or it's the usual Nigerian papa-mama talk? - If you're religious, do you pray for him? After self-introspection, you need to have a heart-to-heart talk with him, you can use this medium to tell him other areas he's been lagging behind. He's your husband & I believe he'll reason with you, if he's not yet deep in promiscuity. ![]() 12 Likes |
Re: My Husband Has Gone To See His Side Chick's Mother by LocalStandard1(m): 8:57am On Mar 15, 2023 |
frozen70: Tokskob2008: Good one and the best said so far! The woman's here seeking sympathy from single old feminists who are sure to take her side like Kobojunkie, Mindblog and even single confused children like Goodlady and Iyaebethegreat and co, when her solutions are out there with sane normal people. I suggest the OP asks Bukatyne on what to do, that is the most intelligent and sanest even sincere woman on Nairaland. And she is married too, for years. Not PTSD "feminist" wannabes. 11 Likes 1 Share |
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