It was a typical Friday evening when Rachel and Gbenga sat down on their couch after a long and stressful week at work. Rachel had been looking forward to this night all week, as it was their weekly date night. They had planned to watch a movie, have some dinner, and then spend the rest of the night in bed. But as the night progressed, Rachel began to feel increasingly frustrated.

Gbenga wasn't responding to her advances, and he seemed distant and uninterested. It wasn't the first time this had happened, but it was becoming more and more frequent. Rachel couldn't help but wonder what was causing this shift in their relationship. Over the past few months, she had noticed that their sex life had dwindled to almost nothing. They used to have a healthy and active intimacy, but now it seemed like a distant memory. Rachel couldn't help but wonder if this was the end of their relationship. That's when she discovered Talk Space online therapy and signed up immediately.

Abdullahi and Habibat, a couple in their mid-30s entered the door of Talk Space Counseling Services with heavy hearts. They had been married for almost 10 years, but recently they felt like their relationship was stuck in a rut. What used to be a passionate and intimate union had gradually turned into a sexless marriage. Abdullahi and Habibat tried to talk about their problems, but every discussion ended up in a heated argument. They didn't know what to do, so they turned to Talk Space Counseling Services for help.

Once upon a time, marriage was the ultimate symbol of love and commitment. Couples would pledge their lives to each other, for better or for worse, in sickness and in health, until death do they part. However, in recent years, the sanctity of marriage seems to have lost its spark. More and more couples are struggling to keep their passion alive, and a rising number of marriages are becoming sexless. It's a heartbreaking reality that affects millions of people around the world. The reasons behind this alarming trend are many, but the consequences are severe.

One of the most apparent reasons behind the rise of failed and sexless marriages is the fast-paced, hectic lifestyle that most couples lead. Many people put their jobs and professional commitments above their personal life, leading to a lack of intimacy and connection between partners. Moreover, the advent of technology and social media has instigated an addiction in individuals that often leads to them neglecting their relationship with their spouse. Additionally, the skyrocketing levels of stress and anxiety have also led to decreased sexual desire among couples.

Another significant cause of sexless marriages is unresolved conflicts and misunderstandings between partners. Arguments, differences in opinion, resentment, or any other negative emotions can create an environment of discomfort, ultimately leading to a decrease in sexual intimacy between partners. Furthermore, mundane duties such as household chores, financial responsibilities, or caring for children can also cause a lack of sexual desire among partners, leading to a sexless marriage.

At Talk Space Counseling Services, we believe that every marriage is worth fighting for. Whether you're dealing with communication issues, infidelity, or simply feeling disconnected from your partner, we can help. Our team of expert counselors and therapists is dedicated to saving marriages and rekindling the flame that once burned bright. We understand the unique challenges that modern couples face, and we have the tools and techniques to help you overcome them.

Just like Rachel and Gbenga, Abdullahi and Habibat, and our other clients, we listened to their problems, conducted diagnostic assessments, and offered practical solutions that are tailored to their couples' specific needs. Through a combination of individual therapy, couples therapy, and sex therapy, each couple slowly but surely began to rekindle their passion and intimacy. After several months of counseling and therapy, every couple was amazed by how much their relationships had improved. They were amazed by how much they had learned about themselves and each other, and they knew that they had Talk Space to thank for their newfound happiness.

Today, Talk Space continues to help several couples every day. We believe that every couple has the potential to save their relationship. With our expertise in counseling and therapy, we help couples rediscover the love and passion that brought them together in the first place. Contact us today at www.talkspace.ng or call 08099931039 to learn more about our services and start your journey toward a happier, healthier, and more fulfilling marriage.

you cant force nor teach a man/woman to love their partner... you also cant teach a man/woman to be sexually attracted to their partner. you either are or you arent,

sadly, its perfectly normal to not be as sexually attracted to your partner (10yrs down the line), as you were on day one.

MrBrownJay1:
you cant force nor teach a man/woman to love their partner... you also cant teach a man/woman to be sexually attracted to their partner. you either are or you arent,

sadly, its perfectly normal to not be as sexually attracted to your partner (10yrs down the line), as you were on day one.

If I may ask, can you teach a child to walk or learn to do something? If yes, then it is wrong to say that you cannot teach a grown man/woman what to do about their relationship. The marriage relationship is an institution of discovery and learning and because human nature is dynamic and transient, the couple must be conscious and concerned about each other's world because experience in one's life in and out of marriage shapes us into a new person.

TalkSpaceOffice:
If I may ask, can you teach a child to walk or learn to do something? If yes, then it is wrong to say that you cannot teach a grown man/woman what to do about their relationship. The marriage relationship is an institution of discovery and learning and because human nature is dynamic and transient, the couple must be conscious and concerned about each other's world because experience in one's life in and out of marriage shapes us into a new person.

there is a HUGE difference between teaching someone what to do and making them ENJOY THAT SAME THING. for example: i can teach you how to dance salsa, but that doesnt mean you are gonna like to dance salsa... OR i can teach you how to swim, but it doesnt mean you gonna like swimming. its the same thing with LOVE, no matter how much you can show someone how to be in a r/ship, if your partner doesnt have any attraction/affection for you, then all what you will do is pointless. the love/care/affection that you are talking about is generated by SEXUAL ATTRACTION, ATTACHMENT,BRAIN/HORMONES and the INTERACTION that you have with someone. you can be with two different person and do exactly the same thing, and love will naturally blossom with one and not the other.

you CANT teach someone to love you, you CANT teach someone to be attracted to you... you can only teach a couple how to act properly in a union.

TalkSpaceOffice:


If I may ask, can you teach a child to walk or learn to do something? If yes, then it is wrong to say that you cannot teach a grown man/woman what to do about their relationship. The marriage relationship is an institution of discovery and learning and because human nature is dynamic and transient, the couple must be conscious and concerned about each other's world because experience in one's life in and out of marriage shapes us into a new person.

What level of Marriage and Family Therapy certifications do your therapists have?

The moment you begin to begin your wife for séx it's almost over. You cannot negotiate genuine desire. Do you know how many married women cheat and scream in the throes of passion while getting dícked down by men they aren't married to?

The only thing you need to resolve marital issues is genuine communication which is almost impossible to achieve because for an individual to communicate honestly with their spouse, they first need to be genuine and honest with themselves. And if you think people are going to be honest to/with therapists you are in lala land

Most times women use séx to secure marriage and once in doing séx things becomes a chore. If you think I'm lying draw a poll asking married men to tell you what period they enjoyed séx the most; before or after marriage.

If your wife does not like you naturally but only married you because of pressure or just to secure a guy with money that can carry her life load for her. If you like go therapy for Azerbaijan you ate wasting your time. I don't know what the statistics say, but going to therapy does almost nothing to salvage a broken down, séxless marriage.

I can't even imagine following wife to therapy so they can help me beg to open coochie for me 😭😭😆😆. If she no wan open Alhamdililah; side chicken or second wife loading and I better not catch her cheating 😤

MrBrownJay1:


there is a HUGE difference between teaching someone what to do and making them ENJOY THAT SAME THING. for example: i can teach you how to dance salsa, but that doesnt mean you are gonna like to dance salsa... OR i can teach you how to swim, but it doesnt mean you gonna like swimming. its the same thing with LOVE, no matter how much you can show someone how to be in a r/ship, if your partner doesnt have any attraction/affection for you, then all what you will do is pointless. the love/care/affection that you are talking about is generated by SEXUAL ATTRACTION, ATTACHMENT,BRAIN/HORMONES and the INTERACTION that you have with someone. you can be with two different person and do exactly the same thing, and love will naturally blossom with one and not the other.

you CANT teach someone to love you, you CANT teach someone to be attracted to you... you can only teach a couple how to act properly in a union.

In most marriages that turned sexless, it wasn't like that before. Anything could have happened but one thing is certain if you don't nurture the fruit-bearing tree that once gave you fruits, you can be sure that it will not yield the same as it was before.

You don't have to force learning on anyone to love, have sex or enjoy doing these acts. Learning an act is a choice and there must be a goal of what you want to achieve with learning so if someone does not have a goal to achieve, there is no reason to teach him/her an act.

By experience, we have supported couples with similar challenges and they are doing very well. We had a client who after 12 years of marriage was no longer attracted to her husband and had no sex for over a year, all they did together was logistics (school runs, house rent, feeding expenses, etc) but with few sessions, she demonstrated her new knowledge and the husband noticed the changes in her and things got better with them.

Klass99:
@ Talkspaceoffice, your original post was an engaging and enjoyable read. Thumbs up for good writing, I like .

Thank you

Mindlog:


What level of Marriage and Family Therapy certifications do your therapists have?

We've certifications from Alpha International, Drs. Les & Leslie Parrott Marriage Mentoring, and The Gottman Institute.

TalkSpaceOffice:
In most marriages that turned sexless, it wasn't like that before. Anything could have happened but one thing is certain if you don't nurture the fruit-bearing tree that once gave you fruits, you can be sure that it will not yield the same as it was before.

You don't have to force learning on anyone to love, have sex or enjoy doing these acts. Learning an act is a choice and there must be a goal of what you want to achieve with learning so if someone does not have a goal to achieve, there is no reason to teach him/her an act.

By experience, we have supported couples with similar challenges and they are doing very well. We had a client who after 12 years of marriage was no longer attracted to her husband and had no sex for over a year, all they did together was logistics (school runs, house rent, feeding expenses, etc) but with few sessions, she demonstrated her new knowledge and the husband noticed the changes in her and things got better with them.

the above is only true in very few cases.... majority of men dont want to fukc their wives any longer because
A) she was pretending all through dating/courtship to be someone she was not, and after marriage she turned into her real self (disrespectful/dishonest/greedy/disgusting person) and sadly, husband despise the real her... and in that scenario, nothing you do/say can make this man be attracted to the negative person his wife REALLY IS.
B) she turned into a baby whale after childbirth and husband isnt sexually attracted to wife any longer... and in that scenario, nothing you do/say can make this man be attracted to his now hideous wife (unless she goes to the gym and/or have surgery)
C) wife was caught doing something that husband is fully against (aka cheating) and therefore husband wants to stay married because of the children but will never touch that woman ever again... and in that scenario, nothing you do/say can make this man be attracted to his unfaithful wife ever again.
D) wife had so many abortions before marriage that now it was revealed (after marriage) that she is barren... thus why husband is no longer attracted to wifey... and in that scenario, nothing you do/say can make this man be attracted again to this woman who entered this marriage under false pretense.
E) husband only married wifey because of family/religious/social PRESSURE and to please them all, but deep down inside he was never remotely attracted to wifey and he has a side chic with whom he is fully in love and living his best life, sexually and otherwise (but he cant divorce wifey for obvious reasons)... and in that scenario, nothing you do/say can make this man be attracted to his wifey. NADA!

...but hey, feel free to tell me how you would fix the above 5 scenarios i just pointed out.

Mindlog:


What level of Marriage and Family Therapy certifications do your therapists have?

Are you married? If no, then stop contributing on marital issues till you get married. Just read to learn for now