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Re: Is It Wrong To Confront A Pastor Politely by Otitijerome(m): 10:26am On Mar 26, 2023 |
Madam you and your family should leave the church. Don't confront him physically you can call him. But leave that church. 1 Like |
Re: Is It Wrong To Confront A Pastor Politely by Mummytoo: 10:26am On Mar 26, 2023 |
dnawah: I will but not urgently ...after few months I have forgiven him already, but what he did is giving me doubts about other prophecies, so I'll leave to a non - prophetic church 1 Like |
Re: Is It Wrong To Confront A Pastor Politely by lishman1010: 10:30am On Mar 26, 2023 |
Ma, God is not a respecter of person as such we are all first and formost children of God psalms 82:6 However his position as a pastor is a sacred office God gave him for the eddification of the body of christ; so the fact that u are grudged is an indication that he did not fulfil the scriptures Eph 4:11-12 And going to met him is scriptural Matt.18:17 Fod bles you for ur sincerity shalom. |
Re: Is It Wrong To Confront A Pastor Politely by ChEkWaSIyKe(f): 10:34am On Mar 26, 2023 |
Go and give testimony in church then use that opportunity correct all that the pastor said that didn't happen. |
Re: Is It Wrong To Confront A Pastor Politely by WantsandMore: 10:35am On Mar 26, 2023 |
Mummytoo:as it should be but the Bible teaches us to respect authority, going through the elders would mean you r a person of wisdom, but pethaps you could discard this & escalate it via confrontation, cos we always don't have the full answer, whatever happens next would be the consequences of your actions or inaction, don't forget, you brought this reality upon yourself & your household which you admitted it greatly helped. Well pray to God to guide your steps though. |
Re: Is It Wrong To Confront A Pastor Politely by Onyiiobi7735(m): 10:36am On Mar 26, 2023 |
neonly:Exactly my point,bro. God will see you through. 1 Like |
Re: Is It Wrong To Confront A Pastor Politely by Mummytoo: 10:37am On Mar 26, 2023 |
WantsandMore:Thank u dear 1 Like |
Re: Is It Wrong To Confront A Pastor Politely by bong4(m): 10:38am On Mar 26, 2023 |
Mummytoo: Someone attacked your family like that and you are talking of approaching him politely? Someone you would have confronted right there in church the moment he called you out. Dey there dey play! |
Re: Is It Wrong To Confront A Pastor Politely by pansophist(m): 10:38am On Mar 26, 2023 |
Authority that can not be questioned is tyranny. 16 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: Is It Wrong To Confront A Pastor Politely by naturefellow(m): 10:38am On Mar 26, 2023 |
yrhuhfy113:#1. Pastor lacks discretion. Seeking cheap popularity by revealing confidential and sensitive details from counselling session. Pastors act as counsellors, but he must be very ethical. Can only share stories with consent, and anonymity of the counselled. #2. Secular counsellors or therapists are better off, if they can be afforded. |
Re: Is It Wrong To Confront A Pastor Politely by postmann: 10:41am On Mar 26, 2023 |
paxonel: Everything you said was on point except returning tithes. That's plain dumb. |
Re: Is It Wrong To Confront A Pastor Politely by Waffarianman(m): 10:42am On Mar 26, 2023 |
Stop going to that church and whenever the pastor ask you and your husband anything kukuma tell ahm he fvckup and move on. Na so my matta just b ooo 1 Like |
Re: Is It Wrong To Confront A Pastor Politely by Ever8090: 10:44am On Mar 26, 2023 |
Mummytoo:I quoted you directly so that you will get my message clear and make sure you act on it. First, that man is not even a man of God, he just used that event to upgrade his trade of merchandising the word of God. Remember that your husband's image us at stake her to the glory of one con man's business, do you need to redeem the innocent man's image by making the correction publicly to hearing of the congregation that there was a misunderstanding to that story. If the pastor do not like your action or even pray f he likes it, ..still quit the B/center and look for a church and start attending rather than following such a being |
Re: Is It Wrong To Confront A Pastor Politely by Bahamas95(m): 10:44am On Mar 26, 2023 |
Any day my wife discuss our matrimonial issue with pastor marriage go end dat day.....I don't give a damn about these pastors. Most of them are pastopreneurs. Corporate fraudsters in suit. 2 Likes |
Re: Is It Wrong To Confront A Pastor Politely by Uchedizzy(f): 11:05am On Mar 26, 2023 |
SuperiorIQ:Am interested |
Re: Is It Wrong To Confront A Pastor Politely by DJInfluence: 11:08am On Mar 26, 2023 |
Don't confront him. Wait for the next testimony time, pick up the mic and testify that God has opened your eyes to the lies your pastor told. When you are done, leave the church and don't look back. It's what I'd do. 1 Like |
Re: Is It Wrong To Confront A Pastor Politely by excellencyabia1: 11:08am On Mar 26, 2023 |
Confront sounds like quarreling with him but i prefer the word " talk to" nevertheless, one of the characteristics of a pastor is in secret keeping. Even if he wants to reference an issue he shouldn't call your family out that sounds embarrassing. So go talk to him but i have my doubt that you can ever feel comfortable there again even other's will find it difficult talking to him about personal stuffs. Take heart |
Re: Is It Wrong To Confront A Pastor Politely by missionmex(m): 11:11am On Mar 26, 2023 |
On the pulpit no, outside the pulpit why not. |
Re: Is It Wrong To Confront A Pastor Politely by ignatiuschinedu(m): 11:12am On Mar 26, 2023 |
Don't confront him, instead confront yourself for involving another party into your marriage. 1 Like |
Re: Is It Wrong To Confront A Pastor Politely by kwasoly(m): 11:26am On Mar 26, 2023 |
Mummytoo: Which church be that first make I confirm something. |
Re: Is It Wrong To Confront A Pastor Politely by Mummytoo: 11:28am On Mar 26, 2023 |
bong4: Immediately I started objecting they quickly removed the mic from my mouth. God is seeing all of us including the pastors |
Re: Is It Wrong To Confront A Pastor Politely by Mummytoo: 11:32am On Mar 26, 2023 |
Ever8090: Thank u dear, today as I came out for testimony I declared how loving my husband is, and that I'll marry him again even in my next life. I can't even look my pastor in d face again, God will help us |
Re: Is It Wrong To Confront A Pastor Politely by PythonPros: 11:36am On Mar 26, 2023 |
Confront and politely. An oxymoron 1 Like |
Re: Is It Wrong To Confront A Pastor Politely by Mummytoo: 11:37am On Mar 26, 2023 |
Natbrowny:Ur reply sounded funny, I first him down and told him not to be angry that something serious happened he got upset, I did damage control when testifying that my husband is the best man |
Re: Is It Wrong To Confront A Pastor Politely by Mummytoo: 11:38am On Mar 26, 2023 |
Nebes:Thank u dear |
Re: Is It Wrong To Confront A Pastor Politely by Originalsly: 11:39am On Mar 26, 2023 |
Mummytoo: It's not wrong to confront him ... and how you want to do it is the right way. After all .... you are going to testify. Bear in mind ... the Bible warns you that there will be wolves in sheep's clothing ... not everyone that says he is of God is of God ... and it is for you to discern from their words and actions who is who. Now how can this man be of God when he a flat out liar? ... scandalous? ... a man of loose lips or unbridled tongue? .. a family divider? ... and said all this to the congregation with you being present? ....how can he be of God? Now that you've discerned the wolf in sheep's clothing you should no longer respect him as a pastor and have the courage and confidence to go up and set the record straight in front of the very congregation. You should not allow him to tarnish your husband's name publicly and confront him privately. He will not allow you to say much so you have to make your point clear and fast. He is looking to be praised ....so I would suggest you start on that note to swell his head. May God be praised and whatever problems we face let us take it to Him in prayer. There is no marriage without problems and all such problems can be sorted out through prayer. I had mine... and took it to Pastor... and I'm here to testify that he listened ... prayed about it and the problem was no more. It happened so fast ... I wasn't expecting it to go away so fast ... God really works in mysterious ways ... I also wasn't expecting what I said in private to be made public nor expected to hear lies added on to bring down my husband ... things that I never said were said and I would very much like Pastor to confess before you about the lies he added on ... like my husband bla bla bla .... and bla.bla.bla ... how can a man of God be doing such? ... for what purpose?. Pastor? It doesn't matter what he says ... church people already knew he was wrong to tell them your story .... and added lies. When they shove you away and be marching you out of church let not thine mouth he silent ... keep testifying ... that now you know he is a busy body and anyone with ears should take note. Make that your last visit to that so called church. Expose him you must. |
Re: Is It Wrong To Confront A Pastor Politely by Mummytoo: 11:39am On Mar 26, 2023 |
WhisperedNoise: He got upset, I begged him and did damage control today while testifying I corrected everything 1 Like |
Re: Is It Wrong To Confront A Pastor Politely by Mummytoo: 11:42am On Mar 26, 2023 |
DavSagacity:Thank u dear, I did that while testifying today, but I didn't say I told him some of the things he said because if I talk somehow they will remove the mic and correct u, its that bad, I have forgiven him, I pray my husband heals too |
Re: Is It Wrong To Confront A Pastor Politely by Mummytoo: 11:44am On Mar 26, 2023 |
Analyst7:Thank u dear, I corrected everything while testifying today |
Re: Is It Wrong To Confront A Pastor Politely by Mummytoo: 11:46am On Mar 26, 2023 |
VIPAFRICAN:U are funny, no man is an island, we humans need each other |
Re: Is It Wrong To Confront A Pastor Politely by JustcallmeFavou(f): 11:52am On Mar 26, 2023 |
Mummytoo: It is good to seek counsel but mind who you seek counsel from or open your heart to. Most pastors, you will open up to them. And the next Sunday in church your matter will be the topic or sermon to be discussed. A few will do you the favor of not mentioning your name. A pastor has betrayed me once, my partner betrays me each time we have the littlest misunderstanding. So now I have learnt to seek counsel from the word of God or the Holy spirit. That way no one will hurt or betray me in terms of sensitive things I confined in them with! |
Re: Is It Wrong To Confront A Pastor Politely by colestephan86: 11:56am On Mar 26, 2023 |
Mummytoo:First you should never approach anyone including your pastor that you have not satisfied as matured to handle any matter be it marital or otherwise. Your pastors are not superhumans you can confront them when the F.up. I remembered my pastor in mfm that year, we do business he no wan pay my money, I wrote to olukoya direct. |
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