She has been seeing another man loooo. Sorry

snthesis:
Got a shocker recently, my wife suddenly says i am not romantic after 10years of marriage and having 3 children... should i be worried
we got married young and she now in her early 30s

p.s
she now wants to get a tattoo, piercing. waistbeads and wear leg chain

Schedule a meet with a sex teraphist...
I guess she's tired with the daddy and mummy style everything on bed...

Try be creative with ur sex life.. intimacy is important..

You may watch some adult movie to give u some inspiration... some ladies are to shy to discuss this with their husband... and it made dem feel less romantic to dere husband...

bukatyne:


Have you asked her?

I see you making several assumptions (majorly negative) about your wife all over the thread.

Perhaps you created this thread as a validation for the negative feelings against her or you are just trolling.

Anyways, good luck.

is messing with my emotions a positive thing, i haven't been settled all day, this is my form of reprieve release

vincenteger:
It's not everything women say to you that you carry to heart. Most times they don't mean it that way.

Try and settle your issues within yourself rather than bring them here. People will only advice you based on how they feel.

SIMPson, u seems not to even care about parts she wants tattoo, piece body and leg chain all of a sudden.

Ur type ur friend go yansh ur wife and you go on Gen for them

snthesis:
Got a shocker recently, my wife suddenly says i am not romantic after 10years of marriage and having 3 children... should i be worried
we got married young and she now in her early 30s

p.s
she now wants to get a tattoo, piercing. waistbeads and wear leg chain

She don dey enter Olosho level ooo

Samantha124:
SA guys are not stingy, they just want to teach us their women the importance of being independent women who can provide for themselves even without a man in their lives.

We don't have to go around sleeping with men for money and I'd rather be with a man who encourages me to make my own than a man that's always gonna give me money for everything.

How come those real women that you're talking about end up changing immediately their husbands start having financial problems?

Blah blah blah... Say what u know and stop stereotyping because of what u heard from a small group of naysayers. It's like me saying y'all are cheap hoes by default from what I have heard. Learn not to generalize. Have a nice day ✌️

snthesis:

is messing with my emotions a positive thing, i haven't been settled all day, this is my form of reprieve release

Interesting.

So you are hurt that your wife said you are unromantic.

Instead to prove her wrong, ask her how or improve in your romance, you join a bashfest of your wife on NL.

A number of the guys bashing her don't even have toastees talk more of girlfriends; some others are reading materials to make them more romantic.

This is an ample opportunity to bring your wife closer yet you are throwing it away.

There is a way you would engage your wife romantically that she would discard all the ideas of extra fashion she has in mind.

You have built something for ten years, build a little more, push a little more & you would see great dividends at the end.

Good luck.

You're probably too stiff and conventional with her and You've become too predictable, women get tired of predictable Men... Try to be spontaneous with your ways with her now, I see so many useful advice up there, follow them... If you take the wrongs ones you'll distroy your marriage for just something that could be settled with a date out and a fantastic sex session.

Munzy14:

She felt caged then, now she is about experience it all..She get am carry over, she want re-write the one she failed..🤣🤣🤣

I hukwa gi ehn...😂

She didn't explore... Even though street been dey her eyes. Have a honest conversation with her. There's room for improvement but If she wan enter street back... Get a divorce make young boys use her catch cruise. Experience is the best teacher.

mariahAngel:


I hukwa gi ehn...😂

😊😊

advanceDNA:
Should we tell him?

MBA O!

time to rock and roll

snthesis:
Got a shocker recently, my wife suddenly says i am not romantic after 10years of marriage and having 3 children... should i be worried
we got married young and she now in her early 30s

p.s
she now wants to get a tattoo, piercing. waistbeads and wear leg chain

Don't overly worry yourself! We as humans have different love languages. Perhaps that of your wife is Act of Service. Like the little things you did for her during courtship, and the early stages of the marriage. That you have stopped doing.

Maybe because you are carried away by work pressure, and other responsibilities that has made you loose the romantic side in your marriage.

Please, don't listen to the bitter comments here asking you to divorce her, or that she might be cheating, or has gone loose. Do you have proof that she is cheating? Can you prove that she has gone rogue simply because she wants to start wearing leg chain, waist beads, pierce her nose, etc?

So for the time being, ask your wife how you can improve and be better? And if there are things she's also doing you don't like, tell her as well.

For the waist beads, leg chains, piercing, etc. that she mentioned. If you are comfortable with them, allow her. And if not, you can tell her that you are only comfortable with one of these things she mentioned. So that peace can reign.

If after following this advice she still complains. Then you have to search deeper, there would surely be more to it.

snthesis:
Got a shocker recently, my wife suddenly says i am not romantic after 10years of marriage and having 3 children... should i be worried
we got married young and she now in her early 30s

p.s
she now wants to get a tattoo, piercing. waistbeads and wear leg chain

If you are a christian involve your pastor.Also pray for her by yourself .

-This is one of the dangers of marrying one wife.

-OP, do yourself a favour; be a man and go for your second wife. There are loads of young girls (18 - 25) looking for comfort, protection, love and marriage. You have done enough for that wife of yours. 10 years of providing and marrying a woman. Please other younger women need you. Our society also need you too, so many young women on the streets need a home.

Berrityga:
Thats why divorce is an option. If you both are tired get a divorce so our data can rest mbok.

You missed the actual point, wife didnt not say she nolonger loves husband, she simply said he is not romantic, being romantic for example buying her gifts, like as simple as roses, even teady bear, or openly showing affection for his wife

There are many ways of being romantic and being romantic differ from person to person but the goal is showing love affection towards the other person by doing things they love

rickleye:


Haha, it’s called midlife crisis.

Just tell her she is right and start the dating process again.
Many of us think our wives are like our mothers . Marry and keep for home. The game is changing bro. I am sure she has a friend on WhatsApp with whom she has discussed this with already.

1. Plan a date nite every week . Go catch a flick and have someone watch the kids.
2. Do something together with the family once a month. Go to Olumo Rock and Beach . A family outing .
3. Don’t forget her birthday make it exciting ( get her flowers or money - depending on her love language)
4. Make an effort to show PDA infront of the kids. Steal a kiss 💋, slap her buttocks , call her sexy mamacita or siren.
5. Make sex impromptu. After coitus , ask would like a glass of water or wine to relax ( she will laugh and say , thank you yes or no )
6. If you are just Spooning dude , change into missionary or doggy . ( now sex and love are not the same) . Massage and ask her where she may want to be touched to excite her …

Make the effort !!! You might not be comfortable doing any of the above but as you mentioned it appears she never “ lived “ done anything she wanted to do . Her first born is 10.
And it’s been mummy this , mummy that !

I would give her the leg chain *

Don’t ignore her warnings or else someone else will fill the void.

All this for a woman? What marriage vows?

ZIMDRILL:


You missed the actual point, wife didnt not say she nolonger loves husband, she simply said he is not romantic, being romantic for example buying her gifts, like as simple as roses, even teady bear, or openly showing affection for his wife

There are many ways of being romantic and being romantic differ from person to person but the goal is showing love affection towards the other person by doing things they love

oga mi. When your with someone for long you get used to the things they do, and you crave a new adventure. The lady just wants a new adventure. You can't tell me the man doesn't buy suya, and other things when coming home, you can't tell me he doesn't give her money or buy her new things. Fear Nigerian women. They are never contented.

I'm not just saying based on hearsay, I also see your brothers here in SA using money to buy women's love.

When our brothers are busy trying to show us the importance of making our own money, your brothers come here and try to corrupt SA ladies by using money to buy their love, making some of them lazy.

Personally I've never seen or heard of a Nigerian man who doesn't use money to get a woman's attention, so my apologies if you may feel offended.

Killbillz:


Blah blah blah... Say what u know and stop stereotyping because of what u heard from a small group of naysayers. It's like me saying y'all are cheap hoes by default from what I have heard. Learn not to generalize. Have a nice day ✌️

snthesis:
Got a shocker recently, my wife suddenly says i am not romantic after 10years of marriage and having 3 children... should i be worried
we got married young and she now in her early 30s

p.s
she now wants to get a tattoo, piercing. waistbeads and wear leg chain

Chase that woman away immediately and accept it that you do not have a wife anymore.A lot has gone on in her Ming & her life that you are not privy to.

Berrityga:
oga mi. When your with someone for long you get used to the things they do, and you crave a new adventure. The lady just wants a new adventure. You can't tell me the man doesn't buy suya, and other things when coming home, you can't tell me he doesn't give her money or buy her new things. Fear Nigerian women. They are never contented.

my respond was towards the words divorce, there is no need to even mention the word divorce

Samantha124:
Are you romantic though?😂😂😂

It has nothing to do with him.The woman has moved on mentally.He has to accept it and move on mentally too.If he tries to please her , that will be his biggest mistake.

Ashawo dey her eyes...!! That marriage is currently sitting on gunpowder...

JustcallmeFavou:


Don't overly worry yourself! We as humans have different love languages. Perhaps that of your wife is Act of Service. Like the little things you did for her during courtship, and the early stages of the marriage. That you have stopped doing.

Maybe because you are carried away by work pressure, and other responsibilities that has made you loose the romantic side in your marriage.

Please, don't listen to the bitter comments here asking you to divorce her, or that she might be cheating, or has gone loose. Do you have proof that she is cheating? Can you prove that she has gone rogue simply because she wants to start wearing leg chain, waist beads, pierce her nose, etc?

So for the time being, ask your wife how you can improve and be better? And if there are things she's also doing you don't like, tell her as well.

For the waist beads, leg chains, piercing, etc. that she mentioned. If you are comfortable with them, allow her. And if not, you can tell her that you are only comfortable with one of these things she mentioned. So that peace can reign.

If after following this advice she still complains. Then you have to search deeper, there would surely be more to it.

You want him to tell her she is putting on weight?

How do you think that will go down with her?

If he told her that, and she comes to NL to ask for advice, will majority of you women also be saying she needs to ask him what weight he would like her to be? Or you women would be telling her "he is a bastard" for commenting on her weight when she has given him 3 kids?

rickleye:


Haha, it’s called midlife crisis.

Just tell her she is right and start the dating process again.
Many of us think our wives are like our mothers . Marry and keep for home. The game is changing bro. I am sure she has a friend on WhatsApp with whom she has discussed this with already.

1. Plan a date nite every week . Go catch a flick and have someone watch the kids.
2. Do something together with the family once a month. Go to Olumo Rock and Beach . A family outing .
3. Don’t forget her birthday make it exciting ( get her flowers or money - depending on her love language)
4. Make an effort to show PDA infront of the kids. Steal a kiss 💋, slap her buttocks , call her sexy mamacita or siren.
5. Make sex impromptu. After coitus , ask would like a glass of water or wine to relax ( she will laugh and say , thank you yes or no )
6. If you are just Spooning dude , change into missionary or doggy . ( now sex and love are not the same) . Massage and ask her where she may want to be touched to excite her …

Make the effort !!! You might not be comfortable doing any of the above but as you mentioned it appears she never “ lived “ done anything she wanted to do . Her first born is 10.
And it’s been mummy this , mummy that !

I would give her the leg chain *

Don’t ignore her warnings or else someone else will fill the void.

The most sensible comment thus far...u nailed it. No be small" marry keep for house" while dey hang out with their friends..most men think after marriage that's d end..very funny!! They cease making effort after all politician no dey campaign again after e win election!! @Op u should be happy she said it,it means she still loves you sef. Rather than running here,you should have a heart to heart talk with her and listen..Op even said "after 10 years of marriage"...just 10 years and you are boring her with your being unromantic !
For d tattoos and d rest tell her your take,it's not that deep!!

bukatyne:


Interesting.

So you are hurt that your wife said you are unromantic.

Instead to prove her wrong, ask her how or improve in your romance, you join a bashfest of your wife on NL.

[b]A number of the guys bashing her don't even have toastees talk more of girlfriends; [/b]some others are reading materials to make them more romantic.

This is an ample opportunity to bring your wife closer yet you are throwing it away.

There is a way you would engage your wife romantically that she would discard all the ideas of extra fashion she has in mind.

You have built something for ten years, build a little more, push a little more & you would see great dividends at the end.

Good luck.

-You think we are all kids here. .

-Mr. OP this is your chance to restore order in your home and life. Go and marry another younger wife (18 - 25 years) for your sanity and old age. DM me if you need any assistance. A woman of over 33 is already becoming a Mother Hen. Let her enter street, men of the street can't wait to welcome her.
-Look after yourself man, and be very selfish about it.

snthesis:
Got a shocker recently, my wife suddenly says i am not romantic after 10years of marriage and having 3 children... should i be worried
we got married young and she now in her early 30s

p.s
she now wants to get a tattoo, piercing. waistbeads and wear leg chain

is time to paying closer attention to her phone without her knowing. I believe one dude is now deceiving her with sweet words .

Again hit the gym, and start looking sexy if you’re not .

snthesis:
■ Got a shocker recently, my wife suddenly says i am not romantic after 10years of marriage and having 3 children... should i be worried we got married young and she now in her early 30s
p.s. she now wants to get a tattoo, piercing. waistbeads and wear leg chain

1. Seems your wife is not ready to let go of her youth. You have work to do. You don't need to look like the small boys out there but you need to begin working on yourself to show her you can still be impressive to her. Start working on yourself and your looks so you can continue to charm her. Lose the weight, get some muscles going, and a flat tummy, and clean up your look even when you are home with her. Also, get training to become more romantic as a man and a lover.

alobright17:
is time to paying closer attention to her phone without her knowing. I believe one dude is now deceiving her with sweet words .Again hit the gym, and start looking sexy if you’re not .

Exactly!

Sorry Bro, your wife is a gonner

vincenteger:
It's not everything women say to you that you carry to heart. Most times they don't mean it that way.

Try and settle your issues within yourself rather than bring them here. People will only advice you based on how they feel.

lie lie women mean every word they tell you they don’t just say things without meaning it jus that they can easily backdown to avoid issues especially when they don’t want to lose you.