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When she was not talking about marriage, should i be the one to talk about it ?

She was so comfortable she forgot about marriage. EVEN her relatives /parents never mentioned about marriage .This is someone i still love despite all odds .Even if she comes back now, i will gladly accept her back but she is so stubborn .Even her relatives are fucking stubborn too

Only God knows why marriage didnt come up all these years??

Only God knows [/q


Just listen to yourself. Man, you are not a serious guy. I pity the new unfortunate girl. You will Bleep that too for another ten years and after she shown you sege, you will come here crying that she went away with your house documents. Nonsense

olabrinks:
your new girlfriend will show you worse if you marry her. You never see anything. Continue.

Says a lady at 35 still hunting for a guy

Is this a joke?.. she came to loot your house in your absence and you're here asking for what to do.
Walai if I no pack soldiers go flog her sister and all her family members, make I know wetin happen. What rubbish.

edoncast:



Says a lady at 35 still hunting for a guy

im married baby boy, in my 20s. Try again.

olabrinks:
im married baby boy, in my 20s. Try again.

U r married on nairaland right ?

edoncast:



In all these sa ,i will still love to marry her cos i still love her but i also love my new girl .She is the best thing that i have ever happened to me this year .She is a good girl and if my ex stays too late to come back ,i will marry my new girl this year .She is almost through in school .Just a session left for her in school.

My ex lack of patience and ability to think freely without her relative bad input caused her all these

She lacked patience after 10-years of cohabitation? Lol. I hope you're not a troll.

You said her relatives didn't mention marriage either. In other words, nobody was pressuring you and you've had more than enough time, so what input are you suddenly talking about? You've a 5-year old, which means even 5-years after the kid was born, you didn't pay her bride price or plan to marry her, up until this current situation.

Three months or when did your relationship end (after 10-years of cohabitation) you've jumped into another relationship with another girl who apparently also lives with you now, yet somehow you still love your ex? Lol

You're just a confused somebody. Continue your relationship with your new gf and leave your babymama be. Just don't neglect your kid, as he's the victim in all of these.

Exodus15v11:
She lacked patience after 10-years of cohabitation? Lol. I hope you're not a troll.

You said her relatives didn't mention marriage either. In other words, nobody was pressuring you and you've had more than enough time, so what input are you suddenly talking about? You've a 5-year old, which means even 5-years after the kid was born, you didn't pay her bride price or plan to marry her, up until this current situation.

Three months or when did your relationship end (after 10-years of cohabitation) you've jumped into another relationship with another girl who apparently also lives with you now, yet somehow you still love your ex? Lol

You're just a confused somebody. Continue your relationship with your new gf and leave your babymama be. Just don't neglect your kid, as he's the victim in all of these.

So did i tell u my new gf stays with me ?

She is not pls .

edoncast:



U r married on nairaland right ?

You don’t have any level. Serial baby daddy crying online because his girlfriend took his property. You are not a man, you don’t deserve any respect at all we look down on people like you. You do not hold any position in society, just creating broken homes and moving around like a child. This your new dumbo girlfriend, she will probably be the one to kill you sef. Nonsense.

edoncast:


So did i tell u my new gf stays with me ?

She is not pls .

Well, she can't anyway. Not when your ex don remove everything for house now 😁😁😁😅😅😅

olabrinks:
You don’t have any level. Serial baby daddy crying online because his girlfriend took his property. You are not a man, you don’t deserve any respect at all we look down on people like you. You do not hold any position in society, just creating broken homes and moving around like a child. This your new dumbo girlfriend, she will probably be the one to kill you sef. Nonsense.

So i should not cry cos of my flash and certificates ?

Exodus15v11:
Well, she can't. Not when your ex don remove everything for house now 😁😁😁😅😅😅

But i have replaced everything .She was even telling me to wait first but i decided to buy them.stop writing gibberish

edoncast:
My ex who i was not yet married to came to my house in my absence to pack my things away .

She had a son for me and he will be 5 years next month .She packed on january 10th when i was in the office. That day she packed ,she still called to ask for money to refill gas which i sent. Later in the evenning ,i called her on my way home to inform her i was hungry ,she replied and told me she already left .I rushed home and find out she actually did .I have visited my son more than 6 times after they left on january 10th .

A week after ,she came to carry my wall fan and my stabilizer .I have to let that go because i was careless not to have changed the key .

I have made several attempts to reconcile though i didnt beat her or maltreat her .Her only problem with me was that i neglected her families and sometimes rude to them .This is a lady we have been cohabiting since 2013 when i helped her for admission into my school.

None of her relatives have contributed a dime to her for the ten years we were together .I will only appreciate her mum for her efforts while she was alive .She is the last born with a sister and a brother .

I was once a good boy to their family when i was doing very fine then .Things went bad when i stopped been nice to their families and her brother ,sister husband and her sister ganged up against me .


I called her 2 days ago that i needed to see my son and she said i should wait for her in Pen cinema Agege TFC.While i was waiting ,they were in my house with a car to pack the underlisted items ! Please ,what should i do ?She told my sister was flaunting my new girl on social media including my whatsapp status but she doesnt want to come back to me ..no be juju be that ? This is someone i went to a radio programme for .The presenter even called her to come back to me which she promised the man.My relatives too took so many steps but failed.




Make una help me beg her to bring my documents and flash .Abi make i paste her no here ?

They met my new gf at home and packed all my things .My gf called me but they have left before i could get home .My sister told me to leave everythimg foe her to allow peace reign that she will return the documents and flash later but i dont trust that bitch .Imagine my gf told me her sister was the one shouting CARRY EVERYTHING !HE CANT DO ANYTHING ..They even attempt to remove my TV but my ex told them there was no time again cos i might meet them at home .

These are the things carted away .Those items marked have been replaced that day and yesterday .The one with red mark are yet to be retrieved or gotten back .


My gf power bank ✅
50k ❌
Mattress ✅
Iron✅
Gas ✅
Pots and all kitchen utensils✅
All my certificates ❌ including NYSC .i have the soft copies in the flash she even took
My pictures❌
Foodstuffs ✅
Drugs ❌ like PCM,ampiclox,flagyl and so on
Diaries ❌
Waste baskets ✅
Packer ✅
My son clothes from cradle till 4 years ❌
My baths ✅
Electric blender ✅
Toasting machine❌
My clothes ❌
Stabilizer ❌
Wall fan ❌
Shoe rack ❌
Small android phone ❌
Android charger ✅
My id cards 4 ❌
My company bank statements ❌
Frying pan❌
My company diaries ❌
Wall clock ❌
Flash drive ❌ This is the mmost cherishable items and i am sure you know why

I think you should make a police report with the listed items and tell the police to take the matter to court

Once you take the matter to court they will serve them notice and that is where their stubbornness and stupidity will stop


Forget about your child which she will use as a weapon

That will take care of itself

Once they see that you have gone to court
Make sure she returns every thing then you guys can think of making peace

But I will not advice you to get back with her on any relationship

edoncast:


So i should not cry cos of my flash and certificates ?

if you like cry blood of tears, it doesn’t change the fact that you are wicked. She supposed to even throw acid on your body as per a true Yoruba woman, wasting her time for 10 years and thinking you can get away with it. I would’ve taken more than your property, I would’ve taken something you can never replace.

edoncast:



But i have replaced everything .She was even telling me to wait first but i decided to buy them.stop writing gibberish

You've replaced everything? Didn't you mark some items as not yet replaced? Cohabitating with someone for 10-years and giving rubbish excuse. Stop being a confused nonentity and move on.

edoncast:



In all these sa ,i will still love to marry her cos i still love her but i also love my new girl .She is the best thing that i have ever happened to me this year .She is a good girl and if my ex stays too late to come back ,i will marry my new girl this year .She is almost through in school .Just a session left for her in school.

My ex lack of patience and ability to think freely without her relative bad input caused her all these

You are a confused soul and you have a long way to go. How can you say you still love to marry her while at the same time professing same love to your new girl.

You are even waiting for the so called ex to come back so that you can discard the new one. You are truly women time waster and wicked!

What happened to you was a terrible thing.
You must be having it rough at the moment.
But man you made some wrong decisions in the past and they are haunting you now.

You took in a wife for 10 years without paying her bride price even though you were taking care of all the responsibilities that qualify you as the husband.

That first decision caused a chain reaction to the rest of the issues you are having to this moment.
This is why the redpillers are graciously and vigorously adamant in spreading their Gospel, which that states you should not take on the responsibility of a girl you are not married to but you did, and it stretched for 10 years and had a son. If the breakup happened like 4-5 years into the relationship and without a son, then I would say it is not your fault.

How old are you man?
You already have a girlfriend just after 3 months of leaving a 10 years relationship? Are you also saying you still love her and would marry her if she comes back?
Bro this matter is somehow...

olabrinks:
You don’t have any level. Serial baby daddy crying online because his girlfriend took his property. You are not a man, you don’t deserve any respect at all we look down on people like you. You do not hold any position in society, just creating broken homes and moving around like a child. This your new dumbo girlfriend, she will probably be the one to kill you sef. Nonsense.

Low pressure madam. Marriage issue dem no the do I too know, it's like stray bullets...
With what this young man have described despite he kept repeating he loves her and don't mind taking her back, I believe getting married to the lady would have been a total waste of time, because a divorce is certain to happen.
When two incompactable fellow get married, even if they have 50 kids, they will definitely go their separate ways on day.
Young man do what makes you happy and right in the eyes of God , definitely alot of folks won't understand. So I advice you forger about what man will say.

4ward4:


Low pressure madam. Marriage issue dem no the do I too know, it's like stray bullets...
With what this young man have described despite he kept repeating he loves her and don't mind taking her back, I believe getting married to the lady would have been a total waste of time, because a divorce is certain to happen.
When two incompactable fellow get married, even if they have 50 kids, they will definitely go their separate ways on day.
Young man do what makes you happy and right in the eyes of God , definitely alot of folks won't understand. So I advice you forger about what man will say.

nothing can justify cohabiting with a woman for 10 years. If she was so bad he would’ve left after 2 years. It doesn’t take 10 years for a man to realise he doesn’t want to commit to a woman. Truth is he will never ever marry that girl.. he has seen her finish even if he decides to take her back. He has pushed that girl to the limit and frustrated her life for the past 10 years, she has finally reacted by ransacking his home and now he wants to use that as a justification for his wickedness.

I don't know how some people think.
Things were ok for you but you dint marry her and still you dint let her go , so you know it's your child that is joining you guys...
If you perform your responsibility as a father she won't Denny you access to your child...
But you chose to waste 10years of her life and you think she would just leave without a fight....
You paid for the 10years or more you've been banging her 3x on weekends and 2x on weekdays....

olabrinks:
nothing can justify cohabiting with a woman for 10 years. If she was so bad he would’ve left after 2 years. It doesn’t take 10 years for a man to realise he doesn’t want to commit to a woman. Truth is he will never ever marry that girl.. he has seen her finish even if he decides to take her back. He has pushed that girl to the limit and frustrated her life for the past 10 years, she has finally reacted by ransacking his home and now he wants to use that as a justification for his wickedness.

The guy is just stupid wicked and heartless....
He just wasted the girls life and expect her not to fight back .
She is nice some women would have killed him....

edoncast:



When she was not talking about marriage, should i be the one to talk about it ?

She was so comfortable she forgot about marriage. EVEN her relatives /parents never mentioned about marriage .This is someone i still love despite all odds .Even if she comes back now, i will gladly accept her back but she is so stubborn .Even her relatives are fucking stubborn too

Only God knows why marriage didnt come up all these years??

Only God knows

OGA stop talking nonsense na, you took 10years, 10 fucking good years plus a child, and you still expect her to ask for your hand in marriage? Your Village people done finally chop your brain...
That’s wickedness you displayed to your baby mama... even if you must move on, you don’t need slamming it on her face...
And for your new girl, don’t expect full commitment from her, she will have back up plan for this your wicked act,..
anyways you own many faults here but you want to paint the girl back...
if a guy do that for your only daughter in future, will you still go and hug that man?
You are lucky I can’t reach the middle of your head from the phone, by now I should have delivered hot koko knock for your head...

Hohoho e shock am Egbon expects his fellow alufa mails to be bashing the mother of his child and women in general but the comments are not commenting 🤭.

Most women don't just up and leave an environment where her mind is at rest, they leave when the environment is too toxic for them to cope. Only that woman and God know what she must have passed through before finally moving out. A man that is already housing another lover in less than 3 months of her moving out, speaks volumes about the type of person you are. God knows how many STDs she must have treated before finally running for her life. Op you deserve what that woman did to you, you really did her dirty.

You have yourself to blame! The first thing I did when madam left, was to change all the key locks, that is why she cant come back and raid my home! I like food and I was afraid she can come in anytime and poison the food! No big deal in changing your locks.


Your wife must be from Akwa Ibom! Na them dey feel entitled to their inlaw's wealth

dawnomike:
Involve the police but be ready to part with like 20k and get a lawyer involved... Increase the 50k they took to like 350k. Let the begging start from there.

OR

For the sake of your future connection with your son, retrieve your certificate and let the rest go!!!

Increase 50k to 350k got me laughing and brought back a memory. Years back I left a rented apartment. My wall to wall rug was still on the floor, locked the apartment and was still with the keys cos my payment was still running. The landlord in his usual troublesome manner was desperate to give out the place, broke the door and removed my rug and kept outside. I got him arrested, he was locked up for days and I sued him for damages. Now the police kept asking me if I didn't leave gold for safekeeping under the rug. I told them nothing of such. They kept asking & getting same reply until they bursted out & called me a fool. Police wanted me to claim that I had gold kept under the rug.

Anyway to op's story, it's sad to see love turn this way. Both sides will have their stories. It's his choice to fight or flee or makeup.

olabrinks:
nothing can justify cohabiting with a woman for 10 years. If she was so bad he would’ve left after 2 years. It doesn’t take 10 years for a man to realise he doesn’t want to commit to a woman. Truth is he will never ever marry that girl.. he has seen her finish even if he decides to take her back. He has pushed that girl to the limit and frustrated her life for the past 10 years, she has finally reacted by ransacking his home and now he wants to use that as a justification for his wickedness.

I won't justify or support the cohabitation. But mind you, what I can deduce was that ,it wasn't a 10 years cohabitation, but a 10 years relationship. The girl went to school under his support, that is should be 4yrs plus a one year service. The 5th year a child came into the picture, most likely when they both got to understand the can't tolerate each other . Having a child with a manipulating baby mama will amount to a permanent tie with her,if you aren't a firm decision making man. You can still hear him speaking of taking her back if her attitude changes...

Funny you too don they back a girl for the past ten years, you got a son through her and she is not fit to be your wife. What if she is your sister will you like her to be treated that way. Get your certificate back and flash and move ahead. But know that your new girl friend is also a daughter of eve they are same same

edoncast:



When she was not talking about marriage, should i be the one to talk about it?

Between the both of you, who was supposed to talk about marriage? Her? Are you okay? A man initiates marriage, not a woman. So, you expected her to keep waiting and living in your house till she expires? This is why women should make sure a man marries them before they get pregnant. Many of these men aren't ready for true commitment. After all, they will say why pay for the milk when you can get the whole cow?

edoncast:

Last last nah everybody go chop breakfast. She serve you her own. U sef carry new gf asap pepper am back.
The breakfast must go round.
Guy go collet your certificate and flash o. For the sake of your son you can leave the rest with her and that 50k she took u assume it for your son bills don't give her other extra money.
U too soft o.
No let your new girlfriend treat you same way o...

frozen70:


I think you should make a police report with the listed items and tell the police to take the matter to court

Once you take the matter to court they will serve them notice and that is where their stubbornness and stupidity will stop


Forget about your child which she will use as a weapon

That will take care of itself

Once they see that you have gone to court
Make sure she returns every thing then you guys can think of making peace

But I will not advice you to get back with her on any relationship

The guy is too soft. To the point of going on a radio program to beg someone that had already move on. Hahahaha

edoncast:



Says a lady at 35 still hunting for a guy

What she said is partly true. But there are individual differences too. Your new girlfriend just learned how your ex dealt with you how exactly you reacted to it...

Where unah dey see all these hungry girls marry?

Can you imagine the hungry girl even took away fry pan, waste bin and packer....

Abeg that girl 👧 really dey hungry, collect your flash, your document and leave her...

If you have 20k self, dash her untop, because she dey hungry

olabrinks:
nothing can justify cohabiting with a woman for 10 years. If she was so bad he would’ve left after 2 years. It doesn’t take 10 years for a man to realise he doesn’t want to commit to a woman. Truth is he will never ever marry that girl.. he has seen her finish even if he decides to take her back. He has pushed that girl to the limit and frustrated her life for the past 10 years, she has finally reacted by ransacking his home and now he wants to use that as a justification for his wickedness.

Is it everyone that will get married??

What if there decisions to be partners and not get married?? Have you thought of that or you just blinded with emotions.

Where is it crime for two adult to cohabit for 100yrs.....there decisions is non of your business.

The lady is a thief and that all.....if he decide to get her arrested in the eye of the law she is a thief.

So is only they were married and divorced that when he has a right to complain abi

Sometimes I just wonder if some women are created with fish brain.