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Re: My Partner’s Betrayal Has Pushed Me To Depression , Please Help by GeeM: 5:35pm On Apr 19, 2023
wahala
Re: My Partner’s Betrayal Has Pushed Me To Depression , Please Help by Unrated900(m): 5:35pm On Apr 19, 2023
Girls and wahala

Who no fear who no fear woman..
Re: My Partner’s Betrayal Has Pushed Me To Depression , Please Help by Onyenna(m): 5:35pm On Apr 19, 2023
Konjiboii:
Weren't you inform that women are hoes by default ? When did you join nairaland?

OP is a novice……

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Re: My Partner’s Betrayal Has Pushed Me To Depression , Please Help by bluefilm: 5:36pm On Apr 19, 2023
concho:
We started dating when she got admission in 2018. She was a novice and a church girl then .
There was nothing like intimacy till 2021 and that was when I deflowered her ,

Since I promised my self that I must marry who ever I deflowered , I started taking care of some parts of her needs hoping that I will get financially stable and settle down with her .

She was the type of girl that everyone assumed to be an angel . I trusted her more than anything on earth .

She is too jealous that she suspects that I’m cheating even when I was not . She misinterprets everything an opposite sex sends to me

Fast forward to 2022 . She visited one day and got upset that another girl referred to me as “babe” on chat instead of saying “hi” . I insisted that she brings her own phone so I check if a guy has never called her babe

On getting to her chat , I noticed this guy that she saved as “my favorite” . They had no chats (she deletes everything) . I decided to dig deeper only to find out that this guy has been going to her house (family house ) to sleep with her . It’s not once , it’s not twice . And it was frequent the period she even said I should give her space that they were doing family prayers

The worst is that I told the mum and elder siblings out of anger. They did absolutely nothing . The mum only denied knowing that the guy comes around when everyone is out

A month later, I saw a chat of the mum asking her why she doesn’t pick the guy’s call again . I almost ran mad

She has promised and vouched that she won’t try such again and doesn’t know what came over her her .

I have tried everything possible to forgive her since no one treats me the way she does , but I keep loosing weight and falling sick by day .

I’m currently depressed and don’t know what to do again

This is nothing but just another SIMP story.

The manosphere will be much more better is SIMPs like you are no more.

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Re: My Partner’s Betrayal Has Pushed Me To Depression , Please Help by saysoo: 5:37pm On Apr 19, 2023
Go and give Burna boy or Davido these lyrics, they may pay you more money.
Re: My Partner’s Betrayal Has Pushed Me To Depression , Please Help by Tzar(m): 5:39pm On Apr 19, 2023
After I read below, I realized Simps like you deserve ALL you get from these cold hearted wh0res.
How can an incompetent man like you even know whether she faked her virginity for your weak ass?
Please take her back and learn the lessons you deserve, but save us your weakling stories!

concho:


She has promised and vouched that she won’t try such again and doesn’t know what came over her her .

I have tried everything possible to forgive her since no one treats me the way she does , but I keep loosing weight and falling sick by day .

I’m currently depressed and don’t know what to do again

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Re: My Partner’s Betrayal Has Pushed Me To Depression , Please Help by innez15(m): 5:40pm On Apr 19, 2023
MrBrownJay1:


bro, have YOU even slept at this yeye woman's house sef?! isnt the below obvious?


Y s ds guy lamenting? Omo,,, u need to run away for ur life. Even if u end up marrying this lady.... I don't think there will be peace in ur home. A lady whose family support her cheating even in their family house. Omo,,,, you no suppose to d talk ds thing outside ooo.
Carry ur self run. Focus ur energy on making money... N i bet you,,, u will be happy.
The gal n d family are using you for something.
.
For me,,, I don't cheat in a relationship and the same reason I don't forgive cheating. I believe there iwill always be a tendency to repeat it.
Re: My Partner’s Betrayal Has Pushed Me To Depression , Please Help by Ronaldo723: 5:43pm On Apr 19, 2023
OriOko88:

Lol.. U dey there?? grin

Trust women at your own peril just day play your eye go soon clear 🤣🤣

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Re: My Partner’s Betrayal Has Pushed Me To Depression , Please Help by 1Sharon(f): 5:44pm On Apr 19, 2023
You known what to do, but it seems like you're struggling to do it.
Re: My Partner’s Betrayal Has Pushed Me To Depression , Please Help by Xkale1996(m): 5:46pm On Apr 19, 2023
concho:
We started dating when she got admission in 2018. She was a novice and a church girl then .
There was nothing like intimacy till 2021 and that was when I deflowered her ,

Since I promised my self that I must marry who ever I deflowered , I started taking care of some parts of her needs hoping that I will get financially stable and settle down with her .

She was the type of girl that everyone assumed to be an angel . I trusted her more than anything on earth .

She is too jealous that she suspects that I’m cheating even when I was not . She misinterprets everything an opposite sex sends to me

Fast forward to 2022 . She visited one day and got upset that another girl referred to me as “babe” on chat instead of saying “hi” . I insisted that she brings her own phone so I check if a guy has never called her babe

On getting to her chat , I noticed this guy that she saved as “my favorite” . They had no chats (she deletes everything) . I decided to dig deeper only to find out that this guy has been going to her house (family house ) to sleep with her . It’s not once , it’s not twice . And it was frequent the period she even said I should give her space that they were doing family prayers

The worst is that I told the mum and elder siblings out of anger. They did absolutely nothing . The mum only denied knowing that the guy comes around when everyone is out

A month later, I saw a chat of the mum asking her why she doesn’t pick the guy’s call again . I almost ran mad

She has promised and vouched that she won’t try such again and doesn’t know what came over her her .

I have tried everything possible to forgive her since no one treats me the way she does , but I keep loosing weight and falling sick by day .

I’m currently depressed and don’t know what to do again
u be mumu man, I will still repeat it again mumu man... How can you continue dating her while another man don chop her you know it, guy dump her fake ass and move on with ur life
Re: My Partner’s Betrayal Has Pushed Me To Depression , Please Help by MrDoGood(m): 5:50pm On Apr 19, 2023
concho:
We started dating when she got admission in 2018. She was a novice and a church girl then .
There was nothing like intimacy till 2021 and that was when I deflowered her ,

Since I promised my self that I must marry who ever I deflowered , I started taking care of some parts of her needs hoping that I will get financially stable and settle down with her .

She was the type of girl that everyone assumed to be an angel . I trusted her more than anything on earth .

She is too jealous that she suspects that I’m cheating even when I was not . She misinterprets everything an opposite sex sends to me

Fast forward to 2022 . She visited one day and got upset that another girl referred to me as “babe” on chat instead of saying “hi” . I insisted that she brings her own phone so I check if a guy has never called her babe

On getting to her chat , I noticed this guy that she saved as “my favorite” . They had no chats (she deletes everything) . I decided to dig deeper only to find out that this guy has been going to her house (family house ) to sleep with her . It’s not once , it’s not twice . And it was frequent the period she even said I should give her space that they were doing family prayers

The worst is that I told the mum and elder siblings out of anger. They did absolutely nothing . The mum only denied knowing that the guy comes around when everyone is out

A month later, I saw a chat of the mum asking her why she doesn’t pick the guy’s call again . I almost ran mad

She has promised and vouched that she won’t try such again and doesn’t know what came over her her .

I have tried everything possible to forgive her since no one treats me the way she does , but I keep loosing weight and falling sick by day .

I’m currently depressed and don’t know what to do again

It's obvious the mother doesn't like you. Or the other guy is a money bag. And if you end up marrying her, she will definitely cheat again.

Although we've not heard her side of the story though, but since you said the mother is supporting her,.... Trust me, there's nothing you can do and she's your fiancee like you said. Dem it!

Take a walk and run
Re: My Partner’s Betrayal Has Pushed Me To Depression , Please Help by Popsiladon(m): 5:51pm On Apr 19, 2023
concho:
We started dating when she got admission in 2018. She was a novice and a church girl then .
There was nothing like intimacy till 2021 and that was when I deflowered her ,

Since I promised my self that I must marry who ever I deflowered , I started taking care of some parts of her needs hoping that I will get financially stable and settle down with her .

She was the type of girl that everyone assumed to be an angel . I trusted her more than anything on earth .

She is too jealous that she suspects that I’m cheating even when I was not . She misinterprets everything an opposite sex sends to me

Fast forward to 2022 . She visited one day and got upset that another girl referred to me as “babe” on chat instead of saying “hi” . I insisted that she brings her own phone so I check if a guy has never called her babe

On getting to her chat , I noticed this guy that she saved as “my favorite” . They had no chats (she deletes everything) . I decided to dig deeper only to find out that this guy has been going to her house (family house ) to sleep with her . It’s not once , it’s not twice . And it was frequent the period she even said I should give her space that they were doing family prayers

The worst is that I told the mum and elder siblings out of anger. They did absolutely nothing . The mum only denied knowing that the guy comes around when everyone is out

A month later, I saw a chat of the mum asking her why she doesn’t pick the guy’s call again . I almost ran mad

She has promised and vouched that she won’t try such again and doesn’t know what came over her her .

I have tried everything possible to forgive her since no one treats me the way she does , but I keep loosing weight and falling sick by day .

I’m currently depressed and don’t know what to do again


Bro, let me tell you from experience....the moment you forgive the female sex for something you should not have....then get ready for season 2. If you don't run away with your heels hitting your head, then take whatever comes your way in the future. Be guided.

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Re: My Partner’s Betrayal Has Pushed Me To Depression , Please Help by Dancebreaker: 5:53pm On Apr 19, 2023
concho:

The worst is that I told the mum and elder siblings out of anger. They did absolutely nothing . The mum only denied knowing that the guy comes around when everyone is out

A month later, I saw a chat of the mum asking her why she doesn’t pick the guy’s call again . I almost ran mad

She has promised and vouched that she won’t try such again and doesn’t know what came over her her .

I keep loosing weight and falling sick by day .

I’m currently depressed and don’t know what to do again
Dude you are dating yourself. Even the mother has run you street. grin cheesy Pele.
The other guy probably holds more Mula or dey square her maale regular.

Meeting a girl as a virgin guarantees nothing. She can decide to belong to the street later.

Dude, don't forget to check your HIV and STI status.

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Re: My Partner’s Betrayal Has Pushed Me To Depression , Please Help by Dancebreaker: 5:56pm On Apr 19, 2023
Popsiladon:



Bro, let me tell you from experience....the moment you forgive the female sex for something you should not have....then get ready for season 2. If you don't run away with your heels hitting your head, then take whatever comes your way in the future. Be guided.
Word on marble. If God had forgiven Eve in Eden, she would have done worse in season 2. Like now, may be our punishment as humans would be agonising pain like woman in labour 24/7. grin cheesy

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Re: My Partner’s Betrayal Has Pushed Me To Depression , Please Help by JOACHINpedro: 6:00pm On Apr 19, 2023
Na wah o, it's like people's serious gfs are on cheating spree.
Hope say no be the new tiktok challenge grin

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Re: My Partner’s Betrayal Has Pushed Me To Depression , Please Help by wildikeman(m): 6:01pm On Apr 19, 2023
Zonefree:

A girl and her wretched family are using you to play ludo and you're trying everything possible to forgive her undecided

I love that you're losing weight and falling sick day by day. It's a good sign for others to learn not to be like you. You're a disgrace to humanity and a waste of space.

A bandit is valuable than you! Tueh!


This is too extreme na..haba. come on..one would think its happening to you or you had a stake in the matter
Re: My Partner’s Betrayal Has Pushed Me To Depression , Please Help by dododawa1: 6:02pm On Apr 19, 2023
See this ONE and WOMAN matter
Re: My Partner’s Betrayal Has Pushed Me To Depression , Please Help by olabrinks(f): 6:03pm On Apr 19, 2023
Once a woman loses her virginity and she’s not married, there’s just something that makes you want to explore and taste different types. It’s only the grace of God that helps some women.

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Re: My Partner’s Betrayal Has Pushed Me To Depression , Please Help by unclejb2(m): 6:05pm On Apr 19, 2023
concho:
We started dating when she got admission in 2018. She was a novice and a church girl then .
There was nothing like intimacy till 2021 and that was when I deflowered her ,

Since I promised my self that I must marry who ever I deflowered , I started taking care of some parts of her needs hoping that I will get financially stable and settle down with her .

She was the type of girl that everyone assumed to be an angel . I trusted her more than anything on earth .

She is too jealous that she suspects that I’m cheating even when I was not . She misinterprets everything an opposite sex sends to me

Fast forward to 2022 . She visited one day and got upset that another girl referred to me as “babe” on chat instead of saying “hi” . I insisted that she brings her own phone so I check if a guy has never called her babe

On getting to her chat , I noticed this guy that she saved as “my favorite” . They had no chats (she deletes everything) . I decided to dig deeper only to find out that this guy has been going to her house (family house ) to sleep with her . It’s not once , it’s not twice . And it was frequent the period she even said I should give her space that they were doing family prayers

The worst is that I told the mum and elder siblings out of anger. They did absolutely nothing . The mum only denied knowing that the guy comes around when everyone is out

A month later, I saw a chat of the mum asking her why she doesn’t pick the guy’s call again . I almost ran mad

She has promised and vouched that she won’t try such again and doesn’t know what came over her her .

I have tried everything possible to forgive her since no one treats me the way she does , but I keep loosing weight and falling sick by day .

I’m currently depressed and don’t know what to do again
you are just broke, that's your biggest challenge. Just go and work hard and make money
Re: My Partner’s Betrayal Has Pushed Me To Depression , Please Help by fantastic1: 6:05pm On Apr 19, 2023
How old are you?
concho:
We started dating when she got admission in 2018. She was a novice and a church girl then .
There was nothing like intimacy till 2021 and that was when I deflowered her ,

Since I promised my self that I must marry who ever I deflowered , I started taking care of some parts of her needs hoping that I will get financially stable and settle down with her .

She was the type of girl that everyone assumed to be an angel . I trusted her more than anything on earth .

She is too jealous that she suspects that I’m cheating even when I was not . She misinterprets everything an opposite sex sends to me

Fast forward to 2022 . She visited one day and got upset that another girl referred to me as “babe” on chat instead of saying “hi” . I insisted that she brings her own phone so I check if a guy has never called her babe

On getting to her chat , I noticed this guy that she saved as “my favorite” . They had no chats (she deletes everything) . I decided to dig deeper only to find out that this guy has been going to her house (family house ) to sleep with her . It’s not once , it’s not twice . And it was frequent the period she even said I should give her space that they were doing family prayers

The worst is that I told the mum and elder siblings out of anger. They did absolutely nothing . The mum only denied knowing that the guy comes around when everyone is out

A month later, I saw a chat of the mum asking her why she doesn’t pick the guy’s call again . I almost ran mad

She has promised and vouched that she won’t try such again and doesn’t know what came over her her .

I have tried everything possible to forgive her since no one treats me the way she does , but I keep loosing weight and falling sick by day .

I’m currently depressed and don’t know what to do again
Re: My Partner’s Betrayal Has Pushed Me To Depression , Please Help by Royceey(m): 6:09pm On Apr 19, 2023
You made her to test the forbidden fruit by Disvirgining her, now she turned out to be a community project.
Still you coming back to complain that she is cheating on you!

Move to the next Virgin and turn her to Community project Ode!
Re: My Partner’s Betrayal Has Pushed Me To Depression , Please Help by Ed12(m): 6:10pm On Apr 19, 2023
Since she is not your wife...
Erase your mind from wifing her and knack those knacks you refuse to knack very well...

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Re: My Partner’s Betrayal Has Pushed Me To Depression , Please Help by malcom1X: 6:13pm On Apr 19, 2023
concho:
We started dating when she got admission in 2018. She was a novice and a church girl then .
There was nothing like intimacy till 2021 and that was when I deflowered her ,

Since I promised my self that I must marry who ever I deflowered , I started taking care of some parts of her needs hoping that I will get financially stable and settle down with her .

She was the type of girl that everyone assumed to be an angel . I trusted her more than anything on earth .

She is too jealous that she suspects that I’m cheating even when I was not . She misinterprets everything an opposite sex sends to me

Fast forward to 2022 . She visited one day and got upset that another girl referred to me as “babe” on chat instead of saying “hi” . I insisted that she brings her own phone so I check if a guy has never called her babe

On getting to her chat , I noticed this guy that she saved as “my favorite” . They had no chats (she deletes everything) . I decided to dig deeper only to find out that this guy has been going to her house (family house ) to sleep with her . It’s not once , it’s not twice . And it was frequent the period she even said I should give her space that they were doing family prayers

The worst is that I told the mum and elder siblings out of anger. They did absolutely nothing . The mum only denied knowing that the guy comes around when everyone is out

A month later, I saw a chat of the mum asking her why she doesn’t pick the guy’s call again . I almost ran mad

She has promised and vouched that she won’t try such again and doesn’t know what came over her her .

I have tried everything possible to forgive her since no one treats me the way she does , but I keep loosing weight and falling sick by day .

I’m currently depressed and don’t know what to do again



Guy go to her family house and sleep with her there.

It's simple. Blast her on her mother's bed then her Daddy bed if that makes you satisfied.
Re: My Partner’s Betrayal Has Pushed Me To Depression , Please Help by fortunateme: 6:16pm On Apr 19, 2023
concho:
We started dating when she got admission in 2018. She was a novice and a church girl then .
There was nothing like intimacy till 2021 and that was when I deflowered her ,

Since I promised my self that I must marry who ever I deflowered , I started taking care of some parts of her needs hoping that I will get financially stable and settle down with her .

She was the type of girl that everyone assumed to be an angel . I trusted her more than anything on earth .

She is too jealous that she suspects that I’m cheating even when I was not . She misinterprets everything an opposite sex sends to me

Fast forward to 2022 . She visited one day and got upset that another girl referred to me as “babe” on chat instead of saying “hi” . I insisted that she brings her own phone so I check if a guy has never called her babe

On getting to her chat , I noticed this guy that she saved as “my favorite” . They had no chats (she deletes everything) . I decided to dig deeper only to find out that this guy has been going to her house (family house ) to sleep with her . It’s not once , it’s not twice . And it was frequent the period she even said I should give her space that they were doing family prayers

The worst is that I told the mum and elder siblings out of anger. They did absolutely nothing . The mum only denied knowing that the guy comes around when everyone is out

A month later, I saw a chat of the mum asking her why she doesn’t pick the guy’s call again . I almost ran mad

She has promised and vouched that she won’t try such again and doesn’t know what came over her her .

I have tried everything possible to forgive her since no one treats me the way she does , but I keep loosing weight and falling sick by day .

I’m currently depressed and don’t know what to do again
If you die because of this geh I go personally shoot you 2 bullets. One for your dlck and one for your brain because it refused to control your dlck.
Move on man. Find new things to do it better still go hustle money as if you wan die. Things will fall in place.
Re: My Partner’s Betrayal Has Pushed Me To Depression , Please Help by Afonjacrusder(f): 6:16pm On Apr 19, 2023
Zonefree:

A girl and her wretched family are using you to play ludo and you're trying everything possible to forgive her undecided

I love that you're losing weight and falling sick day by day. It's a good sign for others to learn not to be like you. You're a disgrace to humanity and a waste of space.

A bandit is valuable than you! Tueh!

I know how you feel. But honestly, I hate the guy more than you do.

Re: My Partner’s Betrayal Has Pushed Me To Depression , Please Help by JustSteve: 6:17pm On Apr 19, 2023
Never forgive a cheating woman
Never take back a cheating woman
She will punish you for it
If she did it before, she will do it again
Re: My Partner’s Betrayal Has Pushed Me To Depression , Please Help by BusinessPlan22: 6:17pm On Apr 19, 2023
concho:
We started dating when she got admission in 2018. She was a novice and a church girl then .
There was nothing like intimacy till 2021 and that was when I deflowered her ,

Since I promised my self that I must marry who ever I deflowered , I started taking care of some parts of her needs hoping that I will get financially stable and settle down with her .

She was the type of girl that everyone assumed to be an angel . I trusted her more than anything on earth .

She is too jealous that she suspects that I’m cheating even when I was not . She misinterprets everything an opposite sex sends to me

Fast forward to 2022 . She visited one day and got upset that another girl referred to me as “babe” on chat instead of saying “hi” . I insisted that she brings her own phone so I check if a guy has never called her babe

On getting to her chat , I noticed this guy that she saved as “my favorite” . They had no chats (she deletes everything) . I decided to dig deeper only to find out that this guy has been going to her house (family house ) to sleep with her . It’s not once , it’s not twice . And it was frequent the period she even said I should give her space that they were doing family prayers

The worst is that I told the mum and elder siblings out of anger. They did absolutely nothing . The mum only denied knowing that the guy comes around when everyone is out

A month later, I saw a chat of the mum asking her why she doesn’t pick the guy’s call again . I almost ran mad

She has promised and vouched that she won’t try such again and doesn’t know what came over her her .

I have tried everything possible to forgive her since no one treats me the way she does , but I keep loosing weight and falling sick by day .

I’m currently depressed and don’t know what to do again
The prostitutes today were deflwred by someone.
Don't be stupid and foolish.
Don't marry a LovePeddler
Re: My Partner’s Betrayal Has Pushed Me To Depression , Please Help by tammie24: 6:18pm On Apr 19, 2023
I thought they say virgins never cheat
Re: My Partner’s Betrayal Has Pushed Me To Depression , Please Help by Nwaotu10(m): 6:19pm On Apr 19, 2023
SIMPle man.
Na that depression go keeee you las las grin
Re: My Partner’s Betrayal Has Pushed Me To Depression , Please Help by mrblessed(m): 6:21pm On Apr 19, 2023
Nothing can be outrageous than the fact that you still refer to her as your "financee." Oga, it's an offence to commandeer public property as a personal possession.
Re: My Partner’s Betrayal Has Pushed Me To Depression , Please Help by 77up(m): 6:23pm On Apr 19, 2023
Zonefree:

A girl and her wretched family are using you to play ludo and you're trying everything possible to forgive her undecided

I love that you're losing weight and falling sick day by day. It's a good sign for others to learn not to be like you. You're a disgrace to humanity and a waste of space.

A bandit is valuable than you! Tueh!
You are too harsh , calm down Oga.
Re: My Partner’s Betrayal Has Pushed Me To Depression , Please Help by malcom1X: 6:24pm On Apr 19, 2023
Newton2024:

1. What do do now is to free her. A cheat will always be a cheat and a leopard can never change its spot. Cheating once can never be a mistake let alone cheating more than once.

2. Even if you forgive her, you can never forget and you will never trust her again. You will remember her sexcapade everyday. You will suspect her move everyday.

3. I was once in your shoes. I forgive her but I regret taking her back up till today. Learn from my experience.
My wife cheated when we were in courtship. She slept with an elderly man about twenty times. She later confessed but blamed me for not giving her sex whenever she needed it. This is someone we both agreed on no sex before marriage.

Now we are married and I am sure she will cheat again whenever she has the opportunity to do so. But I won't leave her because I'm not sure the next woman would be better than her. Infidelity is a pandemic among nigerian women. It didn't start today. It started during the time of our grandmothers

God forbid you with the bolded, our grandmothers could never cheat. Marriage was well respected.

But Guy did you cheat back?


Did you cheat back?

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