IyaebeTheGreat:
You approached a Nigerian man first? Like seriously? I'll rather choke than try that. If I too like you and manage show you small green light and you are not smart, I simply ignore your existence . Don't ever try it again ooo

There's nothing bad in the stuff,,,A woman can throw her feeling to a guy..it depends on the guy choices..No be all men dey Chase woman..Op.. don't felt bad..if it's yours,he would come around..

Rokiat:


Rule number one: never pursue a man.

Y not pursing a man?this is modern and technology era.. expressing your feeling to opposite partners..Isn't a crime..The choices just depends on the partners..

okoroemeka:
women don't propose to men,it devalues your worth,all the babes that proposed to me I nacked and moved on,flirt or try to get his attention but never open mouth to chase a man,it always ends in disaster

You would have says, your believe,it doesn't work in A, doesn't mean,it will not work in B..

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onumadu:
It takes courage for anyone (man or woman) to propose relationship.
In fact, I can't recall ever proposing to any woman (as a man o) before starting a relationship with her.
What happened was that I "sensed" her out, and she did the same and, if there is an unspoken "click", things took off.
Even marriage proposal is not a must!
People know what they want, and they develop whatever relationship they want.
What I've found has been that the more a relationship is "formalized" through express proposals, it is more likely to also end through formality -another proposal in the line of "please let us end this relationship before someone gets hurt".
But you see people who never proposed, start a sizzling and fulfilling relationship, sometimes lifelong.
If there is any lesson from this your experience, it is to ACT rather than TALK next time.
How do you ACT? Try getting close without talking and, if he refuses to connect, back off and go away.
Take action rather than talk. If there is no smoke there, there will be no fires.
This is the most important secret of most seemingly unlikely marriages or relationship.
You see that couple that makes you wonder (how could she accept him or how could he accept her?) it usually starts the way I just described:
Unspoken ACTION-led "proposal".

It a great ideas than actions,if your partners doesn't understand actions, please speak up and Free your mind..Abeg..

labake1:
I will rather sleep than to woo a Nigerian man.
Many are so immature and a misogynist but if I like him, I will make him proposed by himself. I will push him till he propose

You can't force him.. The Best is to use actions and voices..this is modern era..if he want,he would act well,and if he didn't..he will obliged..

SenecaTheYonger:


You proposed weekly billings in the form of relationship and he rejected but somehow you're still angry?

My thoughts exactly

I like your take. Can you please be more specific? What are some examples of these unspoken actions?

I think the those relationships you are talking about work well because they are built on friendship and mutual interest. But the problem is, if you want friendship with the girl because you want something more, you will keep trying to impress her so the friendship won't be authentic. When the girl rejects you, you will break the friendship.

onumadu:
It takes courage for anyone (man or woman) to propose relationship.
In fact, I can't recall ever proposing to any woman (as a man o) before starting a relationship with her.
What happened was that I "sensed" her out, and she did the same and, if there is an unspoken "click", things took off.
Even marriage proposal is not a must!
People know what they want, and they develop whatever relationship they want.
What I've found has been that the more a relationship is "formalized" through express proposals, it is more likely to also end through formality -another proposal in the line of "please let us end this relationship before someone gets hurt".
But you see people who never proposed, start a sizzling and fulfilling relationship, sometimes lifelong.
If there is any lesson from this your experience, it is to ACT rather than TALK next time.
How do you ACT? Try getting close without talking and, if he refuses to connect, back off and go away.
Take action rather than talk. If there is no smoke there, there will be no fires.
This is the most important secret of most seemingly unlikely marriages or relationship.
You see that couple that makes you wonder (how could she accept him or how could he accept her?) it usually starts the way I just described:
Unspoken ACTION-led "proposal".

Karen2024:
I am so disappointed in myself.

So I decided to tell a guy who has been my crush that I want us to be friends but he outrightly rejected my proposal.

This guy is just irresistible but he's very immature. I am very much disappointed.

Don't fell disappointed, a similar cased happened to a frnd of mine, the girl is now an elected personality, when she started the struggle, my guy approached him by proxy but she turned it down, for that fact that she was the first to approached him and the guy turned him down.

Table do turn, he may later find out that the girl he rejected you for is also dating another guy.

I never turned girls emotion down anyhow.

maestro299:
Women wey dey cunning 😂😂? The 'green light' she go give you sef, you go make move and she go immediately change am to 'red light' 🛑. You go come begin dey doubt whether you or the girl no get sense...

Don't mind them. The most confused species in the universe.

Arizoner:
making the first move as a man. is there anything wrong? I have abundant gals at my beck and call you know but I decided to patronise you. I learnt you like bad boys.

Arizoner why you lying?
Why fûcking lying?

Lemos14:
You're not serious..you wanted to be his girlfriend yet you asked him if you could be just friends. Why should he be just friends with you? And you expect him to agree.

This girl is a joke...I checked her profile and decided it's not worth it to comment on the topic. She is just cruising here I believe.....

Klass99:


Lol 🤣. They will not take the course.

When every other post on Nairaland is about what to do and what not to do in order to be "accepted" by the opposite sex, I think the course should be made compulsory. 😂

Konjiboii:


You will still end up underneath a man,you will still suck a dick. You are beneath me, fake ass feminist

Keep speaking ill of the dead dey lay swear on top your generation head.

So your mom is dead?
May she rest in pieces!
So you know your mom is dead and you are abusing another person's mom. You are throwing what you can take.
Just run mad. That's your assignment.

GloriousGbola:


I want to handle your magnificent mammary glands and I assure you I will handle any rejection gracelessly

You'll be hearing from my lawyers soon!

Your ugly I guess. If your hot he will jump in the offer

Konjiboii:


Oh shut up

Famousmoni111:



Lol fool

SuperKlean:
get lost my dear

Awon misogynist eyan
Fuq off

Arizoner:
whats the greenlight? Let me know in advance

That's my trademark, I can't leave it in public

Dshocker:


How do you intend to push a guy to propose relationship with you?

A secret

Goodlady:

So your mom is dead?
May she rest in pieces!
So you know your mom is dead and you are abusing another person's mom. You are throwing what you can take.
Just run mad. That's your assignment.

You are already a zombie, you can't be a mum you are not deserving of a child you are nothing but a cum bucket ,desperate old hag. Bet you had to punch holes in the condom to claim a child, no drunk will lay with you with your rusty old sand paper toto.

Konjiboii:


You are already a zombie, you can't be a mum you are not deserving of a child you are nothing but a cum bucket ,desperate old hag. Bet you had to punch holes in the condom to claim a child, no drunk will lay with you with your rusty old sand paper toto.

Don't be sorry if I made you cry. You bit more than you can chew. Next time you are bullying a female online, remember a female gave birth to you.
For the meantime, you can wallow in sorrow. Cos I v a man better than you, your father and all males in your generations.
You can hug transformer or cry me a river.
I don't v time to tolerate products of failed homes like you. See him like a criminal!

If a guy rejects he is immature but if a girl rejects , you are not her type ....well-done ma.
Na you be Mother Theresa that he most accept by force by fire abi

Goodlady:

Don't be sorry if I made you cry. You bit more than you can chew. Next time you are bullying a female online, remember a female gave birth to you.
For the meantime, you can wallow in sorrow. Cos I v a man better than you, your father and all males in your generations.
You can hug transformer or cry me a river.
I don't v time to tolerate products of failed homes like you. See him like a criminal!

Lol you are just all over the place, insult me with your flat chest. You keep bringing people into the picture like I give a fvck. If you no dey fear insult me direct make thunder finally seal your pathetic hole which only function is to piss, you are a low budget feminist with a sprinkle of rumola under bridge ashewo, Better make hay while the single thread holding your toto together never slack make that urgent 2k to feed your bastard child.

Karen2024:
I am so disappointed in myself.

So I decided to tell a guy who has been my crush that I want us to be friends but he outrightly rejected my proposal.

This guy is just irresistible but he's very immature. I am very much disappointed.

Same way you rejected others that has been on your list and non of them tag you as "immature". Men too have right to say NO

Rokiat:


Rule number one: never pursue a man.

But it honestly is no big deal.

Karleb:
This is the only reason I think a woman shouldn't approach a man.

If he rejects you, how are you going to handle that? Some men can be very brutal with their rejection especially if you don't meet their requirements.

There's no brutality that any man has shown to a lady who tried to woo him that a woman hasn't done much more. Go and check the various videos and voicenotes of brutal rejections that ladies have done to men. 😂😂😂

labake1:
I will rather sleep than to woo a Nigerian man.
Many are so immature and a misogynist but if I like him, I will make him proposed by himself. I will push him till he propose

Sorry, but what do you mean by you'd push him??
Are saying it literally, like you're going to make him woo you at gun point?? 😂😂😂😂😂😂

Dybala11:

Sorry, but what do you mean by you'd push him??
Are saying it literally, like you're going to make him woo you at gun point?? 😂😂😂😂😂😂

No, I won't use arms but my gifts