This is the first topic i have created since i joined this forum.
For a while now, my mind has been restless, i haven't spoken to my father since i left his house on January 5 2023. We had an argument and i left some days later. I wasn't angry when i left, i just wanted to give him space and find my own way as a man. Though I'm his first born son and his exact replica but we are so different and share very different views.
Some days ago, i called him and was very angry at me and ended the call before i could say anything and he has refused to pick up my calls since then.
I really don't understand why he's angry at me or why he's not taking my calls but i have decided to stop calling him and let him be.

Please any positive advise,will be greatly appreciated.

It's important to check up on ur aged parents as it's expected of u. When you were little they did their bit in taking care of you and also checking up on u to know how u are fairing, So reciprocating same gesture isn't bad especially now that you're a grown man. I'll advise you find peace with him and create an enabling environment whereby you both can sit and settle ur differences..

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It's important to check up on ur aged parents as it's expected of u. When you were little they did their bit in taking care of you and checking up on u. So reciprocating same gesture isn't bad especially now you're a grown man. I'll advise you find peace with him and create an enabling environment whereby you both can sit and settle ur differences..

Thank you for the advise. The truth is that he has been extending an olive branch to me in his own way but i have been too much in my feelings to accept it. I'll try to meet with him and settle our differences before it's too late for neither of us.
Thanks again for your input. I appreciate.

IkeIgboNile:
This is the first topic i have created since i joined this forum.
For a while now, my mind has been restless, i haven't spoken to my father since i left his house on January 5 2023. We had an argument and i left some days later. I wasn't angry when i left, i just wanted to give him space and find my own way as a man. Though I'm his first born son and his exact replica but we are so different and share very different views.
Some days ago, i called him and was very angry at me and ended the call before i could say anything and he has refused to pick up my calls since then.
I really don't understand why he's angry at me or why he's not taking my calls but i have decided to stop calling him and let him be.

Please any positive advise,will be greatly appreciated.

Go and see him and apologize if you have to. Not because you are wrong, but because he is your father and he will not be worth you forever.
When you become a father, you'll understand better

dawnomike
Go and see him and apologize if you have to. Not because you are wrong, but because he is your father and he will not be worth you forever.
When you become a father, you'll understand better

Thanks bro, i will definitely try and visit him soon.

The devil is trying to create misunderstanding and like a wound, it can fetter and.lead to amputation..Don't let that bastard win
Go physically but keep sending text msgs before u go..also take some one he likes or.respect so. A good one can be said.

Many kids are on Nairaland.

Is your mom still around, she have lots of role to play in this.

Get him gifts, father's loves gift. It's not like that can't afford it but they loves when their children give them even the tinniest of things.

Go and see him, buy his favorite things, make peace with him. God will help you make things work. Goodluck!

Lol so you're looking for a father that will give you comfort before you draw close to him neglecting that while he's still alive is when you can please him to get his blessings.

There's no better positive advice than to ignore whatever point you have and begin to see the matter from his point of view. Anybody who tells you to ignore him and have your peace is your enemy. Even if you seem right than him, ignore the being right and let him win.

I don't see it as much of a big deal, though it could be as a result of some gap that he left between you two while you were growing up but thank God you've grown to become reasonable. Please him, do what makes him happy. It's very wrong to go on a long quarrel with who raised you from when you were shitting inside pampers. You will definitely understand better when you become a father but don't wait till then

Let him be for some more months. Give it more time, he's going to miss you and when you reach out try to tell him about your achievement however little they may be. Also apologize to him for your own part of the trouble, doesn't matter if he was the architect of the whole problem. Remember, he's still your dad.

Take this from someone who didn't speak to his dad for some 7 months or so.

I will advise against going to see him now especially if he doesn't have any illness. Trust me, he's going to say something that will provoke you and you will respond because you inherited his temper.

When you allow him miss you, he's going to mind his speech because he would have realized your importance in his life.

IkeIgboNile:
This is the first topic i have created since i joined this forum.
For a while now, my mind has been restless, i haven't spoken to my father since i left his house on January 5 2023. We had an argument and i left some days later. I wasn't angry when i left, i just wanted to give him space and find my own way as a man. Though I'm his first born son and his exact replica but we are so different and share very different views.
Some days ago, i called him and was very angry at me and ended the call before i could say anything and he has refused to pick up my calls since then.
I really don't understand why he's angry at me or why he's not taking my calls but i have decided to stop calling him and let him be.

Please any positive advise,will be greatly appreciated.

Well you havent said anything

you told us u had an arguement, what was it about ?

it will helps us to understand your point view on the argument and some applies for your fathers point of view, then we might pick up who was wrong and right

or total different point of view from both of you

we will be also able to understand your anger

I really don't understand why he's angry at me or why he's not taking my calls but i have decided to stop calling him and let him be.

No, don't do that to dad.
Don't give the devil a chance to scatter your relationship with dad.
If dad is not picking your calls.
Simply go home and talk to him like father and son.

That's bad.
You have to keep trying.

After God, na your parents.

Go and visit him..

Mazi Dim ikeigbonile.Find ur father's trusted friend, discuss with him/let him follow u go beg ur Papa.. May God touch his heart

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Hmmn, sounds like me before last December

Good. You're a man and he's a man. End of story.

bros leave the man go and make legitimate money lets see who would be reaching out its obvious he does not respect you cause you are broke

IkeIgboNile:
This is the first topic i have created since i joined this forum.
For a while now, my mind has been restless, i haven't spoken to my father since i left his house on January 5 2023. We had an argument and i left some days later. I wasn't angry when i left, i just wanted to give him space and find my own way as a man. Though I'm his first born son and his exact replica but we are so different and share very different views.
Some days ago, i called him and was very angry at me and ended the call before i could say anything and he has refused to pick up my calls since then.
I really don't understand why he's angry at me or why he's not taking my calls but i have decided to stop calling him and let him be.

Please any positive advise,will be greatly appreciated.

Go home small boy, you left home so that you'll have freedom to be sleeping with girls anyhow you like. Go home and let them train you well

He's missed you so much. Just go home uninvoted.

You and your old man had issues in person but you want to apologize on phone
That reeks of disrespect seriously.

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Same here...

But he is always on my mind.

Go meet him, chief. I feel he'll be reasonable with you. Dads are humans, heroes and great. You can still get along fine despite your quite ranging views, just like in most families.

IkeIgboNile:
This is the first topic i have created since i joined this forum.
For a while now, my mind has been restless, i haven't spoken to my father since i left his house on January 5 2023. We had an argument and i left some days later. I wasn't angry when i left, i just wanted to give him space and find my own way as a man. Though I'm his first born son and his exact replica but we are so different and share very different views.
Some days ago, i called him and was very angry at me and ended the call before i could say anything and he has refused to pick up my calls since then.
I really don't understand why he's angry at me or why he's not taking my calls but i have decided to stop calling him and let him be.

Please any positive advise,will be greatly appreciated.

Be sending text or whatsapp.

Say things like
How are you doing?
I prayed for you today.
God give you long life to enjoy the fruits of your labour
Love you dad

Send short good messages. Then leave him. He would calm down.

I guess you called him to quarrel and you were shocked he was more angry than you. This life no be gra gra. One person needs to calm down for the other for peace to reign.